This grandma wants just to be close with the grandchildren so I spend time for the love of it. Now doing school with them at home loving every minute of it.
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Ummmā¦ok. so i dont know what your other issues are or how much you actually pay for for her, but i would think paying her is better than daycare. The whole āif i pqy for something for my daughter she will get madā thing needs to be shut down quick. That is Your child. You have every right to spend money on her. With that being said, maybe start paying her $100 a week. Or something similar. Be thankful that you have someone you can trust to watch your child. Also take into account the fact that daycares can be 400-800 a week. And thats in the low end or REPUTABLE day cares
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At the fact that you mention her married boyfriend , girl you sound judgmental! Thatās your kid, she can do whatever she wants! Waking up to pick up a child & watching the kid all day for 40 bucks. No wonder why you feel guilty! 40 dollars aināt crap & from the looks of it you take things out of proportion. You & your claimed to be boyfriend āwho knows if heās a married manā should pay way more than 40! You guys both decided to have a child not your mother .
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I think having parents babysit to any capacity can really put a strain on that relationship. Just because it changed the dynamic. Now with that said I whole heartedly have the same parent you do, like almost thought you were my sister for a second lmao. You need to draw a line in the sand and explain what you expect from your arrangement, if you both canāt agree upon something, then it may be time to explore other options! In my opinion I think that if you agreed to pay her, for sure pay what you said you would, but it should not go above and beyond that, itās not your job to provide for other things.
You definitely need a childminder.
My opinion is this: Pay her more for watching your kids but nothing else. If youāre paying her like a regular job then her bills or spending money isnāt your responsibility. She sounds like sheās trying to take advantage of her babysitting and you being her daughter in that way trying to manipulate you for money for her bills. So I would pay her something more reasonable and nothing else.
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If someone expected me to babysit for free I would definitely not put off vacations or doctors appointments
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I would just go with daycare that you hear good things aboutā¦
I know how you feel
Im a sahm and Iām terrified of my baby being with someone else
But if i were you Iād find daycare and tell mom that i just donāt want to ruin her schedules and take up too much of her time. If sheās upset about it thatās her issue.
Wow you are definitely in a world of hell when you realize how much of an entitled little brat youāre being. 1) you barely pay her to begin with; so yeah you need to work around her life 
2) day care will cost way more then $20-$40 a weekš¤£ so
3) shes YOUR mom, not your childās mom, either learn to actually pay her, or keep buying her stuff,
- her watching your child IS A JOB.
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How dare you?? Your mom watches YOUR child for YOU. She also comes to you, you donāt take your child over there. And you pay her $40 a week??
She may not have a job that she gets a paycheck from but her ājobā is watching YOUR kid. You donāt like that she wants time for herself to do whatever the hell she wants, then move around and find someone else to watch YOUR kid. Again I ask, how dare you??
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Get a different sitter and let your mom figure it out 
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Pay your Mom more. This is essentially her job. If she went on and got herself a job to get the money she wants, youāll be up shits creek having to pay for daycare and leave your child with strangers. They also have a schedule, so if you work late or after hours, you will have issues with daycare closing. And if you have more than 1 childā¦
Be thankful your Mom does this service for you. 2 full time incomes, Payā:clap: her 
better.
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Daycares have their own schedules and closed days as well. Itās unfair to assume you can just have her āon callā and then expect her to babysit for free. I would either come up with a reasonable set rate for your mom or look into another option. Sheās helping you by providing free child care. Help her back. 
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I think when you have a child itās your responsibility not your mother and you have no right to expect her to live her life to suit you. If your parents help out itās a bonus but you donāt have a right to dictate . Your kid not your mothers sheās done her but bringing you up
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Sounds like daycare may not be all that much more when you figure out what your mom expects on the side. Do you really want someone like her watching the baby. There are lots of good day cares out there and many charge by income.
Youāre only paying her gas? I mean, yoh should absolutely be paying her something more than thatā¦ And since youāre not paying her, then yesā¦ Iād expect you to work around her schedule.
