You don’t owe them anything.
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You can take it to civil court. They were gifts. The judge will most likely dismiss it ordering you don’t owe them anything.
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Sue them for bringing you into this world without your permission
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Advice: Tell them to gtfoh with that bullshit!
Give them a bill back for chores cleaning service,wearing cloths you hated mental anguish, fixing car miss use of property. And the list could go on. Give to back them you are even. Ha ha ha
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That’s all parents obligation towards their children. Take them to Judge Judy lols
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Uh. No. Nope. WTH. If what you say is true. all of it. They shouldnt have a kids then. As family…my family…and friends for that matter …raise (PROVIDE FOR) the CHILDREN until THEY ARE ADULTS. Even afyer family helps family and if you expext something back you need to say it at the time its provided. They on drugs? Something bad happen? Crack? Heroine? Meth?
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They can’t do that, it’s their responsibility as your parents to take care of your needs as a child.
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Civil court, then make sure that y’all don’t have contact anymore. Your kids, you and anyone else who lives under your roof, do not need to be shit on like that.
Maybe, they just want a Thank you and sincere appreciation for the things they’ve done for you. When you add it all up, are you thankful, and raised to provide the same for your kids.
(Just old lady/mommy thoughts)
Sounds like something my parents would do, very controlling. They kept up with everything they did for me and would throw it in my face later on even if I never asked for it. I would just distance myself from them. If they want to be jerks you don’t have to put up with it.
If they are truly wanting you to pay them back, I’m sorry that your parents are that way.
They smoking that good stuff.
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I am sure you have done things for them out of love, never expecting payment. They need to re-evaluate their meaning of love versus paying for your child care.
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Omg Kayla Sweeney read this insane shit
You owe nothing before the age of 18. Then after if you didn’t ask for it or borrow it you don’t owe it either. Go to court
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Truth of the matter is… You don’t have to pay shit… Lol. An even bigger truth… You need to distance your self and the kids from them because of this is how they’ve been thinking since you were 12 years old that is not mentally stable people
you owe them nothing. It’s called they were being parents and taking care of their child! I agree with what Kelli Brewer Carver said above, very controlling. now as an adult you may want to start backing away and re-evaluating your relationship with them. my mother was a very controlling woman and it took years for me to realize that even if they are family, all people aren’t good people to be around,. best of luck!
Tell them to kiss your ass. That’s extremely weird and petty. They sound delusional and messed up in the head. They’ve probably started a list for what their grandkids owe them too. Craziest thing I’ve ever heard tbh.
This is one for the books. If you knew nothing about it your not obligated under any circumstance.
No signature no validation. Good luck in this crazy world
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Ask for the signed contract stating those were loans and not gifts.
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That is some evilness
By LAW you are not obligated to pay
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Are they on drugs? Wtf
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Connie Silva Olvera
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They have to be joking right?!? They are responsible for you until you were 18 years old . Hell I have four sons over 18 and I would be owed like half a million probably . You don’t owe them a dime, if they are serious this is a money grab and shame on them for trying to do this to you or even keeping a tab. Wth !
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Ummm wtf did I just read? They are your parents. They are responsible for supporting you until you are 18, a legal adult. On top of that, gifts are gifts. I’d tell them to take me to court and let them look like dumbasses
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That’s absolutely infuriating. How dare they?! Children are our responsibility until they are 18. And even then they are always our responsibility. Parents should not ask for money back for such things. It’s one thing to be like “hey can I borrow/take a loan…” or “we will help you fix/purchase such and such with the intent on you paying us back” but to be like “oh we bought you that 60$ winter coat when you were 13… yeah you need to pay us back for that” is insane and ridiculous. Omg. I am in utter shock at this post. What crappy parents I’m so sorry!
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You owe them nothing. Period. Remind them you’re in charge of the nursing home they’ll be in .
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Tell them to take you to court. The judge will just laugh at them.
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A child was brought into this world because they allowed it or wanted a child. A child is to be taken care of by the parents. It is their responsibility to meet that child’s needs. No court would hold a child responsible for their own bills. As you became an adult your parents and you should have come to some financial agreement. If you were given gifts then you owe nothing to them. If it was a loan or you had an understanding that you would pay them back for something then you are obliged to pay them the agreed amount. Your parents have the problem. It is a shame that they have asked you to pay them. Perhaps you will need to cut ties with them.
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Sounds to me like a heart felt Thank you and a hug will probably pay the bill. I know that’s all I would want from my kids.
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That’s crazy! They are legally obligated for your care and well being until age 18. After that if what they did for you was not asked for or borrowed you owe ZERO. My kids are adults and one of them has children, I couldn’t imagine doing this to any of them and I will get stuff for them or the babies without expecting payment. Tell them thank you and you appreciate everything they have done for you and your children but you never asked for those things so you are not paying for them. It’s different if you borrowed then yes that should be paid back but if not…you are worrying for nothing. Just don’t pay it. If they take you to court, they will be laughed out of any courtroom. No judge is going to side with them
They can charge you things for after the age of 18 but not before. Look at your mom really a jacket at age 12 ? I am not saying tell her to take you to court. Watch judge Judy there was an episode this week the judge yelled at the parent.
