If I had any family around I would gladly pay them compared to daycare prices. If I put both my boys in daycare fulltime to match my schedule I would be paying $4000/month to daycare which is double what I make every month plus Id have to pay someone to pick them up and watch them for 1-2 hours until Im off and can get them. You can send your mom my way 
I pay my mom $200 a week to watch my two boys she has them basically from 3:00pm to 11:00 am the next Day I work nights and I live about 10 minutes away that includes her bringing them to me in the mornings but I do work around her schedule if she ever has things very important that I will reschedule but she usually lets me know with time iâll keep in mind that she does has a life to I cant expect her to be available everyday of the year 
I paid my mother $600 a month and it still wasnât enough plus bring all the food they would need and even food for her. I also paid for her cigarettes and toilet paper and dog food quite often and an extra $20 in gas because she refused to take my daughter to the front of her complex to get bused to school so she would drive her a half a mile to the elementary . We would show up in the morning and sometimes she wouldnât let us in or give me any notice that she wasnât going to watch my children, causing a huge uproar in my morning and with work because she could never stay consistent, and donât let me forget she would also want me to pay her for those days she didnât watch them as well! It was hard for me because I too didnât want a stranger watching my children and didnât have a whole lot of other family members that could help me out. She never traveled to get them I always brought them to her home and picked them up. If I was running late with work closing late she used to tell me âI better be on time or she would call cps if I wasnât on time and report me for abandonmentâ- even in inclement weather she would force me to travel to get them instead of just letting them stay the night for safety purposes. Some mothers never gained how to properly care for their child. Mine is absolutely an example of that.
This doesnât really sound like my situation, my advice- have a conversation and go from there. Just wanted to let you know, it could be way worse. 
Look for daycares then because your mother has a right to live her life, she already raised you, and you arenât even paying a fair rate!!!
I couldnât read all of it. Your mom is not a baby sitter or daycare she is your mom and your childâs grandmother treat her with respect.
Pay a decent salary, set boundaries, ie do not worry about who she lives with/what she does- if you are paying a decent wage you will not feel guilt when purchasing for yourself or child. Additionally, you can set the tone for daycare hours ie- no apts during work hours-since at that point it will be her job. It will give you peace of mind knowing that your own mother is helping with the raising of your child. Be blessed.
I pay my Mom $200.00 a week to watch my boys, 1 and 3. I work around her schedule because sheâs retired from both work and raising kids. Lol Sheâs doing me a huge favor, at the end of the day.
Ask other coworkers who they use for daycare check with the state to see if they can help pay child care get everything set up then tell mom and grandma together that you will not need her to babysit anymore so she can be free to do any traveling appointments she needs thank her for her help and leave
If she tries to bully harass or cause problems record it file a restraining order on her and wash your hands of the adult choosing to behave inappropriately
Your mom sounds toxic no Offence, my own family is toxic and they either arenât aware or just donât care and idk how to have that discussion myself so I canât offer much advice except for maybe looking to trusted friends or if you have any other family thatâs not going to be harmful to your family or mental health, good luck mama, you got this.
I paid my momâs bills and paid her to babysit. But she worked with my schedule for the most part and it was just me I didnât have my boyfriend to help. He split before the kid was born.
Sounds to me like your Mom is taking advantage of you, Use your Mom when you can, When she wants to go to her boyfriend , maybe you can get your child in day care , Kids need that to learn how to socialize, With kids and people,
Work opposite shiftsâŚmy ex husband and I never used any babysitter or family. We did it ourselves.
Grow up princess. Your no longer in wonderland. Check out prices for child care elsewhere and then give mom a big thank you and a hug for what she does.
I really hope my kids donât grow up to be like you. With 2 incomes, put your kid in daycare before you take whats left of your moms life. Also. Karma is a báh.
Honey let me tell you something, I would be embarrassed to even tell people what you pay your mom to babysit, in the state of Texas unless you use shady sitters you are going to pay 125.oo a week for one, regardless the age, so you may make more baby sitting than what you are doing, then you and your mom would have no problem, think about itâŚ
Man. Yâallâs momâs charge? Iâm so thankful. She doesnât watch them everyday but she has in the past. I would offer to pay. But she never asked for a dime. I couldnât charge for my grandchildren. But, with any sitter, you have to work around schedules. She has a life too.
Iâm probably going to be the only person on here whoâs says this but u shouldnât have to pay ur mum use are family n Iâm saying this because I to have to pay my mum to watch my child which is legit maybe once or twice a year find a nice day care n tell ur mum u want ur child to interact with other children
Why would you want your child around a mom who acts lilke that. Your child will pick up those whiny habits just like you obviously have.
So u answered ur own question find a new babysitter your mom has a life to rather itâs good or bad.
Put your child in a Daycare and you donât have to put up with your Mother
You are selfish. Sheâs doing you a favor. If you donât like it, take your kids to daycare.
Maybe you and your boyfriend can work separate shifts so someone is home with your child
My mom would watch her grandson for free if I was working.
I suggest you pay her more or find another sitter for $20-$40 a week. Sheâs doing you a huge favor. She doesnât owe you anything. Maybe if you paid her accordingly sheâd work around your schedule.
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Send your child to day care, then complain, I Dare you.
