I agree with you!!!
Nope .short but sweet
No you are not wrong.
You are not in the wrong, I am a Granna and hell no she needs to respect you to respect your daughter. Hang in there. Sad that she canât see what she could have,pride is a bitch.
I agree with Patricia Lynn Reisor Parsons her loss
Oh hell no you arenât wrong!
Oh hell NOOOOO!!! If she refuses to communicate with you and your husband she does NOT get a relationship with your child.
My mother didnât believe me when I told her at 16 her husband was raping and molesting me. She even went so far as to accuse me of trying to steal her husband!! When I had my 2 oldest kids she refused to understand why I wouldnât allow my children around her or her husband.
Youâre the mom! As parents, you and your husband make the decisions regarding your child.
Let your momma see that baby
Oops. YOU donât have time for that
Tell her to go away.
Iâm deleting dearly from my Facebook page ,good bye!
No you are not wrong ! If she really wants to be in your baby life she will respect you and your husband and realize you are the mother and you control who can and canât be around the baby and if she canât let shit go and understand then tell her you love her but that disrespect and negativity will not be exposed to you nor your baby
Fuck no. 
my mom or not itâs my baby⌠this makes my blood boil
My parenting choices and who they are around are non negotiable and if you canât get with it then the doors open to leave
Mom n sis r both wrong!
Youâre down to picking fly shit out of black pepper !
I delt with this with my biological mother⌠she tried to pull this shit too. I told her if she couldnât call me and ask, then she couldnât have my daughter plain and simple. She would text me and things were civil for a bit. Once my second child was born she decided she didnât want anything to do with her but still wanted my oldest⌠nope you want them both in your life or neither one⌠we havenât spoken to her since April 2018.
For the sake of your mental well being I would just completely ignore her. Moms like that are more toxic than loving and caring
Sounds like she is mentally ill.
Your mom has taken the brown blotter acid. Oh heck no. Iâm not letting some intermediary take my child to my mom where I have no idea what she is doing with her. If she wants to be a part of her life, she can put her big girl pants on and stfu spend time with her grandchild or she can act like that and miss out.
Call your mom. Period.
Thatâs a easy no. Fuck mom. 
no you are not wrong
Absolutely 
not wrong. Its called boundaries and she needs to learn to respect them. When she does and can not behave like an asshole to you and your husband maybe then.
Donât trust your mother
Iâm proud of you Girl, she has worse problems and sheâs taking it out on you! I wouldnât let Anybody take the baby without you! She is power hungry! Why donât you step away from her, itâs your baby, donât let Anybody tell u what u should do! Tell your Mother to get a life and Leave you alone. Itâs better for the baby not to see her! Sheâs sounds like a Bitch! Show your authority and she may think twice!
She needs a therapist
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You are absolutely correct.
Stand your ground! DONâT LET HER CALL THE SHOTS!!! She raised her family, now you raise yoursâŚ
Mommaâs being a bitch. She will regret her behavior when she had no one in her life. Enjoy your child
Hell no. Keep your kid far away
Your not wrong at sll
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No you are not wrong
Hell to the Fuck no!
Package deal. Go away mommy dearest
You are NOT wrong, stick to your guns honey.
Absolutely not wrong! She is your child! If your mom canât include you, then she shouldnât be allowed to be a part of your daughterâs life.
Agree with you totally
very easy suck it up butter cup
I agree with you sounds like your mom needs some counselling to deal with the divorce
NopeâŚcuz what if your child gets attached she may find a reason to get mad at them and then they will feel the same disappointment and rejection. Her loss but she made her choice. All or none if it were me!!
Cant have a relationship with YOUR child unless she communicates with you. Also get rid of the toxic people like that in your life. Family or not they can not tell you how to raise YOUR child. In most states grandparents dont even have any rights in custody hearings. Dont let her tell you how to be a mother. Youâre doing a great job.
No way. If she canât talk to you she canât see the baby.
Absolutely not! Your mom needs to get over herself! That baby goes nowhere without you!
Cut her off. I cut mine off ( not the first time but this will be the last bc I wonât cave in ) I have no regrets. You canât possibly be happy nor healthy w a black cloud over you. But you need to be the best you to be a best parent.
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No not if she does not want to be in your childâs life. You donât know what kind of lies she would be putting in your daughters head about you or your husband.