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“There was no mutual understanding of me having to pay anything back before you gave me anything, therefore I will not. You will have to write if off as a loss in your fancy ledger, and understand that we will no longer accept any ‘gifts’ from you in this family”
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That is abusive, twisted and sick! That kind of abusive planning/manipulation is beyond words. Get yourself to a therapist, guaranteed when they have you reexamine your life you’re going to be blown away by what you discover. And they have 0 legal recourse, don’t you even play with the idea of paying them anything.
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They need help, don’t pay them a dime, they have an issues.
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Send them a book on parenting. Then estimate how much work you did for them and send THEM a bill.
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U owe them nothing … and its laughable if they even attempt to bring u to court
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They are responsible for you until you turned 18.
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This is the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. This is insane. Think of all the hours Mom spent keeping records of how much they spent on their child. I wonder if they added to the list the cost of food she ate, her share of the cost of their housing and living expenses. It takes a greedy person to do something like this. I would be saying Goodbye to them.
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You probably have nothing to worry about. If I had to guess, I’d say they are gonna be put in a highly secured mental institution when everyone sees this and finds out who they are 
that’s absolutely mental, but what did you do to make them mad.
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Your parents are idiots. They are legally required to take care of you until you are of age which is usually 18. However in Ontario parents with children in college are actually legally obligated to still care financially for their kids! It’s not a well known fact but a man sued his parents while he was in college and they were forced to pay half his tuition,books, living expenses etc. I can’t believe your own parents would try to coerce you into giving them money for THEM CREATING YOU!
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Start paying them back with 10.00$ a month. And don’t forget…
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This doesn’t make sence!! You are their responsibility until you’re 18! How can they charge you ?
This is absurd I still pay my daughters phone bill, she is 20 & married but in college.
Your parents r crazy
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I would pay back for the car maybe…but that’s it. I’m sorry this is happening. What happened to make this come up?
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Apparently your parents are crazy! It’s there responsibility to provide you things like clothes, shoes, jackets etc till your graduate and move out.
You have to be straight forward about this. I’d tell them you HAD me, you were RESPONSIBLE for me until I was 18 and you aren’t paying them a dime. Tell them NOT to buy your children anything and in my opinion CUT them out of your life. Not many instances do I think cutting family out is the right thing to do but this is one of those times. That has to be a mental drain on you realizing they seen you as a walking savings account. And it’s appalling that adults would treat their child that way. They wouldn’t be allowed to poison my children with that selfish ignorance. Run far far away from that nonsense. And if they want to push the matter tell them that’s what court is for.
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This has to be a joke. Pay them 25. cents a month.
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File for bankruptcy…
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take them to court it’s disgusting
Ask them to write a list of what they bought when they bought ,why they bought proof of purchase simple and meet them in court to settle the amount
your parents are (im sorry) fucking ridiculous. they brought you into this world. it was their job to provide for you. you owe them NOTHING
Honestly, with all shock aside, I know you love them and I know this hurts. We can’t rationalize why they are doing this. They might possibly need the money and can’t think of another way to get it as sad and awful as that sounds. They may think noone will pay for their care or help them unless they are forced to or feel obligated. This is just a thought, not sure. I work with seniors and a lot of their grown children and grown grandchildren only come around when they need money or drain them somehow physically or financially and maybe they are just going to make sure all of yall help? The main question is why don’t the oldest have ledgers?
This is insane from the time your born till you leave home & marry r take a partner your there child & they need to take care of you.After your on your on it’s up to you to take care of your needs.
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That’s just nonsense. They gave birth to you and were financially responsible for you until you turned 18. It would be different if you were grown and asking to BORROW money. I would tell them you didn’t know they were expecting you to pay them back for the gifts etc… If you did, you wouldn’t have accepted them 
I honestly can’t believe that parents would do their own child that…It’s sad!!!
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#foutterhere tell them
I’d stop talking to them. You’re not a burden, pawn, or loan. They need to realize respect gets respect back.
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Give them the middle finger
Tell them it doesn’t work that way. They chose to have a child, they bear the responsibility of raising said child.
What the actual fuck? I’m done with the internet tonight.
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Legally they have nothing, as others have said you were their responsibility until 18 and after that you’d have to make an agreement (contract) to owe them $$. A giftor can’t just suddenly expect repayment for a gift. As sad as it sounds, I’m sure some shitty parents have already taken their children to court on similar facts. Find a similar court case, one where the judge was super harsh in his critique of the parents, highlight the language used, and give it to your parents while explaining they can take the issue to court and lose your family relationship, or realize that they are wrong and apologize.
