My son has always had an issue with males. None have ever abused him, but they have gotten after him when he has been in trouble. The man I’m with now has done nothing but good for my son and I. within the last month, or so my son has been telling the family that he is not good to my son and that he hits him. This is most definitely not true. My son has made it to where my man is scared that someone is going to hear this and call authorities. I think he is acting out because he isn’t used to a man in his life and especially because he doesn’t always get what he wants anymore. I thought about taking him to therapy, but I’m scared that they will believe him and end up turning our world upside down. Has anyone else had issues with their young ones acting out due to a change in lifestyle, especially a lie like this? I’m home every day, so I know what the gas said is not true. It breaks my heart that my son has said this. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
If it was me I’d assume my son wasnt ready for me to date anyone. Better for everyone involved.
Take your son to therapy. The truth will come out then. Kids dont just make this shit up. Listen to him he’s YOUR son!
He is never with him for 1 minute alone EVER? that is hard to believe. Kids normally don’t lie about these things.
Your son is what matters. Not your love life. Even if he’s lying he’s doing this because something is wrong. Fix it.
Forget therapy. Hes jealous and wants him mom. Spend sometime with him
Listen to your kid!!!
He is telling the truth but your too scared of being alone that you refuse to believe it. This is both sad and disgusting. How you could take the word of a man you havent been with very long over your child is beyond me.
I would believe my kids over anyone. Even if it ended up nit being true. Those are your children. If they can’t trust you who do they go to?!
Therapy yes, spend 1 on 1 time with him…YES… come up with a game plan with him as a family.
I’m guessing he just doesn’t like it. And your son should ALWAYS come first. If he’s not ready for you to be dating and to have guys over, then you need to respect that. You also said male you’re with now, so maybe you’re bringing too many guys around him in the first place?? You need to have a heart to heart with your son and figure out what’s going on. I would ALWAYS believe my son first. I highly doubt he’s NEVER alone with your son.
First of all, always listen to your child, maybe he is telling fibs about him hitting him, but listen. If he is telling fibs, why?
Always listen to your child, even if what theyre saying is far fetched, theres usually something behind it.
Your child should always come first believe him.
Your son needs counseling because it seems all male figures have “left him” so now he’s pushing them away before they have the chance to hurt him. If that makes sense. Also the boyfriend and son need counseling together and also special “guy things”.
Therapy is exactly what he needs, regardless how it affects you.
I would take my child side. If my child is saying someone is hurting him/her I’m 100% going to believe my child over a man. Ain’t no way I would be looking into it.
Therapy is a good idea. You talk to the therapist first. Explain your concerns and that you want the truth.
I’ve known kids to lie abt this exact topic. Doesn’t mean your son is lying. If he is, there’s a reason and he hasn’t found a way to express it.
Having a few sessions with him and your bf isn’t a bad idea either.
Sounds like your son needs some counseling…
I’d believe my kids over any man any day. If hes doing this then SOMETHING IS WRONG. If he isnt coming to you and telling you these things then something has happened where he feels like he CANT tell you. Even if he just doesnt like the guy this should be your sign. I used to be your kid. I told my dad several times about the stuff that I was told when me and his girlfriend were alone while he was making dinner, he went to the bathroom, etc. Any chance this woman had alone with me she took it. Listen to him.
Therapy, but listen to your kid.
The man shouldn’t be scared for authorities or anyone to get involved if it isn’t true. Can you be positive nothing has ever happened or your bf has never said something to scare him? In my opinion, most kids don’t make something up like that unless something happened to scare them with a certain individual. You should have a serious talk with your son and if he is in school maybe have a meeting with the two of you and his guidance counselor to find out whats really going on.
How old is he? I’d defiantly think about councilling for him.
If your man is afraid of your son or a family member going to authorities, then he is probably hitting your son. I find it hard to believe that he is never alone with your son. I will always believe my children over any man.
How do you know that he doesn’t abuse your child? Because he says so?
It’s so sad you don’t believe your son , maybe give him to someone who will listen to him and love him and not choose a man over him smh
Kids don’t usually lie about shit like this you need help!!
I would pick my kid over a man any day.
My aunt did this to my grandfather (her step dad) and my cousin did this to his step dad. (He said he pushed him out of the car and ran over him). I don’t know if it’s a way of testing the parents or a way of pushing the step parent away bc of jealousy issues. I don’t know! I wish I had advice to give you. But the way you handle it will mean everything.
