My MIL did that as well. I just don’t understand that. If the patent offers to pay, fine. If she demands…uh, NO!
Yes you should pay. Especially if she’s feeding your child, she very well could be taking away from herself to ensure he gets what he needs. It doesn’t matter if she is family.
I pay my mother, my children’s grandmother when she watches my children…they are work regardless and it’s her time, even if it “gramma time” with bonding…they eat her food and she provides baby food for my 16 month when he comes over…even if just occasional stays for a couple hours or an overnight…regardless, she never asks for money, I offer and feel responsible to pay…
I’m a granny. I love my grandchildren. One lived with us for 6 years. I would not demand money. They made me feel young and I love them more than money!
I don’t understand why there is this thinking that people should do things for free or donate their time. Peoples time have a value.
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Your Grandma doesn’t owe you shit. Grow up and find proper child care.
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Would you go to your job and work for free? Family or not you should pay her, and be thankful you child is with someone who knows them and lives them!!
I would absolutely pay her at least to cover food expenses if she feeds them. It’s cheaper and safer than daycare!
I pay my parents $40-50 a day to watch my 5yr old and 8 month old. My daughter also goes to kindergarten during the day so most of the time they only have my son.
Grandparents don’t babysit; they spend every possible moment they can with their grandchildren. I offer to take my grandkids any time I can and yes I have picked them up from daycare so mon and dad didnt have to pay a full day price. I choose to help as much as I can and trust me it helps. Plus I cant tell you how excited my grandbabies get when they see me, it’s the best feeling in the world. And pay me please I would pay them if I could keep them longer.
Of course you should…you get paid at your job don’t you?
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Your child is not her responsibility therefore if you would pay a service you would pay her simple
Wrong attitude! You would pay someone else to watch your child why not pay her. It’s not her responsibility to babysit so I think you should pay. I’m sure she provides meals & snacks for your child & food is not cheap.
I was raised that with family it’s a give and take relationship and money should never be expected. If she watches my kid every day I help remodel her house or whatever she needs. Neither of us ever expecting money. That’s just how we are in my family.
I was just getting paid $10 an hour to babysit my friend’s kid. I felt guilty taking her money but then I thought why?! We each provide a service. I pay her at her salon to get a massage from her and she pays me to babysit when she needs me. $65 is a great deal for the week. I know my mom wouldn’t want to babysit that much if I had kids. She has a life. But, she would take them when she had the free time and was NOT required to do so.
If you’d pay a daycare you can handle paying tour family ! What is she wasn’t able to you’d be paying a daycare
There’s a difference between landing a hand and making it a job. If it’s for you to work Yes you should pay her you are asking her to make a commitment. 65$ is nothing compared to what daycare charges. .
First off you should never “expect” anything and $65 a week that is nothing… if you didn’t have your grandma you would be dishing out triple that a week for a non family babysitter/ day care. Be appreciative to your grandmother she is making sure your child wether difficult or not is safe protected and is helping you raise that baby. You should be giving her more than $65.
Pay her to babysit otherwise you would have to pay someone else. Why do people think grandparents should sit for nothing. Wrong. If they don’t want paid that is their choice not yours.
You should be greatful that your grandmother is able to keep your child. He is in a safe place and she loves him. You on the other hand is selfish, maybe you should go to the local daycare and ask them what they charge per child per week. I do believe you would be shocked. I thank God everyday that my mother was able and willing to keep my two boys.
Absolutely they should! If they’ll do it for free then that’s awesome but if they want compensation for THEIR time then you should be happy its ONLY $65. You should also feel blessed because not everyone has family to watch their children. Why does it bother you that you may have to pay someone for their time? You get paid for your time don’t you?
Yes you should pay and she’s giving you a great discount she’s not obligated to do anything for you that’s YOUR child ! She did her time it’s her time to focus on herself so you need to be more greatful not many get the benefit of a willing to help grandma ijs
I paid my mom to watch my children when I worked cuz you pay your way. $65 dollars is a cheap compared to daycare so count your blessings and pay grandma
I think you should pay & personally I’d make them take my money. Grandparents watching children is a privilege, not a given right. They are doing You a favour, saving you money on childcare & also letting you go to work… So the least you can do is pay the cheap $65. If you had your son in childcare you’d be paying more then $65 per day. Like I said your situation is a privilege, not a given right.
