If she don’t have insurance and she is worried about the bill remind her that for children welfare won’t hesitate to do emergency medical insurance which will be free for the baby. Offer to take him again. Cps won’t help they just make matters worse.
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I like what someone said about the car seat and the firedrpartment in getting a new one
As far as the child’s health issues just keep reminding her about how sick you think he is and try to get her to make an appointment offer again to help her by taking him to the Dr. Don’t call cps. If need be and he’s worse take him to the er then call mom. If the doctor feels there is neglect he will call and make a report. Just know once you do something that the mother doesn’t agree with she might find someone else to care for the child.
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Absolutely! Take pictures first !
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I can’t offer much of advice because this truly is a tough situation. Do talk to her first. There is a huge difference between a mom who smokes away from their child, a mom who smokes around their kids, and a mom who smokes in an enclosed area such as a car. All of it is second-hand but being exposed in the car is pretty severe.
Caregivers are mandated reporters 
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He definitely needs to be seen by a doc. You are probably his only source of comfort
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CPS isn’t going to do anything and you’re not gonna be the hero by getting them involved because you don’t agree with how she’s raising her kid. Jesus Christ 
how about HELP HER instead of trying to add one more thing to her plate that makes raising him right even harder. She’s new to the area. Obviously doing it alone without dad. Mind your business or roll up your sleeves and HELP! What raising children looks like to you doesn’t look the same to everyone else. 30 years ago our parents smoked in the home with us! Sucks, didn’t kill us though! Also didn’t warrant someone knocking on our door asking to do a welfare check on the kids 
in states where marijuana is legal, you can bet your last dollar that kids are being smoked in front of on the daily, and it won’t be long before it’s legal in all states so just pick your battles. Drop by goodwill or the Salvation Army, get on facebook and ask your friends who has a car seat for his size in date- I bet you find one for free you can give the mom. Man folks got a lot of nerve.
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Please do not call CPS if you do that there’s no telling what type of home he’ll end up and if he’ll be actually cared for at least if you get her permission to take him to the doctor or even just taking to the doctor without her permission at least you can see that he’s okay and maybe she’ll get what she needs to properly take care of him don’t call CPS he could end up in the worse environment
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STOP JUDGING
STOP MANIPULATING &
STOP ACTING LIKE A YOU GIVE A DAMN!
Ps.stop babysitting when it’s very clear, you do not know or understand your job title nor responsibilities.
Please love that child. And listen to Jen. She makes sense. Get some professional help for the child. God bless you for caring.
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The child comes first and you must do what’s best for him . She already said she does’nt know what she’s doing - a cry for help maybe .
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If his getting worse take him to the drs don’t muck around , always can op shop some nice clothes , shoes , blankets , toys and books 
for him , I’m sure mum is trying but she’s obviously not trying hard enough.
If I was yiu id take him to the drs and get medicine for him then get him some nice warm clothes, as long as his warm and his fed , talk to his mum and see how you might be able to help her , there are also different groups that will give you a car seat , prams clothes etc all for free , what state and suburb I can advise you in the groups available. At least yiu care and that’s so important for babies 
health and his welfare . Good luck 
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Weed really isn’t a big deal so let that go.
When making a call think about this
Will a group home with strangers possibly more neglect be better than where he is?
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Please don’t stop talking care if him your the only one that he probably feels safe with you have to be his voice you have to save him call who ever please
You are this child’s savior. Please report this. He is helpless and you need to be a voice for him. Bless you and good luck.
As a childcare provider, I’m assuming you are a mandated reporter. In New York State I know that’s how it is. Do the right thing…I’m sorry you’ve been faced with this situation, but that baby and mother deserves the help that it sounds like they need.
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I would take him to the er and tell them what you know hes being neglected
Don’t call CPS. Please they really don’t give a damn about kids. I’ve heard one too many heartbreaking stories.
She’s neglecting her child but I do agree CPS is shit. I’d get a carseat from the fire department. Then take the child to the ER as suggested. Im just worried though that they will get CPS involved which would be worse for the child.
This breaks my heart. I would call a doctor and see what they recommend. I could not do nothing. Praying for this baby.
