It’s only okay if all parties are okay with it. What happens between adults behind closed doors is their business.
It’s one thing to do something wild & crazy when you’re drunk & it’s spontaneous … and you’re curious & want to sow some wild oats… or add adventure to your sex life to spice it up … or whatever reason you want to use.
It’s a whole other situation when you try to force an unwilling partner into a situation.
You’re an adult. This is not about who got a turn sitting shotgun in the front seat on the way to town. It’s not about who got to ride the bike first, or who got the first scoop of ice cream. In a relationship, you are on a journey through life together as partners, working toward mutual goals, and working toward a better future for you, as a couple. Neither of you should ever want to force the other one into doing something they don’t feel comfortable with. Neither of you should want to try to encourage the other one to do something that you know they don’t want to do. It’s inconsiderate and disrespectful.
Take it as a compliment that your partner doesn’t feel comfortable sharing you with other people. He places a great deal of value on his love for you, and is probably heartbroken that you don’t feel the same.
You forced him into that and it seems you did it with every intention to turn the table on him for new p33n… You’re in need of therapy and you should read about eve in the garden of eden. He may want a lawyer if you share property and possessions cause girl you triflin lol. Prayin for ya
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There are rules to these things for a reason.
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“finally gave in”. You forced your husband into a threesome that he did NOT want. You’re selfish and need to address yourself before you even think of going to this man with your feelings because you haven’t even considered his.
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Your partner walked into the room with you already getting hot and heavy with the female before you asked if A he was ok with it and B if he wanted to join whilst you were already doing it and he said no and you kept pressuring him whilst he was drunk to join ? You cheated basically and now your devaluating his feelings in it when he regretted it. I think your the wrong here and he should get rid of you. If my fella did this and then made me feel like I’m wrong for feeling that way after it happened and thought I was selfish I’d have to bin him.
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So you cheated without any type of his consent with a lady friend, he catches you in the act, you obviously convinced/forced him into it and the pressure of catching you in the act to make him And bring up your opinions on more activities like this-again no consent from your partner. I can’t with this one, just let that poor man go and dont be such trash to your partners. Consent and prior to ‘acts’ happening is the key factor of this fuck up.
He said no the first time and you pressured him to join. He wasn’t comfortable but he did anyways because you wouldn’t stop asking. If I were you I would feel terrible about what I’ve done to hurt him. If he was so uncomfortable doing it with another woman what makes you think he wants to see you with another man? I would do some major apologizing if I were you.
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Look, it’s fine to not be monogamous in general (despite what some people are saying). But it’s NOT fine to pressure your partner into a non-monogamous lifestyle or into any sexual acts. You are in the wrong because you pressured him into something he clearly didn’t want to do, and now you are blaming him for feeling badly about what you pressured him to do, and for not wanting to do it again.
If you don’t want to be in a monogamous relationship, but he does, then y’all aren’t compatible, and the answer likely is to just respectfully go your separate ways. But the answer is most certainly NOT to try to pressure your partner into sexual situations they are not comfortable in. And if the roles were reversed, and he was pressuring YOU into 3somes you didn’t want to participate in, and then being rude to you afterwards when you felt gross and awful and were struggling with it, and trying to manipulate you into doing it again, everyone would be calling him an abuser.
You need to take a big step back.
He didn’t want to have the threesome in the first place.
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as someone who lives for this type of stuff, and understands alot bc of the life i live, just wait.
hes upset right now bc of what happened, and he’s probably never done that before in his life…
wait a few months and see how thinhs turn out and then bring the subject up again
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So you’re mad at him? After you coerced him and manipulated him into something he said he didn’t want to do?
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My advice: How about having some respect for your partners feelings?
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with bringing other people in the bedroom but all participants should want to. Just because you wouldn’t doesn’t mean it’s “wrong” for other people.
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If you actually want a good relationship, 3-somes are a bad idea 100% of the time.
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If you wanted to f*ck another man and you’re upset about it, then maybe you should leave your relationship and find someone more compatible for your needs and let your partner find someone who doesn’t wanna fuck other dudes to stay happy.
