Can I ask what mums doing when ur babysitting
I for one know that cps damages kids
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Cps … they can offer advice and and take the report further if needed.
You HAVE to call!! Please🙏
If your watching him that baby is under your care so you have every right to run him to the Er if you feel it’s an emergency I would do that first I wouldn’t call cps right away kids don’t deserve to be in the system but if the baby continues to be neglected then do what is right for the child
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Ill never recommend someone to call cps unless you know for a fact things that are said. Like she told you she smokes weed around the kid?
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If you don’t report than you are just as bad save this baby and let them know you will keep this angel 
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You could get registered and become a foster parent then he would be in your care
Pls.he needs medical treatmemt !!
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I believe here in Texas it’s illegal to smoke in the vehicle while the child is in it
I would call cos and have them arrive at ur house when that lady gets there with him
I wouldn’t call CPS that could have long lasting effects on everyone involved. Speak to the mom again if nothing is done take them to the hospital.
Do not ask or give ultimatums to the mother. You as a babysitter are a mandated reporter. Take that child to the ER. They will handle it and make the report, as they are also mandated reporters. Please get that child help before it is too late. Children’s health tends to deteriorate quickly. It looks like you are his last hope.
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Sounds like the mother needs some re education
Take it from someone who has lost a child to asthma…call CPS, yesterday
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Take the child to a doctor asap!!!
Being you babysit you now have become a first reporter
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I don’t recommend to call cps but I do think that u could help her instead, cps should always be a last resort not a first resort, even if u take bub to the drs and u could recommend to the mum to smoke away from bub
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You need to call cps. The mother is clearly neglecting his medical needs.
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Yes youhave to.let them.know asap
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Take the child to the dr don’t ask mom for information just take them in
I would call CPS to come out and evaluate the situation. Most likely they won’t take the child but give her resources and at least view to see if the child is in harm’s way.
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Call in and get that baby help, be their voice!
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Take that baby to the hospital and let the hospital handle CPS you just tell the mother he could not breathe in your custody and you had no choice
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Take him to emergency while his with you then he gets all the care he needs no questions asked.
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Option#3 isn’t an option.
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You are in his life for a reason , get the child the help he needs before it’s too late ,clearly the mother’s priority lies elsewhere .
Do what’s best for the child please 
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I personally think if you call or just stop watching him it’s only going to hurt that baby. You are giving him the love he needs, I would try and talk to the mom, sit her down and tell her what you saw and explain yourself. Maybe she needs some harsh reality? I also would personally take the baby to the ER. Let mom know your taking babe on the way there. But please don’t leave this baby!
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If your worried call better be a overprotective then sorry poor baby
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Take the baby to the emergency room. They will handle involving any protective services agencies from there.
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Get the baby help, if anythink happens you would feel bad. Do what’s best for child not mum.
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OMG! Leave her alone! It’s medicine.
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I would definitely call DCF. MY OPINION
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Smoking in the car stays even if you quit. She may have a script for Pot. She may be poor with no help and needs every penny for rent food and child care. She may be waiting for insurance so take the baby to the ER and let the authorities make the decision if the child is neglected they know what to look for and they can help her
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For someone who grew up in the system i can promise you that youre hurting the child more than helping. And all for marijuana? A meth pipe i understand…but you ma’am should mind your own business. You said your not juding her but thats all youre doing. Shes the mother, not you. She deserves to know whats going on behind her back. If you call CPS thats just so wrong on so many levels…
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The baby is in your care and is sick so you have a right to get medical help. Of the child fell over and hurt it’s head you would get help so same thing.
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WOW…You sure think alot about You …
Did You Consider Offering Help 
???
Nope…Just jump on Social Media Help Me
Not how can I help her ???
Do I know really what’s going on
Nope… But throw Her business out there.
