If something happens to the baby because of his breathing and you don’t do something, as the babysitter who sees him daily, you can also get in trouble. Take him by ambulance and get him seen. She’ll meet you there. Pissed off I’m sure, but it’s important that the baby be seen. Good luck
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Marijuana use is only dangerous if it’s impeding the ability to care for the child. DCF can do an investigation and if impending danger is there then they will find it (generally). Medical neglect is serious and should be taken into consideration above everything else.
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Well it’s sounds like the mom doesn’t care cause babysitter said she asked and the mom said no. Im sorry but no child should suffer and they should have a clean and safe environment to live in. If u wanna smoke go the hell outside. I smoke cigarettes and I go outside on my pourch. Something needs to be done
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I would text her next time you keep him and say, “he’s having trouble breathing. I’m taking him to the ER if you want to meet us, if not, that’s fine. I’ll let you know what they say.”
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Hell no. Why would u want to ruin someone’s family. If u can’t handle smoking go work for someone else. Ppl need to learn to mind their business n stay in their lane. The foster system is way worse then a mother smoking around her kids. This is the most KAREN post I’ve seen today. Find a new job Karen n please have kids before u think u know how they should be raised. For Fucking smoking 
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I’d take him to the ER and just say you’re his baby sitter and call the mom and let her know after you get him seen by a doctor. And then do whatever you feel is right after that. As a Momma with asthma not being able to breathe is scary especially when it’s a child. Prayers that he is healed in Jesus’ name.
Thank you for your compassion for this baby. I would call authorities as this mom and infant need help. This poor child can’t advocate for themself. God bless you and this struggling family.
Take him to a urgent care or hospital to get treated and let his mother know u have him at the hospital and she needs to come there
If his breathing gets worse while in your care I would call for an ambulance to come and check him and express your concerns to them. The er will probably not allow you have him seen because you are not his parent and would need parent consent.
I would call DCFS. The fact that she is aware that he’s coughing and wheezing & not taking him to the doctor is neglect. I’d keep babysitting him.
If you feel the baby is in danger. Which it sounds like he is. Then call. You have to be his voice.
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Honestly.
Babies don’t wheeze for no reason. There is usually an underlying issue and at that age it’s usually brochiolitis and I’m sure he’s miserable.
I would either take him to the ER yourself and or call 911 and explain EVERYTHING to them, you can also ask PD get involved because you are a mandatory reporter and SO are the EMS crews. If you call 911 then it kind of backs you up… you knew he needed breathing help and wasn’t breathing right. Babies only compensate for so long.
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That baby is put under your care when he’s left with you to babysit. If his breathing is that bad, you have every right to take him to the ER to express your concerns. If mom decided to involve any sort of authority for it it’s just going to fall back on her anyways.
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You need try to talk seriously with the mom at least once. I ran a daycare for 8 years. I had quite a few upsetting conversations but it’s really the moms responsibility to make important decisions for her child. If you have this conversation and there is no action then take step 2.
I would next call a medical hotline and speak with an on call doctor or nurse. Tell them the baby’s symptoms and get a recommendation. If it’s a real emergency take the baby to the hospital. If it’s not as severe then tell the mom you called the doctor because you got really scared with baby’s symptoms. Give the mom the doctors recommendation. See if she takes action.
Step 3, if the mom still doesn’t seem to care at all then call CPS.
Document everything you did for the child over what span of time. Document all the moms responses and neglect. Write down dates and details. Then you have all of the evidence for the caseworker.
At this point it will probably be out of your hands cuz she will not take the child back to you.
This is going to be challenging but at least you will have all your ducks in a row with how you helped this innocent child out.
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Girl you’re that blessing they need, the baby anyway. She obviously has no guidance, no clue and doesn’t care, just taking it day by day. However that baby needs help, it kills me to know he is struggling to breathe, that is so scary. I hate hearing my sons sleep when they are sick with a stuffy nose. Take him to the doctor, otherwise you would of wished you did and you would hate for that to happen. Please update.
