My spouse constantly stares at other women: Advice?

My husband constantly stares at other women when we go out in public…and it isnt just a glance…its a full on stare and he tries to make eye contact with them when I am literally standing right next to him…i have asked him to stop as it feels disprespectful but he tells me that I am overreacting…thoguhts?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My spouse constantly stares at other women: Advice?

Very disrespectful!!!

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Ew, he will never change, sadly.

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Do it to him with men. Seems like a jackass. If he won’t stop either give him a taste of his own medicine or try again but at the end of the day if he’s that way he might never stop and you’ll have to decide if u want to put up with it or not unfortunately. Oxoxo

Poke him in the eyeballs

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Start staring at men then see whose over reacting.

Human beings have this hypocrite flaw and unless it happens to them it doesn’t occur to most people how it makes someone else feel.

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Do the same back with males.
Full on glances and stare so he sees it.

Then see what his reaction is then

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Honestly in my opinion , so it used to bother me but now that I’m with my current guy I have a new outlook on it . Guys are going to look at other women just as us as women look at other Guys wether we deny it or not it’s true . I say go ahead and look . Nothing physical is going on . It comes down to trusting your significant other . I trust that my man can think another female is attractive but guess who he is with every night and calling beautiful and saying I love you to? Me ! And I know not every situation is similar but that’s just how my situation is . Everyone is different .

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No you’re not overreacting you need to kick him to the curb

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Just walk up too the girl and say hey this Weirdo keeps staring at you :rofl::rofl: he will feel like a DICK

That’s rude! Try it on him, see how he likes that!

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Disrespectful to you and the other women. Do the other women seem to be annoyed? I’ve been stared at and is very uncomfortable

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& U stand there and put up with it.

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Do it to other men. Have him see how it feels.

Leave him… he don’t care about your feelings and emotions. Find someone better. Ask him how would he like it if you did that and see what he says if he says he don’t care than leave because that means he doesn’t love you any man who loves his wife/significant other would not be staring at other people who
They find attractive. I knew I was in love with my man when I wasn’t even attracted to other men anymore

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If he knows how you feel and keeps doing it, why are you staying and allowing him to disrespect you? :cry:

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Mine does too sometimes. But truthfully it’s just a look. I look at other women, we look together… Women are beautiful! But sometimes I’ll tell him he’s being a creep lol :joy: idk. I wouldn’t let it get to you to much.

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There are a lot of good looking men out there. Tit for tat.

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You spelled “my spouse doesn’t respect me” wrong
:woman_shrugging: boundaries are the foundation of any healthy relationship you cant force someone to respect your boundaries but you do get to decide how long you welcome it in your life

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I personally wouldn’t put up with it BUT if you want to you should legit start walking up to the women and introducing him :joy:
Embarrass TF out of him

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My husband does the same…he’s eyesight is blurry now cos he’s diabetic …

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It’s rude and disrespectful, especially when you’ve already made your feelings known. Looking isn’t as bad as cheating, but the disrespect is

Do the same to guys and see his reaction.

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Start staring at men the same way he stares at women, throw a couple cat calls out there at them too make him feel it for how it makes you feel. No one likes it when you pull a them on them but it teaches the lesson.

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Why you wasting your time? If he can’t respect you, then move on :woman_shrugging:t2:

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My mom always said they could look but not touch.

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NOT overreacting. It’s incredibly disrespectful. Since he doesn’t think it is he probably won’t change. This bothers you. It would me no doubt about it. Time to decide if you’re willing to tolerate his behavior. If you’re not then the time has come to go. DO NOT let this affect you or make you feel less than. It’s his issue not yours.

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My ex used to do this
One day I asked him if he wanted her number and offered to go get it for him
He never did it again

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Disrespectful! Do the same to guys and see how he feels! :rofl:

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He is a bag of dicks. I’d do the same to hotter men and bet those guys will help you to succeed! Fuck that worthless meat wagon.

