I feel like I am a bad mom or doing the wrong thing but we recently moved and I took the binky off my daughter and transitioned her to a big girl bed she has been giving us such a hard time with naps and sleeping. Prior to the new bed she did great without a binky in the crib so tonight I saw her with something in her hand she went upstairs and went to bed on her own in her room I turn on the monitor and I see she has a binky in her mouth I could of swore I threw them all away I must of missed one but I didn’t take it off her and now I am thinking maybe she can have it back for bedtime. Am I doing the wrong thing
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Yes let her keep the binky. If my son hadn’t been chewing all of his to pieces I would’ve let him keep his and some days I want to give it back to him bc bedtime is sometimes so difficult. Going into a big girl bed is a huge win!! You’re doing great!
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That’s a lot of change at once. Let her get comfortable with the move and the new bed set up first then work on the paci in a few months b
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I let my child go to sleep with it in their mouth and then took it away. Over time she wound up holding instead of pulling it in her mouth
Too many changes all at once leave the binky for bed time. Take the win mama
At this point , it’s a comfort thing , let her have it.
That’s a lot of change at one time, let her have her comfort item back, even just for a little while until she adjusts. Between moving into a new home and then a new, bigger bed; it may not seem like massive changes to an adult but to a small human, they’re both big deals, and to have to try and cope with both without your trusted comfort item. You’re not a bad mom, you are allowing her to comfort herself in her way, and that’s okay. 
I’ve had my son weened since a year, when I switched him to milk. I still allow bink at nap and bedtime but not throughout the day
I’m no expert. I have birthed 7 kids. One thing I have learned, no fail, is they grow too fast.
Sometimes the comfort of a pacifier is longer with some kids than others.
I have not seen a teen hiding binkies. Embrace the stage your child is at today. Eventually, she will find comfort in other things. The worst a binky can do is give her a cute baby smile with funny teeth. Those also fix themselves.
Give yourself and her some grace. It won’t be like this for long.
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Transitioning her to a big girl bed and taking her binky at the same time might be a lot for her at one time. My suggestion is to let her have the binky until she’s used to being in a big girl bed.
Depends the age. But if it helps her sleep let her keep it. Slowly start taking it away little by little until she grows out of it.