She could be doing something else with her time but she’s watching your child. She already raised her kids, she doesn’t have to watch yours but she’s helping you a few days a week so you can work, the least you can do is pay her what she’s asking. And the $65 she’s asking is nothing compared to what a daycare or a stranger would charge you. I pay my cousin to watch my kids when there’s no school because they are my responsibility. She is using her time to watch them and she feeds them meals and snacks… that costs money. So what she’s charging me is peanuts compared to what a daycare would charge me just for a week off school which around me costs $500 for the week. Not every family asks to be paid but when they do, you shouldn’t hold it against them because they have valid and good reason to ask if they want.
A good sitter is worth paying
Maybe she’s on a fixed income and needs the money.
I pay my aunt to babysit my youngest every day she keeps him. My mom watches him & my other two when she gets off- i don’t “pay” her but i do- do small things- like give her extra $ to get her hair done, or take her to eat, or run to the grocery and pick up items she needs- or buy her something her or there.
I pay my sister 50$ a week to baby sit my 4 kids ,
I love having my grand kids around all the time and I am 68 years old.
That’s three days a week she’s willing to give up for you! At 62 she’s giving up a lot of her days for you! Be grateful… she’s also teaching you responsibility!
Yes. Family should be paid. $65 is a steal. That would get you a day and a half at a childcare center.
I go agree both ways. Respectfully yes but shes also the grandma and she should not ask because if you don’t work how would you pay your bills. She should see it as her helping you and time with her grand baby.
Personally, if my mom was alive and able to be apart of my kids’ lives, it would be an absolute HONOR for her to be able to watch her grandbabies regularly. She would whole heartedly ADORE spending time with them and I would in turn treat her to special things as a thank you, although she would never expect anything in return! But this is just based on the type of amazing person my mother was. I know most grandparents these days do want to get paid and think of it as a “job” rather than quality time spent with grandchildren. If it upsets you that much, I’d try finding a daycare or babysitter.
It’s $20 a day! I’d kill for that! I pay $34 per day 5 days a week. So that’s $170 per week, $680 per month or more depending on the month. My kids are good too!
Grandma’s have lives too… Be thankful you’re not paying childcare
If its regularly yes you should pay them, of they want to babysit and hang with the kids no but an occasional gift or something to say thankyou is always recommended. Just because they are at home or have nothing to do you shouldn’t take advantage of them
If my parents or the father parents ever watch our child they have never said they wanted money for it and enjoyed spending time with there grandchildren. However there not expected to watch our children and we always ask and they have even said no from time to time (Usually when they have have something to do). We have offered money but there reponded are always the same we are family, that’s what family do for each other.
I dont see anything wrong w giving her some money, but $65 a week I think is a little expensive. Have u tried sitting down and talking to her about paying her slightly less? Or maybe providing snacks for him, to help out w the grocery bill. I think it’s sad that people didnt do the math and see that shes not watching him 40 hours a week.
Yes!!! I pay $20 an hour, $5 per kid for a 46 hour week!!! I know it’s your grandma but I’m sure she probably has a plan with the money for the days she’s giving to watch him, I pay my sister $3 an hour per kid and $5 for any travel but everyone else is the top pay and that’s still not much compared to what some have to pay!!
Perhaps if she was not watching them she would need to work and is probably charging you a lot less than what she could earn working those 12 or so hours. Perhaps that’s the bare minimum she needs to get by
I guarentee you could find someone to watch him for less. Ive watched 3 kids for 20ish a week 3-5 hours a day. If she dosen’t work, thats ridiculous to be asking for 65 a week.
Yes…if they have to watch them every day than yes
Yes. Pay her. Expecting a free babysitter 3x/week is ridiculous. Here and there, sure. Family or not, that’s still the norm
My daughter pays me to babysit. I don’t expect to get paid but she insists it’s saving her money because child care is so expensive. However she knows I would do it for free. It’s mutual respect and love for each other.
I’ve never charged. However, I think that “free daycare” increased how often I babysat.
However $65 is steep in my opinion.
I paid my sister in law 135-150 a week for daycare it’s not their child to have to take care if it’s yours if you want to work you pay daycare period no matter who watches the child
Yes you should pay the grandma to watch your kids . Do you go to work, an work for free???
Well you get a paycheck for working don’t you
I would never ask or expect my mother let alone my grandmother to provide any consistent care for my kids. Her job is to freely enjoy them as often as she would like, my job is to provide for them. Why don’t you at least respect her time by properly compensating her? You’re neither owed or entitled to her time.
