It is the dogs home, yes, but I know my chihuahua likes to try to bite people she doesn’t know. And I dont want them freaking out and kicking her, so I’m proactive. Each situation is different…
I have 8 dogs in my home at the moment… Dogs are life!! and I rescue…foster… pretty much devote my life to them. I only lock my large dogs up for a child that visits my home with the same type of inherent fear. I use gates as a divider and not closed doors. When the kids are in the bedroom playing, the dogs get to come right back out throughout the house. You can’t force fears away… trying to only escalates them for the child.
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If the child was terrified as describe in the post then the dog should’ve been put away. It’s a freaking child for christ sakes! She may never over come her fear if being forced.
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We separate our dogs from my son, simply for safety reasons. He is learning how to behave around animals, and how to treat them. We supervise any interaction he has with the dogs (aside from him petting them or them kissing him through the baby gate). I always make sure the dogs are blocked in the dining room or kitchen when anyone brings their child over, simply because its safest. What she should do is teach the child to ignore the dog, and let them be. This is a teaching lesson. The PARENT is the problem not the child, and the other person should supervise interactions… Its responsible dog ownership and parenting… Simple
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June can shove it lol it’s your home
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I believe a human being should come before a pet.
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Coming from experience I was deathly afraid of dogs when I was younger. It wasn’t my fault as some of u seem to think. Maybe the child was traumatized. It never hurt my family’s pets for them to be put up for a couple of hours. My family did this for a few years. Until my mom was in thr hospital and my aunt was keeping me and she aaid she was tired of putting her pup up. She took me to a park and made me be around her dog after a couple hours I was not scared anymore. Even as a teen I volunteered at a humane society and a vet hospital.
Nope especially when in my case they bring theirs without asking and the little shits dog aggressive
You want the kid there for a play date, she’s scared of the dog…
Hide the bloody dog, the dog doesn’t know what’s going on it’s old I’m sure it doesn’t want some child screaming and waking it up 
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But if its a child whos scared yes I usually slowly introduce through a baby gate
I have alot of home health nurses coming in and out and I have to put my cat locked in another room when they’re here. If it’s not a long visit it doesn’t really matter.
But alot of people are skeptical of dogs. If I had a friend come over and I had a dog and they didn’t like or was scared of the dog I would put my dog away because if someone is in my home, especially a friend I want them to feel as comfortable as possible. If it’s that big of a problem then don’t invite that friend over again.
No ,my dog lives here. They don’t. . I don’t like people around me anyways
I never put my dogs away. This is their home. If you or your children don’t like dogs, don’t come over.
Normally I would say the dog lives there but when it comes to a child you’re talking about life long insecurities about animals that develop. As an adult people need to consider the child first. We are their protectors.
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Friends family doesn’t matter to me. They all know we have dogs and cats. Don’t like them don’t come.
Now it’s different if you know your pet is aggressive.
I would say the parent of the child should teach the child that not all big animals are scary. And just not touch them and just do not mind them. No need to spoil the kid cause of the child’s fear.
Also,
My fiance used to be scared of puppies. I would say that’s because he never had a chance to take care of one. Hes not scared anymore cause he HAD to get used to dogs cause of me 
Look, I’d probably lock the dog away if it’s scaring a 4yr old child!
An adult would have to deal, but a small child? Come on.
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I don’t think its so black and white. I think if the dog isn’t doing anything and is not approaching the child then its fine to leave dog out. Now if the dog was all up on the kid or was getting too close or if there would be an instance where the child and dog would be in room alone then yes put dog up. My 4 year old was bitten in the face by a dog that we had for 3 weeks. Dog was a golden retriever too so big surprise. She had to have 2 surgeries and it was very traumatic. But I never wanted her to be scared of dogs or to use that situation for fear. Luckily she is not scared of dogs as long as she is the one approaching them. She only gets nervous when they approach her. We go to people’s house that have dogs and I don’t expect them to put their dogs I just am very cautious with her and the dogs and never allow them to be in a room alone together.
Whose house it is? The dogs right? If you don’t like your kid around my dog then let’s have the play date at your house instead.
I wouldn’t invite them anymore my dog is family lol
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Personally, I lock my dog up every time I have a visitor, until I have the visitors permission to let her out. If I’m inviting someone over and they’re afraid of dogs, I respect their wishes. I feel, if you don’t want to lock the dog up for the visitors sake, then don’t invite that person over. My dog is a 50lb boxer mix who loves to jump, so I leave the decision up to the person visiting.
I only put my dog up when she’s wanting to jump on people. She’s a chihuahua min pin, so she can easily knock a small child over. But if she’s calm, she’s out.
Well, I had an old dog.Bobo.
