Hello. Looking for advice here. My stepson, 13, lives with us full time. Long story short, he has some mental health issues such as ODD, ADHD, and anxiety. He’s on three different medications. His mom decided she couldn’t handle him about 5 years ago and he came to live with his father and I. His Dad and I also have two bio daughters together. He went back to live with his mom this year in April, and she called in July to say that she was done with him again. His mom is remarried to a woman, and this woman has 4 kids of her own. So apparently he told his 8 year old stepsister that she was pretty. This little girl has been sexually abused in the past, so they decided they weren’t going to take any chances and sent him away to live with us again. (And yes, it’s permanent this time). He hasn’t been back to their house since. His mom hasn’t called either. She’s basically washed her hands of him. She texted my husband a few days ago and said that her 10 year old stepdaughter (not the same one as before) is accusing my stepson of molesting her. So they took her to the doctor to get checked out. The doctor really couldn’t find anything conclusive. But they contacted the police. The police contacted my husband yesterday and said they want to interview us and all our children. As soon as we found out about this, I took my oldest daughter, who’s 7, aside and asked her if her brother had ever touched her inappropriately or done anything to hurt her. She vehemently said no. My other daughter is only 3 and not old enough to understand so I didn’t ask her. My husband grilled my stepson on 3 separate occasions about what happened, and my stepson vehemently denied it all 3 times. My husband thinks he is telling the truth. I don’t know what to think.
So I guess I am just wondering if anyone has any advice? Have any of your children ever been accused of a crime? Should I contact a lawyer? What should I expect from the police? Is DCS going to come? So many questions.