No. To many bad things can happen
Whatever you do, don’t compromise your family’s recovery. I feel as though you should make two separate receptions, one with alcohol and one not. Perhaps do a party later with alcohol included another day.
You don’t have to have alcohol at a wedding. I have been to wedding that are non alcoholic and they were fun
I would say have an alcohol free wedding, and an after party later with alcohol.
I mean they should have self control and it isn’t all about your family is it…
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Serve it. And have alot of non alcoholic drinks available also. Set up a alcoholic free bar for one, and an alcoholic bar for the other. Don’t mix them together
I had the same dilemma. My father was going to have open bar before the reception while we were doing pictures but my husband told him no because his 11 brothers and sisters and their spouses were definitely heavy drinkers. We went ahead with having booze but not at my fathers expense. Everything went fine.
Recovering or not it’s not others job to cater to them . They should be able to be around all sorts of situations without falling for the temptation. I’d offer at least beer and wine .
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I’m the one that normally doesn’t drink. I went to a wedding once where they had a special wedding drink and they had a non alc version and an alc version available. It was nice for people like me who want to blend in and not feel so obvious that I’m not drinking.
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No alcohol. There is ZERO thing to compromise about when you have recovering alcoholics around.
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I would have alcohol as an option BUT I would make it that who ever wants to drink pays for it.
Hubby to be should be supportive of the situation
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You can not expect others to go without because of others life choices.
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Cash bar.Alcholics need to know’booze will be their.Then they have a choice to go or not.Not everyone drinks at weddings.Not an alcoholic but no problem 'I can say no to booze and still have fun '.
Your. Family. Is. Strong. They. Can tske. It. Id. Say. Let. Tere. Be. Drinks
I didn’t do alcohol at my wedding bc my husbands family gets loud and fights when they drink and i would have gone too jail. lol.
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If someone is in recovery they should know if attending a wedding would be a trigger for them. Most weddings serve alcohol so if they can’t be in that environment without wanting to drink than they haven’t gotten a grip on their sobriety yet. It’s not your job to make sure people stay on the straight and narrow.
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No drugs! If people can’t be happy without alcohol, they’ve got a problem.
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I’m sure it’s not the first time your family has been around alcohol. If they feel uncomfortable they can always excuse themselves and leave.
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Hav lots of sparkling grape juice for toasts and lovely non alcoholic punches everywhere.
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I would have them bring their own
No alcohol as unfortunately there will be twits that say “one won’t hurt” abs pressure the recovering alcoholics.
What time will the reception take place. If lunch time easier to enforce
Do cash bar. That way if they drink it’s 100% on them, not you
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I would do a cash bar, but also have drinks like sparkling cider, sodas, water, ect. for free. It’s not your job to keep them on the path of sobriety. If they pay for a drink it’s on them. When you send out wedding invitations (if you haven’t already) make sure it says cash bar on it, but also mention nonalcoholic drinks will also be provided for free. That way they can decide for themselves if they think they can handle it.
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I went to a no alcohol wedding years ago. Being a partier I was looking around waiting for the champagne. Here’s what happened. The drinkers went home early and the people who didn’t need it stayed and finished celebrating the moment. I would vote for a dry wedding, much more predictable too. p.s. offer lots of sugary foods.
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- N0 Open Bar.
- or… It’s away from the reception…
Like… the bar across the street
Which worked for us !! We had no alcohol at our reception. . Nobody really cared, except the few people who, as I said, went to the bar across the street!!
Limit the amount people can have
When I got married, the hotel bar offered mocktails alongside the normal drinks, as we had a few teens who we knew would try their luck. Inside the actual room we had bottles of alcohol removed wine as well just Incase again the teens tried their luck. Obviously those who wanted a drink could get one from the bar.
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Have multiple drink options available like wine and apple cider/ soda/water. Keep the alcohol with limited options but non alcohol unlimited. Keep only one section for the bar but keep non alcohol drink tubs/cooler with ice all over the reception area.
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Give out tickets for open bar like 3 or 4 so people don’t get hammered. I hate being at a wedding with a bunch of drunk people and just do beer and wine. Then have an after party at a bar.
Personally most weddings do have alcohol to celebrate the new marriage, maybe you should compromise and have alcohol at 7 in the evening so the people who dont drink have the choice to leave or to stay while people drink, I flnt belive you should take alcohol away from everyone that comes to your celebrations as tbh I would find it boring at a wedding with no alcohol and I would leave really early, just my opinion
Serve a alcohol and non-alcohol.