Wow talk about a quandary!! Bottom line is child needs to see dr ask Mom for medical insurance card and take him since she works. Do you want to take him for a while and “give” mom a break? CPS doesn’t care about weed if they have running water and food in a cold refrigerator that’s all they care about.
You should ask her to find someone else and stay out of her buisness…
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I would say bring it up to her your concerns. Remind her that you don’t want her to have her kids taken away and if she still doesn’t shape up I would report it. I struggled with addiction and honestly I was a terrible mom during my addiction, I sobered up after hitting rock bottom and for most having their kids taken away is just that, rock bottom. It’s awful but whatever is best for the kid needs to be done. That poor baby shouldn’t have to go through that because their parent is an addict.
Take him to an ER ASAP and tell them baby is having trouble breathing. Then call CPS, in order to get documentation, proof, and to help this poor child.
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You cannot have this baby medically treated without a special form that the mom is giving you consent if anything happens while you are watching her child that you will handle it until she arrives at a hospital or doctors office
Tell the mom he stopped breathing so you ran him to er.
You should get a foster care license for situations like this. We could release that baby to u
Take him to the er and tell them you were babysitting the child and you are concerned. They will do a checkup. Also the cops will do a report if you tell them you informed the mother and she didn’t bring baby to be checked out. That is neglect.
Go to ER!
Keep us updated 
I’d give her a hand, she’s struggling as well likely not that abuse or neglect is ever a solution, but maybe running from abuse herself, tell her your concerns about asthma and offer her help first.
Then CAS if needed but sounds to me like Mama needs some help
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Just ask the mom when the child’s next well child check appt is find out if she has to work that day and just have her give the doctor verbal consent or get a written notice from the mother that she can’t afford to miss work and gives you permission to attend to the appt. I do know that rsv is going around. I wouldn’t automatically call cps, because 1. You’ll lose the mom’s trust and won’t be able to see the child anymore. 2. If that happens then you’ll be sitting there wondering how the child is doing and drive yourself crazy. I do know that if you do call cps they can’t actually tell the parent who called unless you get repetitive with it and in which case after so many call they can and will inform the parent who called and that will make the whole situation worse
RSV is going around right now too. The baby needs to see a doctor. Explain that to her and if she don’t take him in then I would take him myself to the ER and just call her once you get there and be like he got worse so I brought him to the ER.
I don’t care for cps here in California. I’ve had personal experience with them and they’re not real advocates for children. I think I’d take the baby to the hospital.
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First off I applaud your attention worry n watchfulness.
I’d personally try cautiously bring up taking the child to the doctor for possible asthma while saying many children often develop and show signs early on and that it would help to have a doctor get medication for him. If you get completely brushed off many times over a decent amount of time…tell her you are serious n only looking out and that you could even take him to an appointment so it doesn’t disrupt her working n what not.
After all that well hm follow what you feel would be best for the child.
Unless the mother has something in writing stating you can get him medical care the the e.r won’t treat him without the mother’s consent. I don’t understand why parents act this way with their children.
Awww poor baby u better off to take him to the hospital if he haven’t trouble breathing is there any update about the baby boy
Why would u do that some help u are she just moved here and is having a hard time then here u come to make it all worse her kid probably always has a running nose and when u take kids to the doctors now days they tell u to wait 2 weeks then bring them back y don’t u offer to take him to the doctor whiles she’s at work instead of being passive aggressive buying stuff for the kid then use it against her and weed is legal… How dare u … What if someone did this to u and tried to get ur kids taking when trying to start over some help u are
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My baby was wheezing so I took him to the er immediately and his oxygen was very low. We had influenza B. If I didn’t take him when I did he could of died
Help the child. When he’s with you use humidifiers and essential oils, eucalyptus and breath easy, maybe a steam shower to open his airways. Maty’s vapor rub on his chest too.
Aside from that I’d be calling CPS. Not assisting her child when suffering yet continuing to supply herself with what she wants is a huge no go for. I’d be calling🤷♀️
Try for written documentation from the mom to take him to the dr. If she refuses call CPS. The baby is helpless as you stated. His mom is not doing what is right for him so somebody else needs to.
