Holy cow not our dogs! Gordy had a great time at the neighborhood party but I think he should have taken us with him!
My house my dog my rules
I always felt like if my dog didn’t like them and they didn’t like my dog they sure as hell had no business around my house
Mom is in the wrong on this one. Why reinforce your child’s fear of dogs? Especially with one who is doing nothing wrong. If anything, she was provided with the perfect opportunity to get her daugher over her phobia.
On the other hand, even if someone had a dog that was not good with children, I would probably just not go instead of asking them to put their own dog away… That would be like someone asking me to put my kids away because they’re scared (or annoyed) of them. I would tell them to f off.
Animals are like part of the family, if there was a person someone didn’t like would u expect ur host to tell them to go lock themselves in a room till the visitor left? Simple answer… Educate the scared one or don’t come over…
My animals live in my home
They are my kids! Family!
Anyone who comes to my home and doesn’t like my animals…thats a THEM issue…not a ME issue…
My animals get shunned away for no one…dont like it…
Then YOU have 2 choices…leave or don’t come over to MY home!!!
P.S. I love my animals…many people I don’t care one way or the other if they like me so you know who wins in my house!
June should stay home with her child if she is that scared. That is the dogs home and should not be put away. Would you put your kids away because they keep interrupting you while you talk? Don’t think so.
I would crate my elderly dog for the dog’s safety.
If a kid came
Over for a play date with my daughter and screamed and cried and was terrified of my dog (who is also old and sleepy) I would either take my doggie upstairs or let her outside to sleep on the porch. I wouldn’t want the child to be uncomfortable and I certainly want the child to upset my dog. It’s best for both to be separate. I also know my dog wouldn’t be uncomfortable though if I had her
Move
As someone with a child who is scared of most dogs because they are not mellow like our dog…I’ve had people offer to put their obnoxious dogs away when we come over and I do appreciate the thought.
Umm the dog lives there… if the guest has a problem and the dog did nothing THEN GUEST SHOULD GO HOME simple
If they asked the visitors to come over, they accommodate. If the visitors asked to go over, then they deal with it.
It really wouldn’t hurt to put the dog I’m a separate part of the home, especially if all he does is sleep.
If it’s kids that’s afraid i say yes…
I’m not going to punish my dog for doing nothing wrong. I’m also not going to torture my child if she is terrified, though she’ll never get over the fear until forced to come to terms with it. Sometimes I feel like we’ve all just forgotten how to deal, how to be supportive and understanding with one another and stop being so darn selfish! If we could, this would be a simple remedy… common sense is this child needs to spend more time with dogs and improve everyone’s quality of life. Otherwise, no more play dates at homes where dogs live.
I’ve put my birds in a spare bedroom when repair folk enter the house. It’s as much for the birds’ protection and peace of mind as the visitors’.
I don’t think I’d be very close with anyone who hated my pets, though.
My dogs are very well behave but my brother and brother in law are scared of them (all dogs in general). They both have had incidents with dogs growing up. When people come over i dont put them away but when they come i do put them away for them to enjoy the time in my house. I dont see anything wrong. They’re animals not kids, theyre not gonna get offended if you put them away in a room or put them outside
Usually kids only learn this behavior from someone else. I’m sorry but my dog’s are my children and I’m not putting them away. Why wouldn’t said mother ask if they had dogs before said playdate was made
lord have mercy, my dog isn’t going to be put away. Teach your child manners at someone’s home. If she can’t mind her manners and control her irrational fears perhaps she can stay home. My God, people are even making their kids soft. This will turn into a 40 year old woman that can’t relate to society as a whole
Dogs are family, and live their full time you are a guest and visitor soo bye Felicia or June lol
Umm No if you don’t like my dog or cats you can just not come over not that hard. I’m not going to lock them up in THEIR home because somebody doesn’t like them.
If a friend came to my home and their child was scared of my dog , screaming and crying. I would put my dog up. The dog is old the screaming probably hurts my dogs ears, and makes him nervous. I wouldn’t expect anyone to do it though for me. It’s their home. Maybe visit her house from now on , since it’s a problem.
