Maybe she could be pulled out for reading instruction and math then remain with her class the rest of the day, that way she would be receiving reading and math on a smaller scale, and she is able to get individualize instructions on the subjects she behind in and very possibly get caught up.
1 Like
As the parent you have a lot of say in her IEP. If she is behind in reading they should have it set up for her to get extra time to work on this just like speech therapy. A pull out class. Sped is just the lable given for those who have IEPs and isnât derogatory at all. Keep a close watch on whatâs done in class. Be interactive with her education make sure her teachers follow her IEP. If reading is the area she struggles in there is no reason to put her in a seperate class all day make sure she doesnât get pulled from other core classes to work on reading or she may fall behind in them
Speaking from experience, children can be very cruel when it comes to children with special needs/challenges. Let your child get the best help possible & have her assessed periodically by an independent professional ( not associated with the school ). Although special ed kids r taught how to socialize with others, other ânormal kidsâ arenât taught how to be kind to kids that r a little different. As a parent youâll always have the final word. Sending love & prayers for you & your beautiful family
From a mother with a special needs child⌠you have to put your own feelings aside⌠you have to do what it right by your daughter! If she has an IEP⌠then there is difficulty somewhere! As parents we think we are helping⌠donât wNt our babies to be labeled⌠but we actually arenât helping them!! My daughter has an IEP is in 9th grade now⌠has been in a contained classroom⌠with a mixture of general Ed classes⌠she is high honors⌠and thriving!! She is doing great!!
Do whatâs best for your daughter⌠not for you⌠not for grandma!! She still has a long way to go⌠get her the help to get caught up now⌠instead of having her struggle all the way through!
1 Like
My daughter was a young kindergartener. They wanted to hold her back and let her di kindergarten again. My husband and I said no sheâs going to first grade. I taught her how to read when she was still 4. She went into first grade and they had her at the the table for reading that needed extra help. I asked why? The teacher said well sheâs behind. I asked my daughter to pick up the first grade book from the other table and she read every word perfectly. If you work with your daughter she will shine.
Have them write an IEP and they must deliver services and still be in regular classes. Theyâll pull her out maybe be 1/2 per day to meet her needs.
1 Like
I have had all my kids with IEPs they arenât as bad as people think. All but one of my kids have exited out of it and are doing good. The IEP is so that your child gets the help that she needs. That a general education class cannot give her. They will have the time and resources to give her the more individualized help one on one that she might need where in the regular class she more than likely wonât because there is like a lot of kids in the class. The IEP classes are lesser number of students. Therefore the teachers can be more attentive to their needs. Also all of my kids had time every day where they went to the general education classes. Also remember you are the captain or leader of the IEP team. They regularly evaluate your child to make sure she is getting what she needs out of school. But remember that even though you are the leader keep your mind and heart open they might notice something you donât since they have your child the majority of the day. Being in an IEP class is not labeling your child it is giving her the chance to not only get caught up but to get the extra help that a regular teacher has a hard time doing sue to the sheer number of children vs the one teacher in the class. Special Education is different and better than when we were kids these children are no longer told they have limits but are shown a way to recognize their full potential and to reach that. And when it is time to exit believe me it isnât hard to do. They do goals that are specific to your child and every day your child works towards those goals. My Great Aunt went to Washington DC to fight for the IEP program because she fully believed that the special education needed to be revamped and remodeled. Believe me if you donât get her the help now that she needs it might hurt her in the long run. I am thankful to the IEP program and the help it gave my children. The only reason my 16 year old is still IEP is because he has a form of Autism and needs the extra help but a lot of his classes arenât even Special Ed. Just a thought from a mom who had success.