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there will always be recovery alcoholics at every event, They are adults, they know how to say no, I know it is a every day struggle. But they have to be aware there will be alcohol there & it is up to them if they are going to stay clean & or start drinking again. If the temptation is too much for them, maybe they shouldn’t come, Or they can be each others buddy to help them
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So, at one of my sisters wedding, there was a cash bar & a bunch of shit went down that night. My other sister had an open bar & everything was as smooth as can be!
NO open bar, some people are irresponsible! You have problems when a jerk is drunk,believe me, I’ve seen it! It’s your wedding and you do not have to accommodate everyone with alcohol. Better safe than sorry! No drunk drivers behind the wheel!
I dont drink but other people like a drink so i would say have drink
It’s a wedding, not a booze fest. Champagne toast and everyone on their own if there is a bar there. If not oh well…start your honeymoon earlier.
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then you better not marry him… he is an acholic in the making if not already…
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His friends family can sneak booze in. What’s so hard about that?
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cash bars are ok or just wine on the tables.
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It’s about you AND him. I feel kinda bad for this husband 
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My husband and I struggled with this as well. We wound up deciding to have a certain amount of pitchers of beer for each table. Once that ran out or somebody wanted something else, they had to buy their drink themselves at the bar.
I completely understand and respect the concerns for your family members/friends that struggle with sobreity. However you should keep in mind that you cannot shield them from every trigger/urge they might come across. If they are truly active in their sobriety, they will take whatever means necessary to maintain it.
I wish you the best of luck and hope your special day is everything you dreamed of and more! <3
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Do booze!! If some people choose not to drink, that’s their option. Say no and drink non alcoholic beverages.
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Do your family members request restaurants they visit stop serving alcohol while they’re there?
I’m guessing not
Your wedding is about you AND your husband not about your family’s issues
This may sound dumb but if self control is really a problem for your side maybe give wristbands to those allowed to drink so they aren’t served
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I would serve alcohol later
I had a morning wedding and brunch to avoid this
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Set a3
Drink limit most places will give them a ticket or voucher
Their choice to drink or not
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Cash bar or no alcohol at all. Yall can go for drinks after the reception
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We had to have our host liquor license/insurance in order for our guests to bring their own alcohol. Along with us to bring alcohol since our cater didn’t have the papers to travel with alcohol from his restaurant and we also didn’t have a big wedding so we spent maybe $600 on alcohol. Maybe look into that, that way, the drinkers can bring whatever they want. The non-drinkers can have water, tea, lemonade, hot cocoa if it’s cold out. Just water fancies them.
I think you allow alcohol. Part of being a recovering alcoholic is learning to live with and deal with triggers. You will make more of a big deal about their recovery if you don’t allow alcohol. And if his family enjoys a drink they should be allowed to at their sons wedding. If some in the party were vegetarian you don’t necessarily make the whole meal vegetarian you offer a choice. And that is exactly what being a recovering addict is about- making good choices.
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What do your family members to when they go out to dinner or anywhere else alcohol is available? You can’t shield them from temptation. It’s his wedding, too, and if he wants alcohol, he should be able to have it. His wants are actually more important than your family; it’s his wedding, not theirs 
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Schedule a time at your reception for before and after drinking times
Just serve the booze and his family will have to resist the temptation, as I’m sure they do on many an occasion!
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You could offer “mock tails “ for those in recovery. Maybe only do an open bar for the first hour and then they have to pay their own way?
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Absolutely serve alcohol
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No booze. He can have booze at his bachelor party. If he knows your parents hx he will respect your not wanting booze at the wedding.
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Cash bar or have your reception in a place that has a bar very close nearby
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Just champagne and beer
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Of course you must have booze. You can’t change the norm just because there are alchohics.
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We put a limit on our bar. We had 250 guest so we had a $1000 limit and once it hit $1000 it was a cash bar. We still took care of water and soft drinks for the entire reception though.
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Byob is the way I’d go!
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I’m sober and I don’t mind others drinking. I refuse to backslide though. Maybe warn them ahead of time and do only beer and wine so it’s not something that could be disguised as a mocktail
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I am sober and if I were to be married there will be no alcohol at my wedding… anyone who doesn’t understand probably wouldn’t have been invited anyways. I say do what you feel comfortable with. Even though I don’t mind others drinking, when I’m around others getting trashed I find it hard to enjoy my time and I leave those events quicker than I normally would
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Don’t his friends / family should understand besides they can have a drunken bachelor party
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Nope if they’re recovering they should be able to control themselves and not want it. Its not their day its yours and his and you have to compromise in a marriage so here’s your first compromise. Yes have alcohol or he and his friends will always remember it as a dry lame wedding
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If a person is true to their recovery they will not touch it. It’s not something you can control. Trust me if they start “drinking” at your wedding it’s because they do it behind closed doors anyways.
