Should I get back into an old relationship?

I've been starting a new/old relationship w/ my ex before my husband. He's such a good guy, treats me w respect, a great personality, and I love spending time w him. Now.... my husband wants to try n work things out.. but he makes no effort always has excuses and when we were moving up north. He left me the day of the uhaul so I had to scramble to find Troy Cotter to help last second. He left me and constantly says I'd be better off w/o a pos.. he makes no effort.. im still the only one calling and trying. Now this other guy I dont even have to ask things he jusy does.. idk I just don't kno what to do. Cus if I try again w my husband I lose the one I have now... what should I do yall???
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To much going on. Stop holding one guy on the back burner to see if what your cooking on The front burner turns out. Give one relationship your attention.

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How about neither??? Lol it sounds like you need to time for yourself. To reflect and think and work through things on your own and what YOU actually want. Pray God would send you a sign.
Or if you know deep down who you’d rather be with then make your decision and don’t second guess yourself

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Life is to short to be fighting so hard to hold on to someone who does not show you or feel the same. Let go of the past and be happy in the moment. Sounds like there is someone who shows you love and respect.

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Keep the one you have.

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He’s an ex for a reason… always remember that!

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I think u have ur own answer in your question… husband out new ex in but remember why the new ex didnt work out.

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If he’s so great why is he a Ex !

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You need to ask yourself why they are exes!

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Just plain stupid how these post are written.

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Take a break and be alone.

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Ask you heart and use your own intuition.

Why did you and the ex break up? Usually exes are exes for a reason, but sometimes it wasn’t even anything except too much going on and not enough time.

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Wow, how disgusting are you. Your husband deserves better an I hope you old relationship fails and your left alone.

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Leave your husband for someone better because obviously he don’t want to try anymore

I think you answered your own question because the new/ old guy came when you was at your low you. If you wanted him you wouldn’t of asked if you should try and make things work with your husband

Ditch them both and work on you!

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Stay with whoever treats you better. Life is too short to be miserable.

He is part of your past for a reason move on

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Is this really a question??? I

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Lady you have no husbands they both have left you already

They’re both ex’s for a reason, I’d leave both alone. Especially the husband. Maybe take some time to focus on yourself and get yourself to a happy place before starting a new relationship. Just because they want you back doesn’t mean they deserve you back. Think about why your relationship with each of them ended. Do you wanna repeat that?

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I don’t know that I would necessarily jump right into another relationship, but your husband is never going to change if he hasn’t yet! Be single be friends with this other person, but don’t jump in both feet first! But dump your POS hubby

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Ex is ex for a reason might be good now but what about later but I wouldn’t try again with soon to be ex husband I’ve been there done that ended in divorce years later and lost a good guy

I never rekindled relationships with exes. Like they are an ex for a reason. Stay single and focus on you. I dont get why woman always think they need to be in a relationship? I was a single mom to 3 for 7 years before I met my now husband. But I guess everyone’s different?

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Does your husband make YOU happy? …theres your answer.

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All men try harder for something new. The new guys effort will fade a little too. People become complacent in long term relationships.
But. If he left you the day you were supposed to move, nahhh. Fuck that dude stay with the new.

If you are needing advice to go backwards you already know the answer

Well apparently the one is your husband so there’s that.
I vote Troy Cotter.

SOOOOO… stay away from the ex boyfriend …he doesn’t need your rebound bs… and stay away from your ex husband and build a life… or go back to him and be miserable. I would stay away from both amd examine why I feel I have to have a man.

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Ur kidding right? Their both exes for a reason🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sounds like you need to focus on yourself instead of jumping into relationships. :woman_shrugging:

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Doesn’t sound like your husband is committed. Leaves you holding the proverbial bag
Don’t get serious take your time. Learn you are worthy

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Sounds like you need to rebuild yourself & your life on your own with neither guy.

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He is called and ex for a reason !

Screw your husband…read what you wrote…you already answered your own question.

Stop with both, you’ll regret and wonder, if he wants you he’ll stay

It just depends. I left a good relationship for My ex many years ago because I was lacking in self worth. He said he “stopped drinking” and empty promises. I was still in love with the one I left the whole time because of how much I was going through day to day. Don’t let people judge. If you’re truly happy with your ex then screw the hateful husband! But also remember they always try harder to impress in the beginning unless you really have a good one. There’s not enough info here necessarily to know and give advice but if your current is kind, empathetic, considerate, faithful and you can always count on him, then don’t let people judge. I did the jump between two people as well and I had so much hate in the beginning. Now everyone tells me how much happier I am and it’s been years with our almost 3 year old daughter.
Don’t let people judge something they don’t know.