I personally would pay my grandmother way more then that if she watch my child not because she would ask. but she takes time out her personal life to tend to my child it’s her job 🤷 if you worked for family member you would expect your job to pay you
" Also he is not a hard child to watch. He’s the calmest, most independent child I’ve ever known honestly. He doesn’t throw tantrums or run around screaming. He’s very well behaved."…says most people who do not want to have to pay for child care. The real question here is, would you have to be paying someone else this fee, if it weren’t family? I would rather the money benefit someone who needs it, especially family who most can trust far more than a stranger.
I can’t think of a more important thing to spend $65 on than your child. Pretty cheap and the blessing of knowing they are well taken care of.
At least with your grandma you should not have to worry about him being abused or neglected. Yes, pay her and be happy you have someone to trust.
Yes, they should be paid. Just as you would anyone else.
That’s cheap. You should be grateful. Childcare can go from 200 on up. She has a life too, her food is being eaten, her home is being used. If she asks for you to give her 65 you better pony up.
Hey my mother in law charged us $100. A week / for pickup her granddaughter from kindergarten and at 12 and had her until 3 mon-Fri, paid her in advance. Know that I fill now that she’s older and watched Brother in laws children for free, that they can pay to take care of her! She burned me a month before school let out, she went on a small trip and got paid before she left and didn’t come home until end of June. Never asked her for shit again and never will…family sucks sometimes…
My mom would watch my kids I have a huge age range, so when I was a young single parent I lived with my parents with my 2 kids and would pay a bill and provide groceries in exchange for my mom watching them. Now about a year ago she watched my youngest during school time and I paid her along with paying my parents cell phone bill and would bring a few groceries over to them.
Sounds to me that you feel entitled and it’s not her job to babysit your kid.
Get another sitter. I’d was very happy and still is to look after my 12 yr old. She should consider herself lucky.
That is a small price to pay for someone who loves your child to care for them.
If it’s an every week thing then yes gram should be compensated for her time. Just because someone is family member does not mean they are obligated to give up their time any time you need a sitter. Even if you are just going to work. You chose to have a child and part of being a responsible adult is realizing that your going to have to pay someone for child care. It’s a life lesson. I’m glad gram is setting boundaries with you. It teaches you that your not entitled to things in life. And is a good thing to get in your head now. Besides chances are gram is going to use the money for gas and snacks for the kids anyways. Trust me it’s what they do.
I’m sure it would be helping your grandma out alot if you paid her not only for her time but gas and food. She’s not responsible for your child. No disrespect to you. I’m sure she loves you both a great deal. At her age it’s not an easy task any more. The older we get the harder things are. Have you looked into daycare ect for your child ,? I’m sure you’re better off paying the grandma. Plus the peace of mind knowing that your child is some where safe and with someone who loves them very much. Then with a stranger where who knows what can happen to your child.
I don’t she’s demanding that you pay her, that is her rate for watching and caring and loving your children
If its occassionally, like once or twice a month then no. Every week, yes. You’re a grown up. You have to pay for childcare.
I am sorry, but grandma should be paid, it is still cheaper than you would have to pay someone else and he is safer
Seriously? She has made a commitment of her time to be responsible for your child. If it were anyone else, you would be paying a whole lot more for a person who would be a whole lot less committed. How can you even think that you shouldn’t pay her? By the way, she is worth way more than she is asking.
I pay grandma $25 a day to watch 1 child, 16 months. They take time out to watch them, and technically you’d still pay way more at a daycare.
Def pay her! If you don’t like the price find someone cheaper but good luck with that! Never ever expect a family member to do for free unless they have offered to. Even then you should offer them SOMETHING from time to time for their help.
Yes you pay her it’s the decent thing to do you should have offered and said that I will pay you this amount of money to watch him just out of the kindness you’re not going to find people anymore that you can trust with your children that are kind and loving and caring and well-taken so yes pay her
Why wouldn’t you pay your grandmother is the real question here???
