My pediatrician always said to trust your instincts. I am also on the side of letting a child be exposed to germs so that their immune system gets stronger, but if your gut is telling you no, don’t go.
I wouldn’t, too much RSV, colds, wait until next year, any little thing can be devestating to a newborn
I had my baby two weeks ago and I took him to target the next day and when people come to visit they must wash their hands and no kissing the baby…go spend the holidays with the family! Just set some ground rules, they should understand
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Perhaps you can request everyone get their flu shots and bring lots of hand sanitizer. Let parents know, no kids are to touch the baby. My daughter accidentally attended her own baby shower at 2 weeks old. She was ok, and we didn’t even request flu shots.
Go.with your gut…
Your baby.
Your choice
I had my daughter two weeks before thanksgiving and we went to my MIL’s who was having 20 people. Most were from out of state and wanted to see the baby. We limited the holding and kept the kids away from her. She stayed in the bassinet most of the evening. We did come later then others and leave earlier.
Honestly I’d rather be at home it’s totally up to you wear ur babe if you do and just keep the babe with mom esp if there’s a lot of ppl
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What do you do if you or husband get cold or flu
Hand washing, cover mouth with mask. No kissing the baby or touching face. If your family can’t handle that being rules then leave early
You’ll be fine, now if someone is sick I wouldn’t let them hold the baby. I have five kids and they say some germs are good for a healthy immune system! And I’m pretty sure everyone will respect your wishes is you ask them to leave your baby be. If you think it’s going to be to stressful. Just stay home. Babies feed off of your emotions.
My daughter was born a preemie baby 1 month early on Nov 8th.
We did Thanksgiving at both sides of the great grandparents on diffrent days however me and my husband and the great grandparents and grandparents were the only ones allowed to touch or hold her no kisses was allowed and they bathed up to the elbows in germ x
No aunts cousins or extended family got too and she spent 90% of the time in her carrier
I had tons of visitors in the hospital and took my daughter to the mall when she was 4 days old to show her off to my coworkers. I made everyone wash/ sanitize their hands before touching or holding her and no kissing. She just turned a year old and just had her first sickness of any kind. Your baby will be fine, if you want to go see friends and family don’t hold back.
I’d stay home and rest, bond with baby and relax
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My oldest was born 18 days before Christmas. We still went. Just make everyone wash hands before holding baby and no kissing baby at all. If someone is sick, keep baby away from them. Nursing will keep baby’s immune system up as well.
stay home and make hubby cook
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Do what you feel is best. Dont let any one pressure you one way or another and if they judge you (which they probably will) remind yourself that THEY dont have to stay up with a sick crying unhappy baby.
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You are over reacting just take him things will be fine mommy
Only if you feel comfortable. You can always babywear and not allow people to hold him. My 2nd was born the day before Thanksgiving so we skipped that year obviously cause I was in the hospital on Thanksgiving Day. Lol
I had my almost 4 year old a week before Christmas and still hosted Christmas at my house. Everyone thought I was crazy. It worked out great everyone cleaned their hand before holding my baby. Honestly ya what make you feel comfortable.
If you go take bottles of hand sanitizer and limit contact, your family should understand and remind them that it’s that scary time of year for new borns but don’t deny your self or your family time with you for the holidays
It’s best to exposed them to many germs from day one not good to keep them away my kids have never been sick went to wall mart two day after getting out of hospital
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Stay home there is always next year
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Lol ur not going to expose him to anything lol , it’s fine ! Ask everyone before hand if there sick or been sick , if they haven’t ur good ! Don’t take ur holiday plans away bc u had a newborn , my daughter was fine and my family came ti hospital and my baby went out after I got home from hospital an she’s fine and was fine at the time ! Some ppl just go over board after haveing a baby like staying cooped up at home and not going out and all that, if it wasn’t safe doctors would tell u not to , I’d go see ur family with the baby and enjoy the time spent or ask them to come to you and spend the holiday !
And u may not have baby on ur due date unless it’s planned C-section or something , my daughter came 6days late lol , u never know , just don’t over think it , and don’t worrie and don’t do what everyone else thinks due what u won’t and think , my opinion is go for it spend time with ur family and friends, or have them come ti you , but most of all enjoy ur holiday,
Stay home , and have a holiday at home until it is older ,there will be many more holidays
Totally depends on how you feel post delivery and what your goals are during that time. Your pain level, if you plan on nursing, your recovery…
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Take sanitizer and everyone that hold her must use it. If those with colds ask just politely say no.
