Tell your Mother in law to mind her business she raised her son .
Naps are soo very important for infants. Even if they’re short.
Lol they are mine you already raised yours
Raise you child your way!!!
Tell her to mind her own business.
Your MIL has some strange ideas. Don’t listen to her.
She is your child not you mil’s. Period!
Hey don’t let her watch your baby. What she mean naps aren’t important. I’m almost 40. I pray for a good nap!!!
Let that baby nap! Good grief.
DON’T LISTEN TO HER! Make her read this article. Sleep & brain development: an important connection– Nested Bean
I hope she doesnt take naps herself…
ignore mother-in-law
Tell her to mind her own business 
Um… your baby, your rules
Tell her to mind her own f**king business
Naps are life. Period.
Sleep is very important. Follow your Mommy instincts because even if this is your first, you are doing it right!!!
I’m sorry but she’s a lil dumb 
my almost 8 month old takes 2 naps a day. My 1.5 year old niece takes at least one. Not only do babies nap but so do toddlers… your kid will be napping for awhile. As nearly all kids do.
You’re mother in law sounds like a trouble maker and a know it all… she should mind her own business!
Typical mother in law that needs to BUTT OUT
DO NOT LISYEN TO HER! You are doing a great job with your baby. I’dbetelling my mother in law she raised her children how she wanted and you will raise yours hoe you want.
Your baby, your rules. Period
You wish she don’t live with your mother n law she lives with you
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I’m 26 bout to be 27 & need naps! My kids are 14,12,9,7 and they love nap time! It is your child you do what you believe your baby needs. Naps aren’t a bad thing! You are doing an amazing job! You will always get judged no matter what you choose to do, if you didn’t let your child nap I bet she’d be saying something negative about that! So just do what you think is best for you and the baby. And tell you MIL that this is new decade not the 70s anymore 
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A 10 month old should be napping twice a day and you should absolutely plan your day around their naps! That’s what being a parent is at this stage. You’re doing the right thing mama. When other family members have shared their disagreements with how my husband and I do things with our children I just say “this is what works best for us”. Not much they can say to argue with that because they don’t get to decide what is or isn’t best for your family, you do! 
If you don’t feel comfortable with her watching your baby because you feel like she won’t respect your baby’s schedule, you are probably right and within your rights to say you don’t want her to watch your child. Good luck mama!
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So i had to have this convo with my mom too . just pull her aside and tell her what it is. I AM mom . You are Grandma . Stay in YOUR lane. If you cannot or will not follow My rules. For My baby . you will Not be allowed unsupervised visits with My baby. Because this means I can Not trust You. End of story. If she doesnt like it she doesn’t have to be active in her grandkids life. Your babies health and happiness is way more important than her opinion. Good luck mommas 
your a great momma !
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I have a 21 month old who NEEDS 1-2 naps. If not, I can’t get her to fall asleep until almost 11. Babies need naps. There is a theory that older generations believed that the longer babies stay up during the day the better they sleep at night. Which in turn, is extraordinarily FALSE. Now granted, and kids are different. We don’t have a “set-in-stone” routine because we work our lives around RayLynns nap times. If we don’t, it affects her quality of sleep. You are her mom, and you know what is best. Listen to your gut.
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You are doing the right thing.
Unfortunately regardless of the relationship and who it is you will always be judged for everything (people have nothing better to do and it gets old fast) … remember this no hard feelings towards anyone… You and only you are the mommy what you say goes. And if your child needs naps let them sleep after all when your child gets fussy and screams you get left with the child to settle down while everyone else has their tea. And then everyone will have something to say about how your child cries all the time… Dont ever wake a sleeping child for anyone or anything good luck mommy.
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Our Pre-K kids still take (and need) a rest during the day! You have a 10 month old! Oooff.
She needs to do some research on how important rest is for developing minds!
Older generations need to realize that you aren’t saying they didn’t do a good job of parenting by following more current methods. They always seem to take it very personally. When you know better, you do better. I ran into some of that with older women telling me “well I used blankets in the crib and my kids were fine” etc. Things change and I bet at some point some older person was telling them they were doing it all wrong too. Things to remember when my kids have their own. Be helpful… And offer advice only if it’s asked for!
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Your the Mom, not her. She has already raised kid(s). So she’s done. My son took 2 naps during the day about an hour and half each (now takes a 3 hour nap all together now). We put him to bed at 9pm (he sleeps all night). It makes for a happy cheerful kid and a peace of mind parents to have a downtime.