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I think you should as she is taking time to loving care for your littles. Just because she is family doesn’t mean her time is any less important than say someone else who would watch your kids.
Absolutely you should pay. You wouldn’t take your child to a daycare and expect them to do it for free. She raised her kids. She isn’t even asking that much. Sounds like you are trying to use your poor granny (that is probably on a fixed income). If it is once in a while okay she should do it for free because your family but you are taking up 3 days of her week.
Yea if the family asked to be paid yes. Theyre giving up their time to watch and care for your child and it’s on the regular if it wasn’t such a regular thing and they didnt ask then no
I always offer to pay my mom when she watches my kids every weekend and to pay or supply their food she says no. So I dont. But if she did of COURSE I’d PAY her
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I look after 8 grandchildren- I’m on a pension which certainly doesn’t go far- so i feed them, take them to school, take the littlies to the park or other activities, pick school kids up, take them to sports, or dance plus appointments, feed them, do homework to start with. I appreciate any monetary assistance, but i don’t specifically get a regular income.
Grandmother may appreciate some assistance, if you appreciate her and her assistance. BUT it is an agreement that should work for all.
If she has to travel to your home then, yes, definitely pay her, gas is not free. If you bring him to her house then she’s feeding him. If you had to use a stranger you would be paying a lot more. Pay the good lady and be thankful, you selfish cow.
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I hope your grandma quits on you!!! That is nothing she’s changing you and you should be grateful. Try calling day cares and see how much your kids will cost you
Ungrateful
Yep she needs to be paid!! Family or not and she’s cheap!! Finding someone cheaper and would care for your child like your grandma could, good luck!!
I say yes because she’s driving to your house three times a week that’s gas out of her own pocket to watch your child it’s supposed to be a grandmother role not a babysitter and you’re asking her to babysit for free while she’s wasting her money going to your house if anything you should pay her $15 a trip each day for gas
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Your grandma is not your private maid. Pay the lady and be thankful you have her.
My son goes to preschool for 2 days a week 3 hours a day and I pay $600 a month for part-time could you imagine if I had to pay 7 days a week a full day I couldn’t afford it I have my village and I’m very grateful for that and I do I pay them fort there time.
I think everyone goes through this! Thankfully my son’s grandparents never asked for money 🤷
No offense but why livid? This may be an unpopular opinion but your grandma has raised her kids…you are asking her to spend her golden years (in part) helping you out and caring for her great grandchild. 65 is not bad when in fact you could be paying out the wazoo for daycare. I guarantee you won’t find a deal like that in daycare. However, if you feel so strongly then try another avenue. I would also like to say that no one watches kids for free…they have bills to pay and what not too. Just saying.
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Family or not, Grandma is babysitting as a “job”. Babysitting and visiting are not the same thing. If she was visiting grandchild or offered to watch him, then no pay is not necessarily needed. But if its a set schedule of watching then it is a babysitting job and she should be paid. So what if its family. Family babysitters should be paid too.
I think this is meant to be a joke… I would pay double to have their grandmother watch them.
Someone who I trust, who loves them like no their daycare worker or babysitter ever could.
She has to be joking!
Your family members time is as valuable as yours or anyone else’s. You’d have to pay a babysitter or a day care more than that so why would have a problem paying that low of a rate and helping out your grandmother with her bills and groceries especially since she’s probably feeding your child. She doesn’t owe you anything and it’s a shame you feel you get to dictate how she should spend her free time and but don’t even want to pay her for it. It’s probably incredibly insulting to her as well that you don’t even feel she deserves to be paid for her time.
go price day care; this isn’t an occasional babysitting job, you want her to put her life on hold 3 days/ week, every week, yes pay her
Yes she should be paid. She is family, but does not owe you. You are working. It amazes me how young people think they are entitled.
If this was occasionally, and she volunteers to do it, then you should at least offer to pay.
But because it’s 3 days a week, that is a part time job she could have somewhere else. You should be grateful to have someone you know and trust to care for your baby.
