Please dont take this wrong. Because i would think it was great if men could come to this group for help as well. But i thought i was a womens group is why im saying this. If you are a woman and shes your wife then dont you already know she likes women? Im all with loving who u love so once again please do not take this comment wrong. Im just confused as to if men can be in this group or if it was just women.
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Sorry this is happening to you. Sadly there isnât much you can do but whatâs best for you. In a way she is already cheating on you at least emotionally and mentally. I feel for you and wish you the best but I canât see this working out in the long run. Go find yourself a woman that is 100% sure she is into men and find one that compliments you and makes you happy.
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Your wife may be Iâm the middle of a very emotional scarey thing to go through. I was the wife in this situation and in reality I wasnât gay, I was bisexual which has never been a secret in my case its just my ex husband and the multiple times he cheated and made me feel unwanted and unloved that pushed me to have an interest in someone else who just so happened to be a girl. Your wife may well just be feeling that something is missing so give her the space. But donât dissapear completely if my ex husband had actually shown me anything that gave me hope I probably wouldnât have left him because I in fact was in love with him he was my childhood sweetheart but when he freaked out and tried to guilt me and cussed me out and yelled and screamed I knew that day he was never going to be supportive of anything I did. Show her that you care by being there for her and being supportive she could be just as confused and scared as you are. Kindness is key you never know what someoneâs got in their mind
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This poor man asked a serious question and he gets laughed at and not so nice comments, people have no compassion for others these days, I feel sorry for you as if she has said shes gay Iâm afraid I think maybe you should let her go and find someone else that makes you happy, wishing you all the best
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In my opinion you donât just decide one day you might be gay, itâs something that has to be apart of a person from the beginning, some people hide it due to society pressure, religion, family, or just feeling insecure about who they are. So many choose to enter hetero marriages just to look normal
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Sometimes in life when you go through a midlife crisis you really find out who you truly are and Society and its judgments force people to think a certain way most of the time. And it takes a lot to really truly accept yourself and really truly be happy without caring what anybody else thinks. For her to come to you and be this open shows how much she truly loves and trusts you. And this is something really big and sensitive and sheâs going to need time and it doesnât mean that she doesnât love you and it doesnât mean that she wants to cheat on you and it doesnât mean that she wants to hurt you. It means the exact opposite. She has respect for you and she considers your feelings and she loves you dearly and hurting you is the last thing she ever wants to do.
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Yall are some angry ass people
Why is a man on a mamaâs page? Change the name of the groupâŚ
Dude. Leave her. Stay friends if you want to and can but no way should you stay in a romantic relationship with her.
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Do you support her financially. My ex use to use the your me best friend and person excuse to keep me around paying more things and taking care of thier kids so they didnât have too.
Yall so petty men have problems too and have children like wtf. Yall part of the problem and not the solution!
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At least she is being honest. My husband lied to me about his feelings for 31 years and after 6 kids together came out. He had been watching games porn while I was at work
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Just leave sheâs already talking to someone else. Would she be okay with you flirting on the phone with other women.
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You mean lesbian. Well, speak about it soon so she wonât waste your time being with her, & she can leave the live the life she wants. Unless she becomes bisexualđ¤ˇââď¸.
She needs to seek counseling. Not to talk her out if it but explore her feeling
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I was confused for a long time as well, i am bisexual, but have a preference for women, that being said, i LOVE my husband, and he knows I am more attracted to women then men, but also knows i would never cheat on him. What she needs is support from you, being confused in sexuality is very scary, also keep in mind when she is talking about men, she is not talking about you. She has already stated that she loves you, and youâre her person. If anything, it should be a relief she isnt attracted to other men
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Sorry man⌠sounds like her mind already made up but still loves you because you such a good guy⌠best thing you can do in your position is let her go and have her way, it may turn out just to be an âexperienceâ and she may change her mind⌠you act put of anger and you on your own all the way⌠best case scenario? Your ex-wife and new Mrs can be your ultimate wing-man âfor lack of better expressionâ⌠I wish I could be more helpful but⌠this may open up a new freedom for you that you never knew existedâŚ
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Ask her if you can watch
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Honey, at this point you consider leaving her.
Not because she might be a lesbian, but because she is already talking to another woman. You may be her âpersonâ but thatâs because you are her safety net if it isnât real. At this point she has zero respect for you and your marriage if she is already talking to someone, I would leave. You arenât married to someone to be put second best while they explore their sexuality.
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If youâre not ready to share your wife with another man youâre not ready to share with another woman sounds all fun and games until they start taking your time and your love away. Nobody likes that.
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Bang the chick she has the hots for ⌠get a threesome than leave ⌠lol
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I donât like men much but Iâm married to one. I date women on the side and he dates men on the side. We donât love each other any less, heâs my best friend, but heâs not a chick and canât give me what I need entirely, cause heâs not a woman. I canât give him what he needs entirely cause Iâm not a man.