I am a mom to two girls. And I own my own daycare. My oldest is almost 8. Her bday is on November 18. (Very close to thanksgiving.) I had to have a c-section with her and I still made sure to be at thanksgiving with her a few days after she was born an hour away from home. That was 8 years ago. Now knowing what I know about newborns and how easy it is for them to get sick I would never do that again!!! My youngest is almost 4. And I didn’t have anyone at the hospital besides my husband. And I didn’t take her out of the house until she was 2 months. (After her vaccinations) I totally get not wanting to miss out or upset people but I wouldn’t take the baby. One year you miss out.
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You should go and bring the baby but tell everyone that they can look at the baby but they can not hold him there your family to and you don’t want to upset them by not showing up just because you had a baby I had my youngest by c-section on thanks giving day and I still did Thanksgiving so toughen up your skin and see your family be glad you have family to love the baby
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My son was born September 26th so he was slightly older by thanksgiving last year…however I wouldn’t have brought him to any gatherings even at that age if it was my decision, I was pushed into it by my fiancé’s family & my future MIL 
worst decision I could’ve made because he ended up getting RSV that transformed into bronchiolitis and we were in the children’s hospital for over a week. You do what you feel is right mama, this time of year I feel like it’s better safe than sorry 
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I would go. Wear him if it makes you feel better and don’t be afraid to be firm with people not to touch or kiss.
I had my youngest on Nov 13th at 36 weeks and we went
I have one month old. We are still going but no one is holding her. Her big sister hasn’t held her since we’ve been home a little over a week ago. Our baby has heart disease and is still recovering from heart surgery. I don’t care if I’m being a bitch to people. My kids health is more
important.
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If no one is sick at dinner then baby will be fine. Just ask everyone to wash their hands before touching baby.
Mask and no kids allowed is a little over board lmfao , just make shore no one is sick ir been sick and wash hands no kissing , ur child is not going to get sick from family holding him lol , trust me my family held my daughter even my sister’s kids and she never git sick she was fine , just ask ppl to no kiss her face or get in her face also wash hands ,
Hopefully your family members should have common sense to NOT go to a family gathering if they are sick enough to pass it on. I would go for a short while.
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Tbh, I wouldn’t 
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You are not overreacting, you are thinking logically based and real possibilities.
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What happened to the days of being so excited to share and show your kids off?? So many things are ruled by fear it’s out of control. My kids were passed all over our church weekly. Our family functions etc. Why wear the baby and not let people share the love?
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Nope not if there are other kids around!
I’ve always brought my newborns to gatherings within the first month and they’ve been fine. I personally believe that baby’s have a pretty good immune system. It’s the same thing as when you take your baby out to the doctor or to the grocery store. There’s always a chance that something could happen but as long as family members take the proper care before handling her she should be fine.
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I would go and just make people wash there hands before they hold baby. That’s what I always did when mine were small.
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If you’ve had your tdap while pregnant I say go, if not I would wait
I wouldn’t…but that’s just me. I have 3 boys … 2 of which born in February…I kept them inside for at least 6 weeks after I had them… But to each their own. 
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Depends on if everyone has had their flu shots. And regardless you don’t need to let everyone kiss and hold the baby, RSV is deadly for newborns. Just be precautions and of they have not had flu shots then I would say it’s a no go.
My doctor told me not to keep him indoors, that being said, I would make sure no one had a cold or sick before I would go.
If were me, o wouldn’t go. Just tell your family why, they will understand.
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Stay home, and try maybe for Christmas or new year?
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My son was born 2 days before Thanksgiving. We did not take him. We did take him to Christmas tho.
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I am personally against taking a 2 week old baby out like that because of the weather and other people holding the baby
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Make him/her a onsesie like this and make people wash/sanitize before holding them. My girl was brought home on Thanksgiving Day after 6 day stay in the hospital for jaundice and it was flu/rev season and I just asked everybody to be sure to wash their hands. Everybody seemed to understand!
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Everyone washes their hands and no one should be kissing on babies, it’s gross.
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I had my son two weeks before Thanksgiving two years ago, and we went! I wore him most of the time, but when I did let others hold him, they were told to wash hands and not kiss him. It was fine, and it gave me a nice break postpartum. I was nursing, so the extra food was a huge bonus!!
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I’d probably wait til out til Christmas or New Years.