I would have to say you should put the dog up. If a child is afraid it’s a good reason to put him up a short while especially since he’s sleeping anyways. My mom doesn’t like it but when we come over she puts her dogs up bc my youngest is terrified of them. They are always fine too. I’ve tried getting my child to tolerate the dogs but nothing works.
Personally, if you don’t like or are afraid of my dog , just don’t come over🤷🏼♀️ if your child/ren are afraid of my dog , we’ll come visit you instead. If the dog was aggressive towards them , that’s a different story, then I’d be putting them up.
Don’t put the dog away. If they’re coming to your house they know you have a dog. Either meet somewhere else or go to get house if she has an issue w your dog.
Even if you are right about the sweet old dog…I would place her in another room with treats, chew toy, food and water until the little “freaky” guest has left. That 4 year old should learn to show love and tenderness to non threatening animals like dogs and cats. What a sad story.
Bree needs to meditate …
Wow! I think over all the adults didn’t communicate very well beforehand. Like hey I have a dog at my house will that be a problem? I usually mention that before play dates because it’s my house and I won’t shut my dogs away for a day. I’ll keep them away from a person who is uncomfortable but I won’t lock them in a room where they can’t tell me if they need to go outside or need more food/water.
Besides if I know beforehand, I won’t make plans at my house. Plan for a park, their place or something else. There are so many options.
The problem with this question is that you’ll get totally opposite answers because not all people own dogs. So some answers will be on the complete end of the spectrum of dog ownership. In my personal opinion, if whoever is visiting has knowledge that there’s a dog in the home, it’s not your fault they can’t deal with it. Accommodating guests goes as far as you can without altering the lifestyle of the inhabitants of your home. Pets are family, period. And I don’t even have a pet lol.
What if the child was traumatized from a previous incident? If you invite them over, it’s up to you to accommodate. If you’re so against it, plan play dates at the other person’s house.
I would put my pets away yes. Idgaf what other thinks, but the mentally and child’s fear is more important than if a dog is in another room or not. Dog would have been fine being locked in her room for a couple hours. I’m not going to let a dog upset a little 4yo.
People put an animal over a child? Sophia Poulos
I put my dog in a kennel for awhile .she doesnt seem to mind just as a precaution so someone won’t get bitten
I have a rambunctious, friendly medium sized dog that loves to greet everyone by overwhelming them . She’s 6 yrs old and still very energetic. Once you’ve said hi she settles down and just lays there. Most guests don’t like her meet and greets so to avoid any issues I do put her away with her favorite toys.
Nope. Our cat lives here. If you don’t like cats don’t come visit. Sorry but she’s part of our family.
I think it really depends. I put my two younger dogs away when kids come to play with my son who are not used to dogs because my two youngest dogs are a lil larger and even though they would never hurt a child they do get really excited and hyper they want to play with every kid they lick them and get all up in their kool-aid which is Attimidating to many who are not used to that. However my older two dogs I usually do not put away they have their spots where they go lay to themselves anyways so in my opinion guest should be able to deal with them being out by just avoiding that spot. Don’t feed a fear by accommodating it all the time that just makes fears worse. However, if it was a medical reason such as ALLERGY or an Anxiety trigger from being attacked by a dog for a child to be around my pets then I would definitely put them away simply because I expect that from others when it comes to my son’s medical needs and allergies. My family will not smoke inside or near my son because of his severe asthma and allergies I would give the same curtousy to someone with medical reasons that restricted them being in direct contact with dogs.
Anyone who doesn’t live in the home is considered a visitor.The dog is NOT a house guest.She shouldn’t take child there if child’s terrified simple as that.
Nope my dog will stay inside she lives her
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Sounds like she had a terrifying experience with a dog maybe mauled her. Or she’s afraid cause she never seen one and needs slowly introduced if safe. I would say if my dog isn’t a threat to a baby AT ALL I would have to say no. I’m not locking my dog who’s also my kid in another room who’s safe being around children just because someone else’s kid is terrified cause they’ve never been introduced. Unless the kid has been mauled than I’d understand and do so. But if not I’d tell the mother reassuring the dog has never bite or attacked your child and is safe! And then I’d ask the mother if me and her can introduce the baby to the dog to rid her fear. If mother declined then I’d decline her wish as well. I’d very much try to be understanding. But if there’s no understanding from both sides than sorry. You get what you give, and you give what you get.
