Should I confront my husband about his search history?

They’re adult girls… His a man… I’d leave it personally. There is nothing wrong with looking. If he was eye gogglling young girls on the street then it’s a diff story.

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I hope to GOD you don’t have daughters…

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It’s porn hub anyone uploading videos has to prove with ID their date of birth so yes they would be 18 or older. 18+ I class as a adult and same by law. 16 is legal age to have sex and 18+ explicit content.

Porn is porn ages range from 18 through to god knows. Did it say she was 18 because even some late 20s look very young. If it’s not amateur then it has editing, lighting effects etc

Boobs are Boobs and :cat: are :cat:
There is a difference between fantasy and reality.

Is it the age? Would it be ok if the woman looked 25 or 30?

I feel like this is less about the age and potentionally more a insecurity and if that is the case then that’s what you need to voice. Not what it was on the PH site but how you feel about the whole thing.

Porn is either your thing or it isn’t. I know my partner wouldn’t be surprised by search history in fact roles reversed here as I’m more the PH user than he is :rofl: but both being comfortable and having a healthy relationship it’s not a problem.

I’ve watched them as the R18 and I’m a mum of 4 daughters so no that’s not a concern to go out thinking that he’s a grub and digging into the dark territory of young girls. But I think that’s where if a woman done it, it’s fine but as a man it’s viewed as creepy. As for comments bringing religion into it, if course they’ll bang on about being a sin and sexualising children etc but porn alone is sin for them so scratch out those comments.

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If your boundaries contain porn then he is being disrespectful. If it bothers you, bring it up.

He’s a man! It’s natural. Trying to say a hot and fit young man with his kit off wouldn’t turn your head? :laughing::face_with_hand_over_mouth:

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Just let him do him it’s better than him cheating plus they’re of legal age let it be

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Sometimes its more the content of what they do in the video than what the title says or whose in the act.

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All men are gonna look at and watch porn whether they admit it or not and personally I have nothing against it. Most of us have heard the saying I don’t really care where you get your appetite, but your ass better only be eating at home. I would say as long as you still have a good active sex life together, it’s not an issue, but if it’s border-lining on addiction and he’s neglecting you then it’s a problem especially if he would rather do that than you. Also if I ever found out that my significant other was actually interacting with any of these “Webcam Girls” all bets are off…Adios, Arrivederci, Sayōnara MFer!!!

Sweetie as Gorge Burns once said - I liked young women when I was younger - why would I change. You might mention it - but sometimes things are better left alone if you trust him.

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My man says guys don’t usually actually read the title, it’s just if the pictures on the video look good he will use that lol.

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Y’all are tripping. Please let that man watch porn in peace

Watch a lil porn with him and alone if you like. It can change your sex life.

Let it go! Maybe join him in watching the videos and have fun with it!

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Omg :joy: if I gotta be the one to tell you this so be it, I’ll go out of my comfort zone to say a lot of porn site/videos have weird titles like that, for some reason they think it’s appealing to most people. More then likely they aren’t teens but of consent age. I feel like most people aren’t even selecting the videos based off the titles anyways.

Open your mouth say something get it off your chest for sure! Then stop looking on your hubby’s phone!
That’s the stupidest thing a spouse can do to ruin their relationship!

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We watch it together and separate :woman_shrugging:t3::woman_shrugging:t3: as long as its not an addiction I wouldn’t have an issue. Unless you’re just revolted by the content and can’t get over it.

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Would you rather him be out there cheating? My husband doesn’t watch the same porn, and neither do I. I wouldn’t bother even bringing it up, it will cause an argument over nothing.

I think there’s an inner teenager in all of us and what I mean by that, is we don’t see ourselves getting older and high school still doesn’t feel that long ago… year after year of us getting older lol I would be concerned if he was approaching any teenagers, but I wouldn’t make a big deal of it otherwise. My husband has told me he’s seen “everything” at this point because he’s been watching it for so many years… :woman_shrugging:t3:
Is that what I want to hear? No… Do I ask anymore about it? No… it is what it is at this point with technology

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Do what you have to do. Would he want you interested in young boys?

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Just cuz he looks at 19yr old porn doesn’t make him a weirdo,lol. A lot of men look at porn and it’s very bothersome cuz it makes the op feel not good enough. Why men who are older like younger woman and younger men like older woman is beyond me but it’s the thing with a lot of them. Their is a fine line between browsing porn periodically and addiction. If Addicted he needs help, if he occasionally looks at porn, I hate to say but it’s pretty normal. It’s more like what can you live with? Now that it’s free and at your fingertips it’s the reason for many divorces and break ups. I couldn’t handle if my man was a addict to porn.

