Don’t do it she could kidnap your kid an disappear
No it’s your choice who you want in her life
Trust your own instincts and forget the narcissist
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If your mother wants to have a relationship with your daughter then she needs to deal with you and go through you. Don’t let anyone take your child to her. In no way would I do that she doesn’t sound like she can be trusted to do as you see fit. Be careful having her around your daughter. It’s your daughter.
I would not feel comfortable with that either.
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You are not wrong! Stick to your guns.
By no means are you in the wrong, do not allow her to manipulate who can be or can not be in your child’s life. If she wants to be in your child’s life…she will have to except your husband, you and your daughter as a package deal…or no deal.
If she doesn’t want you she don’t need to be around
Nope! Your completely correct. I wouldn’t let my child go eaither.
You are mom. No you are not.
She is jealous that you should take her side and not have anything to do with your dad or his girlfriend.That is so stupid just because they got a divorce that is still your dad and she is still your mom.If she wants to feel that way.Let her know that .It will be her loss if she don’t want to spend time with your daughter.Your friend are your friends if she like someone and you don’t you aren’t going to hold it against her.If she wants to see the baby she would have to come to your house and when the baby goes to his moms house she can spend time with them but your mom has to come to your house.Since she wants to be hateful I would be a cared to leave the baby alone with her
Sorry but that is your baby not hers she can’t tell you who to like and who you can’t like you are a married woman.
She would not see my child
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No, that’s not rational. Trust your gut.
No, absolutely would not happen. Consider the reasons given, she is being selfish and petty. If she can’t get over not having control, That’s on her.
What is this doing on fb. Grow up.
No you are not wrong. Your mother is being childish
You are not wrong. Enough said
No way would i let ur mom see her
Absolutely no, if she can’t, be friends with you and your husband then you she can live in her own world without your child and any subsequent babies.
Let it go…toxic people are not worth your time…parent or not…
Sounds like your mom is a control freak
No way in hell would she be able to see the baby if she wanted nothing to do with me. And the baby would be under supervision if I were to ever allow it.
Your mother is wrong.
Absolutely NOT it’s all or nothing
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I meant not your mom’s way.
Keep your child with you. Don’t let anyone get by with this. You, your husband and your child are a family. My opinion is that a relationship with one should mean all of you.
Hell no…Your first duty and priority is to your child and if your mother wants to dictate how are you are your child’s parent and want to know communication with you and your husband…no, protect your kid kid
You only have one mother
No. Absolutely not. You want someone to start planting seeds of opposition? Nope. Love from a distance, that’s as good as it gets.
Not a comfortable idea!
Nope: keep her away!
Nope Nope Nope, she’ll fill your daughters head with confusion! 
Been there…she will turn yr chilc against you…speaking from experience
Definitely not , I mean it seems like the falling out should be able to be resolved and moved past as it was a small thing that seems to have really gotten bigger than it should. I don’t think it’s smart to have a person you have zero contact with to babysit, if she can’t even have a regular conversation with you how can you trust she will tell you if something is wrong regarding your child or that she will follow your wishes with how she is cared for.
Time for coffee with your mom
your child, your decision
U shouldn’t skip a generation.
No you are not wrong
Forget het…period…tha t is the stupidest thing I ever heard…you are a family… S package deal…she must take the entire package.
Tell your mom it’s your way or the highway
Nope…all or none…she’s being childish…
If she wants to see/know her granddaughter, you should tell her that she can only do that in your home with you or your husband present.
If she mentally abusing you she will your child too.
Heck no. Keep toxic people away from your kids.
Your NOT wrong! Ur child ur rules…
NO you arenot wrong, stick to your guns
Nope. Correct! No way.
Nope. Not a chance.
Don’t force me to choose
You are absolutely right. Stand your ground.
Your child
Your rules
I have the same problem
Hell no ur the parent stand ur ground!!!
Nope. It’s all or none.
Nope. Your child your choice
Absolutely not tell her to kick rocks
No, stick to your guns.
No it’s a package deal
Nope. Package deal. Tell her to go pound sand!
you really have to ask?!?!?
No you are not wrong!
No way! Stand your ground!!!
Nip that in the butt now!!!
Oh HELL NO, your child your rules… No Exceptions
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Your child, your rules
You and your daughter are package deal both or none
It is a package deal bottom line
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You are in the right.
Ummm that’s a big fat no way!!! You don’t wanna see me you don’t see my child!!
You are not wrong !! Listen to your gut !!
Stick to your guns. You are right all the way.
Your mom is just throwing a fucktarded hissy fit because she doesn’t have control ! You are definitely not in the wrong what’s so ever ! If she can’t grow up and have a relationship with you and your husband to start then she doesn’t need to be in your life at all. Sometimes you have to cut the cancer so to speak even if it’s family that’s causing the drama
Too much drama for me. Why dont you just try and get along someday you may need your mom.
Your mother’s the problem that’s why your father left her.
Absolutely not,I wouldn’t feel comfortable either.
Sounds like your mom is toxic as hell
The answer is no way in hell.