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I pay my mom $50 every Saturday night I go to see my bf. I live with my mom. So she just have to put my son to bed and thatās it. ā¦
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Hunny childcare costs $20/hr where I liveā¦ You get what you pay for - either take the free help or pay someone else a living wage to do it
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Yeah no I donāt believe in paying a grandma to watch over her own grand baby
My mother tryed pulling that on me while I tryed to work to pay her to watch over for a few hours
Like no this is personal time with your grandson
I understand gas money
But to pay her way out of state or to do what ever is ridiculous
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Not sure your area but in mine youāre lucky if you findly a daycare for $150/week. Most are closer to $200 PER WEEK!! Daycare also has days they close and you have to pay even if your child doesnāt go, otherwise they will fill your spot. I would just pay your mom more and ask her to give you atleast a week or two of notice for appts or trips so you can request the appropriate time off for work. Thatās what all working parents have to do
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Maybe one of you can get their work schedules changed and stay home with your kid and go to work when your partner gets off work , or get a different sitter
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Pay her more money for babysitting and leave it at that. No gifts for her or anything extra. Talk to her and see what she thinks is a reasonable amount to be paid for her babysitting services.
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Our babysitter for our 6 and 7 yr old is $200 a week! And thatās cheap as hell! Sounds like you are taking advantage! Pay her more she deserves it! Daycare is way more expensive !
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The fact that you only pay her such a small amount is unreal . This is YOUR child ! Back in 1997 , When I used sitters to have a night out with my husband , I paid what they charged ( $15 an HOUR ) plus a tip . Try putting your child in day care and see how much they charge . Your mom is a saint for doing what she does !
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I work 40+hrs/ week. Iām a single mom, dhs hasnāt gotten ahold of my girls dad yet for child support, and I do not receive any government assistance. I wish I lived closer to my parents, I would gladly pay my mom to watch my girls when I work! Hell Iād pay her more than what Iām paying the sitters now which is $500/week!
You sound like a spoiled daughter! Your mom is giving to peace of mind, a HUGE discount on childcare regardless of her wanting a little extra and time off from time to time, grow up, put YOUR child in daycare and let your mom be grandma! I assume after reading this, she will see what this grandmother seesāthe parents both work full time, think decorating the house is more important than paying an honest wage to the person providing care to your most precious possessionāyour child , something tells me you are going to be looking for a for profit day care very soon!
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It sounds like you have a lot of animosity towards your mom and her life choices. To keep your relationship in tact I would look at finding another babysitter. Youāll want to keep the relationship for you two simple and keep the grandkids/grandparent relationship fun.
If you find a babysitter who is not related you will be able to set the hours and purchase items without the guilt.
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PAY your mom more!!! Looking into day care very expensive. I watch 2 children about 30 hrs a week and they pay me $500 to $600 a week!!! Yes still cheaper than day care. I go to their house. They treat me like family. Iām Auntie!. Nothing is like having family watching your babies.!!! So donāt take advantage!!
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Its not your moms responsibility. And if she asks for $20-40 a week, you should give it to her. She has a life as well, so you should find a back up when she wants to go out of town. Daycares can be over $1800 a month full time. So maybe you should be more grateful that your mom is even willing and capable of helping with childcare.
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Pay for child care in a facility 
youll quickly learn how costly it is. I have a 2 year old and an 8 month old. When I go back to work care will be 2150$ per month.
My in laws are AMAZING and have offered to take my littles. I appreciate it beyond words! But 2 littles are alot
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Do whatās best, sounds like you are stuck since daycares are expensive
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I think you should pay her something, but not daycare prices. Youāre taking up her time also which doesnāt even give her the option to work if she needed to. Do like $10 or $15 a day plus a tank of gas a week or something. If it were 1-2 times a week then thatās grandma time, but every day?? No way. But also if you pay her tell her that she needs to make her schedule around yours since youāre paying her.
