She raised her kids. Now you’re raising yours. Period. Sleep is important for everyone, especially growing children.
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You do what you feel your baby needs!! Its your baby…not hers. All babies are different and have different needs. Ignore her!!!
Kids need a routine!! Tell her you appreciate her advice, but she could give it as it’s asked for and in a nicer way but ultimately this is your baby and you will raise her as YOU see fit! If that approach doesn’t work then just tell her to shut up. Good grief at these MIL’s.
We revolve our days around naps because they are necessary for babies to grow and develop healthily. Also because spending all day with a cranky baby is awful. Your MIL is crazy in my opinion. 2 naps a day is completely typical for a 10 month old. My 1 and 2 year olds both still have one nap a day.
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My 10m old naps twice a day and I couldn’t imagine the hell he would raise if he didn’t nap at all 
tell her to mind her business or have another kid of her own to control
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It is your child so do whatever you want, just let her talk and talk as a sign of respect just listen, then just do whatever you want.
That mil is crazy af,her kids did take naps.All babies do.Only 2 naps?Mine took more than 2.Each child is different.Ignore the mil as she is crazy,stupid,and not in touch with reality
Naps are very important. Don’t let her watch you baby untill she respects you…
By the way I’m You are doing fine
Our pediatrician recommends that my 18 month old sleeps 14 hours a day your babe is younger sleep away babe 
My son is like clockwork
He sleeps at 0630pm
Gets up for feedings twice
Wakes up at 6am
Naps 11am and maybe another one afternoon
If it doesn’t go as to his schedule he gets extremely fussy
Kids are all so different. But, routine is so important. Also, clearly you know your child and how she acts and what her needs are. You’re doing great.
My kids had a morning nap and afternoon nap and still slept through. No biggie. At that age is fine. As they got older ie 2 they just had an afternoon nap so they wouldn’t have complete meltdowns at dinner time and daddy time
If I were you I would just laugh. Who does she think she is? Is she medically inclined to even talk?
Let her watch her during the day and overnight and see how she feels after your kid not napping…she’ll probably change her mind.
the only thing that I enjoyed about my kids not taking a nap during the day is that sometimes maybe about nine out of 10 x 8 out of 10 they will sleep through the night and go to bed early because they’re overly tired the only problem is then I have to deal with fighting screaming temper tantrums they don’t eat or they eat too much so yes I believe naps are great and do I have an exact schedule like down to the minute now they go to sleep sometimes we have to run errands cuz I got kids that are in school so if they have to wake up from a nap yes it sucks I try to keep them asleep but hey they don’t always stay asleep and then when they come home sometimes they’re a little fussy because they’re tired so I am definitely a firm believer and naps now if naps just can’t happen for whatever reason then that day you kind of have to plan for it but other than that because you can’t I think your kids should be able to sleep whenever they need to sleep
it sounds like you know what you’re doing. I have five kids some of them needed naps some of them didn’t it it’s really it depends on the child, my oldest she took two naps until she was in school. My second daughter she fall asleep somewhere if she didn’t have an nap. My son Joseph was cranky if he took a nap, it would be harder to put to sleep that night. my next son he was hard to put down for a nap even if he was tired. my youngest he’s on pretty much a similar routine to your 10 month old, I let him wake up when he is ready. and then he’ll be out for a couple hours and then if I don’t put him down for a nap I’ll find him asleep somewhere, usually playing with toys under the table in the living room, on the floor in the bedroom on the couch where ever. I find nap times are individual for every child. A good routine is very good for babies development.
Oh please DOOOOO NOTTTTT LISTEN TO HER! 
And unless it was an emergency I wouldn’t leave her with her either for the very reasons you stated. That’s crazy actually! At that age my babies were starting to transition to one nap because then they’d never fall asleep at a decent hour. But omg NO NAPS?!?? That’s just crazy crazy crazy! My schedule has to go around the babys schedule because it makes it easier on EVERYONE. LOL-is all I’d say to her. Ha!
