I wouldn’t be comfortable
No you hold your ground
Your not in the wrong.
No!!! You are not wrong!!!
This sounds familiar…
No. This is narcissism! 
Mom’s a control freak!!
If your mom does not want a relationship with you and your hubby why would she want one with your child who you 2 created. Ugh toxic…no way in hell would i let your mother have a relationship with your child crazy…
Mom is still hurting. Cut her some slack. She won’t be around forever. Try making the first step towards making up. Stepmothers come and go. Moms are forever. Besides, your child is learning from you how to deal with a parent.
Not in your life, woman! That grandma is a ticking bomb on two legs and I’m afraid with a very short fuse! Do NOT allow your daughter in her hands, that lady sounds like not all there! This mom has a responsibility to her daughter’s life, not anybody else. And her husband, of course. If grandma does not want anything to do with her own daughter, why the heck does she imagine she has any right to even be near her daughter’s baby?
My mom and sister have a weird relationship. My baby sister has a 5 year old my mother literally worships but she hates my sister and her husband. I’ve seen first hand what my sister suffers bc she is kind hearted with best interest at heart. If your mother has no respect for you, don’t let her get attached to your kid. Let her love and pray for them at a distance til she can get over her entitledness as grandma.
You are far from wrong! Personally your mother sounds like an awful person & a control freak to boot. Your sister shouldn’t dare let your daughter near her. If you do you are enabling & rewarding your mother for being a horrible person. Can you imagine the vile toxic poison she’d fill your daughter’s head with as she grows up. The verbal, mental & emotional abuse she’d endure; just as you have, will be unspeakable. Also your mother is lying she DOESN’T really want a relationship with your daughter, she does however want to use her as a tool to emotionally manipulate & try control you because your daughter is your soft spot & she knows that you’ll do anything to make her happy. I have barely any relationship with my nephew for this very reason, I flat out refused to allow myself to be emotionally manipulated & controlled that way so I pulled away as much as possible. I don’t hate him & I’m glad I made the decision I did it’s what’s best for all of us. One day when his old enough to make up his own mind & stick by it; he can gladly come & try get to know me properly if he wants to, if he doesn’t that’s ok to. Please don’t misjudge me, I did want a relationship with him but I saw the writing on the wall when he was only a few months old & I refused to put up with it. No one dares try to get me to be emotionally invested in someone & then twist things & use that to dare try control & manipulate me. So yeah I know your mother’s agenda as surely as if I was sitting in a corner of her mind & listening in on her thoughts. Stay away from her, protect your daughter & don’t dare let anyone dumb enough to believe your mother’s bs to manipulate you into doing what your instincts are telling you is wrong. God gave them to you for a reason so listen to them. The fact that your Mom has rejected you like this is disgusting & wrong. She needs to learn consequences for her actions once & for all!
Sorry, but your child is your child, if your mom doesn’t want you, then she does not get YOUR DAUGHTER! sometimes there are toxic people in our lives (way too often they are family) and it is hard to cut them out but you have to do it if you ever want to be happy. Good luck
This is a difficult situation. On one hand why would you deny the child a chance for a loving relationship with a grandparent? On the other hand, it may be a chance to heal the gap in your own relationship with your Mother. You are both using the child to manipulate the other. You have my prayers:pray:t2:
Stick to your guns kiddo…I don’t know all the issues going on but your child needs your guidance and your mom needs to decide if she wants a relationship with your child or she just wants to keep what bad feelings going on. These issues need to be resolved one way or the other…good luck
You’re not wrong…ya Mama needs to come down off her high horse and be real. She don’t have no kind of say so over YOUR child. Period.
You are not wrong! You are your child’s parent and can therefore choose who she can and cannot see.
Until your mom gets over her clear anger at your dad and his girlfriend, I wouldn’t let her near the child. Hate is toxic and no child should willingly be subjected to it. Sounds like mom needs to get some therapy so she can move on and be happy.
Love me / love my child
Disrespect me / leave my child alone
Period
kick your mom in the snapper with a golf shoe…
Your mother is unstable, and needs help - Professional help.
Sound like the child is better off without Granny…
Nooooope. Period. End of discussion.
Forgive your family. It’s all you have
i told all of my family to fuck off when they told me thats what they wanted. best move i made. she is happy and healthy now.
No… absolutely not
I think she’s wrong.
You are absolutely right!
You are not wrong !!
Your mother already showed you she only cares about what she wants. So the answer would be no she would never see my child without me because I can’t trust her. And fuck anyone who doesn’t like it.
You are totally right
No way! Your Mother sounds like a narcissist. No child should ever be subjected to the BS abuse of a narc. She’s trying to manipulate you, your husband and the situation. Toxic Grandmothers are the worst. Don’t fall for her trap and get sucked down her rabbit hole. She will try to manipulate you by gaslighting, guilt tripping and fucking with your emotions.
Trust your gut Mama. Pray too
no you are not wrong
Absolutely no way!!!
U r absolutely right!!
Shit can yo mama, she is a mental selfish BITCH.
Grandma disent want to share with step grandma…
No I think your Mom has emotional or mental issues I would need to be present with my child and mother until you feel comfortable leaving.
Sounds to me like she is a toxic person. and not only will she mess with your happiness she will be a toxic person to your child. If your not getting alone with her and she’s not listing to what you want for your child then she doesn’t need to be around. There is a chance she could talk bad/ put you down in form today the child when they get older and make the child think it’s okay to disrespect you.
Have you thought about having a sit down conversation with your mother about how you feel about her words and actions? Do this without your child along. If need be bring your husband for back up. But face her and explain how her actions and words make you feel. But above all DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO TAKE YOUR CHILD TO HER. Explaining how she has hurt you with her words and actions might open the door for a better relationship with her. I would allow gifts to be exchanged when the child is older, but until your mother is ready to met on your terms, do not allow unsupervised visited with your daughter.
Oh hell no. I wouldn’t trust your sister or your mother to return her. Something smells fishy here. Call me suspicious but the whole situation seems weird. She is your daughter and you owe your mother nothing.