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As a bisexual woman married to a man, communication is the key to figure out where you both are in life. If she feels the need to separate to explore her sexuality let her.
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See if there is any way u can help her first before just throwing in the towel, maybe u guys need a spark back in the relationship
A cheat is a cheat; male or female, you donât cheat on someone that you say is, âyour person,â geez 
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Buy her some Dildos 
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My husbandâs ex wife left him for another womanâŚthat lasted for about 4 years. Sheâs with another man nowâŚ
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Toni JustToni stoooop it !!! 
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Holy hole in a dount . Christ on a bike.
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If she was having secret phone convos with a man how would you feel? To me thatâs cheating no matter their sex.
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I never like women I like men but Ashley Rothenberger is my best friend best sister I can tell her anything but i donât know what to tell you man just go with your heart
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Sheâs a cheater kick her to the curb.
What would you do if she was talking to another man⌠same thingâŚyou would probably get angryâŚI know I would
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I firmly believe that if your doing something that you wouldnât be doing if your spouse was sitting beside you, your doing something WRONG. Straight from the mouth of my father who was married to the same woman for over 70 years and 6 children.
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I would think it depends on her capacity to still love both partners. Can she and does she want too? Shes your wife. But she has a gf? Just means the family got bigger 
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Technically she cheated so the the trust is gone. You have two choices, stay and try counseling or leave.
Coincidence I think not lmao
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Shake hands and part ways. It may be hard, but sheâs being selfish!
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Sheâs LITERALLY cheating on you! That is never ok unless you have zero self respect.
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If this was the other way round people would be saying kick the pos to the curb âŚâŚ sheâs cheating on you bro no matter how you look at it. Just leave her be for a while see what she does and if she comes crawling back then make a decision on how you feel.
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Cheating is cheating, give her allll the time she could ever need by letting her go!!
Drop her like a rock and move on
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Ouch. Gay is not the fantasy for men. If you love her⌠Support her. If you have children, help them transition. Hey some therapy for yourself. Know and understand that this isnât your fault⌠Go live life and youâll find your center again.
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Leave her ass. First, sheâs emotionally cheating on you. Second, she canât expect you to hang around and wait for her to make up her mind about what tf she is.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My wife told me she thinks she might be gay: What do I do? - Mamas Uncut
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You did nothing wrong , itâs about her not you let her be , if she was ,meant to be yours she will come back to you . Good luck
Let her go life is too short. Why make the rest of your life miserable because of some one stringing you along because they are not sure of what they want. Life i s to short. Find happiness for yourself.
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Sounds like she is being groomed.
Ask her to stop talking to this person. Give your marriage time to heal.
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You already know the answer. 
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Itâs wrong tell her to read the Bible and than let her see what God thinks about woman with woman.itâs wrong and if thatâs what she wants show her the door and let her go and you just pray for herâŚâŚ
Give her the space to figure out who she is let her know you support her and love her and accept that she may just be discovering who she is
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Unfortunately its time for a divorce, vows are already broken. Make it cordial and concentrate on healing yourself, move on.
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Tell your wife you were born a lesbian in a males body and youâre happy with it but only if you can join them
Love her and be proud of her and be her best damn friend in the world.
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Just love her the best way you can, and know what ever choice she makes is her personal choice and not your fault
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Wonât share it I think my ex is gay I walked away he is a good person always will be I know who am thatâs what matters
This is a deep & complex situation. There are many kinds of choices for both of you to make, as others before you. That takes time, patience, space & dedication to your practice of altruism & compassion to show you the way through this journey.
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This has to be hard. While she is figuring it out⌠I feel like I would take this time to step back and think about myself as well. Let her be herâŚbut you shouldnât be in the crossfire just waiting to be hurt. Get out and live your life as well. An affair is an affair is an affair. Just my opinion
Jesus, take the wheel! Why didnât she say this a vow ago???
You move on. Gay or not, sheâs being unfaithful.
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Sheâs telling you she donât love you anymore. Take the brick to your head put on your big boy pants and walk away now not later. She donât need time to figure things out
Maybe some couple and individual counseling can help. This way you can each sort out your feelings plus work some things together. Conversations are important so no one feels resentment. Iâm sorry she has been having an emotional affair, sheâs being open and you should be open with your feelings also. Good luck
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You should leave her. Whatâs sheâs doing is being unfaithful and cheating. When you marry someone itâs supposed to be for forever and if she is now saying that she might not even be attracted to your gender anymore its a huge problem. She chose to talk to a woman, she should have approached you before she did that and she shouldâve looked deep down and decided if she wants to stay in your marriage and if not then she could have filed for divorce and then had been as gay as her heart desired.