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What worked for her kids isn’t necessarily what will work for yours and she needs to respect that. It’s normal for a baby that age to take two naps a day and have a bed time. Mine were both like that. Mine grew out of it by the time they were about 2-2 1/2 but some kids need naps even when they’re 5 or 6. I wouldn’t let her watch your baby because it sounds like she would do exactly what you’re worried she might
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You seriously need to put your foot down and tell her to mind her business and talk to your husband. She has absolutely no right to interfere when it comes to your child. You should never prevent a baby that age from napping. I believe it’s a part of their growth. If you keep them awake, they will get overtired and will be even fussier at night time and may not go to sleep for you. Don’t allow anybody else to be over you when it comes to your kids. Every child is different when it comes to napping and how many times they nap a day but in reality every child especially that age should take at least one nap. Again, put your foot down and tell her to mind her business.
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Why does your MIL care so much about this? Is it because it “cuts into her time” with her grand baby? You’re right for having her nap. Sometimes it doesn’t fit well into the day on busy days. I get that too. I have one who has never been a napper. I just do the best I can. From what you’ve typed here, you’re doing fine. There are things my mom and MIL don’t like about my parenting, but 
. I’m the Mama.
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Tell her that she raised her kids, and that this child is not hers to raise or make choices for… Your the mother. I have four children ages 15, 13, 11 and 15 months. My 15 month old daughter still takes two naps everyday. Babies need lots of good rest, they are growing and it is 100% NECESSARY to nap. You parent your baby girl the way you choose, she doesn’t have to like it.
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I’d tell the MIL that how I raise my child is not her business. She is the grandmother not the mother. How she raised her kids was her choice. How you raise your kids is your choice. Sorry not sorry. Going through some issues with my own MIL. PLUS she’s 10 months old!! Babies eat, poop, sleep and repeat. The MIL scolded you?? Remind her that you’re an adult and not her child!!!
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There are a lot of studies about children and sleep that were not around when she had her children. You have science on your side not just opinion. Sleep schedules matter regular bed times and bedtime routines matter and yes a 10 month old should have at least one nap
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I would tell her the same thing I told my parents, you already had your chance this is mine so back off! I wouldn’t necessarily keep your daughter from visiting, my parents and in laws do their thing when my kids go there and we do ours at home. I understand it may be inconvenient to have a fussy baby, but she needs the relationship with her grandmother. Definitely do not let her run your home or parenting!
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My motto is if you didnt give birth to my child then y0u have no say so how I raise my child. Babies need naps during the day. Heck couldn’t take one right now. Sounds like shes a little jealous of you for some reason? And will always find something to defi you. You’ll be wrong about everything. Been there done that.
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I raised 3 boys and now I am taking care of 3 of my grandchildren. Keeping them on a routine and steady sleep schedule is important for them. If we don’t let our 1 year old granddaughter get her nap in, she becomes a holy terror. On days we have a lot of appointments she gets really fussy and will fall asleep in her car seat, but then wakes up as soon as we get her out of the car and then is fussy because she didn’t get her full nap in. However, I agree with most, this is your child and nobody knows what is best for your child the way you do. Tell your MIL thank you for the advise but we are going to raise our child the way we think is best and if you cannot follow our schedule then we will have to plan visits before or after nap time. If she is babysitting and is not following your schedule, find someone else that will.
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I have done home daycare for over 26 years, a 10 month old needs at least 1 good nap or 2 shorter naps a day or they will be cranky !! This is your child do what works for you and your child. Schedules are a good thing for children!!
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- Your kid, your rules
- Every kid is different, some will take 2-3 naps a day, some are ok with one.
- Bed times are a thing! If you want your kid to sleep through the night, a bedtime routine and flowing it are how that’s done.
- Your MIL would HATE me, my older 2 (11 & 12 yo) have a 9 pm bedtime that is strictly enforced. When they were babies and fresh from the hospital, they had a 7 pm bed time with a routine that started at 6 pm. Naptime and we were home, not out and about with a fussy baby, but allowing the kid to rest and be happy before we went out.
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This is your child you know her needs better then anyone. I was an Infant teacher for many years.(1 to 12 months), went to school for ECE ( early childhood education). Mother of 5 and a grandmother. Most of our babies nap 2 sometimes 3 a day depends on the child and their needs.
YOUR daughter, you know her best. Grandparents already raised their children and they wouldn’t have permitted anyone to tell them how to raise their kids. I just don’t understand how and why some grandparents think that’s acceptable
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Naps make happier children. Children thrive on structure and discipline. Your baby, your decision. If she doesnt want to follow your schedule I wouldnt let her keep my kid. If you are not asking her to keep your kid she doesnt get an opinion in how you schedule your day. Be firm and do what is best for your kid and family.