Maybe have children and another adult in a different room than the one that the dog usually resides in. If/when Bree needs to go through the room where the dog is in, she may eventually learn to get used to being around dogs. She doesn’t have to like the dog, but the dog lives there. It’s his home. Why should he be shut up in an unfamiliar place, just because a bratty kid gets to control every environment she’s in?
If a different room isn’t possible, why not use a baby gate or some other visual obstacle so the child can see she won’t get hurt? Also reinforce what a sweet, kind, gentle dog (name) is….
I put my dogs up when kids come here that don’t really know my dogs I don’t want a bunch of kids picking up my dogs and possibly hurting my dogs.
The only thing I have done was put my dogs harness and leash on. So that I had him but he wasn’t locked up.
To fix it: have playday at Bree’s place or at the park, somewhere other than sally’ place…
If the dog was sleeping… Then yea mom’s in the wrong. Teach ur child that it’s ok if the dog is sleeping. And teach her about friendly dogs. But when I go to someone’s house and their dog or cat is all over me, jumping, scratching, and they don’t control their pet, or the pet doesn’t stay or sit when told… then Im honest and tell them they can come to my house.
Sally sounds like a b!tch. That poor girl is 4, not 14, so to say she should be more tolerable is insane and inconsiderate. Why have people over for a play date if you don’t want to make your guests comfortable. If I had a friend that could clearly see my child was afraid and didn’t have heart enough to do something to ease his fears, especially something as simple as move a sleeping dog to another room, then they would no longer be a friend of mine.
I dont like dogs in houses so I just wouldn’t go to the house no dog is worth my children fear!
Nope. Especially a 14 year old dog that is just resting peacefully. No way. Take the kid home.
I mean I totally understand fear of dogs for some people (children or not).
I also understand fear of any sort. That being said, it could potentially be very traumatizing for someone, esp when the dog comes out of no where, charging…or when you open the door, bam, damn dog all up in your face or Kool aid as one other put it:+1:t5:
Try to understand this REAL deal life or death fear for some…just cause you’re not scared of em/it. Just try.
Super frightening. SUPER.
I have a kid like this. Completely tenses up,
Completely stops COLD in her tracks…even if you get control /containment of the animal (dogs especially) she still will no move, come, go, anything. If you happen to be holding her at the time, complete tense all throughout her lil body. It’s real live fear running through her.
Which means blood pressure is now high, anxiety from then on on whereabouts of dog, even if you put it up…she’s still on alert, she’s still like are you sure the dog is not out etc
I would politely say please don’t ever bring your child here again! This is my dogs house
Uhm no. I didn’t even read any of the post, just the subject question
If a visitor doesn’t like a member of your family, then they shouldn’t be coming over. That is the dogs house as much as it is yours. Would you hide one of your kids away if a visitor didn’t like them? Didn’t think so
Go to the other kids house for the play date
If it was my child I would show them that the dog was no harm. I don’t think I would invite them back over until the child is ready to face that fear. It’s not fair to the child or the dog
if the dog is not going to harm the child it’s actually probably a very important learning opportunity for the child. But it should be handled with care by both parents. Don’t put the dog away though, that’s jot fair to the pooch
No. One of my friends asked me if I could keep my cat in my bedroom (out of preference, not allergy) and I refused because it’s my cat’s house.
Exactly. We have a large dog and I always put him in another room or he is happy to go out I feel that is what you do when visitors arrive xoxo
If you ask a trainer they would say out the dog away for the safety of all. The child may be the unpredictable one in this case and cause problems.
the kid play outside dont lock up the dog
Honestly my grandma had to put her dog away because it would bite me. And i have put my cats away when my niece and nephews are at my house because they are allergic. And if a child had a fear of an animal I’d put the animal away for the visit. The animal would be let out promptly on their departure. But if you feel you shouldn’t put your pet away then don’t expect anyone to visit. You can always visit that friend or met somewhere as well. And there is always a chance an animal will bite or whatever a child. To believe there isn’t is fooling themselves. My neighbor has a bunch of dogs and they they loose. First thing they told me is they don’t bite. Well that’s funny because my son got a huge gash taken out of his leg getting the trash can from the curb. But if you feel so strongly about it then they shouldn’t visit you. It’s up to you how you want to do this. As a visitor with children and infelt your dog may be a problem I most definitely just wouldn’t be visiting you. I never visited my cousin again after her dog peed on my kid.