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Its your duty to report any abuse you see as a provider ,bystander etc its the law
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Maybe call a clinic and find out what you can do. If she doesn’t agree to treatment I don’t know what could happen. The child needs intervention for his breathing before he doesn’t wake up
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A lot of places won’t see a child without parent unless there’s a notarized statement giving you permission my mom has to have one JUST to take my kids to the eye dr to get glasses
Call dcs because she’s putting her child at risk. That’s what I would do if I was in your situation
You could always ask if they have insurance and if so, you could call and set up the appointment for her and then be the one to take them and make sure the baby gets there.
Maybe if the mom hears the diagnosis or recommendations from the doctor she will take it more seriously.
I’m not sure what state you are from, or if you’re licensed, but as a part of the village, I think that you would be a mandated reporter. The safety of our children is everyone’s responsibility. Try to make arrangements with Mom to take him to doctor, but I doubt she will let you. Then if okayed, make sure you tell the doctor all your worries about this child’s care when with the Mom.
If she doesn’t want you to take him, then you should contact Human Services in your area. Most states this can be done anonymously.
Good Luck! Bless you for your concern.
I personally would give her one more chance I’d say " due to the rise in COVID-19 I can not watch your child anymore without him being cleared by the doctor for his shortness of breath. I will take him next time you drop him off if you just make an appointment and let them know I’ll be bringing him." If she declines stop watching him and yes call CPS
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Don’t call CPS. Stop watching him if it’s a problem. See if you make a doc app
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Just always be there for the kid no matter what.
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I would personally 100% make that call. He’s a baby. He doesn’t deserve that. If you were to take him to a doctor yourself, they would call after receiving this info so you should.
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You never know what someone is going through or has been through. It sounds like she is trying. Even though I hate that she smokes in the car with him it’s not against the law. Can you say in a friendly way “Girl your baby smells like smoke” If it were me I would try influencing her to do better before I called Cps.
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Honestly your the only one who cares about that baby. Ask the mom for the info on the child. Make her sign a paper saying you can take him to the doctor as the emergency contact. And then Literally if your up for it… I would ask to adopt the child. I mean your there for it anyway. Wouldn’t be any different. And you’d know he would be safe b
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Why do we always say I am not judging her/him, please stop being so politically correct, this is a child’s life, by protecting her feelings, do the right thing. Help her child.
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100% Get that Child Help. Take to an Emergency Room, They will contact appropriate agencies and treat him for his breathing issues
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Report her. Having a child means responsibility and she’s clearly not taking that seriously. You were put in his life for a reason. I don’t believe you should keep quiet. I see people on here saying a group home could be worse or give her another chance. Bullshit. That baby deserves better. I’ve been a foster parent and am in the process of adopting. People like her don’t care and usually dont change.
Most wheezing babies don’t need kidnapped, a doctor or medication. Most wheezing babies need a humidifier and fluids. Wheezing alone does not constitute a doctors appointment. Okay, Karen! 
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You’re a mandated reporter. It is your duty to call.
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Car seats are good for like 5-10 years . They have an expiration date you can check. The drugs require a call.
Are you a registered childminder? If so if anything happens that child while in your care you will be held responsible as you should have got the child medical help as soon as you noticed him not well and you also informed the mother of the same. Get that child to A&E as soon as possible, then you have done what you thought was in the child’s best interest xx Good Luck xx
It sounds like she’s a struggling single parent. She probably doesn’t want him to go to the Dr because of lack of insurance. If you’re willing to foot the bill take him to ER. If not explain to her that you think he has asthma because you have firsthand experience. Also explain to her that she can get medicaid for help with hospital bills. She could be having a mental break you don’t know. Nothing hear says abuse just lack of medical care, it’s RSV season. CPS doesn’t take kids out of dire situations like bruises etc. Doubtful they’ll do anything.