My MOL didnt follow my advise with my son one day cause of course I didnt know anything. She didnt make him take his normal nap and put him down later and he continued to sleep later into the evening. Then they woke him up and it all broke loose. Needless to say that was probably the last time they didnt follow my advise for my kid.
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Mine is 3years old and nap time is not optional…
they need nap time. They need a certain amount of hours of sleep a day and nap time closes the gap. Their brains need it!! Plus they get cranky as can be if they don’t.
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Your kid. Your life. Your schedule. Back off.
As long as the kid is fed, bathed,clothed, and alive at the end of the day you did just fine. Don’t worry about other mom’s opinions. Because honestly at the end of the day we are all just raising little butt heads who make our hearts melt.
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Since all of mine were young (I have 4) I kept them on a every strict schedule. Up at this time breakfast lunch dinner set at a certain time, naptimes were set and bed time was set. Everything I did made life a routine, a lot easier, and now that they’re grown, they still stick to a bed time without complaints, and during school breaks they stay on an eating schedule that doesn’t let them eat our family out of house an home. If she can’t respect that then I wouldn’t allow her to watch you LO until she gets older.
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Naps are great for kids. Do your thing as a mom. My kids sometimes napped after kindergarten. I had them lay down for a hr every day after lunch. I did not care if they slept or not but they had to rest. And it is a great time for you to reset yourself.
One of my kids used to have 3 naps every day. You do what you think is right and from what I just read you are doing great! You are good parents!
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She’s probably forgotten. But as a Nana. There have been times I have not gotten the granddaughter to nap and we all paid for it. The older one was different and seldom had issues with or without a nap. Key to parenting is every kids different. You know your kids and are the parents who make the rules. I would have to say let her deal with it for 24 hours and she will get it.
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Do what’s best for your baby! I have learned that things have changed A LOT and as a grandma I have to modify and adjust to my daughter’s way of raising her children!
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Schedules are so important for little ones. They get over stimulated easily. Your mil is crazy. Your kid your rules. Period.
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I had 5 kids and all of them napped until past the age of 2. It’s normal, their little bodies are growing fast and need it. Tell her to mind her business.
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My son is 2 and he gets up about 8:30-9 everyday. At around 1:30 he takes a nap til 3:30-4. His bedtime is 8:30. Naps are not only good for your kid but you too! 
you’re the momma and you know what’s best.
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So she wants the baby to sleep whenever she wants, but also doesn’t want her to take naps…
Tell her she can’t have it both ways.
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My kids had naps and made for a happier and less stressful family ignore her
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If my daughter doesn’t nap, she’s a handful. She needed two a day until a few months ago. She’ll be two in a few days. Sounds like you’re doing it right and the mil needs to mind her own 
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It’s absolutely none of her business! You keep doing what you know is best for your little one
Your mother in law is flat out wrong! And horrible ahe makes remarks. You are doing the right thing but that son of hers needs to put her in her place!
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It’s your child my kids took 2 naps too my mother and mother in law respected that
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Your husband needs to tell your MIL to butt out. What works for one child may not work for the other. And babies are supposed to sleep. What is wrong with her?!
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My kids all took 2 naps a day at that age! Perfectly normal, MiL needs to get over it!
Your kid, your decision.
My husband and I both worked. We had our son on a strict schedule as a baby but it worked best for him and us. He is now almost 9 and still likes schedule / routines.
Tell her it’s not her daughter and to mind her business. You are the parent and do not have to justify why you are doing what you are doing.
My kids had naps till they were like 4.
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let the baby nap. I’m 63 and I like a nap every afternoon. Babies need sleep.
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Ignore her, you are the momma. I shudder at the idea of an un-napped 10 month old.
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A 10 month old should be taking naps. Your mil is not in charge, and she is wrong both in her being against naps and her attitude towards you. Stay strong mom.
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My kids took 2naps a day for a very long time, eventually they went to 1 nap a day. Honestly, kids need to nap, moms need to rejuvenate for round two or three. Kids sleep because they are constantly growing and makes them tired. Who the heck wants a fussy over tired baby on their hands. Part of me says let the grandparent have the kid all day long with no nap and see how she feels and how the baby does. On the other hand why put you child through that when you yourself know the outcome. Bottom line, it’s your kid, do as you feel necessary, but by all means let the child nap if not for anything but your own sanity.