All I see here is complaing! Do you know how much it actually cost for babies to go to a daycare?? A $1000 fortnightly!! And you are giving your mother $20-40 a week and sheâs driving too. Send the child to a day care⌠I DARE YOU
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I seriously was waiting for the punchline at the endâŚ
You are publicly shaming a person you ask for help. Shame on you.
You and your mother sound like youâre having a contest to see who is the bigger entitled princess. Find a daycare or suck it up. Those are your choices. Hoping your daughter grows up to be more adult than you or your mother sound.
One day there will be a fight.u decide when
$20-40 a week?? And you canât work around her schedule?? You sound selfish.
Get a new babysitter
Donât be ridiculous. Appreciate that your mother is watching your child for pennies on the dollar what you would have to pay otherwise and stop being an entitled jerk.
Seriously?? Your Mom owes you nothing at all. Please donât assume that your mom has to drop her life for you. Iâm sure she would help you out w babysitting. You and the Dad need to figure this out not your mom
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You entitled prick! You need to thank god you arenât paying $200 a week for child care and stfu and deal with it or find another babysitter.
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I also look after my grand daughter 3 hrs one day a week then her other grand parents have her it is wonderful to spend time with her and my daughter work
I also do a bit of house work while Iâm there and i love it
Its not about the money its my time with my granddaughter
I think that is shocking
Child care costs money. Itâs a valuable service. You donât get a free ride because your mother happens to have the time to help out- and she is helping you, so try to sound more grateful and less entitled. Kids are expensive, and your child is in NO WAY anyoneâs responsibility but yours. Time to grow up.
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I donât know, maybe Iâm one of the lucky ones. My mom has watched my daughter since she was two when my ex-husband and I split up and I have tried paying my mom money but she refuses to take any of it. She says itâs her granddaughter and sheâs happy to watch her. She knows how much that child care cost and she knows that my ex-husband wonât help me pay for any of it. She refuses to take my money she has her own money.
Itâs a blessing you still have you Mom.Good luck
Despite the money issue, it seems like you donât agree with your momâs lifestyle. Is that really who you want influencing your daughter?
If you had to place your child in daycare it damn sure would be more than $20-$40 a week!!!
I use to be a single mom living with my parents (daughter is still a toddler rn) and I would pay $500/month for rent plus I worked 7 days a week. Daughter would go to daycare Monday -friday(that cost $150/wk) parents would watch her for 2 hrs b4 i could get home from work and theyâd watch her for 10hrs on Sat and Sun. Iâd give my parents 20-30$ here and there for gas each week plus I was paying 260 in electric bill and I was giving my parents an extra 100-300 a week because they needed it for âbillsâ
I sound like a âgood dutiful daughterâ right?
Abusive, manipulative, money hungry, narcissists are the terms to describe my parents. I barely had enough money each week to pay my bills and get gas in my car for a week. I had to ask other people to borrow 30-50 sometimes just for gas. My parents would take the bill money from me and go buy more clothes and toys that my daughter doesnât need (literally giving 1-3 huge totes away to goodwill or the daycare bcuz they donât fit or she hasnât played with in 3 months) or theyâd go out to eat every night at expensive restaurants. I got yelled at for working so much but all that OT money went towards my parents.
I couldnât stay and finally saved enough to live a life with my daughter free of their toxicity. Itâs allot worse than Iâve said, but Iâll leave all the horribleness out. I had to cut communication with them because theyâd call 10x a day and badmouth me while talking to my daughter and they kept asking for money to bail them out of another predicament they let themselves fall into.
Itâs hard either way, no matter what kind of situation it is. Be grateful and just do what you think is best for everyone
Anytime family is involved, it can turn into a damned mess. No easy advice here. Keep explaining that you pay her what you can, and $ is tight for everyone. Youâre going to hear a lot more bitching, but thatâs just the way it is.
I am a single mom, and when I had my child I lived with my parents until my kid was 7. My parents helped so much in watching my kid while I worked but it wasnât free. We looked at what I made and every paycheck I paid my mom a flat fee, she used that money to pay for whatever was needed; groceries, bills, rent, etc. And whenever I got a raise we sat down and what I paid increased. It was hard sometimes but they had their own lives and sacrificed a lot over those 7 years to help me get on my feet. Paying them what I could afford and what we determined was reasonable was honestly nothing compared to what they gave up of their time to help. I think all 3 of you as adults need to sit down and be honest with the situation, if you want her help maybe $40 isnât enough but work out what can be enough. Also, yeah you have to work around her schedule she is doing you a favor not the other way around. If it canât be reasonably done then yes daycare is gonna be a lot but these are the few choices available when raising a kid and working. It isnât meant to be easy. I really hope you can work it out. Best of luck!
- Grandmas are done caring for their children. Taking care of grandchildren full-time is a job. Pay accordingly
- Childcare is expensive; however, there are resources to get scholarships if you meet the requirement.
- Look into your finances. You might as well, pick which one of you make more money and have just a 1 income family. That way, someone will stay home with the child.
- If someone is doing you a favor, we can not be too picky. Taking care of grandkids is not an obligation. Paying for babysitting is. Providing for your child, is.
- I speak from experience. My mom babysits for me. I pay her the going daycare rate because it is a job not a favor.
Melissa Manning Borland you are so lucky lol
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