Im lucky enough to live in a Country that offers free health services to people that have a concession card (a card that states on a restricted income designed to give someone ability to provide the bear necessities to survive on)… anyways id probably start by offering some assistance first-both financially by ways of food support and medical support along with helping emotionally… if you’re in a position to judge then your in a position to help because if you think she is failing him then help them rise… if your only idea of help is judgement and a cps call before first assisting where can to help them better there lives where you see them failing…not to mention not knowing all facts and circumstances because as opposed to broaching subject with person you’ve decided to do a public forum all more or less based on assumption not fact…then I feel such sadness and pity and anger to you… for how dare you call out failure if all your doing is watching… call me crazy but I’m the type of person who grabs someone before the fall, nit someone who watches the struggle, witnesses the fall and all the while did nothing but hand out a judgement instead of a fucking hand! Start doing more to help the mother to best help her child…
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The mother would need to write a written note giving you permission to take her child to the doctor. Depending on the state you live in some doctors office will also allow verbal permission. For example if you took him to the emergency room and they needed permission to treat so they would call the mother to verify that it is okay.
Whenever my kids are in someone else’s care I always leave a note stating “so and so” can bring my children to the doctor just in case of emergencies!!! I feel like that’s a huge safety step that every parent should be taking!! I also gave a letter of permission to my daycare provider when my children attended daycare.
Now as far as calling cps goes. I’m not going to tell you to do it or not to do it as I’m not witnessing these things first hand so that’s something I won’t comment on. The best advice I can give is that you need to follow your instincts. If the situation is bad enough or there is significant neglect or danger involved then a call to cps is warranted.
It’s a child…u need speak up for its safety…no one esle will…please speak for the child …call who ever will get help for this precious child
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This breaks my heart. I’m not against calling dcs if the baby is truly neglected but I also want you to keep in mind that if you do call, they will open a case, if she gets her shit together and proves to them that she can be a good mom she will get the baby and she will more than likely not allow you to see the baby again. My concern with that is, what if she gets her shit together just long enough to get the baby back and dcs off her case and she goes back into those same habits. Then what? You won’t know what’s going on with the baby at all after that. I’ve seen stuff like that happen so many times and it worries me because you are that babies safe haven right now. This is a really tough place to be in. Go with your gut and whatever you feel is best in your heart.
Nah. Foster care would be a million times worse. There aren’t as many good foster parents as yall like to think.
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Most definitely call! You could save that child’s life!!! If you are at all debating THEN YES PLEASE DO
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With covid I’d be concerned for the wheezing myself. Get info and take him to dr. If she isn’t willing to better it help her child’s health get DCS involved
Always ALWAYS be a child’s voice. No matter what!!!
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Please don’t stop just watching the baby, it seems you are the only one who cares for the baby.
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You can’t take him to the doctor unless approved by the mother. I would DEFINITELY call DCS. I agree with you 100%. Clearly mom isn’t taking care of him like she should be. Foster care maybe worse, but maybe you could see if you could foster until the investigation is done or another foster family is available.
100% make the call.
Child’s welfare trump being nice to a deadbeat
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The next time the child has breathing issues take it to Accident emergency. They will take you in with child phone the mum tell her when you get the child seen too. In you’re care the child is paramount
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My advice would be call CPS, it sounds like she needs help and you cannot give the professional help she needs. Protecting children is everyone’s business. From the above description this child needs medical assessment! Dont ignore it and please do something before it is too late!
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Id call if you are concerned. If shes don’t all she needs to care for her baby and what not that she has nothing to fear from dcs
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I would let her know, once again, your concerns and, once again, offer to help. I would also let her know that you feel it’s a safety issue and one that, should she decide not to take action on, would be something you will report. This is her child, and this isn’t child abuse. Please don’t judge her parenting and put her into a horribly corrupt system based on life circumstances you haven’t ever experienced and can’t possibly know the struggles and effects thereof. Honestly if it makes you uncomfortable to be upfront and honest, you can give notice and find a new child to care for. Do not report any parent for struggling to raise a child on their own because how they raise their child is different than how you think you would raise your hypothetical children in your proposed future.
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I’d start by getting with consent from the mother to take the child to the doctor. As a former foster child I would refrain from calling DCS.
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Foster care/cps is an absolute nightmare for the kids- I would recommend that as an absolute last resort.