Butt Look at Me…
Stop Sharing, Start Helping…
Use resources NOT Your Comments…
GROW UP 
Number 3 should never be an option because if worst happened, it will be ur fault too for not doing anything. Take him to A&E and fully explain the situation. They will probably call CPS too
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You are that child’s voice. If you don’t do something nobody will. That poor baby needs help and cannot get it himself. That baby could have something really wrong with him cause from the smoking or not caused by it, it needs dealt with ASAP. Obviously the mother doesn’t want to get help for the baby so you do it.
I am NOT against Marijuana at all im just concerned for the baby 
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Personally i would take the baby to the ER tell them everything and let them make the calls. Put the babys health and safety first not the moms feelings
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If you are in child care… are you a state mandated reporter? It depends on your states laws but may want to look into that for your business protection as well.
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Put it this way if you had my son for 4 hours and he climbed a tree and fell out breaking his leg and you could see it was broken cos the bones sticking out,
1…would you txt me and wait for me to reply Or
2… ring an ambulance ?
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Take him to the hospital its a start to helping the poor guy:heart:
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You should notify children’s protective services they should do an evaluation to find out what services Mom and the baby may need. Mom will not be happy with you but you
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for God sake take him to the hospital
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This is sad. Like my heart hurts for this baby. My hearts hurts for the mum too. I haven’t read comments and I don’t want to because I know they’re will be a load of hate for the mum. She has issues she’s trying to hide with abusing substances. She probably isn’t educated and again that’s me assuming. I would talk too her well try. If she refuses there’s not a lot you can do sadly . But I would 100% recommend reaching out too her. Who knows could be an awesome outcome. X
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The 3rd question was a little weird to me…just let him suffer? Why would that even be an option. 100 percent go take him to a doctor and get the info to do so from her. Then take it from there.
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Depending on what state you are in you can take him to the hospital but you can not sign any paperwork nor will they seek medical attention without the parent/s there to sign paperwork. I’d just call CPS in my opinion and let them take control.
Yes better yet take him to a hospital asap!
Call social services. Tell them to go to HER HOUSE and check on the baby. She doesn’t have to know you made the call. Don’t take the baby to the Dr yourself.
You take him to the doctor. That way he gets what he needs asap. Explain to the mother that she will lose custody of her child - if she does not put her child first … Someone else will.
I honestly don’t think they will allow you to bring him in without the mothers consent. They wouldn’t let my grandpa take me to the hospital for stitches, basically they wouldn’t do anything until my mom got there. Idk how your laws are but thats my experience. Shes gonna know it was you who made the call. Especially when you’ve already suggested taking him in and if your the only babysitter but you need to do what you think is best. Sounds like a really bad situation. I never like the thought of taking a child from his mother but if you think its as bad as you say really thats the only option 
I’d take him to the hospital yourself. Once you explain the situation to the hospital as to why you’re the one having to bring him in, if they call dcfs that’s not on you.
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When he/she is in your care ring 911 or 999 if you in the uk, and tell the mum you had no choice because you were worried about his breathing. And then they will run tests and will fine it in his bloods ect and then they will take it from there and get social services/or child protection if your in the US. That way you have helped the baby from anymore harm. Put that baby first a million %
I’d say see if she willing to allow you to take him and if not dcs
My daughter has breathing issues and let me tell you she has a neb machine that comes with us everywhere. As she has asthma now from having rsv
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You should take the baby to an ER and explain everything and they’ll contact CPS! Be the voice for that baby!!!
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If it’s truly really bad hun call 911 tell them the child you care for is having issues breathing they will call mom!!!
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You’ll blame yourself if something happens to him. You’ll never stop thinking about him if you stop sitting him. You already said mom won’t take him. If you can’t legally take him to the doctor, call 911, they can’t deny him- that’ll open a case on mom, or at least put her in the limelight, or call cps. God put this baby in your life for a reason.