Iām not trying to be mean but I think this post backfired on her but maybe she needed this wake up call her poor mother donāt deserve this
Well Iām a grandma and I work night shift and during the day I watch my granddaughter for free! I want my children to have a better life than I and I couldnāt give them growing up. Js
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Baby. Your. Mom. Needs. To. Get. A. Life. And. Leave. Yours. Alone. Find. A. Friend. That. Will. Keep. Ur. Baby. Tell. Mom. U. Donāt. Need. Her. So. Stay. With. Grandma. And. U. Live. Ur. Life. If. She. Wants. Money. Get. A. Job. Like. Me
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Either lay out an actual payment for your mom that makes it worth her time or suck it up and pay for child care 
I was so thankful we had family that watched our kids when they were littles for me and I always worked with their schedules to make it work because it was a favor for us.
Our local Y Is $229 a week for the toddler room
Well she does have bills and need to support her self aswell
And clearly she canāt get a job if you need her to baby sit for you, I would be paying her something at least
You know you can write off a portion of the cost of childcare on your taxesā¦
Piece of mind having someone you trust is worth 100 to 150 a week
Wow sheās your mum. Sheās done her part of bringing you up. Why do you think she must bring your daughter up. Think you need to treat your mum with more respectā¦
I paid my aunt $300/week for 3 kids. She was doing me a huge favor. Just because theyāre family doesnāt mean theyāre required to work for freeš¤·š»āāļø
You should be grateful your mom is willing to babysit. Itās not her job or responsibility, it is yours. You would never be able to work or afford childcare without her. Get over it snowflakeā¦
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You are taking advantage of your mom. $40 a week isnt even $10 a day. Day care would be much more. She has demands, yes. Pay her a decent wage and then no one owes anyone anything. The fact that you threw in her āmarriedā boyfriend speaks volumes of your relationship. Yāall have MANY more issues than just what you have written.
Put your child in daycare and call it a day. Then you owe your mom nothing and she owes you nothingā¦WORK ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
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WTAF is wrong with this person? How on earth did she ever get the idea that her mother should be a free babysitter? If I was her mom, Iād take my mother and move somewhere far, far away and visit my grandkids periodically.
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Your mom is doing you a favor honey. Nobody is gonna take care of your baby for a measly $20 a week. Quit being a deadbeat 
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Not even read the other comments . But Iām sorry youāve basically just answered your own question with the question. You canāt afford daycare so you should be greatful that your mum is looking after your daughter at a price you can afford.
As my mum says. Shes done her time bringing up her own 4 kids , therefore she isnāt here to bring up ours aswell.
Why should she put her life on hold to look after your child.
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I think if you are thinking bout childcare Iād find out how much that costs weekly & then Iād keep my mom babysitting & offer her at least half of what Iād have to pay childcare if not exactly what I pay childcare. Kinda sad that youād rather pay someone else money then your own mother.
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Sounds like itās an expectation you have for your mom to ~have~ to practically watch your child for free. Bc letās face it- $20-$40 is NOTHING. You had the child. It is YOUR obligation to be able to care for the child, however it may be. I cannot believe what I just read. I cannot believe so many people out there feel that it is a grandparents JOB to watch grandchildren and for FREE. Of course Iād expect you to work around my appointments! Iām not going to miss appointments (especially important ones) because you want me there for free! Uh-uh. Grow up.
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- Of course you have to give her days off and appointments so Iām not sure why you say it likes āshe expect us to work around her scheduleā
- $20-40 for payment is super low. If itās a problem that you feel sheās wants things out of you and youāre considering paying a day care why not just pay her an actual wage that everyone else pays a sitter? Why would you send your child to daycare when you could pay your mom appropriately and that would fix her feelings like youāre taking advantage of her when you can obviously afford more than $20-$40
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Wow grandpArents arenāt free babysitters!!!