…& my family didn’t like him…well…they have not come back to visit…my house…my rules…I would put him in the dog house & he would cry:disappointed_relieved:…Gone now…no regrets…
Simple. There would be no play date. Dog would sleep comfortably in his home. The end
If you INVITE someone over and you know it’s only momentarily, putting the dog away shouldn’t be that big of a deal. If they DROPPED BY, then that’s a different story. The child is traumatized and you continue to do it. It’s not the dog’s house it where the dog lives:woman_facepalming:t5:
. Solution… DON’T INVITE ANYONE TO YOUR HOUSE. 
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My house , my rules , my dog is a family member !
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I would consider having the play dates at the other mothers house or out and about in the community if there is an issue, that way it’s not being taken out on the dog or the child. The child’s feelings need respecting just as anybody else’s do, they’re valid and the child should be made to feel so, also I believe pets are family and obviously so does this person so compromise, keep everybody happy and safe, and if the mother of the scared child wants try and help with her fear and introduce slowly at her own pace
I went thru the same thing sort of. My toddler was TERRIFIED of dogs. I just avoided places with dogs 
If we did happen to go over there, I would never ask them to put them in another room, but they always did willingly while we were there.
The dog wasn’t even interested in the kid. The kid sounds like she is spoiled. My house my dogs house. Dog doesn’t get locked up.
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The child is scared just put the dog in another room
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Nope i see it as this is my fur babies house too. If u dont like dog hair dont come in .
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Keep that dog out, it’s the dogs house so if ppl don’t like stay away simple I would never put any of my animals in a room all cause someone was scared.
Don’t put the dog away. The child has to learn.
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She’s four. She’s afraid of dogs. Phobias often seem irrational, but it’s not like it’s a choice. And she’s four. I don’t know how you ask a four year old to disregard their fear for your own convenience. If pup is such an old lazy bones they probably wouldn’t mind a calm space away from the kiddos playing. I know mine doesn’t. I understand not wanting to disturb pupper’s comfort, but neither a dog nor a four year old child can be expected to understand the complexities of a phobia, and simply disregard it.
My kids and my dog are my babies. Everybody who comes to my house minus people to fix things knows my dog and that my dog is free to go wherever she pleases in my house. If someone needs to fix something though I will put her in her crate or my bedroom but that being said, no I don’t normally put her up when people come over cause u don’t like my baby u can go thats her house to.
No tf! its The DOGS house not hers! If any child doesnt like my pets they aint coming over anymore especially if the pet has done nothing wrong at allllll, kick then out they can find somebody else to play with or simply have the playdates at there house to prevent them from being disrespectful to YOUR Pet
Don’t like my pet don’t come to my house.
The dog lives there & sounds like it was not posing a threat. Bree would not be invited back.
No no no and no!!! I’m sorry the situation involves a child however putting the dog in another room may make the dog feel like they did something wrong in their own home. If my cat don’t like you, you aren’t allowed in my home. 
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Depends why the child has that reaction. If the kid had been attacked by a dog previously, and the dogs going to be sleeping the whole time anyways, then yes put the dog in another room. If you invited the mother and child to your home knowing that the child has a fear of animals, then it is your responsibility to cater to your guests. Forcing a kid to get over an actual fear with an animal that I’m sure doesn’t want to hear a kid screaming either, seems like torture to both the dog and the kid.
My house, my rules. My dogs are my kids. Unless you would lock Bree away if I threw a fit because of her when I visited you, don’t expect me to lock my kids away either. Someone needs to teach Bree to be more tolerant of others, including their pets.
Our daughter puts her two dachshunds in a bedroom when we visit. They’re very friendly and exuberant so she just prefers to visit with us without all the other action. So yes, pets should be out of the way.
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No, they could always rent a room
If it’s my family’s kids and there is an issue we would address it whether it’s moving the play date outside or dog to a bed room. I get did are your family and I’ve refused to lock my dog up at times too. If it’s family and kids who ain’t hurting the dog have some sense. Ffs y’all heartless
Be a responsible dog owner and put the dog in the other room. It should not matter if it’s a child or an adult. If someone is scared or uncomfortable then the dog should be immediately put away. Moving forward if it bothers you do not invite the person over. Dogs are animals and they have teeth. Any dog can bite regardless of breed. Putting ur dog in a stressful situation can be setting the dog up to fail.
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My home my pets, don’t like it there’s the door, don’t let it hit u where the good lord split u, and don’t come back
Ok so the dog is 14…probably not gonna care if he has to chill in the bedroom for awhile. So why have a child freaked out for no reason other than your own stubbornness? Put the dog away. Attempt safe introduction sure, but if it isn’t working and the child is fearful, put the dog up. That can make long lasting issues and trauma for a kid.
If you are having guests you are supposed to accommodate for those those guests.
If you aren’t willing to accommodate don’t have those guest over.
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It is the dog’s home and if it not harming the child, then no should not
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One reason I dont allow children in my house. Plus my cat hates kids.