I think I’m going to be unpopular here but I think humans should rank over pets. If the dog sleeps most of the time anyway, it won’t care being closed off. My son was terrified of dogs and there were several birthday parties I had to come get him because the hosts wouldn’t put away their dog. Seeing him broken hearted when the dog’s wouldn’t have cared was hurtful.
Hello no that’s the dogs house. Bree needs to stop being a sissy! They raising Bree to soft crying and screaming over nothing girl bye!
My daughter is terrified of dogs, big or small, playfull or sleeping it doesn’t matter (she never had a bad encounter with a dog. The first time she saw a dog she freaked out) So if we’re at a friend’s house for a play date and she doesn’t want to put the dog away I will definitely be leaving & not putting my daughter through that trauma. When a child I afraid of something it’s a process to stop those fears. You can’t just say the dog is sleeping & expect her fear to just disappear. If that’s genuinely your friend you can put the dog away for an hour or two. You said he mostly sleeps so he shouldn’t be bothered by it
My child was deathly afraid of my best friends dog because he snorts when he breathes. If he even looked at her, she would scream like someone was hurting her. I never asked her to put him up but once in a while if it got bad she would kennel him, but it was always in the same room. Now she is used to him and is even going up and petting him sometimes.
Also a dog is a part of a family, you wouldn’t lock your child in the room cause your friends kid is scared of him/her🤣
First time commenter here…but I’m a fur mama with no 2 legged babies yet, and I have told everyone that comes to my house, my dogs live here and they are my babies. You do not live here and if you have a problem then you dont need to come over. Simple as that, my boys get treated like kings
Pets house, pets rules. You don’t like it you leave. Pet lives there you don’t
Is this a trauma response? I think it’s better to err on the side of caution and put the dog away. I’d also do any future play dates at the other childs house or neutral territory
It’s probably temporary. If you knew your friend hated liver, you wouldn’t plan on serving it when she came to dinner, especially if she only couldn’t stand the smell when she was pregnant.
If your friend knew roller coasters terrified you, you wouldn’t enjoy it if she took you to a roller coaster amusement park, even if intellectually you both know they’re safe. But maybe after building up your courage on the Scooby Doo coaster and another slower, less scary one, you work your way up to the giant loop-de-loop, and you go with her and have fun two years later.
Put the dog in another room for the duration of the little girl’s visit. It’s likely that she will outgrow her fear in a couple of years, and your dog should be fine for a couple of hours.
My granddaughters were terrified of little kittens and would shriek and climb the furniture, so when we visited the house with kittens the owner would put them in another room. After a year or so, they were OK with being in the same room, and eventually they were OK with petting them.
Creatures with teeth and claws who can jump on you, bark, growl, hiss or even snort, and be unpredictable can be terrifying from a child’s perspective. Just look at the number of adults who are afraid of spiders or other bugs and harmless snakes!
When I was a small child I got knocked down by friendly dogs in the neighborhood and licked. To me it felt like an assault, so I didn’t like that, even though the dogs were being friendly. After I was.big enough to not get knocked over, I liked them better, and fell in love with the neighbor’s toy poodle who was so little. It might just take time to grow bigger for her to feel safe around a dog, or be around them from a distance to get used to them.
Think about if you went to a new doctor’s office and a strange man came up to you, rubbed their head on you, barked softly, yawned in your face, licked your hand and sat at your feet. If not scared, at least you’d be weirded out. Cut the girl some slack.
Maybe have special toys and treats for your dog when you need to confine it if you feel guilty, and of course go in and check on it like you would a napping baby so it doesn’t feel neglected.