Your child, your rules. Sheâll come around. Sheâs going through âa lot.â Canât express herself properly and thinks that you are still under her control ergo your little lovebug.
Iâd tell her to piss up a rope, live a very long life and die mad cause no way in hell would any of my parents have get to see my child under your circumstances
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Nope she should suck it up and put on her big girl pantys
I wouldnât do it! If she can respect you when your around, what makes you think she would respect your wishes or your child when your not!
Thatâs a hard No!! I am a grandmother and I know my daughters boundaries. If mom canât be apart of yourself and your husbands life then she does not have access to your child
Protect your child. People are going crazy now
Nooooooooooooo!!! Keep toxic people out of your babyâs life! Your daughter is a part of you and if your mother canât be civil with you then she doesnât get to have the chance to be around your daughter.
My mother in law is actually in a 2 week hiatus from my kids because she tried telling my 5 year old he didnât have to go to time out. While I was there!!!
Omg no⌠you donât want someone like that around your children! Who knows what bullshit she could feed to your kid and youâd have no idea!
Hard no. I wouldnât leave my child with someone who wonât communicate with me.
What if something happens while theyâre in their care? You need to be the first one contacted with anything involving your child, especially at such a young age, not have to wait for a 2nd or 3rd party to contact you.
Your not wrong donât talk to me anymore than donât see my baby anymore
Absolutely not, youâre Mama, you make the rules for your baby, no one else, they donât like it ?, tough.
If theyâre toxic to you theyâre toxic to your children
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You and your husband are the only ones who have a say and who gets to be in that childâs life. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do and your mother is being a total asshole, and extremely immature for not wanting your fatherâs girlfriend to be around her.
Family is a complete package. As your child grows she will sense the tension.
Iâm sorry this is happening to you. Your mother needs to deal with her bitterness and move on before more relationships are destroyed. She is letting this hatred for the âgirlfriendâ ruin her life. You need to go with your gut and trust your instincts. I hope your mom finds healing.
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Absolutely not! If she doesnât want to communicate with you or your husband, she will probably do whatever she wants when it comes to your daughter being in her care and not follow your instructions. Also, god forbid something was to happen to your daughter while with your mom, how can you trust that she would tell you if she isnât communicating with you or your husband. If it was me and you canât be a part of my childâs life if you arenât even speaking to myself or my husband.
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In your situation I would not allow it. She should try and fix her relationship with you and your husband first, before trying to take your daughter. She has a hard face for even asking that kind of question. You have every right to tell her no, and if she wants to keep crying about it she knows how to pick up a phone and call you. You have every right as a parent who you allow your child to be around. You are no where in the wrong.
Nooooo what is its an emergency or she is trying tk take ur daughter
You are right to feel how you feel . If they canât have a relationship with you , how are you going to feel comfortable
Your own mother is willing to drop you out of her life because of that? How pathetic and immature. No, I wouldnât let it happen if I were you. Where Iâm from, yes grandparents have a legal right for visitation. So as the legal channel is open for her to visit, if she chooses not to, thatâs her perogative. No loss to your child if thatâs the kind of role model sheâs going to be.
Hell no. She is trying to control you and your life. She is bitter about your dad and trying to punish him through you. She probably has done that throughout your whole life if you sit and really think about it. She is toxic and it will only continue with your child. Whatever her issue with your dad, it is between her and him. She is using you to commit parental alienation even though you are an adult. Keep yourself and your child away. See how she is involving others to force you? Do not do it.
Except you as well as the baby your not to be blameless and your dad are at odds no I wouldnât let my sister do that
No package deal with me either u got me and my kid or nothing at all your choice if you want it that bad youâll tolerate me but nobodyâs allowed to take my kid without me anyways so 
First of all, Iâm sorry youâre going through this. Weâve been there at times with our family and itâs hard. Also, good for you for clearly telling her youâre the childâs parent and will make that decision because youâre absolutely right in that. Do what your gut tells you to do. As a mother myself, Iâve learned to trust myself more and go with my gut. Iâd talk it over with your husband but overall do what you feel is best for your little girl. Good luck!
Fuck that. Anyone who isnât committed to the whole team is committed to their own ideas, and not those of the team. Anyone like that is a liability.
Your mom needs to grow up.
Nope say goodbye and your be there when sheâs done with her strop
Nope especially if not In your life as is and ainât gonna do what she wants either.