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Just let everyone know what you expect if you show up.
My daughter was born dec 23 and son dec 18 and I took both of them both out for Christmas.
It’s a personal choice, but I would take him. The more they do get exposed to things, they build an immunity.
I had ALOT of visitors when I had my son, including 15 people waiting in the waiting room for him to be born. I carried hand sanitizer and anything someone would come to the house they knew the routine, walk in and wash your hands first thing. Everyone respected that and it was great. Also had my son during flu and rsv season.
Make rules:
-No kissing
-Hands washed w/ minimum touching
-Wear baby so he/she isnt passed around as much( I noticed if I’m wearing my daughter less people asked to hold her)
My daughter was born novemeber 20th so she was just a few days old on Thanksgiving. We still went to see family but we set rules since its cold and flu season. Didnt really let anyone hild her except her grandma and grandpa. They washed their hands first and no kisses near the mouth. The head was fine. No kids around the baby. And some other rules. She didnt get sick after that and was perfectly fine
I wouldn’t take the baby any where until after his shots. But really ask your pediatrician. They will give you the best advice. Mine told me to keep my baby away from a lot of people bc any fever in a newborn is a trip to the hospital. There is always Christmas. And since it’s only an how away a few people from Thanksgiving could bring y’all a plate and visit the baby. I know it’s hard bc everyone loves a new baby. But he will still be new at Christmas but a little stronger.
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My daughter was born 10 days before Thanksgiving last year. We didn’t take her out, but we for Christmas gatherings.
I took my son out to a diner for Christmas with family. The whole time he was in his carrier and only came out to nurse. NOBODY was allowed to touch him except for me and his father. I understand how you feel. Newborns sleep a lot though so I would still go just keep the baby away and if anything keep him covered up to be safe
He was 3 weeks old at this time
I would keep him home.
Im sorry but i get chances are higher right now and its a new baby but call me old school because kids get sick… Also whether you go for a few or the entire gathering either way if somethings present baby is exposed 🤷
My first born was due 11-20 and we had her 11-09. We still did our extended thanksgiving, we just requested excessive hand washing, no kissing, no adult fingers in her mouth, no heavy perfumes/ colognes and if you were sick to let us know about it… even if it’s “allergies”. She didn’t get sick and all went well.
What if it’s just a small gathering between you, dad, baby & Grandparents? They will likely visit around that time anyway. Hurt feelings are easier to deal with than a sick baby. Just like anything with parenting, you have to do what’s right for you, and only you know what that is.
My son was born a week before Christmas we still went to the family gatherings we just asked people to wash hands and not to kiss our son we where very strictly about no kissing but i think it does matter what time in the year it is but if you would be comfortable then it maybe best you don’t go wait until christmas garthering
Look but don’t touch u sick stay away Pieord.
Id have a little dinner at your place for just You ,Daddy and Baby. Your not gonna be feeling like sitting for an hour drive and its cold and flu season. Get your food ahead of time as babies dont come as scheduled.No pressure ,take it easy. Happy First Thanksgiving !
No. I wouldn’t. Christmas sounds great tho!
Well… I would go, just firmly lay down the ground rules. Bring hand sanitizer. And if you’re going to try breastfeeding you’ll be doing a huge service to his immune system on account youd be making antibodies within half an hour of exposures! Most parents understand the precautions necessary with a new baby. But again just set the rules and stick to your guns
Yes still go, just allow grand parents to hold. If want others keep santizer nearby and make sure they use. You can always be up front and tell them, anyone with a cough will not be allowed to hold so don’t ask.
Have you had your flu shot? If not get it. If you have baby will be protected from flu!!!
I never kept my kids away from people, my first born her first outing was at 6 days old we had to go to Walmart.
If you are super concerned about germs maybe put baby in a wrap carrier and don’t let people hold
I just brought hand sanitizer and made sure people knew not to kiss my baby
I would skip thanksgiving and tell the other immediate family to go.
No. You can be sick and shedding a virus before you’re symptomatic. So someone could think they are well and come around the baby and get him or her sick. Stay away from large gatherings.
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Wear him so no one touches him without going through you.
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Just make people wash and sanitize their hands before they touch her, and do not let anyone who may be sick around her, and of course NO KISSING her except for you and dad.
I’m not taking my 3 month old. My family is 6 hours away & none of them have met him. If you aren’t comfortable with taking your baby then don’t.
