I have a dilemma and don’t know what to do. I just found out my MIL has the flu. She is still saying she wants to come over for Christmas, but I don’t want her to infect my entire family with the flu. I told her how I felt about this, and she still insists that she is coming. How should I handle this? I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time, I need to think of my kid’s health. Advice?
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Not worth it! At all! And selfish of her to insist.
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Don’t open the door.
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Theres no way id intentionally bring the flu in my house.
You dont have to open the door. Lol
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No no no!!! Soooo selfish
Both my mother and MIL have the flu and they will not be coming around us on Christmas. We will be skyping on Christmas and that’s it. It’s not worth our whole house being sick for the next 2 weeks. Not sorry.
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Hell no. Dont do it
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Dont do it. Put your foot down tell her you love her but you dont want the kids to spend the winter vacation passing the flue back and forth.
Lock the door and make her FaceTime if she shows up
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I’d tell her cancelled
Tell her no!!! The flu actually kills people especially young children! Is that really worth the risk of not pissing someone off?
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Make her wear a mask
Um no. Absolutely not.
Ummm…no! If she cared about you and yours she wouldn’t want to risk getting everyone sick!!!
Absolutely NOT… it seems shes being selfish by still wanting to come. It’s not worth the risk!!!
Illness is a reason to reschedule time. Her health is more important. She needs time for recovery and to get well. It’s also not something that needs to be spread. Make it about her. Remind her shes important and that the holiday isnt justin the moment… it’s all year. Every day. Therefore planning a diff time will still make the holiday
No. No. No.
If she shows up, explain it again at the door that you aren’t going to risk the health of your family and ask her to leave. Offer to set up a time when she’s not sick for her to come over.
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No definitely not as you all can get the flu she needs to stay out of your house and stay home
Tell her no and if she still comes give her gloves and a mask or she doesn’t come in the door
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Lock the door and pretend your not home
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Just be stern and say ‘no’. Christmas can be another day for her. Which your kids will love! Two Christmas’s why not!!
If you spray her down with Lysol she will not stay long.
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Nope lock the door and when she comes say merry Christmas and goodbye.
Absolutely not. She should not want to come so she doesnt get her grandkids or you sick.
“I’m so sorry you are sick during Christmas! The flu can be very scary and contagious, especially for young children, so we hope you understand that it isn’t the best time to get together right now. The kids will be very excited to show you all their new toys when you get feeling better and are no longer contagious. We’ll be sure to send pictures of them opening them!”
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Um NOOOOOOOOO. Exactly what you said THINK OF YOUR KIDS… and it’s sad she isnt
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Why is this a question??? 
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Maybe send her a video of the kids opening gifts and bring her food BEFORE she can come.
Very rude and selfish to insist on pressing her coming anyways. I get it’s Christmas but not worth getting the flu. No way would I want to infect my grandkids
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Oh no heck no!
Tell her to wait! No reason in getting everyone sick during the holidays.
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Plan an alternative Christmas Dinner type day with her when she’s better and say your having christmas day just you, your hubby and the kids x
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Tell her some last minute plans came up and you guys wont be home.
Face mask and throw away silverware etc
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Nope, she can keep her ass at home.
Your house, your rules. Tell her no.
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Is she going to stay over and help take care of everyone she got sick ?
Postpone your family Christmas. Or let her FaceTime.
My son has the flu. We are doing both of these. He is 10.
I would show my MIL some compassion and not be so selfish and make a little sick area for her.
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Nope!!! She’d still be on precautions at a hospital so nope def not
Take her over dinner and a gift and tell her your leaving at the door and yes she being selfish but I would do this and tell her you can’t wait too see her once she well
Tell her you have moved.
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I want to know what your husband says about all this cause if it were me and my man was saying it was fine for her to be there I’d say fine she can come over for Christmas but me and the kids won’t be here.
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Just aĺlow her not fair really just cos she has a cold get over it
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Ummm your Mother in Law? That means she has a son? And where is he that he can’t tell his own mother? That’s your problem
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Umm. Nope. Lock your doors. That’s incredibly inconsiderate.
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Lock the damn doors. How rude!
A cold ok maybe but not for long…the flu OH HELL NO!
Wow, can’t believe she doesn’t care.
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I’d say no. But I would offer to save any presents she bought for the kids to open when she’s better.
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No. That’s extremely inconsiderate of her to want to come infect your family with the flu. She’s sick, why would she even want to spread that?! I understand wanting to spend Christmas with family, but that’s disgusting. She needs to think of her grandchildren’s health and stop being selfish. I wouldn’t let her come.
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Umm, tell her hell no
Actual influenza or just a cold? If its just a cold…sure come over.
Influenza… No
Is she taking anything for it. By Christmas morning if she had been on any meds and not running a fever she will be fine and will not infect anyone
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My son and I have the flu and we will be skipping all Christmas activities because we don’t want to spread it to others. There’s no way I would let anyone over to my house that had the flu. It’s insane that she thinks it’s ok to still come over
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Dont answer the door!! Lock that thing and tell her the grinch stole christmas!!!
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Hell no, grandma needs to stay home!
My daughter just got diagnosed with the flu my whole family is staying away from our other family Christmas Eve party cause we dont want to get my great nieces and great nephews sick. She needs to stay home!
You need to call her and tell her in no uncertain terms that she is NOT to come…that she will be missed and is loved but your kids shouldn’t be exposed. If she shows up anyway then shes being very passive aggressive and rude, so i would stop her at the door and turn her around on her way. I know it sounds awful but your wishes in your home should be respected no matter who it is ESPCIALLY when your kids would, literally, suffer the consequences of her actions.