This is a very hard situation. I would say talk to the mom and offer your help. But this still needs to be reported bc she has a problem and they will push her to seek help, CPS can get her in touch with programs that can help her. That baby can’t breathe and the mother sounds like she just doesn’t care or if she does, she’s not willing to do anything about it. Do what you think is best.
I would honestly not say anything at all. I get the situation and how you might feel about it. But at the end of the day, that’s very traumatizing to a family in the best of situations. That puts a target on them for ever. I feel like you should just mind your own. In the most respectful way possible. Lots of people smoke around their kids. It is what it is. This girl seems to already be going through alot as it is. I feel she probably doesn’t need CPS on top of it all. She doesn’t beat them up, or starve them or neglect them … I’d let the girl get her shit together 
She is absolutely telling you the truth no you should not call the CPS on her give her a chance
I’d have to meet the mom to give advice on this serious of a matter (calling cps) just don’t go causing trouble if it’s unnecessary, she just moved there? Single mom? Kids get sick… Weed is legal in most places now, is leave her recreational habits out of it just because it’s in the car doesn’t mean she smokes around him Just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons, parents struggle ya know? It’s great you’ve been helping them, getting the little boy stuff, she’s probably never dealt with asthma before and thinks he just has a cold. Just be careful, help where you can first!
As a caregiver, you have an obligation to report it.
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When my daughter was lil she would breath funny i took her to the emergency room they checked her out and said she was doing it naturally on her on about 8 years later i3 was told she had asthma its hard to diagnose babies with breathing problems or the baby could have covic the mon might be scared to take the baby out of fear of no medical insurance
Can you schedule an appointment with his pediatrician first so they can evaluate him? If you take him to the appointment you can express your concerns to them and they will keep an eye out for red flags and report her to CPS if they feel it is warranted.
My best friend used to babysit my kids and she’s taking them to urgent Care on my behalf several times. As long as you have the parents information if a child needs to be seen they’re not going to turn you away. At least that’s how it was the last time my kids were seen by somebody who was not their mom. Don’t disappear from this kid’s life you’re there for a reason. He needs your help!
I’m not one who is for reporting people (if avoidable) but in situations where the child is at risk etc then absolutely! I’d definitely call. You can report anonymous if you don’t want them to know who you are
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See something say something
Talk to your pediatrician asap. Get their opinion. I’d have a hard time letting him go home.
No mammogram do not call cps or any agency they don’t help they took a disabled little boy in my town and placed with a family that broke his femur and got awY with it
You can call ems and tell them he’s having a hard time breathing and you have been watch him for days and mom knows this and has done nothing they will contact authorities. You very well may be turned away at hospital
Personally, I would befriend the mother. Let her know, that you know how exhausting it can be to raise a child by herself. Mention how the bad the effects of cigarette smoke and marijuana smoke is very unhealthy for the child. Find out what type of services may be helpful to her and gather as much material as possible to give it to her. I worked several years with CPS they usually will not remove a child from the home unless the child is facing imminent danger. This child appears to neglected but in the eyes of CPS it is not abuse. If if they find the situation serious enough sometimes they will intervene and try to provide services for the mother. Most of the time it really doesn’t do much. I feel for this child but offering support will allow an already understaffed agency and allow them to deal with the more serious cases. There are a lot more serious cases we’re children on being beaten, tortured and sexually assaulted.
If this is happening and you don’t report it unfortunately it can end up getting yourself in trouble. By not reporting the child is at more risk and if something happens on your watch with their breathing mom could very well blame you. You need to document it and make the call. There is also a phone number you can call for police. They can do a “random” check and pull her over. Check baby, car seat and if she is smoking she will get a ticket. Document when you chatted with her, what the concerns where. What her response was or keep photos of the conversation if over text. Good luck.
You Said Your Child Has Asthma
If You Have A Nebulizer Give The Child Treatments … That’s What I Do When Someone Is In Need …
For Child 1 Vials Per Treatment Every 4 Hrs
Adults 2 Vials Per Treatment Every 4 Hrs.
