Not sure what to do or how to feel

My boyfriend watches alot of porn. He watches it on websites and on Twitter.
My main problem is that he watches it everyday sometimes several times a day. Even when him and I do the deed almost everyday. I told him I don’t like him watching porn but he hasn’t stopped or even cut down on the amount he watches. It really bothers me that he watches it but it seems that no matter how many times I express my feelings he doesn’t listen at all. I feel really ignored and like my feelings don’t matter.


Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Not sure what to do or how to feel

There’s porn on Twitter? :flushed:

Get a new boyfriend that acknowledges and respects your feelings and boundaries.


Maybe I’m weird but porn never bothered me… he could be out cheating on you and having sex with others. He’s just home watching porn, no harm

Have you told him why it bothers you? Just saying that it bothers you to him won’t change anything, he has to know the reason it bothers you.

Me, I send porn pics to my husband while he’s at work. The pics I send are drawings of anime girls and such. I don’t mind porn because if I’m not in the mood (which is never atm being 37 weeks pregnant) porn gives my hubby something to watch and look at to get off to. Without bothering me all the time for the deed. It’s ok to have fantasies, weither your male or female, just some are best not played out.

Try watching some with him to see what he likes and try it in the bedroom to see how it goes.

Sounds like he may have an addiction to it. It’s very possible.


If he’s done it since the beginning, you don’t get to tell him he can’t.


You obviously have a problem with it he should respect you and stop it. If it’s an addiction then he should want to seek help to over come it


Please don’t continue the relationship it will destroy your self esteem. If a man needs to put women on screen over his woman in real life he’s not the one for you. You deserve so much better.


Sounds like a porn addiction. Upwards of several times a day? Even after sex? Deff sounds like an addiction.

Why is Justin Pellman in this group? Of course the man would be laugh reacting everything. This group is for females.


I told my man before we got together that I’d never be ok with porn or strip clubs and if he doesn’t respect that let’s not continue to a relationship. He wasn’t big on that stuff anyways. 3 years in now and he’s always respected my wishes and really doesn’t need it anyways because he’s got me. Your man obviously doesn’t respect you and it’s probably time to end it if he isn’t willing to stop watching it.

If he is truly watching it that much, it’s become an addiction. He may not acknowledge you expressing your feelings because it’s something he won’t stop doing. Maybe you could do couple therapy and see if that can help him acknowledge your true feelings about it. If not, then you need to do what is right for you


Were you upfront about it in the beginning of your relationship? Sounds like he has a bad addiction. However if he isn’t willing to completely stop, he should respect you enough to cut it down a lot. Is it affecting your sex life? I know you said you are intimate everyday, but if it is making you insecure then it should be properly addressed.

Personally, I don’t mind when my husband watches porn. However, I’ve asked him to not subscribe to an OF. I don’t think watching it is bad, I like porn too but boundaries are still important. I don’t think it’s reasonable to demand him to stop watching porn all together but definitely set some boundaries so there’s no grey area.

He should respect your feelings.
Try offering to make some home videos that he watch instead?
Porn can be addicting, so he might have a hard time seeing that it’s an issue.

He’s probably addicted and couldn’t stop even if he wanted to. If he’s not, then he doesn’t respect you in the slightest. Either way, it’s not worth it. :tipping_hand_woman:t2:


You’re allowed to have your own feelings about the topic, and establish boundaries for yourself and your relationship. If he can’t respect any of those things, then you need to move on and find someone that will. He won’t change for you and he’ll find someone that is open to him watching porn as often as he wants. If you’re incompatible, just move on and allow both of you to be happy.

Either he stops or your gone, that simple

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Sounds like 2 addiction in one.
Once knew a meth head that was like that fucking gross.
Then i read that meth users admitted to having uncontrollable urges to watch porn and masterbate or not. Still gross.

Either move along or…idk🤷🏽‍♀️

I think what caught my attention the most about this post is I had no idea that twitter had porn :thinking:

Leave him before you end up even more hurt. I’ve been in that situation with a guy and it NEVER turns out good. He obviously has an addiction and that can lead to other problems. Ugh I’m sorry.


Couples counseling first. If he won’t go or won’t acknowledge his addiction then you put up with it or leave. If he acknowledges he’s addicted and gets help, then see how it goes.

