My parents and grandparents have always DECLINED payment when they have watched my kids (which they do on a regular basis, while I work or go to school) I’ve offered to pay them, but they love spending time with their grandchildren and want to help me out too…Ive babysat my nieces and nephews and NEVER wanted paid for it. I think if it’s family you’d look at it more as spending time with your loved one than a “job” i think it’s crazy that so many people are bashing you!
Okay from both perspectives here, she shouldn’t be demanding but also she shouldn’t have to demand. Work out an arrangement on what you would be able to pay her each week and let her know you’re thankful for her help. My mum comes and watches my kids while I’m home and I get my housework done while she occupies them, that’s almost every day for the whole week. Don’t get me wrong she absolutely loves it and offered to do it because she loves spending time with the kids, but we just can’t afford to pay her anything and she knows we would if we could. That doesn’t stop her from helping. Each week we’ll buy her dinner that she can take home to my dad and every other night when we make dinner we give her some to take home too so she doesn’t ever have to worry about slaving in the kitchen after helping us out at our house. Sometimes she’ll lose track of time and then forget she was supposed to pick some things up from the grocery store for her house so then we go up and buy it for her and send her on her way. Tit for tat
Yes you would pay an outside. Your grandma is giving up her time with her friend etc. she is old. She is retired. It’s her time. I am 65 have no grandkids, but raised my own kids, now it our time to spend with frirnds, crafts whatever. My husband and I worked different shifts so somebody was always there for them. Your family didn’t have them. You did.
One of our friends left our craft group that meet on Mondays and Wednesdays because she started to babysit her great grandkuds.
We were her only outlet with people her age. Oh well. I understand people need help, but it’s not your relatives kids
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Watching your kids for an occasional night out for free is what Family and Friends do, providing full childcare so you can work is something you pay for.
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She’s your 62 year old grandma pay her the money ! I would love to pay 65$ for childcare a week!
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Occasionally my mom watches my daughter so I can have a night out or work. My mom is on my phone plan and I pay her phone bill…as a thank you for her help. Not because she asked me to, because I insisted. I think family should be willing to help, but help is a two way street. Just make sure you can “help” when you are called on.
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Sooo her time is worth nothing to you? Humm… Offer and pay… Then again if you could find someone cheaper( you can’t) or more trustworthy( you won’t) or that actually loves your child( never) hire them… Your making money and so should the person taking your place for that time…
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Regardless of whether they are a family family member or not, if someone is watching your child on a daily basis like a regular day care/sitter would be, then yes they should be compensated.
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Wtf. That’s like saying your grandmas time is meaningless. She’s taking time out of her days to watch your kid, granted he isn’t much maintenance… you leave him with her because he cannot be left alone. I think $65 is a great price. I pay $1000 a month in childcare costs for 2 kids. Be grateful you have somebody available to watch your kid that’s family.
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Maybe she really needs the money, and she does not have the heart to tell you she is low on funds.
Why shouldn’t she be paid . You sound like a spoiled brat
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You should want to pay your grandmother for watching your child. Don’t be a spoiled brat. Care enough that your getting childcare for 65. A week. Childcare that you know will love him and care for him 100 %.
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I have a daycare in my home. I get paid 150. For each child.
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65 for 3 days , pay her
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obviously she must need it.
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Being a grandma is not the same thing as babysitting. Yes you should pay her.
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So if she watches your son no matter gow great your child is for the full 12 hours a week she is making about $5.42 an hour. The cheapest daycare I have found is $20 a child…a day… no matter how long they or short they are there. So… give Granny her money… She is worth it man. Good luck!
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Soooo you had a kid and expect someone else to watch him for free?? 
she’s doing you a favor, pay her for her time. Be grateful that you even have family that can watch your child, some of us aren’t that lucky!
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Hell yeah they should be paid if it’s an scheduled set up. That’s just rude not to. That’s taking advantage of your family.
Wow. I pay my 81 year old grandma to watch my kids once in a while
She doesnt even ask but even if she did i still would
She may use that money to buy snacks and lunch or breakfast for YOUR child it may be to just help her financially feed him more than anything
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I would pay her just because she is family but that’s because that how I was raised. She is probably on a fixed income so needs as much money as she can make. Not assuming but just saying she’s your grandmother. I would kill to be able to pay my grandmother to watch my daughter but I can’t because she passed away before she was born. Treat her time as if it is just as valuable as yours. You wouldn’t watch your other family members kids for free frequently would you.
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My mom always paid my grandma…yes she loved us but her time is not free $65 is nothing
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When Bill and I both worked we paid my mom and dad because they were going through hard times I did not take advantage of them.
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That’s cheaper than paying a daycare.
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Pay her and stop being livid. He’s with someone who loves him and you’re saving a ton of money (and hassle) not bringing him to daycare. My husband and I paid his dad $80 a week for 5 full days and that was a steal.
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Why shouldn’t you pay her . If it was anyone else you would have to.
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I just dont get why she gets mad if child care its a job, and she needs to pay, if shes not ok with it go find someone who would want to do it for free lmao, and good luck with that!
