I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. We have two kids, one I came into the relationship with. He took on the dad role & completely rock it! We had one of our own we were so excited because we both wanted a boy. We Never had an issue with his family, including his mom, but since I had my son, everything just switches up… I had his mom around the majority of my pregnancy and planned to have her here when we came home with the new addition. I just had some ground rules I expected everyone to follow, INCLUDING my family I said no kissing in the face. His body is okay (on top of his clothes). His mom completely ignores what I say and keeps kissing him, I keep reminding her, telling her I feel like you disrespect me, and it’s a slap in my face because my family not allowed to kiss him at all. She says she understands but KEEPS DOING IT!! I feel like a total b*ch to keep reminding her, as I can tell it bothers her. I tell my boyfriend he says he going to tell her something and he does it just keeps happening. Im just so frustrated and over it at this point idk what to do.
I think you and she need an honest and open minded conversation about it. I would suggest you speak to her as you would speak to your own Mom, as it can help strengthen your relationship with her. Maybe there’s a reason she isn’t adhering to the no face kisses rule for a reason that’s not apparent to you or your BF? But if you go in hot about it, you’ll both get defensive.
Also, some people are just more tactile than others. Like the close talker on Jerry Seinfeld. Some people just can’t process why others need boundaries. But with a bit of positive communication, you might be able to figure it out together.