So my neigbors husband is deployed…she is a working mom with kids ages 14, 13, 11…when she goes to work her kids are allowed to be outside without her home and I feel like this is not okay…i want to say something to her but do not know how to approach her…her kids do have cell phones and stay across from their house at the park but i feel some type of way about it and need to know if i am overeacting or not…
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Are they doing something to you or disrespectful outside? If not then, I’d mind my business. I really don’t see where there is a problem, besides you being nosey and annoyed for some reason. If you want to be a nice neighbor/mom & help watch them, then do so. Don’t complain. She already, I’m sure has enough on her plate & enough to worry about. Then here comes you…
Girl mind your business and stop minding theirs. They are teenagers not infants. Get a hobby that doesn’t include you being a nosy neighbor smh.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should kids go outside when their parents are not home?
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Sounds like she could use a helping hand, instead of a nosy Karen neighbour 
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Not your kids leave it alone
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Age is a big thing here 14 13&11
As long as they are not causing trouble it would be okay,
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Nope. Mind your business.
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They are not far from home and there is 3 of them let them play, and be kids(teenagers)
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You’re definitely over reacting.
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It may bother you but you don’t know her kids.
Leave those teens alone. are they causing trouble? If not stay out of it.
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Damn judging Judy. Offer to keep an eye out instead of on here bashing.
If it bothers you this much, maybe offer to help her out? Deployments are already hard. Don’t add unnecessary stress on top of what she’s already dealing with.
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Girl at 14 I was all over town alone or with friends! I also babysat babies! These kids are fine, leave them alone
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What seems to be the problem? That the kids are outside playing, getting exercise and fresh air
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Not your kids, not your business.
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Not your place unless you’re going to offer to help her watch them. Should they have to stay inside all day Bc you feel some type of way
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It’s none of your business. Unless the kids are endangering themselves or others, do not say a word.
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Just stay in your own lane Karen
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They are plenty old enough
Not your business, they’re quite old enough. If they were 5…that would be different
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She may trust her 14 year old to keep a watch. I dunno, if it was me I would be keeping an eye on them with them knowing. Or suggest that if the children ever need anything then they can come to you.
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14, 13 and 11??? Sounds like you’re the problem. Let those kids be kids.
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Maybe you should offer to watch her kids while she is at work for free if it really bothers you
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You’re overreacting - if they were really little kids, I would see the issue but seeing as there are 2 teenagers and they have phones and they are staying close to home, give the mom a break. They may be very mature and able to be trusted, I know my 14 and 13 year old are.
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You can’t helicopter parent other people’s children
You should probably either leave her alone, or ask if she needs any help with her kids. Since you’re so concerned.
Clearly they have boundaries and have a phone to call for help.
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Mind your own children n business
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Not your kids. Be a good a neighbor and keep an eye out for them. You want a safe community? You make it safe.
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They sound like good kids.
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What?! 
I could see being against it if they were all single digits, but they’re two teenagers and a tween. I’d be thrilled they were outside.
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Mind your own business.
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Not your circus. Not your monkeys. If you feel so inclined maybe keep an eye out for them during the day. Other than that you should not approach her……
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You can feel however you want it’s still not your business
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Man, focus on your own life and children. I understand worrying. But unless they are causing chaos. I’d leave them be. That’s a decent age to be responsible. Not all kids will be. But some may be able to.
Honestly i feel your valid to be concerned but over stepping your boundaries… she seems like a busy mom and honestly growing up i played outside alone since i was 7/8
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You should make the decisions for YOUR children and let her make the decision for HERS.
I was working everyday by the time I was 12. They’re her kids not yours… take your nose out of their business Karen 
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How about you mind ya business
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Maybe you could just check on them some times…
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Grow up and mind your own dam business if you can’t be supportive and helpful. Man…some ppls kids 
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Majorly overreacting lol let kids he kids. They could be sitting inside on electronics but they’re not. Be happy about it. If you’re that concerned let the mom know if anything happens or if they need anything they can come to you. 
Definitely over reacting. Mind your business. Not only that 2 of the kids are teenagers. Worry about your own kids. Unless you notice signs of abuse stfu.
Mind your own business and tend to your own children simple 
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If it bothers you why don’t you ask if she needs help
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Like during the day time? Theyre plenty old enough for that…
If youre talking bout them roaming the streets at midnight it be a diff story
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They are most definitely old enough to be outside alone while she is gone. I have a 14 yo and am most definitely comfortable with him being alone. It would be different if the were younger. Don’t be that mom that doesn’t allow your kid to be a kid.
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My son is 12 and is not allowed to be outside (except in the backyard) when we aren’t home. He is very responsible but I feel better knowing he is inside and not at immediate risk of getting hit by a car or something. That being said, I know people who do allow their kids to play outside when they’re not home. That’s okay too. It’s not my business or concern.
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It’s none of your business. Maybe if they were all under 10 it might be different. Otherwise myob.
The 14 year old is definitely old enough to watch the siblings…
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You’re absolutely overreacting. You should be ashamed and honestly just pack your shit up and move somewhere ALONE. Be a neighbor and help your neighbor out like a real neighbor should and stop trying to get people in trouble for working and providing for her family! 