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Two naps and that amount of over night sleep is totally age appropriate- don’t let mil throw your mothering confidence.
My first born was/is a kid who needed a routine, we could push it for a special occasion but he would take a couple of days to recover. My second and third babies are a lot more flexible, but still need their certain number of naps a day.
My ten month old takes two naps a day! Our life is sooooo much easier when he has his naps. He is still growing so rapidly his little body needs that sleep to help him grow. You are the momma! If you feel your baby is happy/healthier with naps then it’s your choice! Also if it gives you an hour to have some sanity that’s just bonus! (I’m on my first baby too!) you go momma your doing great!
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Naps are super important…sounds like your MIL needs one… as a mom of 3 I never get to nap but my youngest still need it…your routine sounds great!! Your baby isn’t even a year old there is a lot going on in that growing human…let her nap and have your husband tell his mom to stop butting in
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You’re better than me, I would have already put her in her place.
She’s had her go around at parenting, if she feels she can do a better job then she can have more of her own bc her granddaughter isn’t her child and she can fuck off. 
My mother in law tried It however when she had my husband she told him when he was 9 yrs old that she didn’t love him anymore and shipped him off to his dad bc she didn’t want him anymore, which she confirmed It.
So when she tried to tell me one thing I told her she could shut her pot hole with that bullshit bc she wasn’t a perfect parent in fact she was a horrible one and to stay in her lane bc one thing my kids will NEVER have to hear me say is that I don’t love them bc I won’t ever feel that way!
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You need to tell her she has raised HER babies and that if she wants to raise another to go adopt. My 10 month old was napping 2 times a day. Whenever she only napped once you could physically and emotionally see that she needed another.
They need a lot of rest because they are growing.
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I let my children sleep when ever they want as long as there in bed by 9. My son is 3 an my little girl is 9 both took up to 3 naps when they where babys when they nap I nap. Your going to miss them naps lol my son never naps anymore lol he all over the place.
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Your doing fine take no notice of what the in law is saying, you know your baby better than anyone else I did the same with my son otherwise he would be grumpy normally after his lunch and if I felt like a nap we would both have one. Maybe the in law needs a nap so she’s not so grumpy Your doing the right thing dont let anyone tell you different
My mother in law the same way. i don’t let it get to me nor do I listen to most of what she says . at the end of the day there your children you take care of them. You bath an feed them cloth them put them to bed give them meds when there sick. You raise the child how you want to.
I am a child psychology major. We literally just went over this in class… if your kid is under 2, it is perfect acceptable, as well as healthy, for your child to sleep for 12 hours a day/night, however that gets broken up with naps.
My first thought is why, does your mother-in-law have any say so what, you do with your children? Second question why isn’t your husband “Manning up” to his mother?
FYI two naps a day for a 10 month old is very common.
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Routines give kids security and safety, they know what to expect. Also they’re supposed to nap to grow and for Pete sake they’d be screaming and crying because they’re tired. And it gives mom time to breath. Not all of us have people to give us breaks so nap time is out sanity.
It is very common for babys up to 16 months to take 2 naps a day. It also can be beneficial to the child long term that they have a schedule. Routines at bedtimes can be paramount to getting a baby to sleep through the night! You keep doing you! You know whats best, and when she says well my kids never took naps, reply well my child does 
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She’s crazy! Babies need naps! I need naps and I’m 31!! I have 4 kids and all of them took 2 naps a day until about 10 months then weaned down to 1 nap a day. My youngest is almost 3 and still naps once a day and my almost 5 year old tends to fall asleep at random still too at some point during the day. Even if naps aren’t super consistent I definitely think bedtime should be! It is great for everyone to be on a routine and kids thrive off of it. Change is scary for them! We never had our world revolving around nap time, but if it makes life easier in the sense that you get some time to yourself or to do stuff or nap or shower and she is less fussy then that is great! Ignore her. Tell her to shove off. Don’t let her watch your baby.
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Your child, your rules, every child is different, my son never took a nap but my daughter would, and a set bed time is a good thing, don’t let her try and raise your kids, she had her time now let you have yours.
Naps are very important for you as a mother as well as the child. They need sleep to grow. You need them to sleep to recharge. They grow out of them way too soon already. Enjoy it mama.
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Your kid has a routine and structure which is highly important to their well being. Both physically and psychologically. You’re doing good mama! Screw what anyone else sais… you know your child. My mom used to say the same but FYI mine is 9m sleeps 2 naps and 11 hrs at night. Has been sleeping thru the night since 2-3 m. routines work 
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My kids are 7 & 9 they both had a similar schedule when they were babies and on weekends they still nap, especially my 7 year old. Sleep is so important!