It’s so funny to hear these woman say it’s gross, cuz he’s 50yrs old looking at adult 18 and 19yr olds.lmao

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seriously?! At least be honest about it #1 (with us even if not with Yourself). You weren’t “using his phone to look something up”, that’s your facade. Especially not in his browser history. And if I read it wrong and you were meaning you just went to type in a url, and it showed those in a drop-down menu because he had recently been on them, I apologize. But I still have a gut feeling that you knew exactly what you were doing. why else would you have gone to his chrome or internet page, instead of just typing what you needed in the Google search widget that comes standard on all phones homescreen?! If you were doing it that way, you wouldn’t have seen his past web pages, only the keywords he typed in.
Also, it’s porn. ABSOLUTELY NO ONE pays attention to what the title is to the one they are watching. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched porn, then when I opened it up again had forgot to close and BAM… I had been watching stuff titled like ‘stepmom gives her naughty teen a lesson’ or ‘Daughter-swapping’ or 'wild teen fucked by family ’ … I AM NOT NOW, not have I ever been into things the title says, I’m not from Arkansas.
I’ve been happily married for 10 years. Believe me when I say, porn is normal and even healthy in moderation. We have sex every single night, and I still masturbate almost every day, if not multiple times a day. Sometimes I watch porn, sometimes I don’t. Doesn’t mean I’d ever cheat on him

Everyone’s relationship is different and if no porn is one of your boundaries then I think you need to talk to him about it

You all supporting it saying to stop looking and let it go… no! That’s filthy wrong! That’s not right. It damages a persons brain so bad! Not to mention what it does to their partner. It’s unrealistic. When you love someone fully you don’t go looking. It’s someone’s daughter. Get a grip n get your shit together

It’s wrong. Confront him. It’s a form of cheating. If he’s lookin’, he’s doin’. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Pretty much all of them are tagged with that in the title Bc that’s what most men want to see (unfortunately).

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And just what is on your. F. B.

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Honestly like 99% of those videos have “teen” in them

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I mean, I wouldn’t say that it’s cheating or anything wild like that. However, it’s always grossed me out when older PEOPLE (not just men) are particularly INTO “Teen” stuff. It’s weird to me. As an adult WOMAN, I would never want to watch “teen” pornography, that’s kind of gross. While I do understand that 18 is technically legal, in the law’s eyes, but to me, as an ADULT WOMAN, it’s cringey & disgusting. The absolute LAST thing I want is a teenaged person starring in a sexual fantasy, that’s gross.

Why not confront him and ask him if he’s unsatisfied with your intimate life? Maybe he needs something from you and is afraid to ask. Talk it out and come to a decision together.

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I’d be concerned if it was child porn otherwise I would let it be. Some young guys like older women and some older women like younger guys and same can go the other way. It doesn’t mean he’s gonna go get himself a young woman

Its a normal thing people watch both men and women actually watch porn it’s healthy and natural actually as for some being 18 and 19 yr olds alot of ppl have a fantasy of wanting to feel younger nd it mite turn him on or remind him of being younger its only porn for 1 its only acting nd even tho it is sead 18 nd 19 yr olds there often time older just like a movie or soap show its acting nd there generally older portraying younger ppl and why it bother u only time it would bother me is if it was under age girls

Just let it go. Most titles have the weird “Teen” in it.

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Let me just put my own personal experience in. My ex husband used to watch brother sister porn. I called him on it. Then I caught him in my hot tub with :drum::drum::drum: his sister who was visiting from out of state. Take this information how ever you want. Honestly my opinion is based on my own personal experience and I think your man is a pedophile.

This is a situation where I would say pick your battles. Is this really something worth arguing over, is he choosing to watch teen porn over having sex with you? If your answer is no then thats the answer to your question.

Yes. After praying and fasting. Trust God to give you grace to approach him.

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The most contradictory post I’ve seen here :sweat_smile:

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It shouldn’t bother you. It’s normal. Unless there are issues already and you think this has something to do with it, leave it alone.