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What addiction? Cigerettes? MJ?
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My grandson has allgies I gave him so benadryl and it help a that i would not call cps unless u really think he is in danger them people make someone life really bad …Now I would sit her down and talk to her like women be here friend and her roll model not her enemy she might not have good roll model
If that doesn’t work then yes call but try other things 1 st
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Express to her that his wheezing is really concerning you. I come from a family of asthmatics as well. It’s not something to take lightly. Tell her you would be ok with taking him to a Dr of her choosing or the ER but it needs to be treated. The marijuana isn’t a reason to possibly turn this family inside out. The expired cc at seat isnt either. Call your local safe kids campaign. They will replace the seat & install it for free or very low cost. Sometimes police or fire depts will too.
Oh no
Please get that baby some help
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Do what you think Is Wright for the baby
Give him a breathing treatment,and do what your heart tells you!!!
What a sad story, his mom is so selfish, this baby needs to see a Dr. ASAP
MAKE A CALL TO THE PD DEPT AND THEY WILL GUIDE YOU ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS.
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Heres an idea mind your business. Would you want someone telling YOU how to parent? I love all you people who stick your nose into other people’s business but dont want it done to you. SMDH!
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Call CPS. Right now.
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Or you could try providing her the help she needs… it’s not fair to call cps on people when they’re struggling. There’s many resources out there you can mention to her to get her the help… maybe use the money you get from her. Get her a cheap car seat that is safe for her son. She likely needs some counseling. Probably has post partum depression…
Help her get the help she needs.
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These comments are why my kids are homeschooled and I work from home. Too many Karens getting kids kidnapped because they don’t agree with someone else’s lifestyle.
#taken #stopforcedadoption #reformCPS
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Yes call CPS. That baby needs help. The smoking is not helping that baby. Second hand cigarette smoke 
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Buy 𝓐 humidifier and some vicks vapor slowly introduce him to the small room you put it in offer to watch him for 𝓐 week with him spending the night she needs to see the difference between his breathing
I would personally do both.
All those saying “mind your business” I mean it kinda is her business considering she watches him& knows what it’s like to suffer with asthma! But as others have stated use CPS/DCS as a last resort if she’s NOT willing to let you take him/help her get him the care you KNOW he needs! I would also try breathing treatments each time you watch him& see if it improves his breathing, if not then I would ask if she needs you to take him to be seen or if you can help her in any way to get him checked out. If she’s not willing to take the offer then I would call in DCS/CPS to see what can be done
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Do not call CPS, the last thing you want to do is get that baby put in the system. If they decide to remove him from her care and she doesn’t have any family to take him in they will put him in foster care where the situation could be a million times worse, not to mention he will be separated from his mother. Unless you think this child is in immediate danger of being hurt or killed do not call.
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Get her to sign a waiver to allow you to take him to the doctor. Voicing your concerns as the sitter to the doctor will most likely open up an investigation, doctors are mandatory reports.
Just ask the mother why she won’t take her child to the doctor and call CPS.
There’s no valid reason why no parent shouldn’t take a child to the doctor if it’s needed. It’s neglect. Simple as that.
If you are licensed then you are a mandated reporter. As a babysitter i feel like you should get all health information ( insurance, pediatrician, etc) and a waiver saying you can take him to pediatrician or hospital for an emergency. If the breathing is getting worse then I would keep voicing it to the mom and if she doesn’t do anything then you should call DCS.
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Please dont stop watching him if ur his only safe place …maybe try a lil puff from ur kids inhaler. If u call n they take her baby things could get worse maybe try again letting mom know the wheezing is getting worse n it can close his airway n kill him immediately…I’m praying. If she doesn’t want him I’ll be more then glad to adopt him …like above said call ur local precinct…n honestly there not gonna do anything about marijuana…its legal mostly everywhere as well as she may have her medical card …
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If you call Cps the baby goes into the system, then you have no idea if he’s cared for correctly or not. Try to get her to sign a paper giving you permission to take him to the hospital. Do all the home remedies. Just don’t call Cps
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For all you Karen’s out there judging on this person’s discription of how badly this child is being cared for take those same concerns to Texas border. You should have a hay day.