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Pfffft. My parents would demand $20 to watch my kids for an evening, so my husband and I could have a date. OP is getting off EASY, while completely taking advantage of her mother. If you donāt want to pay for your childcare, quit your job. Otherwise, pay your mother a respectable wage, or, pay triple that at a licensed daycare. And climb on down off that high horse 
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Entitled
Thatās all
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Youāre going to have to work something out with her or find another option.
Most of these comments are just plain RUDE and IGNORANT ~ ignore themā¦ Iām sorry people are acting this way, clearly they need to reread this
Your paying your mom gas money to use your GRANDMOTHERS CAR, your mom LIVES WITH YOUR GRANDMOTHER. She expects you to work around her schedule, doesnāt have a jobā¦ your mom is taking full advantage of your grandmother and trying to do the same to you. Sounds to me like your mother needs to grow upā¦ I personally would never charge to watch my grandkids, hell, Iāve babysat for friends and never asked for money. I would suggest looking into daycare. I agree, daycare is scary, but you will know if itās the right fit once you walk in, once you see how your daughter responds. I would check into licensed family ( private ) daycare, not the big corporate ones, you can also so look at local churches, they are usually way less expensive. Your mom is going to be mad, but let it roll off your shoulders. If she doesnāt talk to you, ignore it. Iām sorry this is happening to you, but this is the perfect example of family taking ( or trying to ) to take advantage. Your mother should not be laying on a guilt trip. You and your boyfriend are doing what you need to support your child and take care of your little family. In my opinion, your mom is the one with the problem, she needs to grow up, get a job and take responsibility for her life, not expect everyone to pay her way, your grandmother, you snd whom ever else comes along. Donāt let her take advantage anymore.
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Sheās doing you a favour, she should āexpectā you to work around her schedule sheās helping YOU out. If you want more stable childcare then put your child into a daycare. Iām unsure why youāve said about her seeing a married man as if thatās relevant? Your child is not your mothers child she can live her life how she wants sheās doing you a favour. Thereās a difference in babysitting your grandkids & looking after them all week. My mum has my child once a week maybe to see her not because I work. Youāre taking advantage of your mum you sound like the toxic one here not her.
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you should be greatful for what sheās doing. and if you donāt like it, your gonna be paying no less than 100 dollars a day for a baby sitter.
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Suck it up! She is doing you a favor. Try paying daycare prices! She also has a life. May not be the best, donāt judge. Sheās a grownup. Her purpose in life isnāt to babysit. Love the grandchildren yes. You need to find someone who can fill in when she canāt. Maybe your grandmother. Your mother, on the other hand should not be asking for other things. If she wants a raise she should ask!!!
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Are you serious??? You are the generation that is destroying our country. Entitled brat! Put your child in daycare then you donāt have to worry about working around anybody elseās schedule. Oh yeahā¦youāre going to need about $200 a week over the $20 you pay now 
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40 dollars a week to look after your children full time and youāre complaining? Wow, ungrateful much. Perhaps you should just stay home and take care of your own kids and see if it costs you 40 a week
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I have never and would never ever charge to watch my grandbabies. As far as Iām concerned, itās a privilege to spend time with my babies. Could be just me but thatās how I feel. 
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If less than intelligent was looking for a spokespersonā¦
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Your mom is not obligated to watch your childā¦ thatās the bottom line.
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Some of these comments are justā¦ ridiculous! In my family we have never had to pay our parents/grandparents/in-laws for watching our kidsā¦ it takes a village to raise a childā¦
I mean offering gas money is great! To me it sounds like the mother is entitled and is taking advantage of her child and not being a real grandmotherā¦ I get every family is different but jeezā¦ to belittle the OP because she feels her mother is being greedy and unreasonable is ridiculousā¦ she doesnāt want to have to pay to have a stranger care for her childā¦ but if her mother continues to make her feel guilty and make them work around her āunemploymentā scheduleā¦ and buy her things outside of the gas money for the 10 minute drive she makesā¦ I donāt blame her!