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I too think it’s proper to put dogs away while you have guest visiting. Even if dogs are well behaved, they are still curious and jump on people. At times, hard to have a conversation due to dogs wanting all the attention. But then again. Depends on how long the visit is and if the owners can control their pets. Most of my friends do control them.
It’s my dog’s home as well as mine. I do tell people up front when inviting them over that I have dogs. If they then decide to still come that’s on them. I would go the extra mile in helping the child get used to my dogs. Have had many people say their kids are scared of dogs that now love my dogs.
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I only lock my pit up when my 3 month old gbaby comes over. Everyone else can either deal with him, or leave. He’s 120 lbs, he’s too big to be locked in a room.
When my guests start paying portions of my rent and utilities, then they can tell me what to do with my dogs.
This is exactly why I don’t befriend parents with young children though. I am in no way accommodating someone else’s kid in my own home.
Well obviously if they are visiting for play dates and a sleeping dog is causing such a issue, move the play date somewhere that the children are comfortable with?? Not sure why a pet is a problem the child should have been talked to and asked why the dog is scary ( maybe she was attacked by another dog)?? What experience did the child have ?? More info would help
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We don’t know if this child had a bad encounter with a dog before, so I say either keep them separated at all times or don’t host the child (or any visitors uncomfortable with dogs). I accommodate guests with fears for limited periods if I like them.
Trust your dog…
if they don’t like them.
Why should you??
That child is probably traumatized from another animal. The friend should understand and put up the dog (comfortably) in another room. Or don’t have play dates at her house anymore.
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Sally is right… That is the dogs home.
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Nope, my house my dog, dont bring your kid over if its scared of dogs
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If you don’t like my pet I don’t like you 
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My dog gets put into another room whenever anyone who I wouldn’t allow in my home if I weren’t there is visiting, even if its family. I don’t want him thinking it’s ok to allow anyone and everyone in my home, I have him not only as my pet but to protect my home so I’m watchful of who he interacts with.
I have had dogs my entire life and usually big dogs (1 small dog and he was the scariest of them all, honestly) Here’s my way of handling these situations. First, if your new to our home, I always tell you in advance " We have big, friendly dogs; fyi". Also, if your new, I let my dogs greet you as big dogs do, sniffing, etc. Your reaction determines mine. If you are uncomfortable, I will offer to put them away for a short period. But let you know, they will have to come out eventually or they will not have the right mindset about you if you ever come back. They will most likely feel as if your not friendly and alway be stand-offish with you and never accept you as a friend. Dogs run on instinct and that’s a bad sign. If you are a regular visitor, then you are aware they live here and of the demeanor of my Uber friendly fur kids. In these instances, my dogs stay out.
The dog is at home and wasn’t being unruly; no need to put it away…people want dogs to be socialized around kids and other types of animals; so why shouldnt kids be expected to be socialized the same way. If the child had a traumatic incident with a dog the mother should have said something not just walk around entitled for the world to adapt to her kid
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Yes most definitely. I am severely terrified of house cats and my daughter has three. So when I go to her house they get put up in the bedroom. Her two very large dogs, great Danes actually are also locked away. We only go to visit for a few hours at a time and stay in a hotel because of her pets.
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My dog literally owns the house. If people are really that scared of my harmless furry marshmallow, I’d rather they not come over. Not my kind of people! And if my friends want to bring their kids, that’s fine. But they need to respect my dog and learn to interact with animals appropriately. I’m not okay with my dog scared of kids, in her own home.
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I would never put my dog away for someone. If they d ont like it they don’t have to come to your house.
In my humble opinion when I had a dog I would put him in another room or outside. If I invite someone as a guest, I am the hostess and I feel it is my job to make them comfortable.
You never know what or how someone else was traumatized. Especially children.
Nope, the pet was here first. He lives here, you don’t. Deal with it
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Its your home, there for its the dogs home too, if they don’t like dogs they should stay from your house
I wouldn’t put mine away it is there home not a visitors n if they know you they pry know u have 4 legged babies
I’d take my child and leave if you have no concern for my child then we do not need to be there. Yes your pet may live with you but that’s a BS ass excuse especially on a 4 year old see you next Tuesday.
This is a tough one. I do personally, lock my dog upstairs when we have visitors just purely for their safety. She IS a guard dog and she is here for that purpose.
Other wise I’d disagree (before anyway judge’s I’m q DV survivor so having doggy helps!)
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People are told my dogs live here you do not. So it is up to you on how you proceed. I will not “cage or put away my dog” because to the dog they are being punished when they did nothing wrong.
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I would never and will never put my dog “away” because someone came over. My dogs are my kids just like my human kids are. If they don’t like my dog and expect them to be put “away” then they aren’t welcome in my home.