I’d be telling them that’s now how it works. And when they come to that realization maybe you can still be in their lives. Oh,and their grandchildren will not be spending time with crazy people until that moment.
Tell mom your sueing her for emotional damages of said chores and things
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That is disgusting parenting! They were responsible for you until you were an adult. And if they bought your kids Gifts, then that was their choice. I’d ask to see the ledgers, and anything that you didn’t ask for, or was bought while you where a child, should 100% not be paid back. If you ever asked to borrow money, maybe pay that’s back? I would tell them how they have made you feel, and ask why they think you should pay for things they bought when you were a kid. I’d even consider cutting them out, as this isn’t good loving parenting in my opinion. Xx
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They were legally responsible for your care until you turned 18. Would not count anything before 18 years old.
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Honey. Trade them in for new family. Pick your own.
And don’t give them the money… okay?
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Ask for receipts. And of all the proof of payment which of those items are they legally responsible to pay? Then make the bare minimum payment via check by US mail and with hold visitation with your children. And if they ask why they can’t see your children tell them you fronted they money for there items so they have to pay you back. (Obviously don’t do that to your own kids)
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Your parents seem greedy and out of touch with reality.
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Tell her to take you to small claims court.Also tell her.not.to buy you ir your kids another thing and if she does refuse it.Very selfish parents.
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Walk away from them, you really don’t need them in your life!
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This is a joke right?
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Is this for real or just to get people riled up?? What parent would keep a tally of what they spent on a 12 year old…totally crazy.
I’d be a smart ass about it and take the ledger and say, ’ It really sucks on your part that you thought I was going to be paying you back for ANY of this, but if I were to pay you back it’d start here" and cross a line under the year you turned 18. Then I’d start crossing everything off that was a gift aka stuff you didn’t ask for. "Oops no you got this wrong, it was a gift, oh and that one too, oh and this one was a gift too. Oh look at that, looks like I ‘owe’ you this much. Thanks Mom"
Lol I know exactly how you feel the same thing happened to my husband thank goodness not since he was 12
Is this real? I mean, it’s a parent’s job to provide that stuff
I would let them try to take you to court over it the judge will laugh in their face they are responsible especially till 18 and you didn’t ask them to fix your car or get your kids clothes I wouldn’t sweat it and just stop talking to them they’re obviously not good for your health so sorry
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If this is for real, PLEASE drop them, no true family would ask that of you. Focus on your children and cut them off completely because I can tell you now they’re greedy ass people
She can’t make you pay her back for anything when you were a child. THAT WAS HER JOB to take care of you! I’m so sorry you have such ignorant parents, but good news for you you are not legally obligated to pay her a single penny!
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Until you are 18, it is their right to take care of you. This would be laughed out of court.
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BS! I cant believe I’m actually seeing this… it’s sad knowing u have parents and charging u for every thing they bought u… it was their freaking responsibility… I wouldn’t pay them not one cent… and disapear on them…u dont need that… that’s pathetic!
Write an IOU put it in an envelope an give it to ur mom with a kiss… Not something to really get ill over.
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Sick tell her we’re to go and never see her it let your kids near the witch that’s not a mother that a bitch end off
Good luck getting your money back if that happened to me. That’s cray! No offense but are you their bio child?
Tell them to take you to court. When the judge laughs them out of court you can counter sue for emotional damage and court costs.
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If this isn’t a joke walk away and don’t turn back
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Fat chance. They would have to take me to court first. Any judge in his right mind would throw it out
That’s insane. Tell them to take it to small claims court if they’re serious. It was their job to provide for you till you turned 18 regardless if you had a job or not before you turned 18. They seem like toxic selfish people and I would cut them out of my life and especially out of my children’s lives so they don’t pull the same BS with them when they are older.
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Total a bill for all your chores throughout the years, be clever tho! Charge according to what a house help will charge. Charge extra for weekends and give it to them:ok_hand:
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This is one side of the story
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Tell her to take you to court over it and that you wont be paying it until a judge orders you to. They will be laughed out of the courtroom.
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Tell them hey u claimed me on your taxes, & u probably got earned income credit about 3grand back every year SO U IWE ME!!
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Tell them to take you to court
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You don’t have to its redicules
Nothing warms the heart as much as much as a close-knit, family eh?..there is something to be said for geographical distance from the ones we hold “near and dear”.sounds like a perfect case for it,would you not agree?..
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Omg! Are you kidding me?
don’t pay them back. Don’t have anything to do with them anymore!!!
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You are your Parents FULL responsibility until you are emancipated @ the age of 18.
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That’s awful, I can understand asking you for money back if you’ve borrowed it since being an adult, but as for keeping a tab for things they bought you and your children, I’d disown them if I was you.