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Ur gonna be the bad guy either way so it’s really what kind of mess do u wanna deal with after, her temper tantrum or ur sick family?
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Do what’s best for your family! My whole household has the flu and I had to cancel all our plans. Why would your mil want to infect you guys?!
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Can you facetome with her or Skype or video chat often?
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Has she been taking Tamiflu or Xofluza? If yes, for how long?
No. Just say no. You can add a thank you if you want, but no is a complete sentence.
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Nope. If she has gifts. She can give them when she isnt sick
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While I agree that having the flu is no bueno, I wanted to share the following. I was diagnosed with strep today so I have been quarantined and will not be seeing family on Christmas, which is very hard with a 2 year old whom we’ve been discussing Santa with for weeks. My mother said the following and I think you should consider it- “we love you and want you to be able to celebrate with us in best health. Let’s schedule our own special day for your daughter in a week or so when you’re feeling better”. Cause my mom knew I wanted to be there and knew it was hard not to be but rather than shove me away (or lock the door on me if I show up) she made me feel better about it. Perhaps consider talking to your mother in law about doing something when she feels better?
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Yeah, 1 DOSE OF STAY YOUR ASS HOME!!!
CDC says 24 hours with no fever before you are no longer contagious. I have the flu (type a) currently. I sent my son to my dads while the Tamiflu does its job. I have an ear infection in both ears also. so I’m in antibiotics. I am also doubling up on my elderberry. I HOPE I will be okay Wednesday, but if not, I will be at home.
Nope! I would never allow someone who knowingly has the flu come to my house. Ever. You can always plan a get together after she is well. There’s no way I would risk my family, especially my kiddos.
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Well if she’s that persistent then I’d set some rules for her. Hand sanitizer all the time. A face mask must be worn at all times as well. And minimal contact with everyone especially the kids. No skin to skin contact with them at all.
Get one of those face masks and make her wear it or get some for you and your family.
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buy her a viral mask
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Flat out tell her no cause shes sick. Also tell your partner so hes on the same page. I look at this way if whoever is sick cares enough to not want there grandkids or someone’s kids sick then they would stay away if they insist on coming around and then actually show up then they dont give a crap if anyone gets what they got.
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Sorry gramma, maybe new year’s!
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This is why video calling exists
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No. Absolutely not! See ya in 2020!
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You are contagious for up to 7 days after the first sign of symptoms. If she just started to feel ill, I would tell her absolutely not.
Umm, where’s your husband?
No way would she set foot in my house. Period.
Nobody in my house gets the flu, thankfully we’ve never had it…but I wouldn’t risk it.
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Tell her Nope and just maybe videochat her so she doesn’t miss out completely, is it the 24 hour flu? If she’s fine by then maybe she could go if she keeps well. She could also wait if she has gifts to bring them when she’s not sick
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No way! Honestly selfish of her to insist on coming still. I’m sure she’s disappointed she will be missing it but there’s no way I’m chancing my entire family getting sick especially with something as serious as the flu just to avoid hurting her feelings 
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I would go and buy some masks and make get wear one, she is the idiot that doesn’t care about her family why should you care if she gets pissed off.
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NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE. Christmas is not that important
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Tell her No, but as soon as she is free and clear of symptoms she is welcome to have her very own special xmas with the family in a few more days.
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Nope, but let your husband deal with her
Lock the doors and have her son tell her she isnt invited due to being sick
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There would be no freaking way.
If she has been on antibiotics the last few days she would be okay to come over, I can’t remember how long exactly but after so many doses I don’t think it’s contagious anymore? I may be wrong. But either way, knowing that she’s sick, it’s highly inconsiderate of her to keep insisting that she is coming. I would have your husband tell her that it’s a no go for the health of your children.
My mom has c diff and unfortunately couldn’t come yesterday when we celebrated. We didn’t mind if she did but it doesn’t spread like the flu. I would say no way!
Nope! Just say she can come around when she feels better and give it atleast 2 weeks. She should know better.
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Don’t let her in and lock the doors
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No no no no no and no!
Not worth risking!
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Lots of Lysol !! Face masks and have a designated area for her possibly bathroom spot on couch ect no food prep or bring food for her
I would say no! And plan another day a week away to do Christmas! Or have her video chat the entire time so it’s like shes there but not! Or make her wear a mask and you all wear a mask and gloves and wipe the bathroom down every time she uses it!
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Oh hell no! Tell her no thanks.
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If your kids are very young postpone it they won’t know have her wear of those face shields the doctors wear if she has been on meds for a bit probably.not contagious
Hard pass. The flu is dangerous. She shouldn’t even try.
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Obviously she means more to her than you and your children. WOW
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She is going to do whatever the hell she wants to do regardless of what your opinion is, so go buy a box of face masks, hand sanitizer, Lysol and germ-x for when she shows up. Have these things handy and at the door with a note that says This is a flu-free house and we appreciate that you respect that and not share your germs.
if you have the flu you MUST wear a facemask the entire time you are here, you may not hug or kiss anyone else that is here and you MUST use the hand sanitizer and germ-x wipes for your hands and anything else that you touch while you are here. If any of this offends you please feel free to go back home and we will see you when you feel better. Love your family.
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Make her wear a mask and use lots of hand sanitizer Lysol and bleach. I personal think it’s pretty selfish of her!!! There would be no way that I would risk my grandchildren that way!!
Just say no… Just feelings are nothing compared to a whole family catching the flu
How rude - disrespectful - inconciderate - n NO WAY would ANY 1 unfected w/the flu come n my house PERIOD!!! Sorry not Sorry just keep ur sick self HOME n heal up
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