Once Breathing Has Changed Every 6 Hrs
But Also Push/Talk To Mom To Take Child To Doctor’s … This Could Be Asthma/ Allergies/Mold/RSV … Either Way Child Needs To Be Seen Especially If Need Antibiotics !! Or Further Attention !!
Personally it’s not my business if parents smoke pot or cigarettes but if the child is in your care and struggling to breathe my immediate course of action would be to take the child to the hospital for a check up.
There are a lot of good parents who smoke and have healthy children, mum might be depressed, alone and need some guidance. It is always best to call child protection services to raise your concerns however don’t don’t it to get the child taken away, raise your concerns with a good heart and offer the mum some leaflets to the nearest children centre for mommy groups. Befriend her, sometimes loneliness causes us as parents to spiral into an endless of abyss of hopelessness. She may only need some guidance, but the child does need seen to before the condition gets any worse.
Never ignore a child in distress
Cps will not help that baby, keep showing up, keep suggesting doctors visits and be persistent! If you leave the Baby has no one!
People there are plenty of ways to protect this little one other than calling the CPS…or cops I’m mean really…I understand she’s smoking around him and he’s wheezing…but there’s not bruises no cuts or scrapes or anything like that…get a paper signed and take him to the Dr get him checked out…My grandson has a runny nose 24/7 …all 3 if my son’s have allergies…they wheezed and everything. Their nose bleeds…just see about getting him checked out… DON’T call CPS
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If I were in your shoes. I’d try to take him to the E.R myself. You may need the mothers permission to take him. But I would try. And if that doesn’t work. Demand the mother to take him herself. Or ask her who his primary doctor is and if you could set up an apt for him. If she gets defensive or doesn’t take him. I’d get cps involved. Maybe you all can go together? Like when she comes to pick the child up. Say we need to take him to the er now. Or another option is, call an ambulance when he’s having a difficult time breathing. That way she will be called in and forced to act. Either way this mother may fire you. But the safety of the child comes first.
There is Himalayan salt lamps that could be placed and also an in expensive air purifiers in his home…,
Make sure her AC filters are clean but calling child services…
That is a horrible thing to do she could be going through rough times honey right now as far as clothing for her child you want to help around on Facebook for free baby clothes see if people can give you clothes make sure they’re clean and washed and tell you know somebody gave me these I hope you don’t mind I brought them over I really think they’ll fit your baby you don’t need to say anything else to her just that you’re a kind soul and you’re having to have the same size as our kid you didn’t want to throw them out you rather make sure somebody can use them they were given to you by a friend of a friend
You can not get someone else’s child medical care. You do not have any form of legal rights, or legal custody. You can call and make a report to cps. They will do a welfare check. Some places, if they’ve never had any open cases, it takes 3 calls before they will even go out to the house and do a welfare check. That’s how it is where I live. And yes, a lot of places don’t care much for weed, with so many having it legalized, that being said, smoking it around your children, is still very much illegal and that they do care about.
Do NOT ignore the situation or let him suffer!! Please keep doing what you’re doing. We need to protect the children at all costs. You don’t have to insert yourself into the situation but PLEASE take him to the emergency room. Even if you are not his parent, they will not refuse him if he is having trouble breathing like that! They’ll do their own investigation I am sure. But please don’t stop helping that baby
Call cps for sure because she’s being extremely irresponsible but know one thing weed is not addictive. I do not agree with her smoking around her child or having anything where the child could potentially get into it but it really sounds like she’s on some hard shit weed is the least of your worries, I’d be more worried about opiates or meth use with this level of neglect
I would report to cps and document what you can. I don’t think you can take him to doctors yourself unless an emergency obviously. They’re very careful with that. I can’t even have grandma take kids unless forms are filled out in advance. Anyway, that’s a sad situation. Hope he ends up with a better family. If she doesn’t care about his breathing there is a real problem.
