my husband had a child with his ex. he will be 3 this month. before he was born, my husband and I started dating so it hasn’t always been the best situation. in the beginning the only way my husband was allowed to see his child was by going to his parents house where his child’s mother would drop him off. eventually they went to court and came up with a custody agreement through mediation, joint custody but she has sole physical custody. My husbands job has him home (at most) for 12 hours, and since we were only dating at the time, his child’s mother made it a rule that only my husband could drop him off & pick him so it has made seeing his son quite difficult with his schedule. To help, his parents would get his son and keep him at there house where we would go visit. It was very helpful at first but since then, his parents have over stepped in every way imaginable (dr appts, decisions about his well being, going behind my husbands back) and his child’s mother allows it. It’s now gotten to the point where they (husbands parents) have him 3-4 days a week. Their most recent over step happened when we had to reschedule his sons birthday party but my husbands mother went behind my husbands back and invited the whole family over & threw him a birthday party anyway (even though it was rescheduled to a further date). My question is, is there anything legally my husband can do to stop this? Obviously it’s nice to have involved grandparents but they are overstepping and it’s hard for my husband to put a stop to it when his child’s mother allows it.
To me it sounds like the only solution would be too sit down and talk to the mom. She’s sharing custody of her child with his dad, not the grandparents. It’s great they’re there to help when you need it but that’s too much, and it’s something your husband should be doing. His parents should be trying to help him as well, which I’m sure they feel like they’re doing but it’s just too much & not in the right way. Your husband needs to sit down with her & talk to her. She needs to help come up with a schedule that will work for him, and since you guys are married he needs to tell her you have permission to be there or even pick him up / drop him off by yourself. It sounds like this would help a lot.
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