Put up some cameras only you know about to see if he’s really lying… don’t Tell your boyfriend about it. But maybe if anything happened or is happening you’ll know.
Just take your kid to therapy. If he’s lying they will be able to tell. They know what types of questions to ask. 
I’d install a camera where you can see what happens between them when you are not there. And get counseling for your son. Either way he needs professional help
Take him to counseling/therapy. If he is lying, it will help him. Whether your life gets tossed upsidedown or not, your son needs to be your priority. Not some guy who is possibly abusing your child.
Restricting him of help he clearly needs, someone to listen. To hear him out. They are trained to tell the difference in a kid lying vs a kid in need of help js🤷
Spend some mother/son time with him and try talking about the things going on in his life. I know a lot of people say kids don’t lie about this sort of thing but they do. I had a cousin who did this to my aunt. She got her mom put in jail for a night, bragged about it and admitted that my aunt in fact did not hit her. She was a good kid until she started hanging around other kids who were bad influences. It was a horrible phase she went through but she did get better after a couple years and now their relationship is better than ever.
I’d let him go to therapy too. Therapists are usually pretty good at telling if someone is lying or not.
Good luck!
I’d trust my son over a man every single day of the week. There’s a reason he’s saying it.
But how do you know for sure this isn’t happening?
Counseling as soon as possible.
How many men have you introduced to your son? You mention men have “gotten after him” Were these previous boyfriends or is this the first man you’ve introduced? Have you sat down with your son and really spoken to him? Tell him he isn’t in trouble either way but ask him to tell the truth. After a good heart to heart if he is still claiming this man is hurting him then maybe you should consider believing him. He does need therapy either way. Sometimes kids do make things up for attention or to fit their motive but if that’s the case,he needs some therapy to get past it. Think of your son a little more please.
u should believe ur kid then a man… please listen he is scared for a reason… u never know what goes on behind your back when turned…
“My man is scared that someone is going to hear and call authorities” what about your effing son? Tf you worried about your man for???
Does your boyfriend live with you ? That’s probably not a good idea if so…
Seems like you’re doing everything to not get to the bottom of it. Almost seems like a part of you believes your son…as you should. If your guy has nothing to fear…then someone asking questions shouldn’t be scary. Believe your kid. Always. And in the end…if there’s proof that he lied…consequences as needed. But always always believe your baby.
Listen to your son men lie also
Such judgmental ugly comments! Some of you really make me sick!
Why would the kid make it up?
Cameras and counseling.
U sure hes lying? Because typically kids dont make that up. I think u might be wearing blinders
Cameras, take him to therapy. It’s not about you. If your son is saying this and it’s true, it needs to be addressed immediately because you could also be in legal trouble for not taking action sooner. If it’s not true, he needs help from a professional to determine why he is saying things like this.
No offence but you can’t say that 100 percent of the time you are watching your boyfriend and son every second of the day. It’s just not possible. I would believe my child over ANYONE any day of the week. You are scared to get him help because they will believe him?? It’s YOUR JOB as HIS MOTHER to believe him!
Do not ignore your son! Someone did something!
The fact that you believe your man over your son is fucking alarming tbh.
If your son has a problem with the men in your lives it’s simple. Get rid of the men. Where are your priorities?
Cameras.
That’s all I’m gonna say.
My daughter used to lie about her uncle hitting her and admitted in therapy that she just hates him because he’s “ugly and smells like cigars and he never buys her McDonalds when he is babysitting but will buy it for her cousin and that’s not fair.” I was told by the authorities before I knew she was lying that any authoritative figure that lives in the home your child is in is allowed to hit your child, even across the face, as a means of discipline as long as it doesn’t leave a bruise.
I can see both sides of this. If your child has behavioral problems it’s important to get therapy immediately because being distrustful of your child is really bad and makes it hard to parent.
You deserve to be happy but obviously your son has a problem with men in your life and maybe it’s time to stop introducing him to your boyfriends and figure out why he is so upset.
