If you’re mother doesn’t want a relationship with your family that’s her loss.
Your mother does not get to dictate who is in your daughters . I hope she realizes that before she misses out on a relationship with all of you .
That’s your child. Your mother is presumably an adult, since she has had children and her children have had children. She needs to grow up.
You’re mom needs to grow up, be a mother and leave her admocity behind. If she cannot have a relationship with you and your husband Absolutely no on your child.
Your mother needs boundaries, set them for her to follow, she has a choice !
You are not wrong. If your mother doesn’t want to be a part of your life, she doesn’t need to be in your child’s life either. Just my opinion.
Be a good parent and do not put your child in the middle of your mother’s childish behavior. If she wants to be in your child’s life she needs to do it in your house, in your presence. Your sister needs to stay out of it.
No, you are not wrong. No one should take your child without your permission and bring the child somewhere else. May you all need to seek counseling.
If she wants to see her she should come to your home. I don’t know how she can stay away I would go crazy if I couldn’t see my sweet granddaughter. You are doing the right thing you are not wrong.
Well your daughter comes with a mother and father. If she don’t want anything to do with the parents. She don’t need the grand daughter either.
In no universe would any child of mine- let alone an infant- be with someone who I have no contact or relationship with. The dangers are too numerous to count…
No way would my sister take my child to visit my mother! If grandma wants to be in the child’s life than she is in mine. Sounds like grandma wants total control. You are the mother.
I would not let the child go to her through another person. As a grandmother myself, our she cut you off you don’t need that vibe around your child. She needs to grow up
Nope. Let her realize too late she messed up. She will. That is manipulation in its most vile form. Don’t give in or it will continue with your child and never end
Do not give in to pressure. If she wants to see the baby she needs to visit her at your house. You are the parent.
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This is about control, not love for her grandchild. I say no way, keep toxic people out of your life and your child’s.
Absolutely not just don’t take the baby around her for a while she will change her mind real quick not seeing her grand baby awhile will get to her and she will see things your way
All that matters is her granddaughter and not who you let see her she needs to enjoy that baby
Big fat NO! You are your child’s parent and protector! You have no clue how she will treat your child or obey your wishes. If she wants a relationship with her grandchild then she should also have a relationship with you.
You are not wrong it just makes no sense that she thinks she can have it her way☮️
Nope. If you want a relationship with my child (especially one that young) you want one with me. She needs to accept your boundaries as the childs mother. You make the decisions not her, end of story.
Sounds like a manipulative European mom they always like to leave here between a rock and a hard place but if you stick to your guns she’ll come around eventually if she doesn’t she loses but if you let her manipulate you into seeing your kid and not talking to you it’s just the beginning of the wayThe rest of the relationship is going to go
SHE made the choice to step away. It’s HER problem. You do not need to comply with her wishes in any way, shape, or form. End of story.
Absolutely not. Never let your mother have your child without you being there. I don’t trust your mother
We as mothers have to make hard decisions sometimes but when a mother chooses to make decisions that are going to affect your well being and that of your family it’s time to step away it is not your burden to carry hers just stay firm for no one and nobody should ever make you doubt your opinions
And she calls herself a Grandmother??? No way would she be able to see my child if she couldn’t come to my home to see her
No. My mother in law actually told our kids they didn’t need to listen to us. She interfered all the time. I didn’t try to keep her from them but be prepared for interference on a big scale especially if she wants control and nothing to do with either of you. Mine would try to break us up cause I wasn’t who she picked.
You’re right if she doesn’t want you or your partner she shouldn’t have anything to do with your child
I agree. Your mom is being immature. That makes me wonder about how she will handle herself with your daughter if you are not around.
Hell Naw, if you didn’t want. anything to do with me, than you have nothing to do with my child. If I can’t trust you, why would I have my children around someone who would talk negative about me and my husband.
NO!!! NEVER!! NO WAY!?
Your child is a minor~law says that you or your husband are responsible for her until she is 18.
If she is ‘dropped off’ to your mother could she be considered abandoned?
Just a thought
You’re not wrong. I have a simple motto “My kid doesn’t need and won’t be any place where I am not welcomed.”
No you are not wrong. I have stayed friendly with my ex and his wife. Her and I have went places with the daughter and granddaughter. Shame on your mother.
I agree with everything being said … no , don’t let her manipulate you , what if something happened when she was in her care … would she communicate to you ???
No, I would not allow anyone to take her out by herself. You don’t know what they are teaching the child or who else is around her that you don’t know.
No way! She is trying to manipulate you and control your child. She wants a relationship, she can humble herself and have it on your terms.
Sit back and enjoy loving your child. Do not let anyone rob you of one moment. Not only is it fine not to share your child with someone who does not want to be with you, it is also fine to not think anymore about it.
This is your child! Do not give in. Your mother has no right to do this to you. Stand tall!!
But furthermore I would only do that making shore that the person is not being toxic in my child’s life if that person is downgrading belittling talking anything negative about us then it will completely stop but if there showing the child love good vibes and itll caring a supportiveness that
Sad because is your mother but if she no want nothing to do with you and your husband then your daughter no supposed to be around her either. Your daughter is part of you and your husband and if she can’t love you both then she can’t feel love for your child
If she doesn’t want you or your husband who made up this bundle of joy tell her to go to h…
No way If she can’t come to your house to see her grandchild she doesn’t need to see her
I totally agree no relationship with you or your husband then sorry she doesn;t get to see your daughter…
I was appreciative of anyone who wanted to love my children… BUT … the arrangement your mother has in mind is wrong.