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Iv always said that disrespect for the wife watching these videos,and yeah I would say something

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Literally hate this topic. :woman_facepalming:t2:

All these “let it go” “it shouldn’t bother you” “it’s normal” comments are for the birds.
If you don’t like it, if it upsets you, then SAY SOMETHING. Don’t disregard your feelings just because these people say you should lol.
It may be normal in everyone else’s marriages but the way YOUR marriage works is solely based on YOU AND YOURS. Not everyone else, especially not everyone else on Facebook.
If you feel disrespected by it, if you don’t want him doing it, then confront him- talk it out with him. Don’t just “let it go” or you’ll have that in the back of your head for the rest of your life and it could ruin you as a woman and your marriage completely.
You need to talk it out and let it be known that you’re not happy about what you’ve seen and you want it to stop. Period.
Don’t let Facebook be the ruler in your marriage. Not everything everyone else does is what I want my husband doing :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Absolutely confront him. He will lie and deny the truth that is in his face.

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It is Legal . Hell 18 year olds have fought in wars as adults & in some cases younger. They fight & in some cases must kill others. Fact is 18 year olds are adults in many countries. He is not raping or hurting anyone. Just because you are bothered does not mean he must stop. He has been committed to the relationship. Hell women are the same way with porn in many cases.
Definitely not breaking any laws. As another poster typed “WE all have our Kinks” True Fact. I am not going to waste my time being concerned with it with a wife or girlfriend & leave his FREAKIN PHONE alone. It is not yours. “PERIOD”.

Would you be more comfortable if he like devorced midlaged woman banging in office

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No it’s not normal, stop trying to make this normal just because you don’t know how to address it

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Why is this dismissed as “normal” and it’s ok for him to look at that just because he’s a man. It’s degrading to you as a woman and his wife. Absolutely bring it to his attention and tell him how it makes you feel. Your feelings a valid.

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It’s perfectly legal, he hadn’t done anything wrong. Without porn, there wouldn’t be happy marriages lol.

Na jokes aside, he isn’t a weirdo. He isn’t looking at children, they’re woman. And alot of porn videos will lie. Titles are not the truth. That said “teen” could be a woman 30 years old for all we know.

Have a nice day ma’am. :blush:

I’m having the same problem with my 52 year old bf. I told him I know you will look but any female under 25 is u acceptable…even 25 is young

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Basically 90% of porn sites has videos of teen girls, and they are not even teens, they are in their twenties. It’s just their way of marketing and selling sex.

Live and let live please give him a break its porn he aint a rapist

:rofl::rofl::rofl: I watch more porn then the hubby does some of you females are prudes and need to loosen up holy sh*tballs batman

Why did you feel the need to search your husband’s history on his phone…do you have trust issues?

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They r adult not children I don’t see problems u don’t see anything 40+ person watching 40+ yr old person in porn …ppl watch porn to see hot crazy sex hot ppl they will never have … so I don’t see anything wrong w it…I 30 I would watch porn 18 + up …I wouldn’t date any one younger then 21…just bc we like watching it don’t mean we going go out fuck 18 even if we did they r adult not children so nothing wrong w it

My husband watched a gangbang video, I don’t mind😝 not saying I want that crap lol but it’s just fantasy. It’d be another thing if he acted on it. Hard truth is no matter how much our men may love us and want us, they are still men with innocent fantasies. Don’t worry❤️

If you have a problem with it , it’s a problem. I use to be that person who wondered if something was wrong with me if I didn’t like something going on in my relationships and would ask others about it. NOT ANYMORE. If it bothers you say something. If he says to bad, y’all have a problem. My opinion porn cause issues, period. Oh, and I can look, search and dig through anything I want.

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everyone has different feelings and opinions and how YOU feel should be valued, validated and respected just like everyone elses. If something bothers you and you don’t like it then you need to talk to him and at least get it out or you will start hving resentment and that will cause problems. You hv every right to feel however you feel and those feelings should be respected, if you tell him you don’t like ot and he doesn’t care and does it anyway that shows you how much respect he has for you and you will hv to decide what to do about it.

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Why not just watch some porn together :woman_shrugging:t4:

Ruuuuun :woozy_face: Nowhere does it say that “men like porn”; this is not a default setting for men. I wouldn’t say something or let it go. I would just leave. He’s not gonna want to stop; he’s just gonna hide it better now that you know. Either live with it or run, but he’s not changing unless he initiates it.

You don’t like him watching any porn, be honest. Then tell him.

That would bother me a lot that it’s teen girls

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Sorry not sorry but that IS weird.

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Mind ya business :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Why were you searching through his history ?

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I’m sorry but that is not normal. If men watch porn it was with their s.o not by themselves . And the last few men I was with didn’t need porn

It’s pr0n. Get over it. It’s not a guy thing, a lot of people like to watch. And fuck, I watch younger couples because they look good. I was hot as fuck my teenage years. So are they. Again, get over it and yourself.