I recommend an IEP or a 504 in addition to a tutor. My eldest son has ADHD and was struggling for a while. Once he was diagnosed, things got much better. His 3rd grade teacher actually pulled me to the side and told me she thought he was slow, until she talked to him personally and she realized he is one of the most intelligent children she has ever met. She said his background knowledge on several subjects was beyond impressive. She was the one who recommended I get him evaluated for ADHD⌠I did and we got him professional help. The school put him on a 504 and we kept him in regular classes. Spent extra time reading too. Iâm so thankful for that teacher. He graduates High School next month. Kids learn nothing in special ED. Itâs basically a baby sitting room. I personally know of a young girl who was in special ED who said they would just watch TV all day. She can barely read⌠she is NOT slow! She just needed some guidance. Fight for her. Good luck mama. 
1 Like
my son was only in special ed certain times a day. he was REALLY good at math and science but not so good with ELA or social studies. he was with his normal class at those times where he was good and at art/music/ pe/ lunch time but with special ed when he needed a little help.
Get her extra reading materials so she can catch up. Thereâs tutorials out there for kids. You also need to sit with her and help her with sight words, read every night, get her books. I did this when the teachers suggested special Ed for my kids. I even got them tutors. We tried every thing and it worked with one child. At that point, I realized one needed special Ed. Sheâs a happy girl, learning at her pace, excellent in math and has a 3.6 gpa. She has come a long way, thanks to special Ed.
1 Like
By federal law you can make the school pay for an evaluation of your child by an outside third party. There shouldnât be an issue âgetting her outâ of special Ed program, it would just be a matter of her needing or not needing an IEP anymore. I completely understand your confusion if the school is not explaining everything thoroughly to you. Also, there should ABSOLUTELY be an evaluation done before an IEP is put in place. Itâs a good thing that teachers are voicing that there may be concerns- you WANT them to be paying attention like that even if itâs out of caution- but the special education department needs to be more thorough with this. YOU are your childâs biggest advocate. Do NOT back down because most sped departments will walk all over parents. Ask them to clarify literally everything.
If they are offering help take it my 9 year old has ADHD a speech delay ODD impulse control issues and a mild learning disability heâs got an IEP and a teacher in his class to sit with him and help however my 5 year old we are fighting to get help for him he has to attend half days at school because there isnât enough resources or special education teachers for kindergarten kids
The teacher can see first hand what help a child needs. If her teachers recommend it. Try it out. Itâs not a permanent situation. You will see in a few months if itâs right for her.
1 Like
The only thing you could do is work with her yourself over the summer and see if sheâs caught up by next year
My daughter is 9 and has been in some form of special education since K. Heads up, speech is considered special education as well. I definitely suggest signing her up, but discuss what the accommodations are. My daughter does small group sessions. Most of her time has always been with her classmates in general education classes. You want to aim for 80 percent or higher in Gen Ed. They can pull her from art, music, gym, ect to achieve this.
I also suggest getting an evaluation done to see if thereâs a reason her reading is behind. During an IEP meeting you cam request accommodations in the classroom that can help her learn. Maybe instead of reading chapter books, she uses something like Epic reading, or audio books. If she struggles with comprehension, eliminating some multiple choice questions on tests is is helpful or some kids do better with open-ended questions or being able to give verbal responses rather than written. Special education is not a dead sentence to education. Itâs designed to help the student but honestly many schools donât know what a student actually needs. Once an IEP is done, you can always request adjustments if something isnât working.
My daughter was an A, or pre A non-reader until 2nd grade, when I realized where her weaknesses actually are. Sheâs going into 4th now and is getting very close to reading at grade level.
My 1st grader was put in an extra class just to help her with math. She was in it for a semester then she was pulled from it. It has helped her A LOT.
Putting my daughter on an IEP was one of the best things we could have done for her. She was SO behind, but over time it helped her catch up to her peers (which they had originally said they thought she might never do - but she did by 6th grade!), and eventually helped her to thrive! Sheâs in high school now, and most of her classes are peer level classes, though she does still have some accommodations in them to help her best.
You will be giving her a chance BY putting her on an IEP/in special Ed. If you keep her in peer level classes she doesnât understand, so she just gets further and further behind, you will be hindering her education. Now, while she is young, is the BEST chance for her to catch up. Please donât hold her back.