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Am I the only one that is confused when reading this? I say leave both. You don’t sound happy with your husband and your ex is an ex for a reason.

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Let me see… you have a choice between happiness and frustration ??? Somebody who wants to be with you and one who does NOT. Somebody who treats you with respect or one who doesn’t. That doesn’t sound like a hard choice!!!

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Take care of yourself first, and concentrate on you and your children if there is any.

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i’d say netiher as well, best to just focus on yourself and build a new life where you can be truly happy

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The guy you’re with now deserves better.

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Ex is an ex for a reason -

Forget the husband…and remember why other dude is an ex! Don’t be the dog going back to eat it’s vomit. NEITHER!!!

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Leave your husband, but not sure you should jump stright in with a ex their is a reason you split up

If the ex is good to you and your kids give him another try Maybe This Time It’s forever

Your husband sounds like an ass and yet you’re considering taking him back. Maybe your judgement isn’t as great as you think and you should say no to both and just be single until you find a completely new decent guy.

Sing happy trails to you and wa e bye as he leaves sounds like a no Brainerd to me

If you have to ask Facebook anonymously the answer is no. If you’re entertaining the thought while with another man you probably shouldn’t be with him either. Focus on yourself and kids! :grin:

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Sounds like you shouldn’t pick either and you should focus more on yourself. I’m a firm believer that exes are in the past for a reason. I’ve never broken up with someone for no reason. Sounds like your husband will never change from the bit you’ve shared and you feel like therapy would help then go for it. However, jumping from one relationship to the other can be very blinding to yourself and puts up blockers you won’t notice, as well as red flags.

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I think you stop thinking about another relationship right now and concentrate on working through any residual feelings and issues you have from soon to be ex husband. Take some time and really figure out yourself and what you want in life.

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Honestly make sure your marriage is really over. Maybe talk to him. My husband and and I were having issues for 2 years I started talking to an ex. Eventually my husband found out and was devastated. We ended up talking and working on our marriage and I soon realized that I could never live my life without my husband. We just needed better communication.

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Uhh so if you were so happy in the last relationship and he respected you etc… why did yall break up??? Why jump into a relationship when you are still married?? I’m sorry but ewww.

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Just out of curiosity, did you cheat on your ex with your current husband?:thinking: I mean he’s an EX for a reason. Of course your ex is nice and treating you with respect NOW because he wants to make sure your husband is truly out of the picture. Instead of hopping from man to man, how about you just be by yourself for awhile because you obviously aren’t sure who you want. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Scandalousssssss lol y’all wild

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Neither… have some time to yourself!!

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The husband needs to be kicked to the curb. Plain and simple :woman_shrugging:t3:

You know what to do listen to your gut make it happen

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Why would you continue trying with (ex)husband when he still doing the same shizz and not trying? Why? Just why?
Your better off alone. You need to focus on yourself and your kids. Before trying to get into relationships. You’ll never be happy if your jumping relationship to relationship

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Really??? You have to ask ?? If you need to ask maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship?

Keep the one that does everything for you and you have the one tell him to kiss your ass

Work on or leave your marriage before starting another with someone else.

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I’m pretty sure both are an X for a reason. Whatever happened to staying single and finding who you are first without being with someone? Don’t settle.

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Why didn’t it work out with your ex? I would leave the husband because he sounds like a lost cause. Then see if it might work out with the lot bf

Are you seriously asking this question based on what you have said only a fool who likes being treated badly would go backwards to hubby. Better to be alone then with someone who doesn’t respect you in anyway :scream:stay n it’s on you

Hmm…should I move into a nice mansion in Beverly Hills or should I move to a crack house in the ghetto…I can’t decide! On a more serious note, if you have to even ask yourself this question, you should go with the third option. Choose yourself. Soul search, boost your self esteem. To even question if you should go back to someone who was a crap spouse shows that you have some personal things you need to work on

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Just move on. Obviously you & your husband split for a reason. Women have to start appreciating & knowing their worth. If he makes no effort then why are you? Move on with somebody who makes you happy!

You and your ex husband are apart for a reason and he’s continuing. You know what to do hun! Get out there and enjoy your NEW life!!

Your already cheating ? Do you have kids?

I would just be single lol sounds like a lot. Figure out what it feels like to not have your husband and decide off that

I NEVER circle back.

Dump both and find yourself. You shouldnt have to decide.