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Protect that child from her mental BS at all costs. That’s exactly the sort of scum who’ll use your child as a weapon. Nope, nope, frickin nope!
—A Lot of exes in my family. Kid’s birthday parties and other occasions ALL come together and everyone gets along (although a few may stay away from others). Everyone is there for the same reason, NEVER an issue. At one recent gathering there were Many exes and one had 3 exes there---------Most of them get along VERY well with current spouses, as it should be for the children involved. LOVE THEM ALL !!!—
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That is good advice. Your mom sounds like a woman who has some very deep seated issues, that you can’t fix! But, with that said in order to be a more compassionate snd protective mother, you must put your child first. As a grandmother of 12 myself I know that there are many things about the partners my children chose I don’t care for; but it is not my decision or my place to dictate to them parameters they must follow for me to see my precious grandchildren. You must set the ground rules with your mother; or she might attempt to destroy your relationship with your partner. My grandchildren are ages 26-21 mos; and over the years one of my children held my grandchildren from me. My child was angry and was involved in a very difficult marriage. I never gave up; I continued to send cards gifts etc. then one day my child reached out and allowed me in. Those grandchildren are adults now and two are parents. I am involved in their lives and we have talked at length about the past. I never gave up. Your mom needs to allow you to make your choices; and if things fall apart she needs to be there for you snd your child . But, if you give into her demands without boundaries; her controlling attitude will spill over to your child. If you are a person who prays ; pray for Gods wisdom and then listen for him to direct you:pray:
First off you have to start having forgiveness in your heart .Forgive her even if she isn’t forgiveable .Learn to love each other even if she pushes you away.Your heart has to be right before you can move on in life with who ever is in life good one bad.It makes you the better person .so you children will see that in you
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You need to call your mom and tell her:
- she and your dad divorced, not the whole family
- that everyone needs to act like adults, (& by the way you’ll be taking the 1st step here, and don’t involve your sister in any of this - you aren’t in elementary school and she doesn’t need to act as your agent. )
- That NEVER will any of your family take part in, or be used as pawns in her family feud.
- Offer to go with her to family counseling to help.
Good luck.
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Do not under any circumstances allow anyone to take your child to see your mom, it’s time she grows up and get some counseling, has any of the other family members talked to her on this issue and told her she’s in the wrong ? Even if and when she may start talking with you and your husband do not allow her to take the baby anywhere alone , she can visit with you and your husband in your home, enjoy your precious little one
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I believe that I would try to understand her at first but when it comes to her not respecting how you would raise your child and is giving you the option to only be in her grandchild’s life but not yours she may believe what happens at her house is all her say and I would pray she would not use that as an opportunity to have your child go against her parents. It sounds wrong and you should know what is going on with your child and if you can’t contact your mom or check on them it’s not good
Errr…
Granny needs to be able to communicate.
Anybody that takes any kid needs to be able to communicate with the parent and vice versa.
No, she shouldn’t have to have a relationship with you just to see the grandbaby.
Was she a good mother to you?
And is she just scorned by father’s new gf?
If she was a good mom and is willing to communicate, I say sure!
Use that time to nap or go to the store or do something for yourself!
If no, then I’d keep baby home.
If your mother is such a child herself in her actions then NO WAY IN HELL SHOULD YOU LET HER GET HER HANDS ON YOUR DAUGHTER. You have no idea what she’s capable of and I saw first hand how a grandparent will lie and manipulate the court system and you could lose custody of her. Stick to your guns and keep telling her no unless you are going to be there at the same time. She either accepts your decision or not. You are the best one who can make that decision because in the end you are the only one who knows your mom
My daughter has not talked to me for 6 years because of an unfortunate disagreement. Thank God she lets my grandson stay with me. I would be lost without him. It’s hard to say because I don’t know your situation and why but if you feel your mom would not harm your child don’t separate their relationship. Someday you two will get through this and you and your child have lost years that you can’t get back.
Cut your losses and close the door, but maybe leave the window cracked open, if your mom wants to be a big girl and a mom first, because there is no grandmother without being a mom first. If your mom can’t respect your choices it may be a moot point.
That lady better go to hell. How are you going to try to run somebody ELSE’S family?! She would never see my child with that attitude.
Girl, you need to read the book “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It will help you feel so much better about these kinds of decisions because you will have a lot more of them to make! It’s life changing in the most incredible way and available on audible or Google play.
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You are NOT wrong! Protect your child at all costs, this woman is not stable.
You ARE NOT WRONG !! Tell your mother to take a hike !!
Oh for Christ Sake don’t let her see her grandchild Your her mother How dare she bloody cow Don’t let your sister take her Because your sicko mum will win WTF is wrong with your mum ?!
Don’t kiss anybody’s ass!
So sad , but her mom need some help.
No you are not the asshole . My thought is screw your mother and your sister she had no right in doing that with YOUR CHILD
Oh hell no , your terms or no terms
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F#ck that! Hell to the naw.
Fuck no! Your mom will miss out on not being around. You child won’t miss out not having a toxic person around.
Agree with all the comments!!!