And try to remember that labels arenât necessarily a bad thing. You need to change your perspective on it. My SO was against our daughter getting diagnosed at first too because of labels, but those labels identify what we are dealing with, and the diagnosis gives us access to the resources and tools to help her in ways we couldnât before. If we had withheld that help from her purely because we were too prideful or scared of her having a label, that would have been selfish of us. There is nothing wrong with her being autistic or ADHD, they are just different neurotypes. Her brain just works different. We had to learn how to raise her differently.
A diagnosis is your friend, not your enemy, ok? Good luck. 
I was in special Ed throughout school⌠shouldnât be ashamed itâs just extra help from an extra teacher my daughter also has an IEP not labeling you as nothing they are offering more help get it!!
Better now than later
Why donât you and your mother work with her during the summer and get her up to 1st grade level or above.Than she doesnât have to be labeled
1 Like
Can she do resource pull out for additional help? I always say that parents know best, but also realize special education is not some sort of bad thing or terrible label. The teachers want what is best for your child and they want your child to learn. Every kid is different. There is nothing wrong or bad with special education.
1 Like
Early intervention is best BUT if you are not comfortable I would have them do a pull out for reading. So she wouldnât do reading class with the whole group she would have a one on one opportunity. You will always make the final decision what is best for your child.
Better to make a C in reg classes than an A in special ed classes. The special ed classes will label her.
3 Likes
Also, I would encourage you not to abruptly pull your daughter out after just a year. They will test her regularly, have IEP meetings with you showing you where she is at (like, how close she is to peer level), what specific things they have been working on with her, what things they think she struggles with most, what things they plan to work on next, etc.
Iâve been to so many IEP meetings, and they have always showed me exactly where my daughter was at, how much she had improved, what their plan was to continue to help her to improve, goals for the next quarter, etc.
If an IEP wasnât needed any more, I would know, because the data they showed me would show that fact.
So, I guess I would just encourage you to trust your IEP team and trust that they have your childâs best interests at heart.
1 Like
I hate the idea of stigmatizing IEPs and special education. I advocated for a 504plan for years bc no one would listen to me. I think its great to get kids help when they need it and we as parents should normalize it. Itâs okay to need extra help succeeding.
6 Likes
My son had an IEP from kinder to 3rd grade. First off, do whatâs best for the child. Doesnât matter the opinions of folks and how people see her. My son was in a contained classroom. He is in 7th grade now with no IEP, no modified class work. He is an A/B honor student. We gave him what he needed and didnât worry what others thought.
4 Likes
It is a difficult decision to have to make. Actually, ask yourself if it is more important to get her the learning help she needs or more important to go without the label? Maybe you can get her the help she needs over the summer, but early intervention is really important. The earlier the better.
1 Like
Sounds like your family has a stigma about special education!!! It might just be what your daughter needs.
3 Likes
Would you want her to continue to struggle through out her entire school life? Put her in it and let her catch up. If she needs to stay in it so be it. Donât you want her to feel like she is learning at her own pace and not feel left behind or confused to the point of failing. I wish there wasnât a stigma on special Ed but there is. Itâs really to help her learn and succeed.
3 Likes
I recommend that you get your daughter evaluated if she needs the IED program, put her in it. Thereâs nothing wrong with getting her the help she needs now, to get her caught up, and keep her from getting behind again. I did great in school when it came to reading, spelling, writing, Social Studies, Science, and those subjects. But I think I was learning disabled when it came to math. They came out with what was called âNew Mathâ when I was in the 3rd grade. I was clueless. I still have trouble with fractions⌠adding, subtracting, multiplying, and dividing. And Algebra and advanced math? Forget it! Iâm 65 years old! I still donât get it! Itâs been a handicap. I only wish they had had IED when I was in school. I might have gotten teased about getting extra help in math, having a teacher at my elbow helping me⌠but better that than that humiliating, helpless feeling when you get called up to solve a math problem on the chalkboard and canât do it, when the kid beside you whips his out in two minutes. Donât let your daughter suffer like I did. If sheâs having trouble with her schoolwork, whatever the subject or subjects might be, get her help. She would rather have help than be humiliated and in tears in front of her whole class like I was, believe me.
