can you get the car governed? (cap the speed so he can’t go over)
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Put him on the school bus if he’s speeding in school zones he could loose his license if you’re responsible for him I wouldn’t allow it.
He could hurt or kill someone, even a child.
This is ridiculous!
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Iam a Parent of 30 years, NOPE, Take the car! Natural consequences are all fine and good BUT in the case could result in him seriously injuring Or God FORBID killing someone. He can ride the bus to school ,walk, ride a bike, or Uber. Inconvenience isn’t going to get you SUED for wrongful death . Not to mention KNOWING this is an issue and NOT taking the car Makes you as the Parent 2xs as Irresponsible for continuing to let it happen.
Give him the option. Stop speeding or lose the car .He needs to face the reality of his actions.
Take away the car, they can ride the bus. Or arrange their own ride to school every day.
Find a cop friend to pull him over and write him a ticket 
that’ll fix his problem. If he’s gotta pay for the ticket, the court fees, a lawyer, if not a lawyer then the increased insurance rate, then he’ll definitely never do it again if he makes his own money.
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How do u know he is speeding
Take the car away. It’s better than losing your child. Make them find a way to places. They will see that they can’t afford to keep speeding and risk losing their license and having to do that all the time.
Take the car away from the poor little entitled one. Easy.
So none of y’all sped in high school? 
I’m not saying it’s “right” but I don’t remember doing the speed limit at all from 16-22. If you’re that worried, make him work and get the safe driver insurance with the gps monitor. Money talks
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Why can’t you take keys away make him ride the bus and quit his job?
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Honestly, I would take the car away because it’s only a matter of time before he will injure/kill himself or someone else. If someone is not available to drive him, HE needs to be responsible for where he needs to go (bike, uber, whatever). I have epilepsy and I couldn’t drive starting at 16, but I found ways around…uber, pace bus, and thankfully people who drove me when they could. It’s doable.
Take away the car. Driving is a privilege, not a right. If he they are not responsible they can bus or carpool
Idc how much of an inconvenience it is that car would be gone… natural consequences would most likely lead that that anyways soooo
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Taking the vehicle away is an option, sometimes parenting isn’t convenient.
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Don’t wait. Take it. He could kill someone
Take the car ??? Who’s the parent you or him ??
How did he get to school prior to having a licence ?
And if he did happen to lose it, how would he then get to school?
Natural consequences? Are you insane? You’re willing to risk OTHER people’s lives because you refuse to take the car away? 
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Teens still have developing brains. He obviously isn’t mature enough to understand cause & effect, or a consequence. He’s not mature enough to be driving. What other driving rules is he choosing not to obey?? These aren’t optional. Kids like this end up causing accidents that take the lives of those who are driving safely and respect the level of responsibility that driving brings.
Well we made our start paying for insurance and eventually everything (which is good) but still did it. I understand taking the card is a big inconvenience but last year we took the car and made him ride the bus the last two months of school. That slowed him down. Now here we are in school again and it has started and i do not want to take his car bc it is such a flippin hassle and punishment for you sometimes but gotta do it sometimes. Praying for you momma.
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Putting countless other people in danger because you don’t want the inconvenience is insane. I wonder how difficult your life will be once he kills himself or others…
Do you pay for the car and the insurance? If he’s going to continue to speed and risk his life and those other drivers on the road he can buy his own car and pay his own insurance. You can also set him up as terrible as that sounds. If it’s an area you know he always speeds call the police and complain that a car keeps speeding in the area. A ticket he has to pay for and possible loss of license should help out.
have the police give him his first ticket?
Take the car… be a PARENT!!! If he kills or injured someone you should be charged too.
My daughter got hit by a speeding car you shouldn’t even have to think about it take his car away it’s ppl like him that’s killing innocent ppl !!! 
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You talk of natural consequences so make him take the bus.
I’d hand him a bike and take that car away! Your NOT an option is crazy. If he gets in an accident he could kill someone and/or himself. And that’s not a weight I’d wanna have on my shoulders the rest of my life.
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Better taking care away then a casket,
Welp if he hits someone they can take you to court since you’re responsible for him
You’re a parent. Be one. Take the vehicle away. It’s a privilege he hasn’t earned if he’s going to be putting everyone else on the road at risk. Or let him learn the hard way and call the police to keep an eye out. He gets in trouble for reckless endangerment and your insurance goes up, all which he will cry he can’t pay for.
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He can take bus to school most likely and home he could injure or kill himself or someone else . Take the keys he isn’t responsible enough to be driving
Make them take the bus for a week.
For God’s sake be the parent !!!
Well find him a way to school then even if you have to pay someone. So you won’t take the car away but maybe he’ll get a ticket to learn OR he’ll kill himself and/or someone else not to disrupt your life. 