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calling cps on someone honestly is one of the lowest forms of fuck you, you can do to someone ! i understand the baby has breathing issues or what not! he could have been born with. something that causes raspy breathing? could be allergies? and kids get dirty! my oldest is 21 youngest is almost 7. No matter what i did my kids always found a way to get dirty:joy:
. I have had cps called on me from people getting “revenge” numerous time with all 3 kids! I personally think its disgusting, yes i understand the concerns about safety etc, but sometimes its better left with cps involved. i grew up and was removed by them feom ny home at 6 yrs old. Cps is shady. They twist ur words and u cant win with them. When my son was born i took him to the dr for a cold(he was 6 weeks) i was supposed to go for a follow up in a few days, well in the few days leading up to the appointment, i noticed a soft spot on his head that shohldnt be there… took him to the er it was a hematoma . i didnt know how it happened but it wasnt from abuse! The er dr called the police and cps and they accused me of shaking him dropping him anything u can think of! i remembered that when i was changing him after he got out of rhe tub his head kinda scuffed on the couch and that caused that. BUT i had to leave my house with him and stay in a hotel for a week until they decided what to do because they thought my kids or husband hurt him! anyway enough rambling i just realky hate cps please put urself in her shoes dont call unless u absolutely have to
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Report it. She can get weekly visits with her child and she can have a social worker help her get back on track.
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Why are you even asking this question??? That child is neglected !
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CPS takes children & give them to a worst place tbh. You are going to risk a chance of that baby having a more messed up life than he would with her. Make her sign sometime so you can take him to hospital.
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You responsibility is to the child not the mother she can look after herself, if you think the child is being neglected and it’s affecting his health take him to the doctors straight away and get extra help involved he needs it now as an emergency
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You’re his safe haven, don’t stop watching him. That baby needs you, clearly his mom has addiction issues and is not herself at the moment. Drugs take over your life and nothing else matters but your next fix. I have an addict brother so I know. Tell her she needs to take him to the doctor or you’ll need to take matters into yohr own hands.
CPS doesn’t care about weed. Cps is NOT THE ANSWER THE GIRL WHO MADE THIS POST JUST TAKE CARE OF THE BABY AND DO YOUR JOB MIND YOUR BUSINESS LIKE OT SAYS IN THE BIBLE AND GIVE THE MOMMA A BREAK SHE IS TRYING! ESPECIALLY IN A NEW TOWN AND NOBODY TO HELP AND NO BABYS FATHER AROUND.
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I would ask her to give permission to take baby in. And I would try to convince her to let me have him all the time. Apparently she doesn’t know what she’s doing.
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To get this family wrapped up in child protective services would be the worst thing you could do. As long as he’s not being beaten or harmed in a serious way, do not ever call these people. You don’t want to put that baby in the system, tear the family apart, and set her up for a really long hard road just because she’s not a perfect mother. Keep pushing for the doctors visit and her to stop smoking around him, but other than that, there’s not much you can do.
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You should definitely not call cps thats upsured you even think of that as an option for this situation… you’re the babysitter that’s the mom have you been with this baby since day one maybe the baby has a cold I feel like your opinion and judgment in this matter is making it seem as if the mom is doing something wrong you know I did you mention it to her though beginning of the day and then again the next day she didn’t take him and then your posting this you know how long has it been since the baby has seemed to be wheezing it’s coming faster than that situations then you just should say something to her each day and also try home remedies if you guys have asthma and you can have a nebulizer machine with albuterol give him a treatment help out find solution to the problem
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I just seen this same post in another group
And honestly if you’re going to consider calling CPS because a mother that you’re babysitting for is that doing something in a manner that you would you just don’t need to babysit other people’s kids
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Smoking around children is a personal preference just because you don’t smoke around yours doesn’t mean she’s wrong for smoking around her you’re a babysitter you’re not somebody there to decide the mom doesn’t stop smoking and she don’t take the kids to the doctor that day because you feel the kid needs to go to call CPS your f****** out of your mind can you keep on here post the stupidest s***
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Social Services need to be contacted ASAP
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