To get them out u just refuse to sign the next treatment plan. Why would u let her struggle if they are willing to help her? Most of us have to fight to get the right services for our kids.
5 Likes
Have you read to your child? If not, start NOW, let her read to you too. If children havenât been read to, they wonât develop the love of reading. I started reading to my children when they were infants and they both love to read and always read way above their grade level. So did my grandchildren. All are college graduates with responsible jobs.
1 Like
Special Ed is stigmatized even though it covers a broad range, such as speech therapy. Itâs not necessarily forever either.
Donât deny your child the supports they need to succeed because of what you think special ed is. You WILL regret it later.
5 Likes
Get your child the help they need. My son is enrolled in 50/50 special education so he is still able to be in a regular ED classroom but he also goes to his special ED classes. Donât deny your child because you are afraid of a label. If she needs help she needs help.
7 Likes
Itâs tough. Get a second opinion , if they agree I would do it. Itâs equally as dangerous to put your child I. A class they arenât ready for
1 Like
I would have her privately evaluated for a language based learning difference. They will do a scientifically based assessment to see what her needs are.
My son went into a special reading program in the first grade. By second grade he was reading at a 4th grade level. Let them give her the opportunity to succeed. My son graduated high school with 2 classes short of an associates degree.
4 Likes
Please please donât let the opinion of others stop her. The help she will receive is much better then letting her fall behind even further.
2 Likes
Please do it, it was the best decision we made for our daughter and if anything these teachers go above and beyond for your babies. They do for my daughter and sheâs also in physical therapy through her school. They have wonderful programs. Try it, see how your daughter flourishes in the classroom. Then make your choice. Let your daughter have a chance though if she needs it!
1 Like
My son was held back in pre school and first grade because it wasnât ready for first grade we had an IEP they recommended it so my hubby and I agreed we didnât want him to struggle so much as school went on. There are good sides and bad for us he is no longer in special Ed he does struggle a bit but they have him only worked ng with the same 4 teachers heâs in 6grade now our down fall is he should be in 8grade his age is the issue for him in school. Next yr he starts the normal changing of all his classes going to all 7 rooms. However, you do what you think is best for your child I can only tell you my experience. Sending positive vibes for you and her in whatever choice you make.
Personally, Iâd take the professionalsâ adviceâŚ
4 Likes
I didnât like the idea of my daughter being out in special Ed either. I stuck with her 504. Let me tell you I wish I listened to the school. Sheâs now in 5th grade and is probably going to have to repeat it. She was just placed on an IEP march/beginning of April this year and it has been a tremendous difference. They donât have to be in there forever as they do revaluate yearly. I wish I didnât listen to others around me then or had guilt about âlabelingâ my child. If theyâre suggesting it I think you should do it. Youâre sheâs just going to keep falling back further and further without the help.
My son has an IEP. Hes a bright kid but he needs the help. He excels in a couple subjects but he struggles with the others. He also gets help emotionally when hes stressed out gives him space and time to think. He just moved up a level and is receiving more intense services. He can hold his own and has friends but this is just giving him that extra help and step up. I take the advice from the school because they have been dealing with kids for years and I would have loved the extra help as a kid. Hes never been held back. I think if you look into what the help is you might be please to know that you have one specific person to help your child. His IEP puts him in a smaller class size. they will read tests to him give him extra time helps build emotional and behavior skills needed in life. I really hope you look into it and what they have to offer. its not a bad thing and everyone that doesnt understand it definatly puts it in a bad light. I also have a deaf child that has an IEP and gets special ed stuff. shes not shes at the level of her peers but because she is deaf and we are a full hearing family it put a kink in the beginning of her life that has put us all just a little behind. shes doing great the services help they think shes ready to have less services. youll have 2+ meetings a year you can call meetings when you want if you think the services arent working. PLEASE CHECK IT OUT! Good luck and thank you for reading.
2 Likes
Early intervention is the best at preventing later issues. Be happy it was discovered now. Special Ed is not a âplaceâ in the building, itâs a list of services.