One a dirty :dog:! Always a dirty :dog2:. It is what it is

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And it’s only the beginning :unamused: it starts being creepy towards other women and disrespectful to you, then there will come lies and hiding sh!t.
I wouldn’t be able to be in relationship with someone so blatantly disregards my feelings. I’d never be able to trust such person.

Start looking up hot guys in your area. Stare at :man: in public. Say hi, wave, wink.

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Yeh…its a no from me…u deserve much better

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A man’s role isn’t to make you jealous of other women, it’s to make other women jealous you. He tries to make eye contact? That’s extremely disrespectful. Ditch him.

Tell the first woman he does it to next that your husband apparently would like to speak to her. Lol. His reaction will tell you what you need to know.

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I’d walk if I were you

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Disrespectful af and at it’s finest. Next!

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Do not put up with it.

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Do the same to him!! Don’t let him know ot bothers you !!

Does he have a brother :thinking:

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Thoguhts is funny!
This post not so much… no respect no glory!

My ex used to do the same and it would be to the point where if they walked past he would turn around to look. To me there’s a HUGE difference between acknowledging and full on staring. I have never had a problem with my man acknowledging another woman’s beauty because I know they are beautiful people but there is a respectful way to proceed with going on with it and a disrespectful way. If it were me, given that I’ve been through it before, I would either say 1) be respectful about it or 2) leave and get out

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That’s kinda weird. A tad serial killer ish. But that’s because I listen to murder podcasts imo

Men suck… Seriously… They are POS… My best friend is gay… We are not friends because I put it out there there’s that he is a swinger… And we were trying… And I’m still the bad guy…:face_with_symbols_over_mouth::face_with_symbols_over_mouth::face_with_symbols_over_mouth::face_with_symbols_over_mouth::face_with_symbols_over_mouth::face_with_symbols_over_mouth:

How fucking rude, don’t stand for that shit

Well since your married I wouldn’t necessarily agree with just “ditch” him if that’s your major issue in your relationship then I think your doing alright- it is disrespectful though and maybe express exactly how you feel cause men truly will do things and not know how stupid they are… but good luck!! :four_leaf_clover:

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The problem is you’ve expressed discomfort and he’s gaslight you and dismissed your feelings. If he can do it for something like this I would be concerned he gives 0 about how you feel as long as he gets to do what he wants

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My ex was like this. Embarrass the hell out of him next time, walk over to the lady and say “can my creep of a husband have your phone number because he keeps staring at you while he’s sitting next to me”

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Honestly after trying to talk to him and express your uncomfortable feelings around this that he has disrespected
I would loudly say to him during these moments did you pick up the viagra today babe?
Or for the last time I don’t know what that rash is down there :joy:
All else fails compliment the woman he’s looking at it will make him feel uncomfortable and her attention will be on you in a positive way.
Make another woman smile :smiley:

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I had the same issue of checking out other woman and one day I decide to look into why I might do and I found a article few month back that kind of explained it.
https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/why-do-men-look-at-other-women/#:~:text=Indeed%2C%20men%20staring%20at%20other%20women%20or%20men,in%20your%20presence%20without%20any%20guilt%20or%20remorse.

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My man too but I started looking at men too !! Like seriously I never did and now I do and now I see how really man take care of themself sometimes lol but do it too who cares if he loves you he won’t cheat if he cheats fuck him move on he’ll do the same to her so !!! Let’s move on girly :heart: trust me I deal with this all the time I stopped giving a damn not to long ago and it started bothering him

My friends husband did that and even compared her body to theirs! And she said she was unfazed by it. But honestly I think it did. She loved him so much she didn’t wanna lose him. He passed away last year. And never seen her so happy and healthy

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Get u someone who stares at u like he stares at other women.