You should have had a conversation with him about it Way before this was even a possibility.
Communication. Is. Everything.
So, HAVE A FUCKING CONVERSATION WITH HIM. Figure your shit out, or move on.
If it were a woman being convinced into having sex we would all agree that’s wrong. I’m going to have to side with him on this one. Some people are cool with that sort of thing while others just aren’t. That’s ok.
If you’re going to be married, stick to the one you married.
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The only way not to get hurt is to be the guest in the ménage a trois. Believe me!
Coercing one’s spouse/partner to participate in an intimate act is very, very wrong.
It seems that being monogamous is not your true desire, so do yourself and your spouse a favor and leave the relationship before it gets even more complicated.
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You are 100% wrong. You need to let him go so he can find an honest woman. You need to be single as you are still finding yourself or you either already know you do not want a monogamous relationship.
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Nah, sounds like he was pressured and caught you hooking up with someone. Regardless of the gender I’m sure he wasn’t comfortable. If this wasn’t something discussed before hand that both of yall would be ok with then he is not wrong for his feelings. But I mean either way his feelings are valid.
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“He finally gave in”
Sounds like you want reassurance that you’re feelings are valid. They aren’t in this situation.
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You literally cheated on him lol
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Some of these comments sound a lot like victim blaming 
Eta: she is the abuser. HE is the victim
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It sounds like you want to be in a open relationship and he does not. This will never work out because he doesn’t want to be in a open relationship. Unfortunately he will constantly be thinking about this and eventually will think you will do something behind his back because you keep nagging him about it. Y’all may as well part ways because you will just break his heart.
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If you have to include a 3 person into your sexual life to be happy… YOU DONT NEED TO BE MARRIED!
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I could see you being upset if y’all have talked about it just the two of you and decided as a couple to participate in a threesome. It sounds like it was sprung on him both times and you ended up getting your way because of that. He may have felt pressured to do it and to agree for y’all to do it with another man. That’s wrong on your part too. Not everyone has fun in those situations and it sounds like a line was crossed with him. Think about how all that would make you feel. I imagine not good. His feelings are just as valid as yours are. If you want to continue with this relationship, you may want to drop it. If not let him go so he can find some one else, and you can do you.
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Sounds like u have a lot of thinking to do… in my opinion, u pressured him. If u want to be with him it’s important to respect his boundaries and opinions too. If you want to explore your sexuality, you need to leave that man alone.
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Break up. You don’t want a relationship.
I mean, you were already getting freaky with the chick. If hadn’t walked in on that then I doubt he would have brought it up to you
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Oh don’t know nothing of this
If he said no to begin with, and it took you five minutes to convince him…well, what if the situation was turned around and you said no, but he kept persisting until you said yes?
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You were already with the girl before he even knew about it. You got caught cheating and got him to join so he couldn’t get mad at you. You wanted to have that 3 sum not him. I can see it not being fair if he set up the 3 sum with the other girl and he wanted you to join but that’s not the case. You’re only worried about yourself which is messed up. All of this 3sum stuff is for you. Stop trying to make it out to be something different. You’re wrong period.
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He tried it…didnt like it. His feelings should matter the most. Alot of dudes would NOT wanna see a Dude naked n on his woman. Id take it as a compliment. He just wants you…maybe dig deeper n ask why the desire is there within you in the first place ?
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N unless u discussed it before…there was no promise to do it the other way around.
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1st let me say that the bedroom is the one place I wouldn’t invite even my closest friend to participate. 2nd If i am reading this right your partner walked in on you and your friend so you were cheating on him. Then you had to coax him to join in. Now you want him to share you with another man, and are upset because he does not want to. Fair would have been discussing with you partner before acting how you both feel about a threesome, and if you were both ok with trying it. Then after you tried 2 women/man he decided he was not into trying 2men/woman I would then say he was wrong.
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I’m sorry but you tried to convince him to join when he already didn’t want to. Then expect him to be happy with it afterwards and want to do it again? His feelings are valid such as yours. However, to be upset at him for his feelings is wrong. He obviously didn’t want to in the first place and now he says he doesn’t want to again, leave it at that. If you want someone who wants to do this then go find them. But if this is really your only issue, then your making this bigger then it is.