5 Likes
I can say that it would be amazing if all students could have one on one specialized teaching geared toward what they need assistance in. Itâs harder for a kid to be behind, not have extra help or know why.
3 Likes
At the end of the day, if it helps your daught excel in school, why not give her the chance to grow. Youâre interpretations of how she developes as a parent maybe different to those who experience these things first hand as an educator. Just try it out and if itâs too slow paced for her, than pull her out the year after. It is actually a good thing that she will have the attention she has been offered.
1 Like
If she needs it why not? You donât want her to failâŚSome need extra help and or extra time to do the work
OMG! Take the assistance! It took me years to get my kid into remedial classes and she still has the emotional scars from being behind the learning curve in all her classes. Other parents have to have outside assessments, hire lawyers and educational advocates to get what you are being offered.
5 Likes
I had an IEP all my life through school. They werenât because I was behind, I just needed more time on tests. Especially ones with essays. I also needed more time getting from class to class. (I have Cerebral Palsy.) I graduated 18 outta 350 in my class. Took both honors and Advanced Placement classes. Overall GPA 3.7. Then went to a public honors college and graduated with a Bachelorâs degree. Put her in the classes and do the IEP. Do not let your child suffer because you are worried about what others think. Screw them! Do whatâs best for your kid.
1 Like
Reading this post made me think the parent should join the kid. Holy shit.
My sister went thru special ed, it really helped her. Kindergarten and first grade are when kids learn the staples they need. If they dont fully understand it all they will be behind.
Is their a reason you do not trust these teachers professional opinion? THEY are the experts regarding education/learning needs based on what they see and their experience. Trust me, she, and you, will have so much more difficulty and struggle so much more if you place her in classes she doesnât understand, is not ready for, and she actually will probably be âlabelledâ with much more cruelty by kids that make fun of her for not being able to function well in classes she wasnât ready to take
2 Likes
Ok, my daughter has an IEP. She goes to both regular classes and the special classes. They give her more one on one work and she had thrived with it, sheâs been on the all A and A and B honor roll since first grade
3 Likes
Yes. If the school feels she would benefit from special education classes I would 100% do that⌠I mean, they are the teachersâŚthey are teaching your child. I am going through this already with my youngest in kindergarten⌠she spends quite a bit of time in the core room (special Ed) and sometime with her regular class⌠She also has an aid thatâs just for her. She goes to all specials with her class. She also has an IEP.
If you donât get the help she needs nowâŚsheâll only fall further behind.
I feel you will be selfish if you care more about what others will think than what is best for your kid.
Please accept the help they are offering
2 Likes
Of course you should if she has tested into the program. All children learn at different paces, and if a child is placed correctly, can benefit greatly from it! I know because I taught Special Education at the secondary level for 40 years!
3 Likes
As a preschool teacher, I personally would ask that she do 2 years of kindergarten or do special education until she can catch up. In my own experience, If a kindergarten teacher recommends special education it is likely to help her now before she really does get behind. We have kids ask the time getting help or that really should be and the parents refuse and unfortunately the child typically struggles a lot more when they donât get that extra help. So unless you/guardians ect can really push it every day during the summer, I would highly recommend the 2nd year of kindergarten or special education for a year or 2. I honestly wish someone would have listened when I said I believed my son to have a learning disability in the beginning of the 2nd grade year⌠unfortunately his teacher just kept saying he was lazy and unfocused (he does have adhd and is being treated). Finally after Christmas I had enough, I contacted the principal and demanded he be tested. They got him tested and sure enough⌠he has a learning disability and now gets additional help in school. Keep in mind things have changed a lot over the years and in most places once a child is ready to move from special education back to general education they will have a plan set in place that the general education teachers have to follow to help them reintegrate into those classes. And typically unless there is a disability that keeps them from learning like âmostâ other kids, then they do end up reintegrating back into the general classroom.
2 Likes
Not all kids learn the same way. While they are learning, they are more importantly developing strategies for self-modifying the instruction they receive to data they can understand and use, whether it be an internal movie they play for a visual learner, or a recipe for an audio-learner.