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If my husband said that to me, well, he could have the men or another woman. I sure wouldnât want him if he was wanting someone else.
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Let her leave. The girl crush will end and she will be back. And if she doesnât come back, then count it a bullet missed.
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Take her out for a romantic evening and listen to her. Let her initiate any intimacy. Get involved with a Bible believing church. If she wonât go with you, attend alone. Pray. Seek the Lord while He may be found.
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Well reguardless if she is or isnât isnt the question to me but more why is she having secret conversation with man or a woman. Its still cheating and if she loves you she wouldnât be doing it.
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Life is to short and Tym is fast running out honest in the fact that she is gay let her go and know u did ur best there is other woman out there that need a real man that can love them and protect and provide for them
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She could just be bisexual or just experimenting. Give her space. You canât change her but you can drive her away. If you love her then be there for her regardless of the outcome.
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Would you have asked this question if she said she had been talking to another man? Is she confused on intimate feelings vs a connection? Is she missing something in yâallâs relationship that is being fulfilled by another person but can be worked on within the marriage? If she is asking for time away just to see if it works with another person, youâre not being fair to yourself.
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She is emotionally unfaithful now. She should decide if she wants a gay lifestyle or be married. I donât think it is fair to expect both. She is telling you to wait for her. Do you want to?
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This means your marriage is based on a lie so if you have any self respect, get out of this relationship immediately where there is now no trust.
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In all honesty this is your discision and nobody can say what is right for you. Everyone can have an opinion but you know your wife, you know her heart and you know your marriage. I hope everything works out for the both of you.
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I suggest marriage counseling because she cheated regardless how you look at it. And if that doesnât help then it will be time for you to move on. Iâm married and I donât believe in divorce unless there is a significant reason to divorce. She should have been upfront with you before she took up another relationship behind your back. She is in the wrong not you. And being married the both of you said vows to each other. Well she violated those vows by taking up another relationship. But if counseling doesnât help the situation and get your marriage back on track then I suggest walking away and not staying in a miserable marriage. You deserve happiness too.
Youâll have to move on. In the meantime stay calm and donât allow bitterness or recriminations to poison your peace of mind.
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Iâd pray bout it 1st. Then if she continues on with her feelings bout a women Iâd leave.
The gay feelings canât be helped, but I wouldnât tolerate secret conversations. Faithfulness counts whether youâre questioning your sexuality or not. I wouldnât leave it up to her to decide. Iâd be out.
Cheating is cheating whether it is by the male or female; married or shacking up with each other!
Donât wait around until she figures out what she wants. Life is too short, move on.
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Why donât you meet the nice young lady?
If she is gay thereâs nothing you can do, itâs who she is. I would give her space to figure it out. It hurts Iâm sure but you have to let her go and figure it out.
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I would tell her to get lost.
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As much as it hurts, I suggest you give her her space to find herself. There really isnât anything else you can do. Being gay really isnât a choice itâs just who they are. Sometimes it takes some people longer to figure it out⌠or admit it to their loved ones. Itâs no oneâs fault. She probably shouldnât be having an emotional affair behind your back tho⌠that part I canât get behind.
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Just move the other one in and have fun with both of them
What God puts together let no man or woman separated.
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Leave she is cheating on you .
Sounds like she may be looking for ways to leave youâŚ
Sheâs Bisexual. If your a guy thatâs into 3somes then itâs also a win for you đ¤ˇ
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I lost a son and my husband 3?weeks ago. Im not happy. Im dull. Im lost without them. But⌠without God I couldnât be anywhere insane!
I think you and your wife need
therapy, so you can both talk.
A professional will help, not fb.
Time to move in, and find another woman!!
Ask her to bring her home
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It remains me of Ross Geller 
My guy⌠my heart breaks for you⌠but you gotta leave man, shes being unfaithful, and you gotta Love yourself first and more, dip with some dignity, get a good divorce lawyer so you donât get shafted, chances are she will try⌠please donât fool yourself into thinking she âwouldnât everâ. Iâm not saying you shaft her either⌠Iâm saying you âput her back right where you found herâ is all, if that meant buying her ticket to her home town⌠so be it. At this point you should be minimizing asset loss. Might be easier to sell the house and split any equity in it. Lord know the last thing you want is to be paying for a house youâre not living in, while she sleeps in your bed with NOT you.
Let your heart get coldđ§ and do whatâs best for you and you alone
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Cheating is cheating. Once a cheat always a cheat.
In sickness or in health.
You should think about whatâs best for you.
You are being gaslighted !
Find an accomplished attorney. Quick !
You should give serious thought to what you want in a relationship, than make your decision accordingly.
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I see a threesome coming upâŚEnjoy.
Ask about a threesome.