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If possible give the baby a breathing treatment as soon as possible if she is neglected of his well-being and health I believe you should ask consent to see a a care provider as a temporary slip to get care if she decides not to go through they will get involved anyway or say the baby needs a well check before even attending your daycare or care home my opinion
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I AM TELLING YOU RN YOU NEED TEXT PROOF THAT YOU TOLD HER
If he stops breathing while under your care, she could say you did something easily and most places don’t fully investigate shit like that!
Happened to my mother about 18 years ago and she ended up in prison!
CPS
Or take him to the hospital, explain to them what you said to her, and they can call CPS on their own.
The hospital will see him… don’t let him suffer.
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Awww. I suggest speaking to the mum herself and suggest she takes him before you intervene if she doesn’t then take him yourself sooner rather than later x
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Report her, that’s Bullshit
You can’t take him to the dr if you’re not his guardian best bet would to call cps or the police to do a well child check
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should I call CPS on the family I babysit for?
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Don’t stop watching him. Period, please. Do call CPS. I’m begging you, please do. That poor baby. He can possibly die from this, any form of lack of breath can kill him.
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I’d take him to the emergency room and let them do their investigation and also figure out what is actually wrong with him and hopefully help him breath easier. That poor baby is suffering
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I would just take him to the ER and let them do the reporting that way you can play dumb and continue to babysit/look out for him
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So CPS I hate to say this but they will do a well check and see if he has clothes and food and that’s it. They dont care about weed. When they deal with harder drugs and molestation. However… as a mom with a child with asthma. I would express your concerns and say you believe the child may have asthma and you would like to help her out. But tell her asthma so she knows it could potentially be serious. As a mother with a child with asthma. Asthma attacks are scary
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See something say somtht! To many children in this world are suffering at the hand of people whom should be caring for them.
If baby is wheezing that bad who’s to say the baby doesn’t pass away cause it can’t breathe. Could you live with that knowing you could have took action to prevent serious illness or death, if no then you should act upon the situation.
See something say something
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Offer help, and tell her there are other resources out there to help with, car seats, clothes, diapers/wipes! The baby needs to get seen!!! My 17 month old has breathing issues! We were just in the ER for over 5 hours because of her breathing!! If the mom doesn’t seem worried or care after you talk with her, then yes something needs to happen!! Poor baby!!!
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Single mom and dad is not in the picture. She probably is completely caught up in her own head at the moment and just doesn’t understand. Sit her down and have a heart to heart. Tell her you want to assist and the child needs to see a doctor. See where the conversation goes from there. She may just feel really lost at the moment and needs support to see clearly.
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The fact people are trying to justify her smoking around her child that is obviously affecting the child’s breathing:grimacing:
I have nothing against cigarettes or weed. But don’t do that shit around your kids. Don’t make them suffer cause you can’t wait till your kid isn’t around.
I say take him to the ER. Express your concerns. They can decide if it’s necessary to call cps. Her child should come first. It’s sad to me her habits can’t wait and she isn’t concerned of his breathing. No one should mess around when it comes to breathing. That can get serious quick. I’m sorry you’re in this tough situation. Good for you for caring. 
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He should get checked out because that could be a sign he might have covid and if you and your child have breathing issues then that’s not safe for anyone… Bring him to urgent care, inform her you are taking him of course but take him to be safe! You need to look out for your family as well. CPS seems like a big extreme unless you know 100% that he’s being abused some way, having him brought to the doctor by you and having that on file as well seems like the first step before taking drastic action. It def sounds like he needs to see a doctor first an foremost, and if you are willing to do that that would be the best option for the child
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Report her for marijuana? Please don’t. If you’re worried about his health take him to er. Smoking cigs around baby is terrible but it is sadly common. It’s sad dcf would care about her smoking marijuana but won’t care if a mom smokes cigarettes.
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If you contact cps she’ll know it was you and you’ll never see the baby again. If he’s really having a hard time breathing call an ambulance and let them take him to the ER. Then call her and tell her he couldn’t breathe and you had to call.