Sometimes if it’s annoying. but can’t shelter fears forever. If they don’t let me show or their parent show them the dogs not scary then would put outside or leashed and sat with me. My dog gets anxious being locked away. Then just let the kid know we’re walking past etc and if they want to move or something.
Parents without animals should really interact their kids with all types of animals… and not just small ones. Kids may not be afraid of toy poodles and pomeranians ( even though they are nuts). But in this scenario, dogs can sense fear and they may not act like their usual self because of it. So overall, I would separate the two for both of their safety.
I think its sad when children fear dogs because I believe that dogs are wonderful for kids. All animals teach responsibility, love and are great playmates for kids. That being said, I would probably crate my dogs at first, then have the mom bring the child to the crate and have the child see that the dog won’t harm him/her. If the child keeps crying, i would take the child to a pediatric therapist.
Think about both child and dog. I would approach the situation by calmly explaining to the child that the dog is kind, cuddly, and harmless. Then slowly and patiently introduce them. Gently explaining to the child how he loves being scratched behind his ears, aka: how to pet nicely. Keep your body between the child and dog, so the child feels safer. The poor kid is only terrified of the unknown, so calmly and gently introduce. The aging dog doesn’t need a little kid screaming in it’s face either. Think of both of them, please.
Send the damn kid home! Its the dogs home!!!
So many people here who don’t seem to mind terrorizing a four year old out of spite.
Who is the dick that won’t put their dog up for a terrified child, seriously? No one is asking you to shoot the damn thing. Putting it in the other room is literally zero problems.
Small children could be terrified for reasons we don’t understand. If my friend comes over and my dog terrifies her 4 year old, I’ll put the dog in a different area.
Or don’t invite them over.
If you can’t be compassionate to a 4 year old, over a fear they can’t explain, you shouldn’t have small children in your home.
They aren’t adults, they don’t explain emotions or understand their feelings like we do.
It’s not gonna harm the dog to be put in a different area while you have company.
Also, for you to tell a mother her “4 Year old should be more tolerant” is actually disgusting.
It’s the dog’s home! If they have a probable with the dog…they should just stay somewhere else!
Sally. It’s the dogs house.
Sally… The dog lives there and the kid is visiting… If you know your kid is scared of dogs don’t visit a house where there is one. It’s like making a woman breast feed in a toilet because it offends people… I woud never shut my dogs away for anyone
I think dogs are better than people in general and i still think some of these fur parents are crazy with the shit they post… im a fur parent not a two legged parent yet lol get lost crazy asses. I have kids and have had dogs my whole life alot of people on here are crazy… sry children come first over pets until they grow up to be like yall weird ass fur parents
Being afraid of a dog is a real phobia. Next time don’t invite them over. And they should have not accepted the invite knowing you have a dog.
Out of respect The dog lives there but can go some where in the meantime while visitors are here and they arnt comfortable/afraid. Give them time to warm up to your dog as well. Maybe Some people have traumas. My boyfriend has got bitten by dogs his entire life a count of 5 times 1 while being a toddler and almost died. My niece got bit not long ago by a dog and is now afraid of my dog that she grew up with her entire life. I wouldnt mind putting my Baby away for the moment.
I feel like they’re both being a bit childish. For one, if the dog is sleeping the whole time, what’s the harm in letting them sleep in a bedroom? Nothing. The dog would have probably been relieved to not be around a screaming toddler. On the other hand, if I know my child is deathly afraid of dogs and my friend has a dog, I’m going to ask ahead of time if arrangements can be made so that both the kid and dog are happy. If I didn’t know and it’s one of those “oh crap!” moments, I’d try to gently introduce the kid to the dog, but if it doesn’t work and the friend doesn’t want to put it away I’d just leave
14 year old dog, just let her be!! Teach the child and the mother about dogs!!
How do you think the child got that way in the first place? It’s called exposure to show her it’s not a monster.
You don’t need to come to my home if you don’t like dogs. Only exception is when my grandma comes over and I put my 3 year old golden retriever outside as he’s young and gets so excited and her hips and knees aren’t what they used to be. But my pittie is so gentle and sweet around her. But I have yet to have any child at my home that didn’t absolutely love my dogs.