If you allow her to start making a relationship with your daughter but not have anything to do with you your allowing her to act like they and letting her know she can do that in the future and it wont be a problem. I say stay away thatâs toxic as f*** I go through the same thing with my mom and I know not to encourage her in anyway. even if it seems wrong. Lay your boundaries and dont move.
No no no. First of all being this is a pandemic. Your 15 week old does not need to be dropped off at your mothers. Second, speaking as a grandmother myself, it is always hard not to give our babies advice on taking care of our babies. 
This issue does not seem to be about how you take care of her bit who you choose to be around. Namely your fathers girlfriend. Too bad. Do not give in on this. Tell her if she wants to see the baby she is welcome to come to your house. Period.
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Your not wrong, honestly, truth be told, my parents arenât allowed to see my children without permission, if I find out people take them to them behind my back I never allow that person back in their lives
Nope nope nope nope. At that age itâs not realistic to have a relationship with the child and not the parent(s). If she was 10 Iâd say yes but an infant? Absolutely not.
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You shouldnât even have to question yourself! NO!
Nope! I wouldnât allow that either!
I would not feel comfortable in the slightest. If you cant even speak to me about my own child then you donât need to be around. That causes a lot of trust issues.
No! People donât dictate to the parents how to do anything with their child!
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Since she decided to say she is stepping away from being a grandmother and that she doesnât want to be a part of your life and only the babies Iâd just cut her off completely. 
That is YOUR daughter and if there will be anyone getting your daughter then there needs to be communication and she should also be a part of your life. And sheâs not going to tell you who you can or cannot have around YOUR daughter. That is bogus. She can stay out of both of your lives until she starts to realize sheâs being toxic af.
Nope. My biological âovenâ will never be in my childrenâs life. And i mean for ever. I have justified reasons. But to me your situation is a NEGATIVE GHOST RIDER SITUATION TOO
Thatâs a no from me.
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Relationships are built on trust, boundaries and mutual respect. There is none with your mother at this time. I wouldnât allow my child to be around people who donât care for me.
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Anybody that is in your childâs life has to be a part of yours and have regular communication. I couldnât send my baby to someones house that i cant call and check on them or has no idea our schedule or routine. She chose to step away so in my opinion she should stay away. Good luck and god bless in what ever decisions you make.
Nope she stepped away and if she cant have a relationship with you then itâs a big no for me, a wouldnt allow someone near my child if they couldnt talk to me
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No. My #1 rule is I do not trust anyone, who does not respect me, with my children. No. If she wants a relationship with your baby, she has to grow up and let go of her pettiness. She canât have the best of both worlds.
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You first decision as a mother is the right decision
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No one would have my child especially a baby that couldnât or wouldnât have direct communication with me.
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I donât understand why this is even a question. No. Absolutely not. I would not allow anyone to take my child to see someone else who is too petty and childish to have a proper relationship with myself first.
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Absolutely not. She is crazy.
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There needs to be TRUST, if there is no relationship with you then how can you trust she will take care of your brand new baby, You canât. So no you are not in the wrong what so ever. Donât let ANYONE guilt you or manipulate you into thinking otherwise
Tell your mother if she wants a relationship with your child she needs to grow up and communicate that with you, not everyone else. Itâs your child and you know what is best. Donât ever feel wrong or sorry for not allowing someone in your childâs life especially if they chose to âstep awayâ. If she really wants a relationship with your daughter she will grow a pair get over herself and be in her life no matter what.
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She would not get to see her if she can,t come to my home . Your mother don,t have the right to tell you and your husband who you let them see your baby. She just won,ts it her way .
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Nope. Your mother can talk to you or fuck off. But also I would be letting anyone take a 15 week old and drop them off anywhere.
I would not trust the grandmother if she is that upset over not being able to make parental decisions. She will not follow your wishes if she is not making the effort to respect you as the parent.
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No she stepped away you wouldnât know anything going on with your child while she is with your mother
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NOPE if she wonât even communicate with you at all then she has no right to. Sounds pretty childish and bitter of her to do all this because she doesnât want your dads girlfriend around. She needs to grow the hell up.
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I would try to reach out to her. See if it can be fixed and mended. If it canât ultimately you know you tried but honestly if she canât be civil with you or with the fact that your father moved on then I wouldnât trust that kind of toxicity around my child without me to witness and make sure all is well.