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He’s disrespectful asf and honey you need to end this relationship he is disrespecting you right to your face and you are telling him that makes you uncomfortable but then tells you that your over reacting no your not that’s disrespectful asf and you deserve so much better than that kinda treatment he is not your soulmate just imagine he does that with your presence wth he does when your not around it’s time to end this relationship and move on find someone that will treat you as you deserve and love you as you deserve and wouldn’t want to entertain no ther woman than you girl don’t settle for less than you deserve :ok_hand::pray:

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But on another note I am curious as to way anytime a guy is doing something a woman may not like and she post about on here a lot of go right to say she needs to leave him. If someone could please explain why that is the go to thing?

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He’s completely out of line… I wouldn’t be having it… He needs an a** whipping and I would give him one… This Cajun girl is single and not doing anything to change it…

It’s one thing to glance, but to full on stare… especially being married and him doing it infront of you, is a major slap in the face. Especially since you have voiced your feelings about his actions in doing so. He obviously isn’t respecting you, or y’alls marriage.

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The fact that he ignores how u feel and says ur overreacting says it all. If it didn’t upset u you wouldn’t mention it. If he cared he wouldn’t want to upset you.

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Start doing the same thing. Right in front of him. Be obvious and shameless about it. See if he cares then. :woman_shrugging:t2: Have a conversation if he does.

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Ugh mine does that too, and holds the eye contact… :woman_facepalming:t2: gotten to the point I don’t like going anywhere with him because I can’t help but watch him, I don’t even think he realizes he does it… because he’s always confused when I bring it up. Aside from that we are great.

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All I want to say is if it’s a big deal to you, it should be a big deal to your partner. If your partner doesn’t help find common ground or brushes your concerns to the side reconsider that relationship

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Start telling him how hot the other guys are!!! See if he likes his own medicine!!! Probs not!!!

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Over react yourself, right out the door!!!

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I say start staring at fine men. I don’t buy into that, men will be men crap. I bet he won’t like it when you do it. It doesn’t sound like a secure relationship. :confused:

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If after communicating your feelings how you values you is by his actions after:

If he starts calling you names after you communicated your feelings about if then, he doesn’t respect you or your feelings.

If he validated your feelings and communicated that he would stop or changed so he only has a quick look then, he is telling you that he respects your feelings about it.

Based on how he reacted to you communicating your feelings would be wether the decision to leave or stay would need to be made.

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Soooooo…. Should he just look at the ground? Or only look and men and children……?

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I would start to do the same and look at other men, give them the odd smile here and there and randomly say hi to some

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He would be limping…

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If you don’t like it then he should respect it. For my husband and myself we make a game out of it. When we were younger we’d see who could get the most numbers then give each other a prize lol. But it’s not for everyone. If you don’t like it set your boundaries if he doesn’t like it then he doesn’t deserve you.

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That’s creepy :laughing::laughing: if I feel someone tryna make eye contact with me, it makes me so uncomfortable I’ll give them the crazy eyes

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Remind him to make it quick before someone accuses him of harassment or her jealous guy sees & decides hubs needs a good beating for disrespecting his woman.

Chances are this is a bad habit he’s unlikely to break, but maybe could modify. If he’s willing to go to counseling with you that may help. Sometimes having someone other than you explain things gets through hard heads more effectively.

Girl you better RUN :running_woman:

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Well…There are some beautiful men out there also so get Your stare on hun😍

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Well try a new look he maybe wanting a change

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You have two options

  1. Do the same ( stares at men in a very disrespectful way)
  2. The next time, call the girl he is looking at and tell her that your creppy husband wants to meet her
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Start smiling and staring at other men to where he sees it. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

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It feels disrespectful because it is disrespectful. For him to tell you you’re over reacting is gaslighting. Get some real help.

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Can’t imagine how he is without you around

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Every time he does it tell him out loud … “ your dick isn’t big enough for her “ he might stop it really quick lol nah in all seriousness he has a problem that he can’t respect other women let alone his wife …

He is a rude, ignorant ass. Bye!!

He is a human being after all…give yourself a huge break!