She wants to avoid drama but clearly understands how toxic her mother can beā¦
To the OPā¦ you need to do what is best for you and your family! Just rememberā¦ just because someone is family doesnāt mean you have to put up with their toxic behaviourā¦ you and your SO work hard to provide for your familyā¦ donāt let someone take advantage of that or make you feel guiltyā¦
Your mother should be grateful she gets what she getsā¦ if she doesnāt like it then maybe she should get a job instead of mooching of her own mother and daughterā¦
Good luckā¦
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Iām sure you could get another sitter! You wouldnāt have to work around their schedule. And see if they will work for gas money! Win win
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Yall are shitty moms for dragging this poor girl. She shouldnāt have to pay her mom more than what she does. The grandma lives 10 minutes awayā¦ and $20-40 A WEEK is more than reasonable!! Screw yall for dragging her and thinking the grandma needs more. Sounds like the grandma needs a damn job or have her married boyfriend supply her with cash.
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This is the most entitled generation I have ever saw in my entire life ! Go pay for daycare and I bet you will be grateful then ! Some of us didnāt have help at all but we managed 
!
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Here in my state childcare for one child is 150$ a week on the low end. It sounds like youāre spending more in the long run to have your mom watch her so you could possibly sit down and offer her 75$ a week. If she doesnāt think thatās fair take your child to a daycare. This way no one feels taken advantage of.
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Some of yāall sound mad that yāall have shitty ass family members who probably refuse to even spend time with your kids let alone help watch them. obviously this an agreement her and her mother came to otherwise it wouldnāt be happening. to the OP all I can offer is to try talking with her to sort out the issues u have if not Iād find other options for childcare that would cause less drama in your life. Yeah u might pay more but the peace of mind and drama free life would be worth it.
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Iām not going to slam you for thinking it is an expectation for your mom to help you raise your child. My mom helped me free of charge when I unexpectedly had to return to work when my 4th child was just a baby. Without her help, I donāt know how I would have made it work! BUT, I also understood that my parents did their time, raised 6 kids, and it was their time to enjoy themselves. If they wanted to go on a road trip, or visit friends, that was their decision and their right to do so. Taking care of toddlers is rough on an older person. They canāt keep up, and the day to day is exhausting. To have your mother watch your child means you have someone to help that lives your child as much as you do. That is a PRIVILEGE, not a right. Just because your mom DOES help you, doesnāt mean she can afford to. Check into how much childcare costs in your area and make a decision from there. I also bet you would be surprised how much out of pocket your mom spends entertaining your little one.
Myself, I canāt wait to be able to help my kids when that time comes. But, U will only be able to do so because my mom helped me when I needed her. I am forever grateful! When My husband and myself are able to retire, we should feel free to do so without obligations. You will always have to work around someone elseās schedule. No matter where you are in raising your child. There will be school schedules, sports, extracurriculars. Time for you to open your eyes and take responsibility for raising a child. There are tons of schedules you will need to work around.
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Do u know how much daycare is? Its expensive $ 100 a week to her at least. You are lucky you have her around to help
Wow, so many rude commentsā¦ whenever my mom watched my son I just provided all of his diapers, formula, baby food and snacks. She didnāt want any cash. We came up with a schedule for set days she would watch him and our employers worked with our schedules. It worked out perfect for everyone. Good luck.
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Either pay your Mom for child care or pay much more to a day care. She doesnāt have to provide free day care services!
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The more you look into daycare , the better and better Mom starts looking.
No daycare will care about your child as much as Grandma will. I know you guys donāt have much money , but $40 a week is nothing. You are covering her gas and nothing more. I can see why she wants extras. I say as long as she isnāt coming between your marriage , as long as she loves the kids , Mom is a valuable asset.