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Ask him to seek some help esp if he admits he can’t stop

As your boyfriend continues to desensitize himself to anything resembling a healthy monogamous relationship, you also have to consider his sexual preferences may also be evolving, keep in mind that most pornography includes massive amounts of closeup images of female and “male” genitalia, that imprint while gratification is occurring can cause expansion of preference, you would be wise to proceed with caution before advancing this relationship

My ex fiancé was like this. It never stopped.
You can and will find a man that respects your boundaries!!


Watches porn all day? :triangular_flag_on_post: :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

I’m just going to say, I don’t understand why women laugh at this every time it’s posted. Just because they’re okay with it doesn’t mean we all are. I’ve been there, done that and I don’t care how ‘normalized’ it’s become, most men have a problem. It is an addiction and if it’s that bad they usually don’t care and continue with it because ‘it’s what men do’. No, it’s not. It’s addiction that’s become normalized, that we’re the ones who are supposed to feel shame and crazy for feeling the way we do. He’s probably not going to stop and if he says he has, he more than likely hasn’t, he’ll just hide it better. I have no advice but I feel for you and understand your feelings and forget what everyone else has said, you are completely normal for feeling this way! :hugs: :hugs:


you can communicate that his assumed addiction bothers you ut it’s an addiction love. decide if you want to fight with that or go forward without him. recovery has to be a choice even from porn addiction

He clearly has zero respect for you or your boundaries. :triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post::triangular_flag_on_post:

Your feelings and boundaries are valid. It definitely is a blow to some women’s egos and self esteem to watch your SO be so enthralled with provocative images of other women, let alone porn. No part of sex is special or private anymore, especially online, and it’s rather sad. If only people applied that lust and physical affection to the person they say they love, instead of a flat screen… You deserve better if his lifestyle, this addiction, isn’t for you—and you can decide that at anytime if he’s unwilling or can’t work on it. :blue_heart:

Its not the porn so much as his disregard for your feelings. If he wont listen to you on something like this,what about bigger matters…time to run

Tell him to get Therapy or leave. 3-4 times a day is excessive. This is why porn is a blight on society

I’m surprised that his member hasn’t lost any circulation lol but ultimately you will have to outweigh pros and cons to make a final decision .

what if it was a women watching porn and a man felt neglected in that way. I know I watch it alot alot But as relationships evolve the sexulual aspect changes. Work kids . I personally don’t mind my man watches it bc I do alot. but my man don’t he works and sleeps . being insecure over someone on a screen is a bit petty in my opinion but that’s me not everyone like me
Advice try get into it watch it together go to a counselor if he not hearing you. Spice things up see what he watches and try it together

Maybe he is addicted to sex

Ewww leave him. Only naked parts he should be getting off on is Yours! Sickening how people watch other people having sex to turn themselfs on. If you cant do that with your lover, then obviously they aint right for you. Idk just my view lol

It’s one thing for him to acknowledge your feelings.
It’s something else entirely to expect someone to change because YOUR feelings are hurt.

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He is addicted and this can in fact impact your relationship in the long term

Dude s got a high sex drive…be glad he watches porn instead of banging other chicks

Sounds like he has a sexual addiction

Sounds like he has a high sex drive and/or porn addiction.

Levi Ormsby better not by why twitter is on your search history or you’ll be getting another kick in the ribs bruh

Levi Ormsby I didn’t even know what the fuk twitter was and just had a look on your phone your fukn disgusting you pig. It came up straight away with what the fuk you’ve been watching you sick fuk

Ok he does something he likes. You do things you like don’t you? Leave the man alone :roll_eyes:

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It’s about respect talking not just telling him you don’t like it you want him to stop it makes me insecure that’s really not a good enough reason for a man to stop something that he’s probably done since he was a teenager and that he does to probably unwind relax release the day you have to have an in-depth conversation about it since we live in 21st century porn has bein in some of are lives since we were 12 or younger it is an addiction but no I offense so is everything else that has to do with the internet porn is just the most talked about.

Your feels are valid. However you can’t tell someone not to a natural thing to their body. He’s a male they just like porn, regardless of how many times you bone them. Sometimes they just wanna watch porn. Who really cares. It comes down to your own self esteem and self worth. Seek therapy

You females who have issues with your man watching porn have your own issues. Jeeze ladies, you man is just whacking it, he’s not cheating 🤦