You are not wrong. She builds a relationship with all of you or nothing.
Not a healthy situation. All or nothing. It is your child.
I would not let her take my daughter. If she wants in the baby’s life, she would have to include mom and dad too
If you want to screw your little daughters head up concerning relationships then by all means go along with what your mother wants. Otherwise tell her to either get her crap together or forget ever getting to know her granddaughter.
NO!!! That is so dangerous. She can either nut up and come to you to see your child in your presence or not at all. She needs to grow up.
No. You are the child’s mother. She cannot dictate to you how to raise this child. If she wants a relationship with this small child she must make her peace with you.
Your relationship with your mom sounds toxic. Stay far far away from her
Nope not wrong I would tell your sister to give her updates about the baby show pics whatever but if she wants see the child she needs to come to you guys
Nope wouldn’t happen if she doesn’t want to be in my life then she’s not in my daughters
Your mom needs to come to you if she really wants a relationship, otherwise the stipulations will keep changing…you don’t need that!
My babies never left my sight for the first year . Where I went they went . Where they went I went. 15 weeks baby would never leave my side
No She’s either in your life or she’s not in your baby’s life. How do you know that she won’t run off with her.
Nope…I wouldn’t do it. She is YOUR daughter. You have the right to choose who your child is around and who isn’t. She is the one who chose to “step away” because she cant control who you choose to have in your daughter’s life. Let her stay out of it.
No way!
If someone is not in my life then they sure won’t be in my child’s life.
You mother ain’t ready yet… she can stay in her section… nonsense… WHOSE BABY? mom and dad, not grandma
NOPE! If there’s no relationship with you & your husband then she definitely should not have your child unsupervised! 
HECK NO. If grandma wants to be in baby’s life it includes ou…you are a package deal…that’s how I would see it…BTW I am a female grandma…using my deceased hubbys page.
Your mom is in the wrong. If she cannot make amends with you then she should not be allowed to see your daughter.
That is a dangerous situation…should the child trigger something that reminds the grandmother of you or some day defends you, then your child is defenseless and in harms way. I would definitely require supervised visits even if it means you never see your mother again…
I wouldn’t let her go if me or my husband isn’t good enough for her neither is my child
not wrong at all i have done the same to people you dont want me then you dont want my child either its a package not one or the other you stick to it its your baby
No one with those issues should have unsupervised contact with your child. And the one supervising should be you or your husband.
Nope. You are not wrong. It’s your baby. What you say goes. If she doesn’t like that, that is her problem.
You’re right. You cannot have a relationship with a minor, without having a relationship with their parents.
Nope. Your sister should be ashamed and your mother needs to grow up.
No freakin way. Your child your rules. Your mother sounds toxic. Stay away
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Absolutely not wrong for you to feel that way!
No you are not wrong.
Stay away from all of them. You may never see see your daughter again.
No way… you want a relationship with my child you have one with me… I agree it is your baby and you decide who gets to be around the baby…
Your mom is bitter and a bit like trump, just get over it and move on, but you are not wrong for protecting your child because she would pass that bitterness to your child.
No you are the mother. That is your mother’s problem. Saying that, I think she will come around. If not, her loss. As a grandmother of 6 grown grandchildren, I can’t imagine not being there.
No, she’s still dictating. My mother was a real piece of work too. Your child, your rules!!
Ask yourself do you want your child to be like your mother? And you’ll have your answer.
You are not wrong. Your mom needs to be your Mom before she can be Grandma. Don’t feel guilty. You’re guilt free.
Nope! My child will stay with me. If they need to see her than it is a package deal!
Never put up with a parents bullcrap !!! If they want relationships it’s with the entirety of that family or she can wait until the kid turns EIGHTEEN and then your girl can decide if she wants a relationship with such a petty person !!
You are the parent!Not your mom or anyone else ,continue on with your life!
The child is yours. Only you can decide what is right. Your mother on the other hand would seek some psychological help
It’s your child, what you say should be followed by all.
Please, don’t allow this. She should be willing to change. She just wants control!!
No no no. As the mom it’s a package deal. And don’t let someone else pick her up and take her to see your mom. Trust me…your mom won’t be a good grandma and will badmouth you to the child as she gets older.
Absolutely not! Your mother is way out of line.
Hellllllll no. I’d tell her to f off and stop being childish. She MOST CERTAINLY would not be around my child without me there.
Your mother sounds like a control freak. I wouldn’t want my child to have a relationship with her either.
Nope. Stick to your guns girl. She Sounds extremely selfish and nasty to be around.
Your mother is toxic and selfish. Cut her off. YOUR CHILD, YOUR RULES. Dont allow your mother near her. Period. Its ok to cut selfish family members out of your life.
No. Sounds like she would poison your daughter against you.
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My answer is no. What Erica said is great, but if Grandma says no, then no deal for Grandma.
Sorry for her, but it is your child and you are right. Stick to your guns.
Your child, your home, your rules. If she wants to be a part of your childs life, she can be a part of it in your home with you and the rest of your family. Her choice.
Bad idea… what normal mother, wouldn’t want to be around both of you? Dont let her take the baby.
Absolutly Not…that is your child not hers you get all say for your child.
No, you are not wrong. It is your baby so you make the decisions.
Your child is your life. If she wants to be in your childs life she needs to make nice and plan to be in yours and your husbands life
I wouldn’t allow anyone near my child that didn’t want to be with me. No good can come from this
Just keep on going, doing what you think is right! Time can, and may change things. If not, it will be okay! The future holds much for all of us.