My son has done this to get attention I say he needs therapy . If u don’t get him therapy it’s just going to get worse. I use to give my son everything then when a guy get involve and said no he use to make claims eventually when I started saying no he would get upset throw temper and said I’m telling u hit me. Eventually he could say u r hitting. Some kids like to push buttons. He could also be jealous u have someone that loves u maybe he figures he will just leave why bother loving or trust someone. Sit him down and talk to him
Listen to your child. Have you ever taken him to a doctor when he has told you about abuse? If not, then you don’t know for sure if he had ever been abused or not. Yes, kids lie but not usually about things like that. And I dont believe its from not having a man in his life. My son who is a difficult and easily triggered kid(he has add ADHD and odd) didnt have a man in his life for the first 6 years of his life and when I got with my now husband he has never once said anything like that ever when he was mad or anything. And if it isnt true then why are you so scared of taking him to a therapist and why is your man afraid of the authorities if it’s not true. Theres ways to tell if its true or not and the authorities, therapist, and doctors are trained and will know.
Your son is trying to speak to you. It might not be the way you want to hear it, but whatever the root cause is… he’s trying to get to you. Please, keep your doors open for him. Truth or not, he is trying to communicate to you. Please have your ears ready. Your heart ready. Then hopefully you can see the truth. 
I’m just going to keep my mouth shut…
Wow some of these comments. Just wow. She is not suppose to have a life bc she is a mom. I have had this trouble with a child but I know when my mom married my step dad I hated it. I hated my step brother we first fault. Through knives at each other. It was pretty bad. But after a while everything worked out. Now they have been married over 20 years. Try taking her for a date with you and him and have a talk with him. Ask him to tell you the whole truth no matter what it is about what’s going on. Does he just not want you with someone is it really going on. What ever it is yall will work on dealing with it the right way. Even if yall do family therapy. Which would be really probably be really good anyways. I pray every thing works out for yall. And how old is he anyways
All these people saying I’d get rid of the man and listen to my kid it’s probably happening to there’s now!! Get rid of him now !!!
You and your bf are scared people might believe your son?
Are you fucking serious right now?!
WE’RE all scared that you DON’T believe him and are listening to you dick of the month over your own child
If bf is scared it’s because he’s hiding something and has a reason to be scared
There is a ton wrong with this post! How do you know for sure your so isn’t abusing your kid? Are you there in every room, every situation, watching every single move they both do and how they interact together every second of every day? Why would you not get him a consular? Who cares if your world will be turned upside down, if you have nothing to hide and nothing is going on, it won’t be turned upside down. Yea, you may some prodding, but that’s as far as it’ll go, if it even gets that far. Why is your kid so used to getting his way and not having authority figures? If he is lying, this is why authority figures are important, before it gets this far! He needs some therapy and you need parental classes. Your kids come first, and if they say something, at least give it some thought, even if you know it isn’t true, they just want to be heard!
I think you maybe blind to what’s going on. You should always believe your child.
You don’t deserve that sweet boy
Men never become before children 
Take him to therapy.
If they believe him, and investigate, and your partner hasn’t done anything then they aren’t going to find anything anyway.
Always put your child’s words FIRST.
You should always be on your son’s side. That’s a mothers job.
Try being on his damn side and listen! Don’t take him to a therapist. Maybe step Daddy needs to go the extra mile and build a strong relationship with your boy.
Having been through this myself I totally understand! My daughter lied about my now husband abusing her we were investigated by CPS 4 times over a 3 year period. She had even convinced a counseller that it was happening and she went to live with her father. I knew it wasn’t true and it wasn’t until almost 3 years later when I was doing custody orders for my son and she was questioned by a psychiatrist for the family report that she admitted she lied!!! She said she didn’t like the new rules and wanted to move in with her dad so she lied. The judge at the custody hearing said it happens a lot and kids say stuff not understanding the consequences. I wouldn’t go to counseling ever again! They aren’t trained enough to make a call that could destroy your life like it did mine.
Take him to therapy, before he does cause problems for you. Make sure it’s group therapy for all 3 of you so he’ll have a harder time lying. If he’s not all bruised and you are bring him to therapy for that reason you should have nothing to worry about.
You shouldn’t be worried about a therapist or psychiatrist calling CPS if you / your boyfriend have nothing to worry about or hide.
Stop depriving your child of the help they need because you’re worried about your boyfriend. Be a mother FFS.
Who are half these broads that get on here and spew this garbage. He is your son, he is priority number 1. Are you saying they never have alone time…never? And let’s say he is lying, why is he lying? He may not be comfortable with you having another man in your life (from the way you posted it it sounds like there have been quite a few) and it may be affecting him, is that not enough to do what is best for your son? Psh you say he is lying with no evidence, where is your evidence that your BF isn’t actually doing these things?