No it’s a newborn I need to be at home not people breathing on here other people little sick stay home and enjoy your baby your bundle of joy
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I had my daughter on October 6th that woukd have made her 8 days old on Thanksgiving and i kept her home from my mothers dinner and my mother inlaws dinner and it was a good thing that i did cuz my hubby took my older kids and my 7 year old woke up with a head cold so for a week i had to keep them separated disinfecting everything all day had to buy an air purifier and finally its gone but how scared was i just stay home with the baby its one thanksgivings out of ur life thats the way i looked it my hubby brought me left overs my mother inlaw was pissed off but its better to ve safe than sorry
2 weeks is when I started taking my babies out to be around people, but not before then. Also I did not go to long family functions, it was about a half hour trip at the most (grocery store type thing), if you feel comfortable do it, but if you will be worried the entire time just stay home. Basically do what you feel most comfortable doing.
I’d go just would let everyone know to love him from a distance.
No! I wouldn’t. Our baby contracted both strains of the flu with in a month of being out of the hospital 
Im extremely paranoid now. The less you’re around people the less chance baby has to being exposed
I had one of my daughters the day before thanksgiving. We got discharged thanksgiving evening and I went straight to my mom’s house. Everything was fine!
Of course I did. My kids didn’t live in any bubble after mine. Just ask people to wash there hands and not kiss babe. Only time I didn’t take my newborn was with anyone being sick. Ge the the flu shot while pregnant. That will help.
Take him it will help build his immune system just ask ppl to wash their hands before holding baby
Please be aware the flu shot does not guarantee protection from the flu. While it can offer some protection, you can still get the flu after having a flu shot. I think some people have a false sense of security after receiving the shot. They think they are 100% protected from getting the flu which is not always true. Even if you require everyone who comes in contact with your baby to have a flu shot they still could get it and spread it on to your baby.
Nope, you need to be resting. stay home!
Your baby your choice . I will said with my oldest he was around family functions from a week old that child has never been sick knock on wood my youngest w all the new strains of virus and flu I kept her in a bubble and she’s sick all the time now 
I took my youngest out and to gatherings. He was 2 wks old.
My son was born nov 10th and we had a 20 month old who already had a cold when we came home. Everyone including the newborn had a cold, we lived through it and also went to Thanksgiving with the family, my kids are still alive and nobody was hospitalized. If you want to go then go… 
I had both my babies 2 weeks before Christmas, we attended all our families festivities but I did make it clear to everyone absolutely no kissing them and I did not let all the kids present touch them lol. Everyone was super understanding and respectful of our wishes. A lot of our family works in the medical field too though which could be why everyone was so understanding. I think y’all should go and just make your wishes clear to everyone attending.
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If you’re worried about going maybe send your hubby and have him make you a plate! He can just explain your concerns and you should be resting! Do what you think is best momma!
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You’re not overreacting. Stay home. For the sake of both your sanity and your baby’s health.
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I take my kids out but I’m not a nervous wreck. I let other kids touch and love them bc I believe that is good for them. I expect people to tell me if their child is sick.
That said
If you are going to be nervous and anxious, if you are going to tell people ESPECIALLY small children not to touch your baby then just stay home. Make your favorites and enjoy your husband and child
It drives me nuts when people “protect their babies” from my children as if they are germ infested animals. It is hurtful to the child. They don’t understand why they can’t get close to the baby.
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Nope not over reacting at all. You’ll be too tired anyway. If you want have have people over for a Spring party at the end of March. The baby should be sleeping all night by that point flu/escape season should be over and your baby will have their shots. Plus your adorable bundle of joy will be able to interact and play more
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I was told by my dr not to be around those who are sick for at least the first 3 months. Kids don’t know any better so it’s up to adults to tell them not to kiss a baby without permission and sometimes it just has to be the parent of the baby to say something. I learned that one. So I would probably stay home. Or ask them not to kiss your baby and if they want to touch them have them wash their hands. Especially with flu season. Even at Christmas when I visit (my son will just be 3 months) with it being flu season I’m going to ask that the kids do not kiss or hold my baby as I don’t want him getting sick and only have one set of shots in him. My son has only been around my parents hubby’s parents a child and 2 sis. One sis has 2 kids but she made sure her kids didn’t touch or kiss his head and if they wanted to touch they needed to wash their hands first, which was much appreciated that she spoke up and made sure her kids were clean when around a baby.
You might not want to take him till his gets his first vaccines. If you feel uncomfortable I would just stay home.
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