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If its a scheduled consistant need then yes you should pay her…if every so often no
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If she needs the money that’s one thing on the other hand if she doesn’t need money she should do it as a favor and enjoy it
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I can’t believe you had to ask
Just out of total respect you should be offering that and more
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Yes, you should be paying her.
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Entitled much? Sheesh!
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Yes you should. It’s selfish to think that just because someone is family means they owe you anything for free. I don’t care who they are. Regardless of how well behaved your child is, she still has to plan her time around having him. If you can’t afford it, I suggest finding someone else who can accommodate you with free day care. Show some respect and gratitude that she’s willing to watch him for you, Pay the lady, or find someone else.
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I always paid my sister - and i did it happily
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$65 ?!?! And you’re livid? Wow you should be grateful your child could be watched by someone else that’ll charge you more and he wont be as safe as he is w your grandma.
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I pay my mother to watch my 6 year old for 8 hours on sat and sun.
Why shouldn’t she b paid?
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She probably buys food and other supplies for him. Yes pay her, it’s her time, her food and she loves him. Your lucky because you’d be paying at least double for childcare! She deserves it trust me!
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If you can find someone better qualified, safer, and as flexible for free or less then go for it. If not, be VERY appreciative of what is available to you.
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She’s probably asking for that much to feed the kid while she has him/her. She could be on a super tight budget but still trying to help you out! Be angry all you want to but put all that energy towards finding someone else to do it. I can almost guarantee it won’t be as cheap or suitable/convenient as a grandparent watching them. JMO tho!!
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love to look after grand kids but don, take advantage of her
PAY HER OR FIND SOMEONE ELSE. This post made me livid
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Lol find somebody else then
Well my grandma would never charge me nor does my mom. My kiddos repay back with always helping her out with yard work and anything else. She loves all her grandbabies and wouldn’t even think twice to ask for money.
Absolutely. Just because they are family doesnt give u the right to take advantage of that. Pay up . Or pay someone else simple
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Who cares how well behaved he is! Your grandmother’s help enables you to work while she watches your child, appreciate that! $65 is peanuts, try paying $150 a day for child care.
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You should offer…she should decline. Not everyone is the same, tho.
I payed my mom 100$ a week to watch my child so 500$ a month to watch my 5 year old for work…np reason to not pay family…i see of its a few hrs once in a great while
You seem to feel entitled to her doing this, but ultimately it’s not at all unfair for her to ask for compensation, and $65/week even for 3 days is a ridiculously low cost for childcare.
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Yes you should be paying her , it’s not once in a while , 3 days a week, she’s giving up a lot of her time
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Pay her. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
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$65 is less than daycare!! Your child is your responsibility, not your grandmothers!!
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That’s fair ($25 -$35 per day is fair) anywhere else would charge you more than $65 per week.
Wow! I wish I’d pay that smdh …if you don’t want to take your kid anymore because you don’t want to pay her $65, what is her info so I can take mine and I’ll give her a little extra
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I don’t understand the problem if you paid her she probably use the money buying the kids stuff for them anyways
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Daycare is 120 bucks or more a week. Grams is givin you a deal … And HE IS SAFE… Dont be entitled… It could be worse!!!
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I pay $165 a week for daycare. 3 yr old potty trained and everything! Wish I would pay $65 a week! That’s only one child. When my baby is born in January I have to pay $228 a week for a infant and 165 a week for a toddler! That’s 393 a week! That’s half of my paycheck in one week! Wish I had tht help and only had to pay a bit! You should be grateful she’s willing to do it because not all family will do that!
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maybe she wants it for snacks and milk for him?
She’s 62. SIXTY TWO. 
Daycare in my area is 135 dollars a week.
Grandma is stuck home instead of enjoying her life out and about.
$65 a week that’s 20 buc a day cheapest rate you’ll get, I suggest if you still want your babysitter then pay or pay for actual childcare
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I mean if she offered to do so. And never asked for money when she first offered then yes it is unfair of her to change her mind like that. But other then that… I mean demanding it is a different story. It’s all in the way you approach the situation in all honesty
I dont consider helping out with my grandbabies as babysitting…I actually would rather my grandbabies be with me than a daycare and No I would never in a million years make my daughter’s pay me because I too know the struggle. But my daughter’s do make sure I’m always good on whatever and they always make sure the grandbabies have snacks and everything they like so I don’t have to worry about it… our situation works for us and like I said, they repay in other ways and It’s playtime for me and the gbabies 
But you sound like you Expect it and as a mother I think it’s highly disrespectful to assume that she should help u or that she’s even obligated to. I do it because my daughter’s would Never Expect me to do anything for them, they’re very appreciative
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Stop thinking your grandparents still owe you everything including child care. You are an adult and paying it backwards is the thing to do starting with your parents and grandparents. Help people out that changed your diapers and fed you a bottle when you were wet and hungry.
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Afterschool is cheaper
Ok but she didn’t ask for you to fuck & have a kid. You chose to do that if she wants money give it to her. Fuck $65 a week is cheap af.