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We only did beer and wine, and tea/water/sodas
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Not fair to penalize people who enjoy alcohol.
Just have a cash bar, and a complimentary champagne toast.
If there are people who suffer from weight problems, attending your wedding, would you eliminate all the fattening foods?
No cake or dessert or pastries…
Same difference…
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No booze. Weddings are supposed to be family and friend oriented.
Type of alchohol, wine & beer.
Thats a hard boundary then if you want to support your family’s sobriety… I’d definitely be explaining why this is non-negotiable and as a man joining your family too he should be respectful to their sobriety too. Its not about alcohol and getting drunk and partying. Its about celebrating your future. Alcohol is not required for fun 
I hope he can see the importance of being sensitive to your family’s history.
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he should respect your wishes
My husband and I had the same family situation. Mine are mostly in recovery but we had an open bar no one was uncomfortable. It depends on what YOU want if you personally don’t want it then don’t have it but if you do those who are uncomfortable on those situations have learned in recovery what to do. It’s not your responsibility to cater to them in that situation.
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You don’t need the booze. My son had a dry wedding because her side had recovering people there. Our side loved to party and I mean stupidly. It went fine with out
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Sydney Blackman whats your opinion?
Just have it not fair to the peeps who enjoy and give gifts
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What about non alcoholic wine and bubbly , soft drinks for your family
As for his family if they want to have alcohol
Give them the option of buying their own alcoholic drinks at the reception
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Have a set limit such as two drinks per person and give them tickets to use when grabbing their drinks so when they are out of tickets they are done with drinks
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Show him how much an open bar cost… he’ll take a flask.
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Buy some non Alcohol drinks
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Maybe have just beer and wine
And have two signature drinks- alcohol and non-alcoholic
(Ex. Margarita/virgin margarita)
I’m sure your venue is creative enough to make something fancy shmansky
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Make it a blunt party
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I’d have alcohol and non alcoholic beverages.
I would provide both but have a bartender to manage the beverages. The guests in recovery need to make choices that continue their road to recovery.
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byob, if you choose to bring your own, Do Not Supply it,
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WOW!!! A dry lame wedding…Its pretty bad that alcohol would be the main concern…It should be about the couple,and their new life together…If all they care about is having alcohol then they shouldn’t even go…You can have lots of fun without it
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My sister did beer and wine only and if anyone displayed that they had enough they weren’t to be served any more
I agree with the Bride to be.
Have alcohol and mocktails. Or have a little bar trailer away from the main activities. Or let the drinkers have coolers in the parking lot.
Or have a no alcohol before 7pm (or whatever time). My husband and I are both recovering alcoholics. We didn’t want any booze, but my family wanted some. So those that wanted, supplied and they had to wait until we left to start drinking. I thought about setting a time as an alternative
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It’s his wedding also so I feel like he shouldn’t have to compromise what he wants just because it will make people uncomfortable. Just warn them there will be alcohol there. Maybe coordinate with the bartender to have a list of people he can’t serve. My sister and her now husband don’t drink so they had a dry wedding and we still had tons of fun so you definitely don’t need alcohol for fun.
Alcoholics in Recovery are responsible for their own Recovery. I would NEVER expect a wedding to be “dry” just because of people who don’t drink anymore and if they are working on their recovery then they know not to pick up a drink. A signature “mocktail” would be nice but people who enjoy a few drinks at a wedding shouldn’t be basically punished for those of us who don’t drink. Offer beer and wine and plenty of soft drinks, tea, sparkling water, and such. Personally I would feel uncomfortable being known as the reason there are no alcoholic drinks at wedding.
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I personally would not have it . Your fiancé cannot fathom what it is like to have family who are recovering addicts unless he has walked in your shoes . I don’t think alcohol is needed to have a good time. I am 55 with three grown kids - one married . I have told all of them
I will never pay a dime for alcohol to be at their weddings / rehearsal dinners . Weddings are a time of reverence and should be about the commitment you are making to one another with the Lord . That is what the wedding should be about .
Do an alcohol free wedding and the first half of the reception also. After all the important stuff kids can go, and if they choose to stay it’s up to them. Just give a heads up so there’s no surprises
Have a toonie bar or BYOB then those who don’t want to don’t have to and those who want to can pay for it or bring their own
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