Not ylunless it’s an aggressive animal towards people they dont know…I have always told my niece who is 7 that this is the pets home…I’m not gonna lock pet up in their own home/safe place just bc someone is scared! Sorry not sorry
I have friends and family who sometimes put their dogs away for certain reasons, if their dog won’t listen and jumps all over company, one family has a dog that doesn’t like children for some reason, so she puts the dog (older dog too) away while children are at the house. But this is a little girl who has a terrible fear. I would try to help the little girl get use to the dog, but if she’s only going to scream every time, That’s tough. If the dog stays away in the other room and doesn’t come near her, I wouldn’t keep the dog locked in another room. Just keep telling the little girl “the dog won’t hurt you, he’s in the living room ect”
If the dog kept trying to come near the little girl, then I would knowing she’s terrified
If you come to my house with your kid knowing I have a pet that your kid doesn’t like that’s on you. I will not inconvenience my pets because you’re child is uncomfortable leave your kid at home since you’re visiting me.
You can’t put your dog in a room for a couple of hrs after you’ve invited a friend over you really shouldn’t have friends how vindictive especially to a child dahm!
If you have an untrained 2 year old dog, that bounces up at everyone and will help itself to going up to people without your command then yes, put it in the garden/bedroom. If you’re dog is 100% trained and ignores everyone in any situation because you give it all the stimulation it needs and will literally only come to you or won’t acknowledge another person(s) then leave the damn dog where it is. Also if a child has come to visit and is screaming uncontrollably in front of my animals, get them the fuck out, I am my animals voice and I have to nip things in the bud to give respect back to my (in this case dog)
It’s a little kid. Put the dog up if she’s scared. NO dog should come before a kid. Ever.
Absolutely not tell the guest ahead of time i will not put my animal in another room because you are coming here
I would leave the dog in the house and not change my ways its completely unfair
Put the child in the other room instead x
As a little girl I was terrified of dogs, I mean shaking terrified. I didn’t care for animals in general, my dad would make us be around friends dogs if we went to their house. He would get so mad if we were scared. As an adult I still am very uncomfortable around dogs and I still dislike animals. I never grew out of it I guess lol.
I understand it’s a dogs home so it shouldn’t have to be put up but it depends on the dog. I don’t want my children to be so nervous around animals as I am but I will say some dogs are so hyper. I don’t think people should just be like “he’s so friendly” and the dogs just jumping on guests…a lot of people don’t like that.
I have a friend who has a German Shepherd, the dog is mellow but if she knows kids are coming she puts them up using her own judgment. She told me that when a child is eye level with a dog no matter how well behaved the dog is it feels threatened. She didn’t want to allow a bad situation from happening because at the end of the day a dog is still an animal and you just never know.
Just my 2 cents haha I’m in the middle on this one.
My dogs won’t be locked in a room.
I may crate my dog for a short while. Perhaps the child was hurt by another dog at some point and that’s why the fear is there?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should a family pet be locked in another room if a visitor doesn't like them?
I had a similar thing with my daughter when she was around that age and she was terrified of every dog. We broke that terror by calmly introducing her to other dogs. If I were the mom, I wouldn’t bring her over to this friends house for a play date until she was able to be in the house with the dog there. I would not lock the dog up. It’s a 14 year old dog, not a playful puppy
It is the dogs home. The child needs to learn to control herself.
Why is the child so afraid of dogs was she savagely attacked? That is the reaction she is having. Was she bitten badly? If she was not bitten badly or attacked savagely then she is overreacting and her mother needs to help her get a grip. She is old enough to be reasoned with. She sees the dog is sleeping he is no threat.
What is she doing in the house anyway? Get her outside with the other kids.
Sounds like she wants attention from mommy.
Maybe we don’t have playdates at the doggy house anymore. Maybe only at the little Princess’s house. Then she never has to learn anything.
If they expect to have my dog locked away then I would like them to send the kid to another house/room, my dog is my fur child (I have human kids too). Don’t visit or go to a park, that way no one is inconvenienced least of all a 14yo dog who doesn’t deserve to be locked away.