Tell her to mind her business. She raised hers as she saw fit and this one is yours to raise. Babies need sleep 
you’re doing a great job.
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It’s good for her this is how they grow and the vest routine for them I love a good day nap lol and gives you the time to get things done or just chill
My son is a year old & still has two short naps during the day, he sleeps 8 hours a night. She’s had her turn to raise children this one is yours, she needs to mind her business. 🤷
You are the mom, and your mom needs to respect your way of parenting. Just cuz she parented a certain way doesn’t mean you have to parent the same way.
Your child- your choice. She can fit within your world or kindly step out of it. Sounds harsh but you are raising a healthy child. She raised hers already 
. Her turn to be overbearing has passed.
My daughter is also 10 months old and naps twice a day. She is my 4th child and my other children did the same.
I’ve never heard of a child that doesn’t nap. Tell your mil to myob.
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Lol leave her alone with your daughter for a week… I’m sure shell agree with the naps pretty quick 
my son hardly naps and is always fussy I wish he napped so easily. It’s always a fight
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My daughter is 17 months and she sometimes still naps twice a day. Usually only on weekends when we’re home. But other than that it’s usually one nap a day.
Most children nap 1-2 times a day till they are 3 years old. She is going to be angry for a loooooooong time!
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In what reality does a child that young NOT need a nap? I was a preschool teacher (now a sahm) and the entire building had naptime from newborn to 4 yr old classrooms.
Your MIL’s experience was the exception, not the rule.
Your doing everything right! Don’t listen to her! It’s your baby and your routine! My son is 20 months now and he still naps twice a day sometimes. You do what’s best and what works for all of you! She needs to stay out of it!
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Naps are developmentally important until at least the age of 3. I still make my 5 and 7 year old nap on the weekend
A 10 month old should nap off an on. Tell your mil to take a developmental pediatric class & mind her own business. Babies require naps to help develop!
I’ve literally never heard this before…from anyone! So weird! Babies definitely need naps! Or they’ll be miserable, fussy and angry because they’re over tired!
My daughter always slept, and still took 2 naps at 3 years old cause she wanted to.
Babies need naps, point blank period. That’s not even an opinion, it’s a fact. Next thing, this is your child. Tell her thanks for her thoughts but that’s not how you’re running things.
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All 3 of my kids took a nap during the day. Atleast one. If they didn’t they’d be fussy and nothing would get done! And at 10 months old they definitely need atleast a nap during the day. Tell her to shove it. I guarantee you her kids napped. She just don’t remember it! Leave the baby with her all day and see if she lets that baby stay up and fuss with her!
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At 10 months they’re growing and developing so fast naps are ESSENTIAL!! Hell, my kids and I are 39, 20, 16 and 9 and we still require a nap sometimes! Some people need to understand that EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!! We all have different needs, and no one knows your child like you do, so she can just sit down and shh lol
I’d tell her to mind her own business…its your child . I tell her If she meddles to much she wont be a part of her life…
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This is the exact schedule my daughter has been on since she was 6 months old and she’s 14 months now. I’m dumbfounded by this info. Sleep is an important part of a growing child’s life. This should be common since
My eldest had two naps plus slept all night till she was 1 and a half its not bad if the child wants a nap or naps twice. Your doing a good job mum don’t let mum in law say when your child should sleep just ignore her opinion.
My little girl is 16 months old and still has a nap every day, and sometimes 2 naps, if she doesn’t nap she’s well grumpy, I’d tell your mother in law to do 1, she’s your baby not hers so you do what makes you happy!
Tell her to mind her business. All my boys at 10 months were taking 2 naps a day.
It’s your baby. Do what you think is best for your daughter. I don’t know where she gets her reasoning… all kids need naps. They get over stimulated easily, especially at her age.
I was a nanny for a two year old and he still napped, otherwise he was a monster haha.
My boy is 10months and naps 3 times a day and is so happy after but if he misses one hes grumpy you do you! You know your child better
Your baby, your rules. Yes, 10 month old babies sleep a lot and two naps a day are fine. It’s none of her business, anyway.