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Talk to the mother first. Don’t be rude just have a motherly heart to heart conversation with her. You don’t know what she is going through. You can step in and help guide her. If that doesn’t work then consider the ER. You can’t take him to the dr. But ER yes if you have enough evidence that something is 100% wrong and have proof. Getting CPS involved is last resort.
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Sounds like momma needs help not her child taken from her… if your baby sitting she obviously has a job… and as for kids being dirty… that’s how they get ESPECIALLY the baby toddler stage.
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Just tell her to let you take him to the doctor. That you have the time and you’d like to help because you can tell that he’s only getting worse. I’m a single mom but I know when it’s time to take my child to get medical care, no excuses. Speak up and be serious.
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This child is very lucky to have you thank you for being so caring I would deffiently report this like you said yourself the mum can cause herself harm by smoking this which is her choice but the poor baby shouldn’t have to suffer that’s not right at all and is actually abuse
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My daughter has asthma and it took me several years to get her diagnosed. We now have an ongoing inhaler but I actually had people reach out to me to express concern in daycare because she was always sick. I never had enough information to satisfy anyone until I finally got a new doctor and got the diagnosis. While I understand your concerns, I also feel like you need to talk to the mother again and offer different avenues or suggestions for the babe. Ask her if there are ways you can be more helpful and reassure her it wouldn’t be too much trouble. I truly believe we’re all doing the best we can, some parents are just more educated/experienced than others.
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I don’t see any reason that you can’t get him to an ER if he’s under your care at the time. They will call the mother for consent and hopefully she will give it. They may take the burden off of you and report the problem. All of us have an obligation to report a neglected child. Even if it’s a neighbor.
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Of all people I hate to say this but if what you are saying is true THEN SWEETY YOU NEED TO BE THE VOICE FOR THAT BABY SINCE NO ONE ELSE WILL OR MIGHT EVEN KNOW.I DONT BELIEVE IN CPS BUT SOMETIMES THE CHILD IS BETTER OFF …OR MAMA YOU CAN TEACH HER WHAT YOU KNOW AND PRAY SHE TAKES YOUR ADVICE
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If you’re in a situation where you have to TALK the mom into letting you take the baby to the hospital, then you absolutely need to call CPS. she is showing clear signs of not caring for that child. Be it’s voice, please.
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Definitely say something before calling CPS. As for taking him to the doctors, she would have to sign something with the office saying you can bring him in and know about any medical info involved with him— doctors office or ER. State your concerns and go from there… if nothing changes then, yes I would report it.
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I would definitely report it. Someone needs to help that baby and it doesn’t seem like his mom cares about him.
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Cps is a joke!!! They are cruel and evil and abuse their power. Take him to the er yourself. You have no clue what that mother is going through on top of your accusations. That is the last thing she probably needs. Reach out a helping hand but don’t do it by Calling cps. They literally just ruin lives and separate families. You smelled smoke in the car bc she is a smoker. Non smokers will smell smoke regardless if the person smoked recently or not. And so what that she smokes weed. She probably smokes to relieve whatever the hell is going on in her life. If you have never dealt with cps yourself, don’t do it to someone else. Help that mama out and reach out with kindness instead of automatically calling the shit show in. Cps is corrupt and there’s thousands of groups on Facebook that will prove it!!! Don’t make her be a victim of cps!!! If you call on her that will just make you just as crappy!!!
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Have a stern serious conversation with mom. Tell her your concerns . Don’t bring up CPS. (Then she may run or stop letting you watch him) ask her how you can help her. Make it more of a friend to friend conversation and no an interrogation or accusation sessions. Offer to help her find a pediatric dr. Offer to go with her or take him yourself.
Maybe she is really struggling and doesn’t know how to dig herself out. Especially if you don’t know the situation with dad.
They last thing the world needs is another child taken and placed in the system. But as his child care provider you have an obligation to be his voice and make sure he is safe and ultimately you’ll have to report her if nothing changes.