You sound very entitled.
If my daughter ever tried to pay me to be with my grandsons, I would be so offended
I am a 74 yr old grandmother and now a great grandmother… I would Never ask or expect to be paid to babysit my grandchildren!! I have kept my oldest great granddaughter since she was born (she is 7 now) and now I babysit her 2 yr old brother occasionally! They keep me active and I am so glad I am blessed to babysit them. Charge them?? Never!!
If you do the math ( I used 9 hours as an average)you are basically paying 7.22 an hour which is less than minimum wage. That does not factor in drive time for her to get to your house. If you look up child care prices or even go on care.com you would pay double that. It would be different if it was a “once in a while thing” but it is a set thing. Just because someone is family doesn’t mean they should be a free babysitter. Her time is valuable to her so she asks you to pay a VERY reasonable fee. I think you should ask yourself why this seems so outrageous to you.
I watched my nephews and nieces when they were little for my sister and brother and was paid. Just because we are family doesn’t mean that we are built in babysitters. How much is your childs well being worth to you, because $65 is cheap and if she wasn’t watching him then you would have to pay a stranger to care for your child. You are in the wrong to assume that she shouldn’t be paid for her time.
Yes you should pay her. My cousin and my daughters godmother use to watch me daughter and I paid her $100 a week. People have lives and your child is not their responsibility no matter how much they love them.
Tell you the same thing my mother told me I raised mine you raise yours if I want him to come over the house I’ll invite them. I respected her for that
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Grandmas are for watching once in a while. If she does it on a regular basis she should be paid. If she is wealthy you need to negotiate otherwise pay her. If you can find someone less expensive consider : will your child be as happy, loved or safe?
Yes a grandmother myself of kids age, 4,3,1 and I have my own kids still at home 6 and almost 2. When I watch my grandkids yes I get paid. If she working do I charge a lot absolutely not. That money goes back to the kids for food/snacks and activities. Do I charge for when my daughter just needs a kid day to get groceries or necessities without the kids no I don’t.
Self entitled ppl. Just knowing my child was with family would be so great. $65 is way less than a week at daycare. No brainer, pay your Grandma
I pay my father in law 20 a day to babysit his grandson he’s disabled and my monster can be a handful. He didn’t ask me to pay him I just do nothing in this world is free
My parents never consider watching their grandchildren as a “job.” They just loved being able to help my brother’s and I better our lives and see all their grand babies grow up. They adore the bond they have formed with them. Our family is very close and we take turns helping each other out whenever we can. No one would ever expect money for it.
Instead of being upset, instead consider it a blessing. She isnt charging you going rate of $10 plus and hour. At $65 a week, she is making sure your child is taken care of.
Have you thought maybe she uses the money to make sure there is the food, treats, and other things he needs when he is there. That costs money.
You should be grateful your mom helps you out. I work full time, 60 plus hours a week. I cant help my daughter and I feel horribly. So, feel blessed little one. You could be paying 120 a week for childcare
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No I watch my nephew and God Child and never asked for a dime.
She is responsible for watching him. She can not do anything else , you are taking her time. I watch my grandkids because I want to when I want to, not on a set schedule, that is call working, so she is not free to do what she wants as long as she is working watching your kid. Dont like to pay Grandma $65 a week , pay over $750 a month at childcare.
I kept my grandson every day (except Sunday, and occasionally Saturday) for 5 years. He went to kindergarten this year! I would never even consider asking for money! Actually it cost me money LOL
Did it ever occur to you that your grandmother probably is on a fixed income and needs the money ? … Smh you should be more than willing to help her out just like she’s helping you with the care of your child !!! Family takes care of each other , it’s a two way street
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Also depending on where you live look into low cost daycare programs too. Here I only pay 16 dollars a day at my wonderful daycare and that’s without any assistance and my child gets preschool activities and social skills so maybe there is a better option
Maybe she needs help and she don’t want to tell you!! If you feel she shouldn’t ask you to pay her put the child daycare I promise you will be Grateful for that Little payment she asking… Plus why you just don’t let her do daycare for him and the State pays her… My dad did it for me…
I watch my 20 month old grandson from 8 to 5 daily and I feel I deserve to be paid. First I’m tired at the end of the day,( not as young as I was) second it does keep me from doing my housework and stuff. I spend most of my earnings on grandkids anyway. Money or not you should really make sure she feels ur gratitude.