That’s what my son did at 10 months old. Your MIL is just forgetting what having a baby is really like. Mine doesn’t like that my 2 year olds bedtime is 7, but we get up at 5:30 to get to work and daycare 
Not really her business… and most babies take a nap during the day don’t they … butt out mother in law. …
Girl let that baby nap! Mine was the same at that age. She had to nap and if she didn’t she would be cranky and fussy.
Naps are a must!! Your mil is insane lmao. Routines are good for kids, they provide security and comfort. And yes, you do rearrange your day when you have little kids around their schedules because that’s just what parents do.
Mine need naps. You are doing fine Mom. It’s completely normal. What I learned from mil is kill them with kindness. Smile and thank her for her input. Then put her picture in a jar of sugar. As you’re pouring the sugar over her picture think of all the kind things she going to do for you.
Just keep telling her you are the mother. She done what was best for her children and you will do what you feel is best for yours.
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I read or watched a video the other day that said it’s important for a child’s development to take at least one nap a day until at least 3. My son is 2.5 and still takes a nap. Some days he won’t take one but for the most part he needs it or he’s a mess. He’s currently laying down right now.
Babies/kids up until about 4 years DO need naps. Rest is essential in a small growing child. I have 3 sons. We never stuck to a strict schedule, but we followed mostly what worked for them. My 1 year old son takes 2 naps a day, at least an hour long each, sometimes 2 hours. And he’s ready for bed by 9pm each night. He also sleeps through the night, about 10-11 hours. Don’t let other moms especially ones from other generations tell you what you should do with your child. You’re mom, you know best.
She is 10 months old of course she going to nap my baby is 21 months has her nap every day at lunch time for hour or hour half why is it bothering her if the baby has 1 or 2 naps
Well she raised her children. It’s not her place to say anything about you’re parenting unless asked for advice… Bottom line…
Tell her to stfu. You know what’s best for your child. Mine took two naps as well or we would of never made it. We went down to one nap right before her first bday. That made me sad. Lol.
I am so afraid this is going to be my MIL when I give birth. She already does stuff like this with my step kids and I.
How does she even know this information without you providing it for her? Dont want her feedback? Stop giving her the information.
In my experience (4 kids) (current 8 month old naps twice a day)(3 yr old once a day most days)
2 short naps or 1 long nap is perfect for that age.
For 1 year olds up to about 3 yr olds - Take it down to 1 nap/day making sure they nap and wake up plenty of hours before bedtime. If their schedule is super early then even 4 or 5 year olds might need a short nap each day. Even my older kids 7 and 10 nap occasionally when they got up super early or didn’t get enough sleep.
A schedule is important for kids. VERY IMPORTANT
OMG! If she’s like this now over naps, then you can look forward to a lifetime of bad advice from her. Nip this in the bud now while baby is young. Let MIL know that you (mom/dad) are the bosses. I’d make sure she knows with a stern tone that although her advice is appreciated and valued because you are a new mom, ultimately you & your husband are the decision makers. There’s tactful ways to do so without being disrespectful but being firm so she will stay in a grandmother’s place!
IGNORE your child you do as you please. ignore the hater and the rude arse people there will always be someone one and they should learn to keep there opinion to there selfs cause you shouldnt give two s**ts what others think.
totally normal at that ages to have 2 sleeps.
Totally normal for 2 naps a day. I read that between 12-18 months they can transition to only one nap a day. I literally plan my entire life around naps lol. You’re doing the right thing! When she makes another comment, just smile and wave. It’s your baby…she’s had her turn to do this the way she wants. Now it’s yours, and you need to do what works for you and baby
Tell the mil to stfu. Your baby, your decisions. Period 
My mom tried the same crap, and I told her what she could do with her opinions haha.
My ten month old definitely naps every day. Twice. And if she skips a nap all hell breaks loose lol
They’re supposed to nap two times at that age.
2 to 3 naps a day for this age. It’s not wrong. Kids NEED to nap. It’s crucial for their development.
That is your baby not hers ! My 4 year old takes naps. He is mean as hell if he dont. You do what works for you ! Tell her if she dont like it she dont have to be around.! You are doing the right thing.
Yep that age its two naps…than one…then None! Enjoy while you can.
My son will be two in five months and he still naps its healthy for kids to nap promotes physical and mental health and growth my daughters three and a half and she still takes a nap every so often dont let her tell you how to raise your child I ignored the hell out of my parents advice because I’ve seen how they raise kids and i want sooo much better for mine do what you think is best and if your baby’s happy and smiling that’s the sign that your doing the right thing
Infants need naps! My daughter had 2 naps every day until she was 1. Now she just has one unless she is sick.