Special Ed allows a teacher/aide to spend extra time with each child, helping them to discover those strategies and how to adapt them for the best understanding.
Once those foundations are laid, the rest of the structure will be on sound ground.
1 Like
I donât understand why you would think youâd be âgiving her a chanceâ by NOT accepting services. Her chance comes from HAVING help/ services. I say this as a mom with 2 special needs children(both adults now, one on track, one not) who had to fight tooth and nail to get my kids help, as the school was not listening to me. Youâre very lucky they caught it this early. They didnât catch it(even though I begged for an evaluation) with my third child till end of 11th grade 
. So yes, give her a fair chance, and let her get her help. When sheâs caught up, theyâll âdischargeâ her.
4 Likes
My daughter is my clone. I have ADHD combo presentations (inattentive and impulsive). We knew what to look for and in kindergarten felt like she was showing enough of the signs to get her tested. We went to our pediatrician and asked for a referral for a childrens neuropsychological testing center. We got an appt for 6 weeks out. The test showed that sheâs very intelligent but also has ADHD combo. I sent the paperwork to her new public 1st grade teacher and counselor at the school. They let me know that the teacher would evaluate her in class for 4 weeks and then the 504 plan would be discussed. We started that 504 plan - which I felt was all best teacher practices like ensure the student is locking eyes when instructions are given, preferential seating, and wiggle breaks. However I found that the 1 teacher in a classroom of 25 students was becoming an issue AND that the 504 plan wasnât always being followed. My daughter had a meltdown in class. I had requested a follow-up appt then the pandemic hit. She was learning at home fine. She was thriving and I was doing all the work of creating worksheets for her. My husband jokingly said âit would probably be Easier to just homeschool and use a curriculum than to take what the teacher sends home to cover and then spend HOURS making lessons for her.â So we looked into homeschooling. I purchased a curriculum and we eventually have leaned more on unschooling (we go on field trips and create projects from it - sneakily teaching and learning). I love doing it but my own struggles w/ adhd have made it harder to do. Soooo we just applied to a private school that has a 1 to 8 ratio!!! We took the tour and discussed her needs and they actually have a special education team. They said they should be able to accommodate my daughter no problem. Iâm just praying she can get one of the coveted spots!!
I begged to had an IEP because I felt like she needed more services! I want her to love learning and strive to be a great student. I didnât want her to get frustrated and give up OR worse, think sheâs stupid or canât do it! I would and will do anything to help her.
Do whatâs best for your child⌠whatever it takes to allow them to thrive!
1 Like
As my daughter having an IEP and EIP program I am all for the extra help. I do the best I can for her but these teachers are a life saver and we wouldnât be where we are today. Itâs not a permanent thing. My daughter started speech at 3 and she is going into the 4th grade and has both programs still.
2 Likes
I am a special Ed teacher. It is better for them to get them help in lower grades because they need to learn the basics. If you ever feel she doesnât need it all you have to do is call for a meeting and sign a form
1 Like
It just means smaller class room less kids less distractions itâs not bad.
1 Like
Trust yours, and your motherâs instincts. You know your child better than anyone. School shouldnât be that competitive at 5 years anyway.
If they feel she needs it and everything I would do it. Get her help now before she gets really far behind. Will be harder for her to catch up later. Itâs ok if she needs the extra help.
2 Likes
I had two of my kids in special ed when they were in the lower grades⌠Am I ever grateful for the special ed teachers that help them. My kids were not labeled because they were in the special Ed. When my kids were in they didnât go full-time to special ed they were in with their regular class also, they just went for the special things that they needed extra help with.ďżź
3 Likes
Wondering if it would be to her advantage to repeat Kindergarten but at a different school. Can she get special Ed support in regular class as needed? This could help her get a good solid foundation for her education. An option to discuss with her teacher.
Practice reading everyday. Start off with you reading an easy reader to her. Then have her read it back to you. Fun time together. Then build up to harder books when ready. Itâs ok to keep reading the easy books too. Kids like that feeling of reading the easy books. Then read a harder one til that becomes the easy book. Be sure to ask questions about the book for story comprehension. Best of luck. Hope you can share an update later. 