I always got a notarized statement that my nanny may get medical help with my kids insurance cards copied and attached i would just require that for all the children you babysit for
I would call…somebody will help this poor child ,Where I live it is illegal to smoke in your vehicle with your child in the car …pretty sure he’s at a health risk,the child’s needs are not being met…that alone is cause for them checking it out
If babys breathing is really bad I’d take him to emergency room
I’m just going to say this, as a police officer, I’ve been told by CPS that drugs and smoking alone are not enough for cps to intervene. As long as she has a decently clean home, he has a bed, and food they won’t do anything.
Listen in my honest opinion you need to meet people where they are. Tell her you are concerned & mean no offense & come with no judgment whatsoever. Have a real talk with her & explain that you want to help. When you have him give him steam to loosen up & help him breathe. Getting CPS involved is serious, maybe the mom is going through a lot & coping, granted in an unhealthy way & in no way am I saying it’s okay… but look you are a light in that child’s life so if it’s in your heart to help then do that. I’m not saying her smoking around him isn’t dangerous but if she’s working & coming home to her child, she’s not abandoning her child, give her a chance to be a better mother. Unless you see her careless in other areas that pose a danger to the child help but don’t exhaust yourself either because they are not your responsibility & you have a life of your own. If you feel you can’t do much then make the decision to get CPS involved & understand you may not see that child again. Gather as much evidence as you can before contacting them. Voice record her admitting to smoking in front of the child, take pictures, & ensure you have a solid case to present so they can surely help the child.
One thing I know is there’s so much misconceptions about CPS. Their ultimate goal is to keep families together. Meaning both the child & mother get help. Who knows, maybe the mother needs a wake up call. Hoping the best for all of you. You’re definitely a blessing in that child life❤️
I think you should sit momma down and have a talk with her let her know if she’ll make the appointment you’ll make sure he gets there then if that dont help or work or she doesn’t get him to a doc… then maybe let CPS know something but not as a first step only if she refuses to get the baby into a doctor and hes getting worse…
Does she have other family you could contact? Maybe they can help get care for the child or intervene better than CPS would
I’d ask mom if it’s ok for you to take him to the doc. Make it sound like you’re helping her, then talk to the doc and go from there about cps….
Bathe the baby, Johnson’s has a baby wash that has soothing vapor ,wash his clothes . Help the Mother all you can . CPS doesnt help!!!
Failing to provide proper medical care falls under maltreatment and neglect. As a child care provider, you are a mandatory reporter. You have to call. You can be penalized for failing to report. (That’s how it is in my state. Not sure where you live, but I’m sure the laws are similar.)
I will turn in my papers and give her one more chance to get MAMMA. signed one more chance to take the baby in to get a check up and then if not go ahead your You know it’s all about.
Never 3!! And I would do both ask to seek a doctor get him the help while doing that call to dcf in the process of getting him better
I don’t know why if you feel he is endangered that even for a second you needed someone else’s opinion, but I will tell you this, she won’t let you see him anymore and she will clean up for awhile or he could be in a hellacious foster home getting the hell beat out of him but either way you will probably never see him again… your best bet is to try and help the situation with love and guidance and understanding
You should have her write you up something giving you permission to have him treated at the Dr. Incase he gets sick while in your care. I always did that when mine were younger incase they need medical Attention.
You need to document everything you are talking about…if you have pictures etc that will go alot further. Write a statement and list everything you see as a problem and describe it…Also include the discussion you had with the mom. If you can take the child to the doctor then do so and there will be documentation. However if you can’t take the child and it is as bad or worse than you say then any day you’ve got the baby you can call 911 and let them know the child is having trouble breathing. If you decide to do anything make sure you are prepared to stop keeping the baby because it could happen.
And you had to come to Facebook to decide if u should actually try helping the mother and child or just call cps n feel they r gonna do the right thing ? U can’t make the decision on ur own? There’s literally a shit ton of things that can be said and done before going to cps r u a teenager or what?
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If you’re taking care of a child that can’t breathe you should take them to the nearest emergency room. They’ll report for you if you aren’t sure. But you can report to them.
She may have ppd. CPS is a very very last resort in my opinion. Maybe gather some info and resources and talk to her? Don’t make her feel judged…she may be doing the best she can right now alone.