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Please don’t call cps talk to mother you have no idea what she is going thru. And maybe she doesn’t have money for a car seat. Cps does NOT help families. Sometimes they make things worse when all the mom might need is some help
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I work for DFCS. Definitely report it. You will remain anonymous and this way it can be investigated further. Or push her to let you take him to the doctor and express concerns with them. They are mandated reporters
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A baby can wheeze for all different reason why only assume smoking cuz she smokes
Allergy
Cold
If ur worried take the child to the doctor why call cps help the mom out.
my kids wheezed while baby’s they ended up having allergies to the formula they was drinking
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A few people on here are just mum shaming and I bet 99% of you have kids yourself. Speak to the mother first and voice your concerns. 1. She’s obviously willing and able to pay you for your services or do you watch her child for free? 2. The lack of clothes can be for several reasons (no I’m not excusing this) but “having barely any clothes” isn’t a huge reason to alert CPS. Is there any other signs of neglect or to give you the impression he’s not in a safe environment? Have you been to their home? Have you seen the mother smoke marijuana or use the pipe you mentioned you saw? All I’m saying is give her a chance and talk to her. She could be dealing with underlying issues that may be deeper than what you think of her. You stated there was no father in the picture and that your not passing judgement but, you are. I’m not excusing any behaviours of the mother and possible neglect of the child but don’t assume and judge when you really don’t know. You haven’t seen anything happen (not that you mentioned in this post) so I suggest talking to her first. She’s also human. She may just need someone to talk to and willing to help her.
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If I was minding a child no matter who’s it was and it wasn’t breathing proper then I’d call an ambulance literally talking about a 1 year old here.
Once she’s left the baby with you then you’re responsible for the child. That’s just how I see it.
(I’m Also mum to a child with asthma)
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I’m not sure how you can say she’s spending money on addictions instead of her child. Does she pay you? It’s not your right to know if she is a medical card holder or not, she said she has stopped smoking around him, but her car will still smell as she has smoked for so long. I would do my best to help her instead of getting someone else involved. She’s clearly alone
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Honestly I’ll probably get hate for this but if I was that mom I wouldn’t want you watching my kid anymore. She’s obviously struggling. If she’s doing more than cigarettes and weed then yes call but weed come on. Maybe she’s trying and just needs a friend not someone who’s going to turn her in and cause her to possibly lose her child. I have 2 boys. Are they always clean no… Most the time my toddler looks like he lives in a forest raised by wild pigs 
and he gets multiple baths a day ( he loves water). As for the breathing my 9 month old makes weird noises that sounds likes he’s struggling but he’s really not. You can’t take him to get checked out you’re not his family you’re just a baby sitter.
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Try talking to her again, I was a foster kid at one point and the system is a terrible place to be. Speak to her, try to have a heart to heart with her and then go from there. In the meantime look for things you can do for him while he is there with you. Pineapple juice is an amazing natural antioxidant and/or if you have a nebulizer give him a treatment and see if it helps… You can’t just take him to the dr without her permission, she will be contacted. Maybe she needs help with resources, who knows just talk to her again first a real heart to heart conversation.
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YES! You need to be that babys voice! That could cause long term issues perhaps death if you let it go on!
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Depending on which state you’re in, if you take him to the hospital and explain to them what’s happening they will contact CPS on the baby/yours behalf. When he’s in your care, you’re his temporary guardian so as long as you know his name, birthday and any possible allergies you have the rights to take him to a hospital if you fear/are worried for his breathing and well being. All you have to tell the hospital staff is that you’re his babysitter and like I mentioned earlier they will contact CPS if they find anything wrong with him regarding the smoking effecting him or if they also fear for his well being.
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Honestly I would straight up ask this mom. Do you need help? Express your concerns tell her how you love the baby and want to be able to help. DHR in my state and some others haven’t had the best track record and some foster homes won’t be as safe as if the baby stayed with the momma… If after trying to help this continues and baby is still neglected then take action but I would make that call the last resort because after they’re in the system it’s very hard to get them out for some people even if they do right.
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I would report it she is putting her child in danger
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