1 Like
I think that not getting her the help that professionals are saying she might need is not giving her the chance.
As far as what your Mother went through with your brother, itâs not like that anymore. And thatâs her shit, not yours or your daughters.
Early intervention is key.
The stigma your mother knows isnât like that today. If reading is the main issue, get books from your library and let her read, read, read. Being a little behind doesnât qualify for special Ed. There must be more.
As someone who struggled in scooter from start - finish, PLEASE let your daughter get the extra help!
One thing we did for my sons iep was he didnât have to 50 math problems or English or whatever he just had to show he understood and could do the work and he only did like 10 problems. It helped a lot that full page of busy work overwhelmed him.
Itâs best to get the extra help now instead of later. My son had difficulties in elementary, the dr recommended special Ed and the school did not put him in it per dr. After he got into high school in the 11th grade after fighting with the school system all that time they decided it would be best if he went into the special Ed group for certain classes. I thought yeah ya think. Itâs what I had been saying all along
Your mother needs to understand how far weâve come in special Ed, education, and mental health. Itâs not the same as it was even 10 years ago. You make sure your child gets an education no matter the cost. Worrying about labels is stupid, weâre labeled before weâre even born. Parents use special equipment just so they can start labeling us before weâre born. Weâre all just a compilation of walking labels, who cares?! Teach your kid to not care what others think.
Being a special ed kid under the radar is awful, and so stressful. Do not do that to him. Your son is not your brother.
You should probably follow what the professionals who are actually trying to educate your kid, are saying.
1 Like
My oldest son 6 has a global development delay he transferred schools this year for grade one his previous school didnât offer the services he needed ( heâs also in speach therapy) from June of last year till now he has gain so much than the 2 Kindergarten years at his previous school ( his new school offers 1 teacher 2 assistants and 10 students in a class ), I myself had a learning disability in school where I was in special Ed for some of my subjects I was in regular classes by highschool , if you fell and want your child in special Ed take it the offer is there now it might not be later ( if you are worried about you child being bullied or teased going down the special Ed hallway do some research, look around and see if thereâs a special Ed serviced school in your area that might help your child
1 Like
My kids have ieps and they got and get the help they need you need to get her the help she needs now so she is struggling later 9n in life
1 Like
I was in special Ed as a child and they gave me options to get out I never did because I liked the extra help but they did give me a choice
Put her in. Itâs not about you and how you feel. Itâs about the help your daughter clearly needs. Special education isnât a label and it isnât some terrible monster you need to get your child away from as soon as possible.
1 Like
Iâve had 2 daughters in a mixed preschool classes they found they needed extra years after 1st years the oldest was just in the preschool for help. My youngest been sense preschool when reached higher elementary school 123 grades after preschool she was behind in reading the school had reading sessions to help her and those kids that needed
Why would you not allow her every opportunity to succeed in school?
You and your mom need to listen to the professionals and leave your feelings/embarrassment put of it
2 Likes
Young one - without seeing her assessment results itâs really hard to say . People seem to think SPED is bad - it isnât. The sooner she starts receiving services - the better. If you do not want her in the program - they can not make you do it. Federal Law - requires them to give you a copy of âParental Safeguards â this for just this purpose. If they say sheâs SLD - specific learning disability- find out what her learning style she works best with and has problems with. Find out from her teachers what works and what doesnât-
By the way - Special Education isnât bad - itâs just a great program that helps kids get their Education in a special way. Iâve worked a career in SPED - 6th- 12th grade - Federal School - I personally have had a lot of my kids graduate - go to college, own businesses and have accomplished more in their short time in their young lives than most Elders I know. 
3 Likes
Some children just need the extra support to catch up. It might be temporary. But regardless if she needs support then she needs to access it.
2 Likes
Special Ed is most needed in early years. When its no longer needed, they will tell you.