$65.00 a week for child care!!! Cheep!!! Pay the woman!!!
She is teaching u that things don’t come free!!! But it also depends on the grandma! My mom who has always ran a day home who is 62 has watched all her grandkids for free I try to pay her but she refuses to take money so when I can I try to pay for things that she asks me to grab and not charge her! I know it doesn’t compare to what I would be paying her to babysit but I try to return the favour when I can
Why would you pay someone else but not her? She is 62 probably on social security or about to be. Believe me it is not enough so your $65.00 a week may mean she can eat or buy medicine. You should be very ashamed. If you think this about family you are not a very nice person in my book.
PAY THE WOMAN!!! Enough said.
Does she feed this child? Does she not watch this child? Does she not take him out and do things with this child? Then yes you should pay her.
I think it should be paid if its on a regular schedule every week. If its just every now and then, then there shouldn’t be any compensation to spend time with family.
Grandma ain’t stupid lol. You’d pay more at a daycare and Granny most likely wants to spend it on your son or Christmas. Excepting anyone, regardless of their relation to babysit for free is on you, not her. Just pay granny and thank her for the peace of mind you get knowing your son is well taken care of
She’s 62 FFS! You should be grateful she can even do it! If you don’t want to give her something then find someone else. Doesn’t matter how good (or not) the child is. It’s still the responsibility she’s taking on each and every time you leave your little boy with her. If it was the occasional babysitting that would be entirely different. But you have her committed to 3 days every week regardless of how many hours each day. And why do people assume that because she’s at home that she has nothing better to do!? Grow up and be grateful she can have him at all!!!
Are you for real. Wow
My mom 62 whatches my 5yr daughter for free when she’s not in school. But i do give her little gufts here and there…but to my mom its grandma and grandaughter time
That’s an old generation they believe nothing came free. She’s teaching you that just bc you have grandma now you won’t always and then you WILL be paying that money for a babysitter
If she wasn’t watching your baby you would pay someone else to, someone you probably don’t know. By paying her you are helping her lioe she is helping you and the child is with someone who loves him/her.
Let her try to pay a babysitter, she will be glad that her mother ask for $65 dollars.
I’ve paid my mom, my sisters when they used to babysit. They would try to refuse, but I insisted. I didn’t want to take advantage of them. We all love each other and help each other. I can never thank them enough, even tho it’s been years.
Family is family we help each other but it doesn’t make sense to want to pay strangers to watch your child and not want to pay family? I would think the investment is richer when you pay family instead of strangers.
$65 is Nothing for the peace of mind that comes with knowing your child is well cared for and safe especially with someone like a granny. Not only are you helping her out, you will allow your child to have and make great memories to cherish after granny is no longer around! To me it’s a no brainer! If you took him to someone else, you probably would pay more than $65 and you cant guarantee the care he would recieve.
You have to pay someone why not the Grandmother.
The entitlement is astounding. $65 a week, a 62 yr old woman? Not a stranger? If that makes you mad try $200 a week for daycare. You are unappreciative and an ass hat. Get over yourself.
My nana watches my son for free six days a week. I have tried paying her but paying the bills and working on the house, I don’t have enough to really support the house and give her money. I also have to admit that we can’t stand each other. We barely speak. And she’s not at all pleasant. But she’s okay to my son.
Yes… ABSOFREAKINGLUTLY.
She must need it and deserves it…or she wouldn’t ask
Do you have peace of mind? That’s priceless. You should be grateful & thankful she is willing to commit to help you with childcare for that small amount of $
My family will watch my daughter and none of them charge me. I’ll buy pizza 
for them and have dinner or offer but they never really take cash it’s always maybe yes to pizza dinner lol
I babysit for my mom she has two kids she pays me $50 a weekend which is 3 days. She would rather me watch the kids and pay me then some. Random person!! Just look at it that way. Some one you trust to watch your kid or someone you barely know to watch him but I’m pretty sure you can talk to your local DHHS and they can help you with your question!! Also
So put your kid in daycare and pay 5x that.
Such a stupid thing to bitch about.
Doesn’t matter if your kid sits on his ass half the day. Kids are exhausting, your g-ma is 62, not 30.
My father would watch my son for me while I went to work or school. And he would just ask that I bring him something back, not all the time. But I also didn’t mind spending the money on him because he was doing me the favor. He would also do anything for his grandchild, because he loves spending time with him, even if he doesn’t get something like money, I think he is more happy that he gets to spend quality time with his partner in crime. Some people want money and some people want quality time.