Just take him to er… I wouldn’t report her unless shes really bad
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Regardless of outcome you have an obligation to help this sick child, they depend on others to live. If not you then who? It sounds like Momma doesn’t care enough to put her child’s needs first. Regardless of her situation a Mother always puts the child first.
Definitely #2! Always put a child’s well being first!
I would call 911 and say he’s having trouble breathing. She could possibly call it kidnapping if you take him to the doctor yourself, just depends on your state. But calling 911 will show it as an emergency and express your concerns with the doctor who sees him (you should prolly notify the mother once you get there.) They are mandatory reporters and there will be a medical report to back up the claims too. Also, you should call CPS yourself as well. Just so there’s the hospital report plus yours as well. However, don’t be too surprised if they don’t do anything unfortunately. I called on one of my ex’s aunts cuz she was straight on meth (I saw substantial evidence of her using.) Her son had some serious Croup, drank milk and juice out of nasty looking bottles (mold in the nipples) and she REFUSED to take him to the doctor because she was afraid they would drug test her. Nothing was done. The baby died about a year after
I think the mother should check herself in to rehab and someone else take care of that baby. The baby and she both need intervention. I hate to say this ., but
sooner or later that child will be taken away. from her if she doesn’t shape up. …and those with addictions need professional help. to be able to kick the habit.
Should You stop watching him and let him suffer? Please don’t do that, her child needs you right now.
ALWAYS ALWAYS consider the safety of the child first… I am state licensed provider for 30+ years and have never second guess the safety of a child. I have, in all my years come across anything and everything, and have contacted CPS on several occasions… the 10 times I have done this, 9 of the investigations have been founded and acted upon… please put the child first, his life could very well depend on it…
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You can file a complaint with Dfacs. But I like the taking him to ER. That way someone is aware of the problem!!
When my kids were in daycare I had to sign a waiver stating that their sitter could take them to the emergency room for treatment if necessary as well as give their insurance information and pediatrian name and phone number. I would make one of those, have her fill it out then take him to the er for the wheezing. They have access to all his medical records so if he’s not being treated they can get a social worker involved. They have workers in the hospital for these type of situations . But honestly all they are gonna do if the baby smells like smoke is tell her she shouldn’t smoke around him. I’ve seen it happen more than once because unfortunately smoking around your kids isn’t illegal. If it was cps would be taking a lot of people kids away daily.
Talk to the mother be firm with what you say…If she does nothing consult CPS. If she is a really bad mother she will fire you…
If your child doesn’t come first you’re a horrible mother, no ifs ands or buts. Your needs come after the child is cared for FIRST. I’d report, she obviously doesn’t give a $**t about her child. There’s BC in today’s world, USE IT.
Take him to the er yourself and say you have been watching him I wouldn’t let him suffer I would take him ASAP and they will do their investigation but let them know everything you know and have seen
You can always find through Google pamphlets on prevention of smoking in close quarters with your children the dangers and kind of just leave them around the house while you’re babysitting for her to read…
There are plenty of applications can be mailed to her regarding children’s Medicaid you can be kind to her and ask her to fill it out and you’ll be happy provided that you have her consent to take him by appointment to a facility pediatrics that will take her coverage if she is at work and cannot afford to take a day off that can be managed but you got to do it With heart and not be too intrusive to her
Smoking in the house cigarettes or alcohol or marijuana you’re going to need to prove to child services that you find that this is an endangered of this child’s life you need to prove how many times a day you have to prove this child is wheezing terribly and prove all that you say that is abusive…
Or you can slowly help with the situation as I said finding clothes for the child there’s plenty of women out there that have tons of baby stuff they don’t have the time to scout around they advertise free or you can ask for free in your area you’ll come and pick them up you can file an application right to her door for Medicaid for children you can go to porn shops and look for within reason air purifiers or Himalayan salt lamps Absorb the smoke and toxins in the air the house
I would just take him to the ER. The least they might do is refuse to see him without his mom but at least you tried. I’d definitely not screw around with trying to get him care. Maybe they’ll call the mom in to come in so they can treat him, maybe they’ll turn you away, either way you tried. If he’s in bad enough shape then they’ll probably not refuse to see him but refuse to release him back to you. As a struggling parent my kids may not seem like they got a lot but they got clothes that fit them and I wash clothes all the dang time. I agree smoking weed or cigarettes around children isn’t good but doubt cps is going to do anything. If you’re already considering quitting (which I wouldn’t really) then if she gets mad and fires you for going over her head, should be no big deal.