Love One Mom to Another 
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Babies need naps, she’s your baby so you do what you think is right for your baby. Don’t let your m-i-l interfere in how you raise your child!
Ask your doctor. I had 4 kids and each had different sleep needs. YOUR Child YOUR Rules.
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My kids were taking a nap after kindergarten. You do what works for your family. You baby could tske 2 naps a day and be perfectly normal.
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You know what your baby needs. My kids had naps and a bedtime. And it didn’t hurt them a bit. You do what is best for your baby
When I keep my granddaughter I try my best follow mom’s schedule. My DIL has done a great job, so I try to come along beside her and keep things smooth.
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She’s only 10 months old! Naps are normal don’t let your MIL tell you any different. Kids in pre-k still take naps.
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Babies nap a lot when they are growing and you can’t stop that . Why on earth would she not want the child to nap ? Lord that’s when we get our stuff done around the house
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Babies do sleep a lot. That is how they grow. Keep up your good work. My kids naped until they started kindergarten.
Babies need naps that’s how they grow both my daughters were preemies had both 2 years apart they slept alot but the doctors assured me this was ok
If a child gets over tired then they get crunchy it’s much better to let a child sleep when wants and always tell them how lucky they are to have a lovely bedroom/ bed to sleep in at night .ie bed at night naps during the day but not in bed they will get the message that the bedroom is for night time hope this helps
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Naps are CRITICAL for my 2.5 year old. I usually work my schedule around her naps. i believe at 10 months she was still taking 2 naps as well. I think we weened her off her 2nd nap around a year old simply because it was pushing her bed time back. I LOVE my little ones naps, especially because what you said it makes her more cheerful. My daughter without a nap is SCARY!!!
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ALL kids do better on a routine!! Two naps are completely normal at that age. Your child, your rules. I’m a grandma and I wouldn’t dream of not following my kids rules for their kids. It doesn’t matter if I don’t agree with something, they’re not my kids. I raised mine and now it’s their turn to raise theirs. If she can’t respect your wishes, I would let her see your child at your house before or after her naps. That’s so disrespectful to you!! Good luck!!
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Our son (almost 4) takes one nap, usually late morning, early afternoon, daily., otherwise, he can be a cranky little dude. When he was a baby, he took two naps. Ultimately, you do what‘s best for your girl.
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My kids always had 2 naps. Kids are different. Ignore your MIL SHE just wants things her way and it’s NOT HER BABY!
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My kids always took a nap even if they didn’t sleep I made them lay down for a hour they needed that rest and so did I babies are better with a routine
My 3 yr old grandson still naps each afternoon and is really out of sorts if he misses a nap. Still growing!
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Your child and your decisions! She already raised her children! Now it is your turn.And you are right! Naps are good! I have two kids and would love to take a nap! 
That is very important to take a nap at that age, even two if the little one wants it. Mother in law sounds very selfish.
Definitely your child your rules!! You give that baby as many naps as she needs and tell your mother in law to mind her own business!! You’re doing a GREAT job!!! I fly out once a year for a week while the grown ups go on vacation and I stick to the routine they are used to because it’s better for the babies. Lol, last time I went out though I got suckered into rocking the two year old asleep (naps & bedtime) I didn’t know they had stopped rocking her:heart:
You are the mommy do what you think is best for your baby girl, keep up the excellent work because learning what is best for your baby as a first time mom is hard…
It’s your daughter NOT your mother in laws. Yes she has knowledge because she raised her children but things have changed. Children need sleep- the more they sleep early in life they better off they are for it.
You keep being you Momma and don’t let anyone, including and sometimes ESPECIALLY family tell you or convince you to do different.
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Omg. I used to get hell bc my kids wouldn’t nap. Kids do what kids do! It saves your sanity when they nap!
You are doing what is needed by your child. Each person has a different internal clock and sounds like you are aware of your child’s timeline. Great mommy skills being so in tune this early in her life.
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To me when a baby or kid wants to nap let them it’s your baby if u want her napping let her nap just saying I’ve always heard that when babies are sleeping they are growing too they need their sleep and they know when they need a nap
Schedules and routine are so important for kids! Your baby will be a better behaved toddler this way! You’re doing great.