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All of your husbands have stared at me since I was 15 years of age, and it’s DISGUSTING! What are you looking at?! They go home and have sex with their wives, sleep with them every night while I have been alone for most of my life, and think that we are just here for their lust to be used? Think of it from my pov. My own cousins’ husbands have stared at me to the point that I didn’t want to go over for The Holidays. Why don’t you all ask yourselves what kind of men you married that they think women are to be ogled whilst they pledged their entire lives to being with one woman on the fun , gift-giving, clapping happy attention-getting Wedding Day? We notice beautiful things or things that get our attention. Noticing is not STARING. Lasciviously. We are created in the image of God. That means we are of spirit, not of animalistic body alone. Why don’t you mention that to your husband? It is extremely disrespectful to do this around your wife and, imo, it’s being unfaithful. Being unfaithful breaks the marital vow, and did u know it is also breaks the civil marital contract?

My man stares and comments on other women all the time. We hangout with a lot of single men… single beautiful women are everywhere. We joke about finding other people knowing neither is going anywhere….

Sounds like maybe an insecurity, how comfortable are you with yourself?
How confident are you in your relationship?
Is he cheating? (really tho trust your gut)…

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Poke him in the eyes

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Do it back to him. I wouldn’t put up with my partner straight up staring at someone. Mind u, he doesnt even realise other people exist when we go out

Creepy as hell to me. Let me look at him and her. Then it will make sense jk

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TURN THE TABLES ON HIM
THIS IS WHAT SOMEONE I KNOW DID
Arrange to have a guy friend pass you in the store or wherever you are going to be and make strong eye contact with you and turn around and start talking to you and ask for your number and such
And when your hubby interferes and says wtf are you doing he just says well you are checking out females and i thought you cant possibly with this gorgeous female if you are doing that
It stopped her hubby instantly from starring super hard

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Are we all blind or supposed to be? Do you have insecurities to address? All of us look.

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He doesn’t care about your feelings if he did he would not do that and he has no respect for you and if he gets the chance he will do more than look

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If he does that around you , imagine what he does when you’re not there

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If he’s going for full eye contact he’s been cheating on you Hon. Why waste your time on someone who can’t respect you fuck him file for a divorce

Fight fire with fire honey …you get your stare on as well, and even add a drool if you can :wink:

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Am sorry but if he can be like that infront of you what is he doing when your not around?
I’d ask if he would be willing to do marriage counseling if it gets worse tbh
But for now I’d just stare and smile at guys you think are nice do it back then when he moans say oh so it’s only you that’s allowed to do it na don’t think so do NOT dissrespect me and I won’t dissrespect you simple

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Everyone talking about her insecurities, she’s not saying he looks at other women. HE LOOKS AT them, trying to make hard contact like he’s trying to pick them up and flirt right in front of her. There’s a difference for all those, “I lOok, mY huSbaNd loOks” ppl. :expressionless:

I mean, if he’s got no shame doing that in front of her, I wonder how he is by himself.

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Wonder what he would he would do if one of those women’s husbands would beat the crap out of him for trying to pick up his wife. Probably cry like a baby.

Do the same with men

I ain’t gonna lie I look then tap my husband and be like babe look at her she is gorgeous! But if this is somthing you find disrespectful and have expressed that to him and he dosnt respect your boundaries then that’s a problem! I would suggest you start looking at guys the way he looks at girls and make it obvious and when he has a problem tell him “oh your over reacting” like he did you! Some times giving an a taste of his own medicine is what it takes!

Trash :wastebasket: my ex husband did this frequently. :broken_heart: I politely confronted him on the matter until I was impolite. I’d rather be single or enter the crap dating pool again rather to relive that nightmare. Sending love to you. Remember, you are beautiful :star_struck:

My ex used to do this all the time, but when he thought I was looking too long at someone he would flip right out. Turns out he was cheating throughout our entire relationship with anyone that would show interest. It is a red flag, do it back and see how he reacts…

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