Ask him… “WTF ??? Are you a pervert ??” Then wait for an answer. Then talk about it.

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Idk about yall but iv always found it disturbing that some men look up “barely legal” and “just turned 18” porn…its literally as close to a child as you can get and its gross.

Everyone has fantasies/curiosities/turn ons etc, it doesn’t mean he would want to be with young girls in real life. If you feel uncomfortable about it, then you could bring it up… but it was on his phone. Which is his own personal space. Looking at his phone history can be seen as a violation / trust issue and could start a fight. You can’t control what he looks up on his phone in his own spare time. Perhaps he has a teacher/student fantasy (not child but older 18 year old student) or perhaps he likes to imagine himself in his younger days. You can’t judge someone when you don’t know the situation or his side of the story.

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Do not be so dumb & blind.
Hell no , it is not ok.
I will have my dad take any man out that feels he can disrespect / mistreat me.
An easy way for him to meet the coffin sooner than he anticipated.
Sincerely, Ms. Bitch who does not play.

he said you could use his phone not look at stuff he is looking at . he is with you isn’t he? leave this alone period

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You should not have searched threw his phone. You could have looked something up without doing that.

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Yes, say something! No, porn is actually not normal. Ask a therapist. It’s not. There are men out there that don’t watch it. And, don’t feel guilty for looking through his stuff. Omg, these women above need to get a clue.

Ask to speak to him about it in private and bring it up to him? Hopefully, it turns out to be nothing serious at best, but I think it’s a good start.

I personally would just let it go.

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Nah totally normal porn is porn.

No. You should stop snooping. Apologize for that.

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I would my husband is 32 and dose the same stuff and messages that he writes that he get caught with on his messages he never writes it is kinda sick and pisses me off

A 50 year old searching for teens is sick.

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Pornhub teens are rarely ever actual teens 🤦

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If your going to watch porn of course it’s going to be young buff bodies you get turned onto doesn’t mean that’s what you want in real life it’s fantasy.i’m a 67rs old female God I like to see a young taut guys bod but alas in real life it would kill me haha.

I haven’t seen any men that aren’t willing to look at any 18 + girls . It seems to make them feel young :see_no_evil: wouldn’t make me feel great. I’d talk to him about it. Men are from a different planet

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Omg some of y’all are stupid… This woman literally said she was using his phone to look something up… Obviously she wasn’t just grabbing his phone to go through all his private shit… WTF is wrong with you people… This woman has every right in the world to pick up his phone do whatever she wants on it! This is her HUSBAND of 20 YEARS not some boytoy wtf… Yes she should confront him but not in a way that would make him feel ashamed because then he will lie his way through it, he should feel safe to talk about it with his WIFE, not feel attacked. Just because porn isn’t cheating, doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have some underlying fantasy he’s not getting fulfilled. And just because this woman saw her HUSBAND’S search history does NOT mean she was snooping! She got concerned about his deep interests he’s never shared with her and came here for some advice to help her think more clearly! Not to be attacked like she’s a psycho just because she happened to see the search history when she used his phone to search something!!

Man there’s a ton of men on a mamas page

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Taboo porn is really common, I’ve met people who are into things VERY weird and disgusting (to me) everyone fetish is different and if you get upset you’ll push him away, a lot of the time porn is just porn… however if he was actively acting on trying to hit on teenagers that’s a different story

Some women would be delighted if this is all they found while searching their husbands history without permission. Consider yourself a princess, zip your lips, and put it out of your mind. Those calling this abnormal or sick are judgmental and probably prude. To each their own. Imagine what you could have found. Spice up your sex life and thank your lucky stars. Sounds like you got a good one.

Yes if it bothers you then confront him so eventually you can have a peace of mind.

I would say something. I have a huge issue with my man looking at porn. I do any and everything in bed that my man asks so if I’m not enough, he can move along.
When people say " you know how men are" it makes me crazy. Have some self control. I don’t want my man getting hard looking at other women :woman_shrugging:t3:

:face_vomiting::face_vomiting: hes not a wierdo really hes a old man looking at young girls how is that not a wierdo tbing to do :nauseated_face:

Hey let’s be honest…everyone watches porn at some point or another. I prefer woman on woman action for porn but I’m as straight as they come and LOVE my husband. He doesn’t get offended by what I watch and vice versa bc at the end of the day…he’s getting me off.

I hope you can let it go and not let it bother you.