I bet you claim to be a real Christian loving lady too huh? 
They’re all old enough to be outside. They have their phones. Maybe don’t make a hard working mama feel down about herself over something that has absolutely nothing to do with you.
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Mind your business… at least they’re playing outside.
Maybe you can see if the mom needs help & assist her in that way if you’re concerned.
I was outside alone at 10 with my younger siblings.
Mind your own business
And this is why I want to live in the middle of no where with absolutely no neighbors lol smh
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Just keep an eye on them would be the most helpful!
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Are y’all on a military base? Please tell me you aren’t one of those dependas? Lol.
Let those kids be kids and leave that hard working momma alone. They aren’t toddlers lol.
Yup, you’re over reacting. In what V.C. Andrews world would they be better off being locked away and hidden?
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Ok so I understand the Mom in you wanting to protect the children. Kudos to you… but put yourself in her shoes… or offer to watch them for her. She is a single mom right now and probably needs support not criticism!!
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If you have a problem, offer to watch the kids. The oldest is 14. That is old enough to babysit, and babysitters often take kids to parks and stuff. Poor mom. I’m sure she doesn’t want to be out working and away from her kids.
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No they shouldn’t because anything could happen
Definitely old enough.
They are teenagers… mind your business.
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Like a good neighbor, stay over there and mind your own business.
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Your Karen is showing
In my state, kids can stay home alone from age 8 and up. If there’s more than one kid, there has to be another kid aged 13 and up.
This seriously has to be a joke? Not your kids not your business🤦🏻♀️
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Wooowww. Mind your business. If it concerns you keep and eye on them. She’s a busy mom. Help a momma out instead of being so negative.
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Not your business. I’d be very pissed off AND insulted if I were her and you commented that to me
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Omg mind your business jeeeze
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Mind your own business
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Don’t be worried about her kids. Just worry about yours. If she lets them go out then that’s on her. Mind your own business.
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Why is it your business mind your own business
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Definitely don’t approach her. But be a good neighbor and watch the kids while they are outside. Seems like you’re doing that anyway, so just keep up the good work
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Oh please call me and give me your unsolicited parenting advice 
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I don’t think it’s your business honestly
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If they were under the age of 10 then maybe I would say something but they’re all old enough to make safe decisions. Plus you don’t know the rules their mom has in place for these kinda things. Maybe just let her know that you’re willing to keep an eye out for them while they’re out there. Otherwise just mind your own business. The kids aren’t being hurt or hurting anyone else so need to say anything.
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How about being a good neighbor and minding your own business? If it makes you feel better keep an eye out for strangers harassing them and calling the cops then and only then if needed.
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Mind. Your. Mf. Business.
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Those really aren’t “kids”
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Kids should not be outside when adults are not home.
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They’re definitely old enough to be outside. They have each other and phones for emergencies.
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Maybe keep an eye on them or offer to help a woman in need we all need help sometimes
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Being concerned is not wrong, but know when to really voice that concern if you see one of them doing something they shouldn’t be or in harms way! Otherwise I would keep comments to myself.
They are old enough and they have phones, just mind your business. Unless they are doing something dangerous then let them be 
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Mind your business dude they’re older kids they have phones what are they supposed to do just sit at home because their mom has to work? Unless they’re sling drugs or vandalizing stuff mind ya beeswax
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Yes it’s none of your business 
Maybe she could use your support instead of your judgement.
Maybe approach her and tell her that you’ve noticed that they’re alone. And you’d like to extend a helping hand if they need anything while she’s not home.
Raising children is hard enough without judgement. A 14 yr old can absolutely watch a 13&11 year old at the park.
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Mind your business. Her decisions does not affect you at all why get involved
IMO, it’s really not your place to say anything, of course a child’s safety is at hand so if you are home and see they are outside just keep an eye out for suspicious activity but otherwise I would leave it alone. Everyone parents different 
If you are worried, keep an eye on them while they are outside. I’m sure their mom appreciates it. Otherwise, I wouldn’t say anything. She’s doing what she has to do while her husband is deployed. That’s hard enough without the judgement. 
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Or you could mind your business! It’s not like a toddler is outside on its own!
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14, 13 is perfectly fine and they are with the 11 yr old. At 13 and 14 they could babysit strangers kids for money and wouldnt be trapped inside . 14 yr olds can have jobs around me . It’s not illegal in any state . Mind your business , unless you saw something potentially dangerous or illegal .
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Its really none of your business. And unless you see something suspicious like someone trying to hurt them or anything, I would stay out of it!
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If they’re outside playing and not out getting into trouble. What’s the issue? Glad to see kids still play outside! If you’re concerned be neighbourhood watch until mom gets mom. Watch out if someone suspicious is around. Otherwise. They’re old enough
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Why is this upsetting to you? The 13 & 14 year olds are literally both old enough to legally babysit other people’s children for money, and the 11 year old isn’t far off from that age. What makes you believe they require some form of adult supervision to be outside? Because they don’t. What is your actual problem with the situation?
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Mind your business Karen
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