I think it’s fair my own mother won’t even watch my kids that much and I don’t expect her to they aren’t her kids plus that’s way cheaper than daycare totally reasonable I don’t think I’d be ok with not paying at least 15 bucks a day off the bat
Your grandma is 65 and she is doing you a big favor… $65 bucks is notjing… her time is precious. You are lucky she is watching your son… give her the money
You should be happy she only wants $65 per week , pay her you cheap cunt.
Or pay a regular sitter the going rate and leave grandma alone.
sorry - but I have to agree.
She is helping u out so why not help her out better than paying 150 a day. Don’t b cheap help your gran out
Uh yes, pay her. Cheap ass ungrateful.
Yes anyone who is watching your child should get paid family or not unless it’s you or the father 
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You’re getting off cheap!!! Someone who loves your baby like no other! Fed and loved??? Pay it and be grateful or get sub-par morons to raise your kiddos!!
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I have 13 grandkids and keep any of them anytime. And 2 on a regular basis 8 hrs 2 days a week. I would never charge for keeping my grandchildren. If I am having financial struggles I just have my daughter bring them food for the 2 days. I’m blessed to be able to be so close to my grandchildren.
Look at this way,you pay sitter, why not grandma,father,?
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Absolutely you should pay… You should actually pay more than that! You know your child is safe and why should she do it free? Family or no family to even ask this question is absurd
It’s not a matter if he’s an easy child to watch or not. If she’s 62 it’s a safe assumption she’s on a fixed income?? Paying for an extra mouth to feed and take care of could be costing her lively hood. Maybe offer to bring food and supplies if that’s the problem. She’s asking for a reason…you’re asking her to help you, you should do the same for her.
If you don’t like her request then find a new sitter
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I’m a 50 year old Grandma. I was watching my grandchildren 10 hours a day. It exhausted me. I did it for free to help my daughter. During that time I had no life of my own. They arrived at 6:30 and left at 4:30 every day. So I had no time to do anything during the day. After they left I was so exhausted I couldn’t get off the couch.
I adore my grandkids. But everyday all day is a lot. For the Great Grandma three days a week may be to much for her whether he is easy or not.
In my opinion this mom should have offered to pay her when she asked her to babysit.
I wish I still had my Grandma here to complain about.
Be glad you have support and love from your Gramma
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yes you should pay her see if you can find someone else you trust cheaper you need to grow up a little she is a senior citizen for crying out loud
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Count your blessings. Daycare is more expensive and they don’t love you child like your grandma does (if she’s anything like me)
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I hope you supply food and money for outings if you don’t expect to pay anything I’m sure any grandmother would never charge unless they need the money
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Sounds like you are getting a damn good deal. And like you feel like you’re entitled to regular free care for your son. What makes you feel like the grandparents owe you their time like that? It would be different if it wasn’t such a regular thing but they are helping you out and that is hardly anything.
I don’t pay my mother, but I also supply all the kids food and snacks. I buy her enough food to last my kids for the month so whenever they are there they have food that i know they will eat & she doesn’t have to spend extra money on food for 3 kids.
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I watched my grandson for free for 5 yrs ,my financial situation now changed - I charge my daughter $60 a week -which is about $1 an hr .If grandparents are helping for a special occasion or as a back up most don’t expect pay ,if they are your permanent child care provider - pay her - that’s cheap
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$65/week is NOTHING compared to what you would pay otherwise. Stop being entitled. Your grandmother is probably spending money out of HER pocket for YOUR kids.
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If she wants to be paid then yes. I’ve always offered whenever anyone watches my kids and my family as always declined cause it’s just what family does, but that’s not how everyone is.
I think you should still pay family for babysitting. Maybe not pay them as much as you would someone else. But you should pay them something.
Sure you are not a charity case. She has to keep an eye on him if not he could stay home an take care of himself. I had to pay my mom to watch my daughter when I worked an I was a single mom.
She doesn’t owe you anything! Shes your grandmother, for goodness sake. Why should she have to watch your child for free? That is a small amount of cash, and obviously she must need it and so pay it. Thats nothing!
I pay my sister to watch my daughter 20 dollars a day. 3 to 5 days a week. Sooooo…i would rather pay a family member to watch her whom I know will love her and care for her like I do then someone else.
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Obviously Grandma may need the $. That is a very minute amount to pay her i wouldn’t say no. And no one should ever EXPECT a grandparent to just babysit. Be grateful for the help and her doing it for you she is still doing u a massive favour and saving u a heck of a lot of $
Yes u should at least offer those are your kids if your family doesn’t want h them u will have to pay a stranger be thankful and pay up
So Great Grandma is child minding for up to 12 hours each week? I’m surprised she isn’t asking for more!
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To even ask is pretty shitty… that’s your grandmother… she helped raised you and now… she is doing you a favor with helping you with your children…you should consider yourself lucky… shes helping you… help her out too…
I paid 100 week for less than 2 hours… Thats fair
Grandma shouldn’t have to demand it from you, you should offer and appreciate that she does it so you don’t have to take your kids to a stranger. She’s helping you, return the favor.
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Yes you should pay her. Would you expect any other person to complete this for you without pay??? If you dont like it, find someone else.