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He said no and you kept trying to convince him? No kidding he feels grossed out he didn’t want to do it until you made him say yes just to get it over with. Personally I don’t think he actually gave you consent and probably feels a bit used.
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You’re in the wrong. Break up with the loyal man you have. He didn’t even want to have a 3some with the chick that YOU initiated sex with, he was coerced into it and told you he didn’t like it… and you’re mad because you don’t get to fuck another guy? Pitiful. Little girls don’t need to be in adult situations like relationships.
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You pressured him and that’s fuc*ed.
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You were cheating when he walked in and was pressured into it and then pressured to say yes about another. If you would of talked about it before hand, as a couple, then no you did nothing wrong but with the facts you gave yes your in the wrong. I’m a poly and a dom and talking honestly and listening to each other is key. You didn’t do any of that right
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Thats something you discuss before doing the first time.
Also you had to convince him for 5 minutes before even wanting to get with you and another girl… I think he felt pressured to make you happy and now for you to want another man… like come on 
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You sound very selfish. Sounds like your the one who wants to do this type of stuff, you pressured him into it and now your mad he wasn’t in to it and doesn’t want to go for it again?..you should set him free so you can skank around
Next time get consent, have a conversation about boundaries beforehand and if you have to repeatedly ask your partner and they finally give in, is that really surprising he is upset?
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Unbelievable. You cheated on him with a female so go on out and cheat with a dude. He not only has lost respect for you he is now disgusted at both of you. Pack your bags because I seriously doubt he will forget this Thot
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Don’t do that. It will lead to bad things. Not to mention you can contract a number of diseases . This will lead to a bad break up.
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I think if thats how you want things go find someone who wants it as well, let him go and spare him from your narcissism. It disgusted me reading it and I feel terrible for your guy…hes probably scarred for life
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Live and learn, no more 3somes.
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You cheated and manipulated to get what you wanted and are now playing the victim!!! Make the math math miss mam… Oh wait, what’s up narc!
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U are lucky he don’t kick ur ass to the curb, for cheating on him. If he wouldn’t have walked in on u that’s exactly what u where intending to do. Ur just a manipulative cheater playing the victim.
Why the hell is this even on fb?! FREAKS!!
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Kaeja Harris we’ll we’ll we’ll
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I think it’s disgusting. Your married. You walk down the isle, in front of God, friends and family.you promise to love, honor, charish and be FAITHFUL to them. Where was the 3rd person there when you did this? Oh yeah…she wasn’t in those vows. Smh cheating sucks and ruins marriages no matter how it’s done. Period.
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Wrong Wrong Wrong anyway you look at it. Cheating is cheating.Where did the value of your vows go???
Well first off it should have been a mutual decision together, and it sounds like you made the decision yourself when your man wasn’t comfortable. That would be considered cheating.
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I’ve been reading way too many AITA stories on Reddit. My first response after reading this was “Yes, you’re the ass”
And you know why. Everyone on here is telling you the reasons.
Always make sure it’s 2 men and 2 women if you are going to try this. That way each person gets to try and not left out. Then you can talk about it and see if you want to try it again.
… you were trying to convince him? NO:clap:LITERALLY 
MEANS:clap:NO!!! #mentoo
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So he tells u hes actually quite upset that it happened and how he feels abouf both himself and u. Had he only said u it wouldv been different maybe but sounds like upset it happened … and all u ask is if its ok to be angry u didnt get another guy … maybe id be wanting to sit abd talk to my husband reassure him i loved him.etc and yhat i wS sorry if itd made him feel that and that we could hopefully work throufh it…
Maybe thats just me.though xxx
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Y’all need to stop drinking and y’all need Jesus!!
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Whether you want to admit it…your partner is absolutely right!
When you invite others into your relationship, you’re in for a world of shiii! Nothing will ever be the same again.