2 Likes
Can you hire her a private teacher during summer to have some 1 to 1 lessons to help her catch up? It will benefit her! At 5 years of age i think is wrong to label kids because they have a slower than normal speed of learning. Give her the chance to go to normal class but also help her with private 1 to 1 during summer so she can catch up
2 Likes
I think it would be so helpful to get your daughter off to a good start. No shame in geting extra help these days. So many children need the extra and donât/canât get it!!!
Yes I would put her in special Ed. Monitor it closely and if pleased everyone is happy. I went through same thing but indiana schools donât have special Ed . So, we have struggled !
My son has autism and the best thing we have done for him is keep him in genereal education classroom with an IEP to have test read and stuff
1 Like
Special Ed today is not like Special Ed of my elementary years (I am 45). My youngest was on an IEP from Kindergarten through 12th grade and had help with Special Education Services either in the general classroom (mostly) or in small settings for certain subjects. Schools really push for more time in general classroom with Special Education teachers assisting anyone so your kid doesnât stand out either.
I donât mean to offend anyone: Back in my day, sadly, it was like the special Ed kids were kept in some dungeon area and brought out in helmets and wheelchairs and seen so differently! I am so happy that schools are learning to understand and accommodate these kids and not just lump them together and basically hide them away. It was weird to me!! It made it such a stigma! These kids are smart and just learn differently in most cases. Get your daughter the help, sheâll be happier and so will you.
Besides my kids mentioned I myself was a long-term special Ed student did have some none special Ed to point .
Listen to What Charleen says shes wise about that subject.
Usually children are placed in a regular class room and pulled aside for a specific number of hours for week based on their needs. I think itâs best to get them the help they need as soon as possible.
1 Like
As a sped teacher, yes, it will be harder to get your child out as they grow up. Maybe wait a year, work hard with your child to keep them on track, and then reevaluate if this is needed. If youâre unsure, then wait
Please let her get the help she needs. My son needed an iep and extra help and he ended up graduating a semester early.
1 Like
Well first off with this no child left behind act she will only fall further behind if you donât take the help they recommend now. Secondly an IEP will help her catch up to her peers,there is a reason they reevaluate once a year. They arenât going to waste resources on a child that doesnât need it. Look past your own ignorance(mis information)and get your child the help she needs.
5 Likes
I think I would have her evaluated my your own dr. I also think for Kindergarten I would come closer to having her repeat kindergarten as opposed to entering special
Education unless she has a diagnosis that warrants. Most special education programs and IEP are geared toward inclusion not seclusion.
2 Likes
Remember IEPs are different then they where years ago u are in charge of your childs IEP so if u put her in it next year and then u decide that the next year u want her out just let them know at her yearly
I will also add, early intervention is key with addressing any diagnoses Learning Disability. As a parent you hit on all the things most parents worry about such as labelingâŚa lot of parents wait until the deficit is so great that itâs almost impossible for the child to catch up. Also IEP and education plans are re-evaluated often, so if she does grow out of it she will also grow out of her plan, and truly thatâs the result that is desired.
2 Likes
My son is in 6th grade and has had an IEP since Kindergarten. He is in regular class rooms and just taken out for the 1 on 1 with certain subjects. His IEP gives him more time to to get assignments done, more legacy on reminding him what needs to be done, more time to complete tests (use to take tests in a more secluded environment and now heâs in regular class). If this schedule didnât help him, he was going to be placed in special education classroom. Even with an IEP at graduation he will receive a normal HS diploma.
1 Like
They need to not call it special Ed and the schools just need to do what we did where the otherďżź students can help them learn one on one from the higher grades then they wonât need the special Ed classes
Not allowing your daughter to get extra help recommended by education professionals isnât giving her a chance.
My daughter has an IEPâ she is pulled to another classroom for a few hours a week to work on things she struggles with.
IEPs are reevaluated on a yearly basis. If she catches up, then the IEP can be closed
3 Likes
I think it would be more beneficial to repeat kindergarten. Nothing wrong with her being a year behind and I would definitely take that issue to her Dr and see whatâs said there before making any decisions first.
2 Likes