She’s your child. Not your mother in laws. It’s ok to take advice but you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. You can’t keep a baby up. Tell her to get a hobby. If my kids ask for advice I give it. Otherwise I keep my mouth shut
Myself being a grandmother can suggest to my kids about things to do for my grandchildren but never tell them what to do you’re lucky you have a 10 month old that naps twice today and still sleeps at night that’s great
I would talk to her and explain that naps are best for your child. Try not to start out the conservation with her to, mind her own business. She is family and you all are her business. My mother in law is a wonderful woman who raised a wonderful man my husband, so don’t hate her advice, just communicate with her. Tell her she raised a wonderful child but that all children are different.
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Im VERY strict on my sleep schedules for my kids. As toddlers, they napped at 10am then again at 130pm. Thats as TODDLERS…10 month old infants should need it more. As you said…fussy with only 1 nap. And bedtime is STRICTLY 830pm. Weekends, holidays, summer… that’s even now and my oldest is 11. My mom jokes that I don’t waver on sleep schedules and I don’t. My children are walking proof that scheduling rest is beneficial. Gifted and talented in school, stands out in sports, and even they know… to do your best, you must rest!
Babies sleep when they need to sleep. If you as Mom decide she’s getting fussy and needs a nap, she needs a nap. Tell your MIL to shut it off. What she did for her kids may have worked for HER family. You are doing what works for your’s.
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Your baby, your choice. Developmentally, it’s probably best that your little does still take naps. There’s science and research behind that statement…
That being said, once my second child was born naps didn’t last long. He grew out of his daily naps by the time he was one. My first child was about 2 when she started weening off of naps.
That being said, there are days my now 5 and 3 year old still take naps. I let them “tell me” what they need.
I get what your mother in law is saying, in regard to “not stopping your life for naps”, but I did the same thing you are doing. If your 10 month old is “telling you” they need a nap, let them nap.
Your mental health is important. Children take a lot out of you. Your life is completely changed. So when your little’s sleep schedule is off, so is yours (not good).
If she does babysit, I’d just ask her to at least have a “quiet time” scheduled. More times than not, my kids would fall asleep or at least get “a rest”, which I thought was important…
Both my kids took 2 naps a day when they were little (under 1 yr old) then it changed to 1 nap,… then just quiet time… you know your child better than anyone else. Every person is different so naturally every baby is different. Don’t doubt yourself. If you feel like baby is happy with 2 naps then give the baby 2 naps.
Tell MIL to take a long walk off a short pier. It’s your child not hers. I have a feeling MIL won’t be happy with anything you do so keep your distance or your whole marriage will be ruined. Just be civil and tolerate any family gatherings, but don’t let her run (ruin) your life.
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There is NOTHING wrong with giving your daughter a nap or 2 and theres DEFINATELY NOTHING wrong with having a bedtime!! Tell her…SHE’S MY DAUGHTER,NOT YOURS!! If she dont like it,then tough shit!! Both my kids took naps(only 1 tho)and were in bed by 8pm! If your child doesnt have a schedule then they will think they can stay up all night and sleep all day!! Your doing good,DONT let her get to you!!
Naps are the right thing!! She needs help. Your kid you raise her the way you think is best!! She had her turn and now it’s over for her!!
At 10 months old my daughter did the two nap a day schedule. That’s actually pretty standard. They’re babies for crying out loud! They sleep to grow!
Oh no a baby that age needs to have naps. They are growing at a rapid pace and need their rest.
Your mother in law needs to close her mouth. It is great your child naps. Also if he’s tired then he should nap I wish you luck with her.
You are mom. None of her business. Having worked many years with a pediatrician’s office, I can tell you, yes, most babies at this age nap
Sorry you’re having this problem. All babies (ok, usually) have two naps a day before they are a year old. Gradually, they lose the morning nap, but will still take an afternoon nap. My lil ones would come home from kindergarten, have a snack and take a nap. The only time humans heal and/or grow is when they are sleeping! That’s basic knowledge. Your baby is growing every single day! Let her nap.
Babies need naps. Science backs this up. My 11 month old takes 1-2 naps a day and my older two even had quiet time in kindergarten.
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I think your mother-in-law needs to back off and let you be the parent and keep her opinions to herself.
I worked with children 6 weeks -4 years of age for 20+ years. It is perfectly normal for a 10 month old to take 2 naps during the day. My 19 month old grandson on some days takes 2 naps. If you really are concerned talk to your pediatrician. I think he/she will tell you that 2 naps for a 10 month old is just fine.
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