Maybe sit down, all three of you and ask why he is saying these things about your boyfriend? Maybe it’s residual from something else he wants? Attention? Validation of his feelings?
It’s funny all these people going after her. My daughter has gone to school and said that I hit her and lies all the time because she doesn’t get her way. I spent $500+ on her for Christmas and she went back and told her dads side of the family that all she got was a desk so they’d get her more presents. Just pure lies. Some kids are truly manipulative and know exactly how to manipulate situations to get their way. Should she truly investigate the child’s claims? Yes absolutely. But some kids DO lie about things like this…especially when they realize it can potentially get the adult out of the way who is trying to discipline them.
I can’t STAND when a child is trying to tell you or any adult something and a parent ignores it! Something’s going on stop telling your kid he’s lying! And TAKE HIM TO COUNSELING- IF ITS LIES OR TRUE THEYLL KNOW
He might feel left out spend more time with him and do things as a family
They make lie detectors for this type thing, if your husband has done no wrong doing, why worry
Honestly just sit down and explain the severity of his lie.
My oldest has Done this. Not really so much more then spanking. When he was gonna get in trouble, he would stand out side as scream he’s gonna spank me don’t let him hurt me( we don’t spank them, But yes would threaten too lol and it was when their preschool started teaching them spanking was bad.) He thought it would get his way. Yes my husband was scared someone would call DHS. And they’d show up and get involved in our lives(DHS in our state isn’t exactly the greatest or have the best reputation and will turn your life up devic side down) my oldest is ADHD and on the spectrum. I had to sit him down. And have a long talk with him about accusations like that and what they can do to a person. And how they can effect us. And how if he says them all the time when they’re not true, one day when it is true it might make it hard for others to believe him. But that I would always believe him no matter what. But that’s why I wanted him to always be honest. And that I didn’t want anyone to get hurt by those accusations if they weren’t true. He hasn’t said it in years. But if you asked him flat out if my husband hit him he would say no he loves him. He would only say it when he knew he was in trouble and thought it would get him out of trouble or something. My husband was the first guy to come in our family. I was a single mom for 2 years before him. He was the first and only guy they met. And since their dad that was really there. It was a huge change for them. I would talk to your son and find out what’s wrong and going on with him. Because it’s more then something small and simple. Something gave him the idea to say your boyfriend hits him. Especially if he’s young. They don’t come up with that in their own unless it’s really happening or someone’s said something
Take him to therapy but explain to therapist what’s going on take bf with you so therapist can talk to him too
My nephew did this and it was true. Please take your son to therapy and never leave them alone. Set up cameras. How old is your son
Not saying you can’t have a life but until you and your son can figure out what is causing him to say these things I think it’d be best for you to not have your boyfriend around your son. Take your son to counseling. Whether it’s true or not you need to separate them and find the root of the issues. I don’t think children say these types of things for no reason. If he is lying then you need to sit him down and explain that lying about something like that is really bad and could cause a lot of problems for you and your boyfriend. But I wouldn’t write it off completely as a lie.
Maybe try telling your son that lies does not get him by in life and that he can be in HUGE trouble for lying he said the wrong thing to the wrong person. That the authorities could take him away to a much worse place. Some kids just don’t realize how good they have it until they don’t.
My son goes through phases of telling wild stories. When I was pregnant he told his school I was in an accident and lost the baby. His Dad and I later separated and his stories got wilder. I took him to counseling. Yes CPS showed up but quickly realized we were going through a tough time and we just needed help. I reached out to every resource I could and was an open book. I know exactly how terrible thia can be. First and foremost let your child know you are listening. My sons counselor believes he did it out of fear and for attention depending on the situation. My heart goes out to you, your son and bf. This is tough. Step 1: make sure he is safe and knows you are there for him. 2: get help!
My kids will say stuff like that. My husband is their stepdad and yes I know they’re lying because I’ve been sitting there watching and he’ll swat their ass and not hard and then my kid will be like daddy hurt me/hit me. Also about 2 wks ago my daughter came home from school and said my daddy touched me after asking her what she meant she told me he had tickled her but because she was mad at him because he had told her no or something and so he tickled her to try to cheer her up it made her upset he did it. I told her she has to be careful saying that kind of stuff because if someone else like a teacher heard “my daddy touched” me they’d probably call the cops and stuff nd daddy could get in trouble for something he didn’t actually do. But if you’re not constantly around I would suggest like others that you should put in some nanny cams and such to watch.