That alone would simply cover food cost. I am a grandmother of three and one on the way. When I babysit if it must be called that it’s my time with them. I don’t get it much because I work full-time and I’m a full-time college student. I would never ask to be paid, but helping with the cost of food would be a huge help.
I think It’s a regular thing, yes you should pay. My mom paid my grandma but my grandma was pretty much my primary care taker. 24/7 . She made me breakfast, lunch and dinner, helped me with homework, bathed me, put me in to bed and all that. And what my mom paid her went back to stuff I needed like groceries and house bills. It wasn’t my grandmother’s obligation to raise me, I’m not her child, but she took care of me so my mom could work and go to school.
If you’re using her as a regular sitter,yes, pay her. She may have other things she could do, but is helping you out
Put him in daycare and see how much it’ll cost you 
She doesn’t need to watch your kid. $65 a week is nothing.
I think is only reasonable to pay something for the care of your child. If money is a problem, then they’re other ways of payment for the care and family is family…
I keep my 3 year old grandson at no cost to my daughter…
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I watch my grandbabies while my kids have worked. Sometimes 3 kids at a time. I absolutely loved it. I would be highly offended if my kids would pay me. Its extra money that they can do things with the little ones with. Ill watch my grandbabies any day for as long as needed i appreciate the time spent with them that i wouldnt get if they were in a day care or with a “babysitter”
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Grandma gives her time, energy and probably doesn’t do everything she used to do that you can save money. At least you know he’s being fed and taken care of. She probably spends that money on things your child likes. Why do you think you should get services for free? I’m sure she gives a lot of time and energy and really doesn’t feel like it.
I think you should be grateful that you aren’t paying more and that you have someone watching your child that you know you can trust. How can you put a price on that? It might be different if its once in a while for a date night and the family member offers or agrees do it without charge but you’re leaving your kid with this woman on a regular basis. It doesn’t matter who she is, how old she is, how well behaved your child is or anything else, she has a life too and you are acting like a spoiled child feeling entitled just because you’re family. My guess is that your grandmother knows your attitude and is demanding payment partially because of it. If you were the type of person who didn’t feel sk entitled you would be surprised at how many people would be so much more likely to help you out just for the sake of helping you.
Hopefully you can learn s valuable lesson here and pass it along to your son.
My mom kept my kids and she charged for it. I knew my kids were in good hands. That was worth the money that I paid.
If this was occasionally but it sounds like it is 3 days a week. Yes, I think you should pay your grandma something. At first I thought it was your mother but I read back over it. It is your grandma and at age 62 I am sure she would love to have extra money. You are very lucky she is willing to watch her great grandson!!!
If you agreed before she started watching the child. If not, take him to a daycare or find someone else that will watch him for free! Probably isn’t going to happen.
Well, if you don’t like get someone else to look after him. She is giving up her time … she cannot go out or arrange anything for those times on those three days a week to help you. You will be paying a lot more for child care to look after him.
Well she is 62 years old. and the amount is less than minimum wage of 7.25 an hour for 12 hours. If this is something she does every week then yes I think she should be compensated for her time. it would cost you that plus for daycare… maybe she would agree to 50 a week? when it becomes a constant thing is when you really should reevaluate your thinking on the family thing… I have no problem watching my Grandchildren free of charge for three days in a row once a month or even one day a week but this is 3 days a week every week right?
My mom watched my oldest while I worked, and I paid her 300.00 to 400.00 a month and that was in 1991.
You should be happy that she is the one watching your child…pay Grandma!
My grandma watched my kids while I worked and I paid her cause she was doing me a favor and saving me from having to pay daycare. I say if you have extra money pay her it gives her spending money
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Definitely, you should do it out of the kindness of your heart, she raised you already she’s already worked, and maybe she needs the money