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Check into daycare assistance; in some states a relative can be compensated for childcare (there are number limits, financial requirements, etc) but it may help both of you! I was super fortunate to always have family/friends help with childcare and always tried to accommodate their schedules bc they were doing me the favor. Hopefully it works out. Thereās so much value in loved ones being part of the group who raise babiesš
If my mom watched my daughter consistently while my bf and I went to work, 1) I would still drop my daughter off and pick up, 2) Iāll give her at least $200 a month.
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I made $25 a day in 1993 looking after 3yr old twins, a 5yr old and, a 135lb Rotti. Iām thinking you may want to consider what you have and pay your mom accordingly.
Think how lucky you are that she isnāt working, that she is able and willing.
Also - just to be that gal - We should not expect after we have children that our parents will bring them up ā¦they did their job. Our children are our own responsibility.
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Stay home and watch your own kid. Who watched you for free and complained about it. Let your mom have a life. Why is it nobody plans on daycare expenses when your 9 months planning on having a child for 21 years. Hows your college savings going? Now your getting extra money every month from your child care credit pay your mom lots. Why should she suffer for your poverty ?
Yāall on here saying 20 to 40 a week is to small of an mount but yāall not considering the fact that not everyone has 200 extra a week some people after paying bills donāt even have 20 or 30 dollars left yāall some rich bitches bashing on some poorer people cause they canāt afford daycare or more than 40 a week. Guess what I watched my sisters kid from age of 16 to 18 and was only paid maximum of 50 dollars a week because that all she could afford this girl is literally saying she canāt afford anything after bills and house stuff yāall worried about a greedy old lady who lives off her own mom yāall should say something about and probably 50 60 year old lady who canāt get off her ass and get a house of her own but want to bash and shame her daughter for wanting to buy herself or child something yāall Pathetic money hungry people
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You should pay your mom more then $4-$8 dollars a day. And find a back up babysitter. Your mom is coming to look after your kid while you work so now thereās a difference between when sheās looking after her, and when itās grandparent time. While sheās looking after your kid sheās feeding her and more then likely cleaning up and keeping your house from becoming a total mess. I would be paying her around $100-$150 a week that way it actually gives her a bit more income for the month, then your still less then a daycare. And if you donāt think you can pay your own mother that much then maybe just find a way to work from home, because you wonāt find a daycare or babysitter cheaper then your own mother.
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Didnāt even read past the first sentence, ENTITLED BRAT VIBES!!! NO ONE OWES YOU A DAMN THING!!! Especially not your mama, and especially not your kids! Anything your mom does for you after 18-21 is a FAVOR!!ESPECIALLY IF ITS DONE FOR FREE!!! I used to PAY my sister and dad to watch my son because NOTHING COMES FOR FREE! Youāre using their TIME the most precious thing in life and you want to take it for FREE? Entitled brat. End of story. Learn to have some consideration and gratitude towards others especially your family.
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If you donāt want to pay her a fair wage, then put the kid in daycare where you will be paying 600 plus a month or you and your hubby get jobs opposite hours so 1 of you will be home with him at all time. It is none of your business what she does in her free time. And painting her as a horrible person to gain sympathy for yourself doesnāt make you look good. I paid anywhere from 35 to 45 a DAY for my daughter to go to in-home daycare. What if she gets tired of it and drops the gig or gets sick? You will be forced anyway to find care elsewhere if you want to work.
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Donāt have anymore unless you can afford them. Mom presently looks like a great deal but let her know you can not afford her extra wants.
Your mother is a moocher. That is all
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You know normally I would disagree with you to do disagree that your mad about working around her schedule Iām lucky enough thst y mom loves to watch my kids but itās not a full time thing but I get Whst your saying child csre is expensive snd csnt afford it I looked for a baby sitter these girls want 17-20 dollars an hour to literally sit with my kids who I provide everything for I think thatās insane snd def canāt afford that snd day cares are super expensive if haves discussion snd straight up
Tell her the amount you can give her csuse if your giving her money for other things too snd csnt afford things for your child id just be honest
Iām sorry hun but this is exactly why I stay home because my income would only cover childcare. Maybe pay your mom a lil more cause youād have to pay someone else 10 to 20 times moreā¦and itās not always an easy gig.