Unreal.
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Could make him pay for his Insurance
My mom showed me crime scene photos of people that died in car crashes going to fast. Now everytime I find myself speeding I instantly see those photos.
She tried every other way under the sun before she chose to do that.
I’m a visual learner so it was the only thing that stuck.
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take the car. tell him to use a bike
If you don’t take the car away, you may be burying your son.
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I make him pay for his own car insurance!! I don’t know what state you are in,but in new jersey if you get a speeding ticket your car insurance goes up 30%!!
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Taking the car away is the only option …. Better option than your child killing himself or others on the road .
Make them ride the bus! Public transportation or have a friend pick them up! And make them pay for their own insurance once they get it back! It’s better then them causing a wreck and hurting themselves or others! How do you guys know he’s always speeding? Do you have something on the car that tells you?
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Take keys away, hide car if a must, they can find rides elsewhere, have him pay for all tickets and insurance w extra benefits like rentals, put him/her through defensive driving courses, if nothing else, remove his license, idk how other than a judgment
Taking the cat is ALWAYS an option. Clearly the kid isn’t mature enough to be behind the wheel of a 2 ton weapon. Suck it up and take it away. It’s as much your responsibility as it is his!
Teen?
Why let him drive until he kills someone or himself?
Take his license and car keys make him walk or find rides. Before he kills himself or someone else.
I know you don’t want to take the car away… but you’re putting other people at risk by allowing this
Uber, Lyft, traditional taxi bus, train and just do it for a week or so to get him scared and uncomfortable to the point he won’t do it
Driving is a privilege, take the car away before he or she kills themselves or someone else.
If it’s not an option to take the car away and he knows that then there is nothing you can do.
You say natural consequences to teach the lesson and im assuming you mean a ticket, but that could also mean and accident or death of himself or someone else. Im sure taking the car would be the better option than losing your child. Take the car
Take away the car. It’s not worth his or someone else’s life to work around work and school scheduling. Plenty of people manage to get to work and school without a car when they need to. Maybe if he’s uncomfortable for a minute, he’ll appreciate the privilege of driving a car.
Natural consequences could get the child or someone else killed.
Honestly if it were my kid, and for some reason taking away the car wasn’t an option, I’d set them up.
Talk to local highway patrol, see where they’ll be sitting, let them know the problem with your kid, and then go for a car ride with the kid - getting them to drive by where the highway patrol is sitting.
Repeat as necessary until they get it.
Make him pay the insurance…or take the car and make him have to find a ride to point a and b…is it going to be an inconvenience yes…but it means the difference between his life let alone someone else’s life and the possibility of him being locked up for vehicular manslaughter.
City bus to school and paying for his own Uber and cabs to work. Take the friggin vehicle away! It’s a PRIVILEGE TO DRIVE not his right.
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Kid can walk or take the bus… TF is wrong with parents now days?
Time to make him ride the bus or his bicycle. I also have a new driver and he’s been warned what will happen if he keeps up speeding.
Inconvenience for you to take the car but how will it change your child if he killed someone while speeding or how would it change you if he died because of his recklessness? Lessons need to be learned because “natural consequences “ could be devastating to you, him and so many others.
Get him a 1965 ford falcon with a170 straight 6 he can try to speed
My cousin was killed because he did that at 17 and badly injured another and my aunt said same but now look they being sued and lost their son and someone was badly hurt
Let him drive to school only. Take the car for all other times. Maybe, when he can’t drive to take out a date or do extracurricular activities he will get the message
Take the Vehicle!!!
Options after taking car :
Uber
Public transportation
Bicycle
Rides from friends , coworkers, etc
Walking
Govern the vehicle
He pays the speeding tickets and pays his own car insurance.
If he continues to get speeding tickets you will loose the ability to insure him then you will have no choice but to take the car away….or he could simply loose his license. And let’s not even talk about the risk to himself or others if he gets in a wreck. Teach him to drive safely or prepare YOURSELF for the consequences
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Take the car. What if something happens like he wrecks the car and gets badly hurt and hospitalized or even dies, or what if he hurts someone else and they die? You would be just as responsible for anything happening because you know it’s happening.
Taking the car away os always an option. I’d do it, then I would make him figure it all out as to how he’s going to get to where he needs to go! I’d rather that than have him kill someone, hurt someone or himself!
TAKE THE CAR AWAY
There are modes of public transportation, bikes, rollerskates, and walking
Death is worse, that car will be taken away so fast.
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You can take the car or you can call the cops yourself. If they don’t learn one way they’re going to get themselves or someone else killed.
Take the car. I was the same way until my parents took the car and made me pay for my own insurance.