My mom or mother in law would never charge but I would feel horrible having someone watch my kids on the regular and not reimburse them so I think thats reasonable! I pay 75 for 3 days a week 3 hours of preschool.
Pay her. Regardless of what your child’s behavior is, it is still WORK to watch a child. Just be thankful that $65 a week is all she wants. That’s nothing compared to daycare or other sitters.
I pay $53 a day at my sons daycare…
Yes, you should pay. She is providing a service…
No one has the obligation to babysit your child. The only one who has that responsibility is you and the father. Giving money to someone who watches over your son is the least you could do. And honestly with the childcare rates right now you’re really not paying much…
be grateful you have someone you trust to watch him because not many people don’t.
I personally would feel bad with someone watching my children for nothing. Family or not. And I think $65 is a great deal per week. Because most daycares around our area it’s a $150 minimum a week.
No matter how easy you think they are kids aren’t easy.
It’s your choice as family to babysit or not but also it’s your choice if they don’t wanna pay you any money it’s your choice not to babysit and no hard feelings family is family if I wanted to pay someone to babysit I would hire someone but I don’t expect my family to take money from me
Yes you need to pay her for her time.
I watch my grand daughter for free but I love spending that time with her.I only have her two or three times a week.Its for peace of mind.But if your Grandmother wants to be paid she probably needs the money and you should pay her.Its a lot cheaper then daycare and your child is in a safe environment.
What’s her number? I’ll give her double what she wants. Cheapest babysitting ever.
I feel that just because you think 
your child is easy to care for doesn’t mean it will be for her. She is older and she loves him. She provides for him with what you give her. Remember the times you had with her as a child. Maybe you didn’t spend as much time as you would have like to with her. Her time is valuable just like yours. He will get memories from her that you can’t buy. When my older kids were little it was $35 a child after and before school a week no matter how many days. $65 a week for 0-5 years old plus bring diapers and formula for the infants. Kid was sick you had to find someone else to watch them. Don’t get me wrong, I would love 
the chance to watch my granddaughters. I have offered to watch them for free even with my daughter’s restrictions. But your grandma is helping you out just some food for thought 
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I allways watch my grandchildren for free but its allways nice for somethkng done…
Alot of times dinner is brought home
Yes, I would pay… but $65 a week seems a little high for only watching him for 2-4 hours 3 days a week… I pay $150 a week for full day(0530-1730) 5 days a week… Soooo…
Pay her in ways like doing stuff for her around the house like food, cleaning, pay to get her grass cut , gas in her car, pay a bill r whatever she needs monthly…
The way I look at it is either pay 65$ or pay ten times as much… Your choice… Family isn’t there to be used. If they refuse money then so be it. But they’re not the parents. You are…
My mother babysits my son 5 days a week usually 9 hours. My sisters babysit sometimes. My cousin babysits sometimes. Not a single one of them would ask me to pay them 
Go get a babysitter, quit complaining, it’s YOU, WANTING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE. HERE
My mom comes over for a day she leaves with $40. 3 days $150. She stays at my house, I provide food and she gets time with her grandchild. She doesn’t ask for money but me and my sister pay her. She has bills too.
I think she should. Be paid . she’ giving up her time . . And thats pretty cheap considering if you had to get child care else were. 1 child can run.$1100 and up
A month
That’s per child. It a job. Watch ing kids don’t matter if related or not. Takeing care of any child ,baby, toddler school age is work . don’t matter how good they are. I dont under stand why you wouldn’t want to give. The grandma a little extra money. I m sure your child well taken care by her.
I say be greatful you have her to help you. Also its hard to find child care. Doing Back ground checks and. Finding a someone you can trust .
It’s the little things… love her …thank her… for she won’t always be there. Just saying. I bet she Helps keep your house to. Cleans and cooks for you… also. you might wanna do something. extra for her. To show how grateful you are good luck.
I’m so sorry. That is terrible. I keep my grandkids for a couple weeks at a time so our daughter and her husband can get a break. I never have thought I should charge them! It’s called FAMILY ! And if they lived closer I would watch them every day so they wouldn’t have to pay daycare.
I don’t think that’s unreasonable. Daycare is very costly and most places do not do part time. So whether your child is there 2-4 hours or 5 days a week you pay full price. I would be very thankful that you can pay that little and know your child is well taken care of.