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Your mom is toxic. Lay those boundaries out!
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Geesh. You sound ungrateful.
That lady did her part. If she cant watch your kid on some days then oh fucking well. Shes a grown ass woman who needs to have a life too.
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I would not want to do it all!
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Try paying for professional daycare and see how that goesā¦
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I pay my mom $700 a month for childcare. Daycare was $1,800 a month. You will pay 15-20 times what you pay now if you put your child in daycare. Be thankful you have a loving family member to watch your child instead of trusting your child with strangers. Stop acting like your child is your mothers responsibility. Youāre taking advantage of her by paying her $20-$40 a week for childcare. How is she expected to have a full time job if she watches your child 40hrs a week? Is $160/ a month a living wage? Of course, sheās going to ask for your help to purchase other things. To me in seems like your mother is sacrificing her ability to work for herself to be able to help YOU, her daughter and spend time with her grandchild. Put your child in daycare for 1 month and maybe then you will be more appreciate of your motherās efforts.
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Have you ever considered helping your Mom out as you want her to help you?
It goes both ways you know, every families circumstance is unique to itself so if you need to pay her more money to help her out then stop complaining and just do it.
Everyone needs personal time so try to be considerate of your Moms schedule and work around it as much as you can.
If you both are nice and both of you try your best in helping each other. Let me say that again ā if you are both nice and both try your best in helping each otherā then I think a few less complaints would occur.
Your Mom is not your rug to walk on just because she is there.
Ever thought of maybe finding a part time daycare or sitter so both of you can have less friction and help too.
This way you have your Mom helping and no friction in the relationship.
Maybe she can afford to watch her grands a couple of days a week for free if not pay her she is your Mom so why would you not help her out!
A couple of days a week and she gets to have her own time for her own schedule and gets to spoil her grands too.
Money depends on circumstances so donāt be selfish if your Mom needs help and is willing to watch your kids for free! Yes I said free because she isnāt making a dime off of you! I bet she buys your kids gifts too rightā¦
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Why are the comments even still turned on for this post
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You should want to pay her at least as much as the daycare because sheāll probably treat her grandchildren better than anyone else would. Sounds like your mother could use a fair paycheck. Duh!!!
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Sit down with mom and discuss wages. Shes your mom youll be glad in the longrun that you talked to her. Shes your best choice
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Why do you think your mother should watch your daughter for free? Childcare costs stupid money. You could at the very least give her $20 per DAY. Shit. She is helping you.
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Iād pay her at least 100 a week she is helping you, so you need to give her more then coffee money. If you pay her more she can use that for her needs instead of asking you, and with it more even and fair you can stop feeling guilty for providing for your kid and home and she can stop asking you for more money. Its probably embarrassing for your mom to ask you for money to buy things she needsā¦
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Pay somebody else simple
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You only pay her 20-40$ a week and you work full time??? Iād feel unappreciated if I were her.
Thatās cheap and rude. It doesnāt matter if sheās the grandmother or not. It doesnāt mean she has to do it. You speak like she should. She did not have the baby, the fact you think 20-40$ a week is fair when you work full time is bs.
Just because sheās your mother doesnāt mean she should watch your child full time and not have her own life for 20-40$ a week.
You SHOULD work around her life and plans. You had the baby NOT her.
You sound so entitled itās ridiculous.
The fact your looking into paying a daycare WAY more to have a stranger watch your child when in all reality you could pay you mother more and it still be less than daycare with a stranger is just jaw dropping.
Get over yourself. Entitled and spoiled is what you sound like.
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Pay your mama more than $40 a week! You would be paying way more than that at a day care or for someone else to babysit.
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My mom would NEVER charge me to watch her own grandkids if I was working to provide for my family. She rarely even accepts $20 when me and my husband need a night to ourselves.
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Simple. Donāt have her watch your kid anymore
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