You need to listen to your son. No child in their right mind will make something up like this.
Some kids sad but true do lie to get their way. My step daughter does it all the time.
A friend’s stepdaughter falsely accused her mom’s boyfriend. He was arrested at work. An investigation proved she lied. My younger daughter told kids at school, she was hit with a knofe. The sheriff’s deputy took her from school. I was called to the sheriff’s office.i had to explain what happened. She liked the attention and her story grew and grew.she said he held the blade of a big knife and hit her with the handle.
My suggestion is to talk to your child. See what’s going on with him. Seek professional help.
I’m not going to tell you that you that you’re working for doubting your child or whatever they other people are commenting. My oldest have told stories that are untrue. Kids do unbelievable things for stupid reasons
Well im not saying u but some mothers put boy frind first
Ma’am with so many of these babies DYING at the hands of mommy’s New man, I beg you to investigate this, Nanny cams are cheap and easily installed. As a parent of 29 yrs I must say, several of your statements are concerning. How long have you known this man before allowing contact with your son? Why is ANYONE getting on YOUR child especially if you’re there? If the child is telling Family members that he’s being mistreated ,My next piece of advice is to pull a BACKGROUND CHECK on this man IMMEDIATELY!
I’m sorry, but I will always put my son first and I’ll believe him over anyone.
All the step dads i know has abuse the kids
Boot camp
Sorry but kids do lie!
Its happened in my family
Vengeful people put kids up to it
My twin sister is one of them and kids will obey her
My ex did it
And now it’s normal to lie
It’s a ruthless world and becuz oe poor parenting and selfishness…kids follow wrong role model
Only that there are huge consequences
All resorts to being very jealous
Ur son is jealous of all the attention u give ur new bf and has resorted to this
Be careful…
I do believe kids when they report stuff
I’m a mandatory reporter
I’m not discouraged not believing ur son
It’s really hard to tell since we dont know ur life but there is truth going both ways
Wow everybody is on here saying the man is abusing the child, although she said she knows for sure he is not. Yes kids DO lie sometimes to get attention. She’s asking for help with her situation not for people to tell her, her boyfriend is lying. You should just assume she knows her family situation for sure. She didn’t ask your opinion on whether you think the boyfriend is hitting the kid, she asked for your opinion on what she should do with the situation that she described. SMH
Sounds like you’re sons jealous he’s not the man of the house nomire easiest way to get rid of him is say lies of abuse your sons smart he no’s exactly what he’s doing
It’s so easy to say if you have nothing to hide why care if you get investigated! If you have never been through it you can never understand what it’s like. How stressful and damaging it can be. You have investigators going to your kids school pulling them from their classroom and questioning them so then all their friends know. The friends tell their parents and before you know it all the parents at the school are staring and whispering behind your back. Then the whole town knows and before you know it you can’t leave your house. You move towns the file follows you and even when they admit to lieing the file on you NEVER goes away. So yeah you may not have anything to hide but it will destroy your life
Some kids DO lie.
Have you tried talking to your child about it? He needs to know that making false claims like that can ruin an innocent person’s life. But you child also needs to know that you will listen to him and be there to protect him.
If i were in your situation I would put cameras up around the house, try spending one on one time with my child more often, but also stay firm on what you do and do not let your child get away with.
I wouldn’t completely stop seeing my boyfriend BUT I would just focus mostly on my child and try to figure out why he’s making those allegations.
YOU NEED TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR SON!! Genuine time that he feels you are there with him and for him. So he doesn’t see the need to “get rid of the person stealing your attention”.
I’m talking out of experience! I was 8 years old when I decided to take a brush comb and literally scrape my own back open so that the school would see it when we were doing swimming season. They quietly took me into the Directors office and asked me if I was being abused. I wasn’t. But I played it to a tee, saying things like “noooo, everything is ok, I promise, I promise I’m not being abused” (which was true), but what should the teachers think right?! But I was the saddest kid ever, so angry, that I staged an abusive situation to get ANYONES attention. No 8 year old should be capable of thinking such an extreme situation to execute. So all I’m saying is, you say he does this with your guys. Maybe you need to make sure that your kid knows he’s your number one before an outsider. Go to therapy with him. Figure it out, but mostly take damn responsibility. Best of luck
Wooooowwww I’d believe my child 