I babysit my grandchildren and won’t take any money
I’ve learned this the hard way, you can’t have any expectations of family. The do not “owe” you anything. If she wants to be paid like a babysitter then pay her like a babysitter. Likewise, if you find situation for childcare, she doesn’t have the “right” to watch your child just because she is family
Tell her you will make other plans for her grandson. And when he said why you will tell he his grandma want money to spend time with him.
I don’t charge to watch mine I don’t do it regularly bc they live too far. Grandma raised her kids already. She also has to plan days around having your child unless she stays home all day everyday. Is she on a fixed income? If she goes to a gym now she has childcare cost. I imagine she feeds the child whether she is at home or takes the child out to eat. Or to movies or skating or whatever. I’m sure she loves spending time with her grandchild but this is time for her now. I have seen so many abuse grandparents generosity bc "they should WANT to spend time with their grandkid so they don’t pick the kids up after work but go to the gym or to tan or to go to the store by themselves. Plus want them to watch the kids so they can go out bc they deserve some fun time to themselves. Honestly too often people feel entitled to free childcare by family but if they get mad then withhold the child from them.$65 is cheaper than most and they’re with someone who loves them too so it seems like a win to grandma and child to me but also to you.
Girl pay your grandmother. Don’t be cheap when it comes to your child and who watches him. Let your grandmother tell you no and you’ll be paying way more than 65 a week. Smh
It is a lot cheaper than an actually babysitter !
She could be “demanding” a lot more. Sure, your kid could be very well behaved… but she is 62! Five year olds are hard, no matter what age the babysitter is. It takes A LOT to keep a five year old occupied. Independent or not, your child still needs food, attention, board games, etc. To keep them busy. And she does that for y’all.
For y’all saying she wants money to “spend time” with her grandchild, shame on you.
Pay her the $65 or move along.
I’d look for someone else $5 a hour seems like a lot at least in my state where minimum wage is only $7.35! If you are working to pay for daycare its pointless to work! I’m sure with that few hours you could find a in home daycare that would charge less!
He can watch himself for free, if he’s so well behaved. SMH. Pay your grandma!
I am a grandma to an 9 year old and a new baby who is 4 months today and when my daughter goes back to work I will gladly babysit for free because I love my grandchildren! My mother wouldn’t charge me when she babysat my children and I wouldn’t charge my daughter either!
How is this even a question! Someone is taking the time out of their lives to watch your child & you wanna cry because they wanna be compensated! Not to mention that $65 a week is a steal for child care. Grow the hell up!
He’ll yes. They raised theirs you raise yours
Pay your grandma omg
My Mamaw watches my 3 year old everyday that I work and has never charged me a dime
If iys once in a while i could see not giving money but a regular thing? I kind of think so but thats just my opinion
Why wouldn’t you help out a family member that’s helping you out. You will blindly pay so much more for a random stranger to watch your little angel…so why not to a family member…I’m just saying…nothing is free in this life…just because they’re family, it doesnt mean you dont pay up!
Iwish i could get a.free sitter even for 2 hours
Fyi…I paid $250/ week for my son to be “watched” from 2:30pm until 5:30pm Monday Friday…girl!!! STOP complaining and pay her!
Well for one she is 62 so what’s easy for you isn’t for her. Also expect no one to watch your kids for free and daycare would be double that. When you want to spend time with a kid as a grandparent it great grandparent you do it on your terms not on a schedule. So yes she is doing a job so she should get paid.
Grandma should be glad she can spee the three days a seee with him
I paid my father for babysitting while I worked and it was 100 so… I guess if its not a visit its for u then yea probably pay her or ur just taking advantage
Uhhh yeah!! Doesnt matter family or not, 1) shes a much older woman, im sure she has other things shed prefer to do then babysit, 2) thats time out of her life she aint getting back. 65$ a week aint shit. Quit being greedy and i titled and pay the woman, thats YOUR kid, not hers, she aint obligated to do shit for free
Yes they should be paid -grama especially , shes older n wouldnt it make u feel good to help her wit some of her bills n she helps u --love her she aint gna be here forever
Stay home and watch your own kid for free. How ungrateful. Or check out local rates for day care for one week. Bet you’ll change your tune then.
My kids grandparents would never take monet for watching them. We provide food, etc. Everything they need all day. And they are the grandparents.
I would 100% offer my mother something if it was an every week thing. I have my mother pop in to watch my 10yr old and order them supper and a movie. I can’t imagine expecting someone to watch my child on the regular for nothing!