For our pets safety we give our dog a safe comfy space off limits to unknown people not for there people safety but our family safety ,
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Tell the “Spoiled” child’s parents to take her home. Im sure there is an underlying problem, but they need to resolve it, and soon,
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No way!! My dogs are part of the family. They will not be treated differently.
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I love my pets. But if I invite someone over and they are allergic or scared I don’t won’t lock them up but I will put them in a room where they are comfortable.
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Sally is definitely correct. We wouldn’t shut a human child in a room just because someone doesn’t like them, why should we do that to our fur child?
The dog lives there. To me that’s like asking me to lock up one of my kids. If the dog isn’t engaging the child and does not present a danger, then there’s no reason to lock it up. The parent should educate the child on how to identify dangerous situation and react accordingly. The world will not accommodate your child, it’s unrealistic to expect it to. Teach your child how to exist in the world without undue stress on themselves, don’t set them up cit disappointment expecting something that doesn’t actually happened in real life.
I feel like there is no right or wrong. Both have valid reasons for both sides. That is that dogs home and so therefore the guests should be respectful of that fact. The child is terrified so maybe gets some answers as to why?
I put my dog away for others safety my dog does not like people he’s very selective took one of my friends 2 years before they could pet my dog! What gets me is when we had family over they brought there new puppy (without asking first) they let that dog run all over my house but my dog had to stay put Away that pissed me off lol
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I have seen many 4yo terrortantrums my new word. Once full blown nothing but complete separation will help. I would just change locations till next year. 5yr old Kindergarten kids are far more courageous and reasonable.
I have a phobia of dogs and cats, I don’t visit people who have indoor pets, and I certainly wouldn’t traumatize a child who is terrified of an animal, people who have pets assume everyone is as comfortable with them as they are, they aren’t.
It’s not the dogs fault, it shouldn’t be put away. The child has some issues apparently. A sleeping dog bothers it? Yea get that child forgives out or just don’t go over there anymore.
Lock the visitor in a room, that’s the pets home!
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Wow. Just wow. If you invite someone over and they are terrified of an animal then why not put it up. Its not like they asking to have them put down. I can show you a picnof what happened to my son, who was at someones house and told oh the dog wont do anything 
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I think there are multiple variables when it’s comes to this. 1. Did the owner of the house invite friend and child over?
2. Does the dog get anxiety when he’s put up?
3. Is the child old enough to mentally understand being introduced to the dog to where the child’s anxiety is eased.
Some of y’all are wild. Yes your dogs live there. But your family and friends matter too. If putting my dog up doesn’t cause him any anxiety or harm when he’s in the other room then what’s the harm? I promise the dog isn’t going to pass away, due to being behind a door for a few hours. And based on how relaxed the dog is I’m sure he doesn’t mind either. There’s ways to help the child which should be the first solution. And I would take those extra steps for anyone’s child.
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As long as the animal isn’t unruly, let him live in his house. If the dog is obnoxious and jumps on people nonstop and can’t be chill- Please.
Find a new friend for playdates
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Nope, the it’s the dogs house.
If my friends or family didn’t like my dog then surely they or i wouldn’t want them to visit!
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Sally was right. The dog lives there and shouldn’t be punished because someone doesn’t like dogs. (Unless the dog is aggressive etc.)
We never put our pets in the rooms unless they’re going to get in the way of whatever is going on in the house and someone could possibly step on them or leave the door open. The only times where we’ve put them in their rooms aside from that is if the person is allergic to them. We don’t have unruly pets, they just like to roam around the house freely, but they’ll sleep for the majority of the day. If that girl doesn’t learn now how to tolerate things like that, it’ll only get worse as she gets older and she’ll assume people will automatically do that for her
I have a pitbull who is the sweetest and most people are terrified until they see how well she is with people. Im sorry but i would never lock my dog in a room bc a kid or any adult is afraid of my dog. They better change their perspective bc my dog isnt the one to be feared.
Sally is in the right
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I think it depends. My dog jumps on everyone, so yes I put him in the other room for the first several times our scared neighbor girl came over but I’d slowly get him out every time and introduce them so he would quit jumping on her. Now I don’t put him in the other room. We also have another neighbor boy that’s allergic, so kids play outside with dog inside or vice versa. Put I don’t put him away for adults.
If dog was seeping and minding his own business, the. I wouldn’t bother him. My dog is huge and a hyper, jumping mess, when people come over.
Yes, most definitely, put the dog in another room with the door closed, it’s only for a little while
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SALLY IS RIGHT 
%!! It’s her house, her DOG that lives there. June don’t like it then the next play date should be at June’s house or at a park. I have 2 fur babies. I will be damned someone tells me to lock them up. My answer would be they live here you don’t GOODBYE!!!
Keep their butts at home. This is your dogs castle…never put your pets away make your company leave. Everyone knows I love my dogs more than people so if they don’t want to leave with dog hair don’t sit on my couch. GO HOME
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