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Alot of comments are aimed at her for making him do it Lmao 
No no, he could of walked out he could of told her to get up but guess what? He didn’t why? Because his diick got the best of him he was turned on by what he was watching the temptation was to easy, Shes not to blame for his actions. No one can make you do anything unless you want too and believe me he wanted to …
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you screwed up!!! stop pushing him into stuff only want.
maybe it was a ploy to get him in with another woman so you can get with another guy so it wouldn’t be “cheating”
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Why would you both even have the thought having a threesome ?
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If he’s not comfortable with a three some, you shouldn’t make him feel bad. It doesn’t sound like gender makes a difference to him. It’s the same as when a man asks his girlfriend to do something she isn’t comfortable with. If you’re in to it and he isn’t, then you may be better suited with other partners. No judgement.
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I hope he didn’t marry you.
So wait, he said no and you pushed him for five entire minutes without relenting? This is not the way to do this. I would never trust you with that again, in fact, I would never trust anyone who engaged in coercive sexual practices in any way. You have a lot to learn. I would recommend therapy.
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The way you are describing it he walked in on you cheating so you guilted him into it so you wouldn’t feel guilty alone. What he said when he was drunk should not be held against him in this instance. You wouldn’t let up on him for 5 minutes? You are wrong if you want others and he doesn’t leave him so he can find a loyal partner.
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This is why people shouldn’t have threesomes lol messy messy.
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You’re a fucking idiot. I hope your partner leaves your dumb ass.
If the situation was reversed it would be an entirely different story.
Him saying no and you berating him into saying yes…. Is rape.
No wonder he’s upset.
Here’s the thing
It’s seen improper and disgusting if a man asks a woman for sex and she says no and he continues to beg her and so on for it. That’s wrong. If a female does it regardless if it’s just her or it’s her and another woman it is supposed to be okay??? What you did was Sexual Coercion. It’s double standards for woman too. He thought he had to have sex with you two after saying no for FIVE MINUTES and did it to make you happy. REGARDLESS if he enjoyed the sex or not during that time! He didn’t want it before and you kept on and kept on until he said yes. You were in the wrong 100 percent. HE WAS NOT.
Please read this.
You’re wrong he said no and you pressured him. Sorry girl you did it to yourself
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You are wrong for pressuring after he said no sounds like Roy were trying to cover your ass because he caught you cheating!
seems like you need to find someone else more open to those things bc forcing your partner into doing anything that they don’t want to is kind of sick. the only reason they did it is bc they felt forced, which is why they say they feel disgusted. sounds like you’re more focused on your feelings than theirs, which also needs fixed.
So basically, you didn’t want to feel bad for cheating so you guilted him into the 3some and then got mad when he didn’t want to do anything and felt disgusted in the actions. And now you’re feeling a way because he got to have 2 girls that you forced on him but you can’t get 2 guys on you? Do yourself a favor, leave and find someone more willing and leave that poor man alone. Let him find someone he can be monogamous with and not be forced and made to feel bad for not doing stuff like this. You are the wrong one here.
So you cheated? Got caught? Then guilt trip him into participating so you could say you didnt cheat?. You practically forced him into it which is illegal, NO MEANS NO doesnt matter the gender. He probably gave in like most people do because they cant be bothered keep being harrashed, still does not make it legal. I personally think what you both females did was against the law because if you said no and he forced you then you would say it was rape 
. By sounds of it he did not enjoy it at all and who can blame him for feeling the way he does.
Disrespectful and disgusting!
He doesn’t like sharing. That’s a good thing.
Sounds like you cheated (whether with a male or female that’s what you were doing) pushed your husband into taking part then you want to use it as an excuse to sleep with another man aswell and not happy that he doesn’t want to. You should feel happy he doesn’t want to share you and staying loyal to you. Sounds as if he didn’t enjoy those 5 minutes anyway even if it was another female. You either need to be content with your relationship or reevaluate where you are and what you want.x
Garry Guley Jesus! So happy to never share you with anyone babes xx 
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You did it to yourself he said no and you basically forced him into it he knew he didn’t want to do it. You need to leave him if you wanna act like a hoe and go find a man that doesn’t care. He’s trying to tell you how he really feels and you getting upset with him about it is disgusting
. Both of ya.