Natural consequences could be his death. He won’t learn much from that. I’d take the keys
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My daughter is the same. Friday’s fiasco. She now has her own policy. Idk what to do anymore. We live in a small town and ubers aren’t local. She also goes to school and work. She’s lucky on this accident as it could have been bad. 
Natural consequences?? Like killing someone! Teenagers should not be given a license. Take that car away before he winds up in serious trouble. That’s dangerous letting him out there driving like that. He can take the bus. Sounds spoiled.
Have you not heard about speed kills? You need to take that car away and make him ride the bus or figure out an alternative way but absolutely don’t let the consequences happen cause he can literally kill someone else. This is beyond me and this is why people do not learn their consequences of their actions. SMH.
You could call your local court house and ask when they have traffic dockets. Make him go watch one so he can see what happens if he doesn’t slow down.
See if your area has a crash show for kid different names in different are as it shows cars and what happens afterward deaths ect if does not work you need to think aboutetting him get nailed by police he is going to get hurt or someone else let him have to par for it now
You definitely need to take the car away regardless of how much an inconvenience it would be. Better to do that than him to cause an accident by speeding.
Take the car and he can either find a ride to work, or quit.
Take the car away. He can get another job. He can’t get another life. This is a no brainer.
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Woman take the car!!! TF?!
So you’re waiting for him to kill himself or someone else as a consequence?
You’d need arrested too!
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Taking the car away is never not an option, tell him to take the bus and find a job to accommodates that. If you’re not willing to do that start having him pay you $100 a month if he wants to continue speeding to cover the increase in insurance you will have when he has a ticket for going 15-20mph over.
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Take the keys, before he takes a life… Maybe have him watch Signal 30. Maybe see if any of your local PD or highway patrol could take the time to come talk to him about their experiences when it comes to reckless driving. Even if it’s a brutal, fatal story.
Take the car away regardless, safety first ,if he does not listen and drives that fast he could kill someone and spend the rest of his life in jail
Take the car away and give him a bike. He’ll be fine.
Take his vehicle away for a while.
Talk to the local tow company and ask them to take your kid on a tour of the wrecks they’ve worked due to speeding. My dad was a tow driver when I started driving and I’ll never forget the vehicle with brain matter all over the car because dude didn’t slow down. Or the vehicle tore in half by a phone pole because they weren’t paying enough attention.
Taking a car away is a lot better than finding the wrapped around a tree
God gave him two legs for a reason. If you Dont take the car away …sooner or later your not going to have to worry about it cause he’s going to end up killing hiself or someone else and in that case he’ll be dead or in jail.
Deal with it now while you have your son or deal with it later when your making arrangements.
It’s pretty simple really.
Call the PD and have him pulled over. Maybe a good lesson???
First of all, he needs to know you’re the boss. How did he get to school before he had a license?
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If he gets a ticket key are yours.
You say taking the car away isn’t an option, is that bc it’s an inconvenience to YOU? I’m sure visiting in prison or at the graveyard is inconvenient as well. Pick your poison.
Just imagine how you’d feel if your son is responsible for killing people because of his actions…next minute he is in jail for a long time and you’ve lost your son and more than likely will feel responsible for the preventable deaths of those innocent people (preventable because you could have taught your son a lesson before this happened). Or your son just kills himself or permanently disables himself and you’re now his full time carer for life.
I’d give him one more shot. You speed again and you don’t get the car for x amount of time and your day will start hella early cause you’ll be walking to school whether you like it or not…perhaps then a fortnight or more of having to get to school will teach him a lesson. Then I’d give him one more shot, if he does it again car is permanently off limits.
Before all of this perhaps find pictures of car accidents and people maimed and tell him that could be him or other people because of him. Get him to listen to stories (probably can find some on youtube) about people losing family members because of people speeding etc). See how all that goes. Good luck with it all
Make him pay for his own insurance, and put one of those things on the car that monitors stuff like that, his rates will go up. Or take the car, “natural consequences” could result in the loss of his or someone else’s life
Take away vehicle before he dies
How is taking away the vehicle not an option??? How did he get places before he drove??? Stop being a friend ,& start being a parent
Natural consequences could mean death. Do a teen speeding car accident search. Is there a bus he could take for school? A friend that could drive him? Make the schedule work until he gets it.
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Take the car!! He could KILL himself or somebody else! He may have to ride the bus and he may have quit his job but that is something he has learn. Reposbile people get to drive.
Take the car make him pay for cab with his own money.
Looking at the broader picture here…inconvenience him by taking the car away or the latter, inconveniencing your life or other people’s lives by potential death or serious injury…I think this is a no brainer. Take the car, potentially save his life, potentially save other people’s lives.