It’s illegal to smoke anything with a child in car or home.
I’d make the call. It’s anonymous and if nothing is warranted they will move on quickly. Also DFS is more than a report, they connect families to resources and supports
If that baby passes away while in your care she could try to blame you. Scary.
You can anon report to cps, they aren’t allowed to say who reported, and if it continues take him to the hospital and let them know the situation, that way they can contact cps as well
Dr. Or Dcs You Will Lose Your Job But The Child Will Be Better Off.
Where I live, CPS will do a well check. And probably do a mouth swab drug test. Which takes weeks to come back. I’ve had them involved for year’s in the past. Because I was an addict. But with harder drug’s. I will say, I knew how to pass the tests. And even when something did show up, they gave me 2 weeks and came back to do another one. Because my kid’s had what they needed and were happy. I got in trouble over 2 year’s ago, was on the run. Went to jail for just a little. Then went to rehab. I’ve been clean since. Almost 3 year’s. But I never lost custody of my kid’s. I have them today, in my own home, own car, everything I lost and more! Yes, I know I was a piece of shit. But I turned my life around 100%. So my point is, probably nothing will happen if you call. Maybe keep bringing it up to the mother that you’re concerned. And maybe she’ll stop doing it around the child. Because if I never lost mine doing Heroin, then I doubt she will over pot. And it does suck! If the child is in danger. But maybe they will see he has trouble breathing. Good luck!!
Dont call cps or dcs u dont know y she moved here could be she exscaped an abusive relationship i would ask her for info to take him urself maybe they dont have inserance i know u wana help him but u can make his situations worse
Well CPS are 4 kids who are being neglected, mistreated, etc.
They could end up in a foster home where they are being Sold a sex trafficking, or raped just make sure what ever u choose u make sure the kids life is seriously in danger or neglected!
Doubtful any ER will let you seek care for the child unless there is an emergency situation. They will contact the mother for permission to treat
Duly note that a CPS call does not have to be a bold ass hotline! You can simply call anonymously and tell them that you believe that there is a mother you are caring for her child that could use some resources to help her and her child out as she is a single mother and doing it on her own. It doesn’t have to be your calling because you think the mother is being neglectful. Let them make that call. As a mother who is in recovery from meth addiction marijuana addiction and alcohol addiction, my children were taken to urgent Care several times by the woman who is watching my kids while I worked. No note was needed no signature was needed no consent was asked for. She was the caretaker in that time frame and it’s urgent care meaning there’s a sense of urgency that’s been created and a child needs to be seen. But heed my words you do not have to hotline her in terms of her being a neglectful mother even though there are concerns for that. You can simply suggest somebody contact her with some resources that would be helpful to her and her child since she is a single mother and all on her own. they will be looking out for all of the signs of neglect anyways. You don’t have to call for that reason whatsoever. They will do their job.
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No no no no NO! Do not involve CPS NO, be a friend she may need it tell her you are worried about the child ask her how u can help in any way let her know you are there for BOTH of them. Get a cool mist humidifier too help with his breathing while he is with u and if ask her if she has one for her home in his room or if she needs help getting one. But please do not call them on her, it would be different if he came too your care with bruises and things of that nature but for wheezing no he may have a respiratory infection, a cold, there could be many reasons the smoking around him is not helping in any way. So please for the sake of the child be a friend too the mom ask her how u can help you don’t know what she’s going through she needs help obviously so offer your friendship reassure you care about her and the child. You never know it just might be what she needs too hear. CPS is NOT ALWAYS the right answer