Is it better for two people to be in a relationship just for the child fighting all the time or rather not be together dating another person?
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Never. Especially if there are fights in front of the children
Definitely not! If arguing and fighting in front do the children. Will effect them growing up.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should you stay in a relationship for the child?
Y’all staying together for your child is gonna mentally mess up your child. It’s best to go on your separate ways.
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No because you’ll destroy your lives and their childhood…
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Not good to stay for child when constantly fighting .
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It’s never healthy for a child to live in a home with toxic parents. Either they learn to fight or be the victim. Some times 1 happy parent is better then 2 miserable people. You can’t be the best parent you can be when you’re constantly fight with your SO.
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Absolutely not. That’s so much more damaging to the children longterm.
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Absolutely not. All you’ll do is make yourself AND your kids miserable. Better to be separate and happy than together and miserable for the sake of some twisted idea of family.
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No your child will pickup on the anger and resentment they will also mimic your relationship later in life.
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Nope. Never. You’re gonna be miserable. You’re going to end up resenting your kids for “making” you stay. Your kids will be miserable. They will resent you for staying. They aren’t going to learn how to be good partners themselves or how to compromise and work through disagreements. Just leave.
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Never stay together for the kids.
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It will damage the child more than help them.
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Nope. What is that teaching the child?
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If you have to ask, you already know the answer
No, its.worse.omnthe kids
Two separate, healthy and happy homes is always better than one toxic home. Your children will
Thank you in the end for choosing the two separate happy homes. It won’t be perfect and at first it won’t be easy, but for your children it’s the best.
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I would leave cause your child will grow up thinking it’s okay and your child will be someone who’s like that and it’s not a good situation. Its not in the child’s best interest to stay in a toxic relationship
I felt so much better when my parents divorced… My father was toxic and I hated seeing my mom suffer.
Leave. If you are miserable, your child/ren aren’t going to be happy either.
Absofknloutely not. It took me several years to realize this and I promise u it did more harm to my kids than good. Now they see two happy healthy parents instead of living in a toxic household
No. I tried, it was horrible and my son was suffering in the end. It has worked out for us and him in so many ways I never knew by us splitting and just coparenting.
It could work. Have separate bedrooms. Have open relationships with others. Me n my kids dad went through a lot of bs being in a relationship together because he always had an eye for someone else. We separated. I moved out. Years later I stayed at his house while I was pregnant with another man, not to get back together or anything but to visit and save money vs renting a hotel for a few weeks. My son loved us both being there. He had his affairs and I had mine. While I was there he became aware of an unfortunate situation with the father of my unborn child and offered me a place to stay at his house, rather than staying in a shelter in the area. So it can work!!!
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It isn’t. Your relationship sets the example for your child’s future relationships. Don’t allow yourself to be treated in a way you wouldn’t want your child to be treated in the future. Likewise, don’t treat a spouse in a way you wouldn’t want your child to be treated either.
Never stay because of a child!!! That child will feel the unhappiness…if momma ain’t happy,ain’t noone happy!!..
Every situation is different. I did and my children that are now adults thanked me for waiting to leave until they were older. They know the sacrifices I made but I honestly should have left years ago.
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Leave but also keep showing each other respect no matter how bad it is because your children learn off of you
Not best for the child.
No. Definitely not. Your child will notice. Me and my ex husband fought constantly and our son ended up saying that we were breaking his heart at only 4 years old.
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Dont even think about dating until you figure out why your relationships fail. Work on you and coparenting your child.
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It’s never okay to stay just for children. Unhappy adults will rub their whole mess onto that kid. Don’t damage your child, he didn’t ask to be brought into your chaos.
Nope. I was raised in a household where my parents were unhappy but stayed together for the kids, it sucks when you realize that you (and siblings) are untlimatly the reason your parents are unhappy. ( If it wasn’t for you they would be divorced)
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No not good if problems can’t be fixed
Some children have emotional problems and have to have therapy and nerve medications because a parent stayed in a toxic relationship. Don’t do it!!!
… it is NEVER good to stay together just for the child. You are doing far more damage to the child by staying together with their parent just for them.
No, never stay just for the child. Sometimes a separate household is better then one unhappy household.
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I don’t think it’s good to stay in a relationship when there’s constant arguing. My parents did nothing but fight so I certainly wouldn’t do the same to my kids if I was in that situation
It is far better to come from a broken home rather than live in one
No, never. Unhealthy relationships do have an effect on the children. You wouldn’t want your children growing up thinking that relationships are supposed to be unhealthy. They notice more than we think they do.
No you should not stay in a relationship for the child
Nooooo my mom stayed and honestly it ended up blowing up and getting out of control. I have a lot of childhood trauma from it.
Forget dating 
focus on your child
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Not best for the child to stay in the relationship… and eventually date, I wouldn’t jump straight into it
No. It’s unhealthy for the child.
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no i went thought that
with my 1st wife big
mess divorce was a lot
better it is worse to stay
for the kids
Put yourself in the kid’s shoes, would you want to grow up listening to your parents yelling and fighting all the time? I think you know the answer already.
Honestly you know the answer to this or you wouldn’t have asked the question in the way you did
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Don’t stay better to go and be happy your kids will thank u for that
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Nope - time to split. Model self love and healthy relationships for the kids
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No, too much trauma that kids don’t need!
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Try marriage counseling first. If nothing improves after 6 months, split amicably if you can, focusing on your child/children’s needs first.
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It’s better to leave and not have your child around a toxic relationship. It’s not fair to the child to be around all the drama. I probably would’ve never left my toxic relationship if it wasn’t for my son. I left because I didn’t want him around it and I knew he deserved to see his mommy happy and I wanted him to see 2 people who love each other and that just wasn’t it. Your kid rather see their parents separated but happy then together and miserable 
No no no no no no no Annnnnnnnnnnd NO
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. My parents did this bullshit and i resent them for it. Instead of fighting all the time, hating each other teaching me what love ISNT, they could have been with other people and happy.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should you stay in a relationship for the child?
No never stay in an unhealthy relationship because that sets an example up the child(ren) on what to expect on how to treat others and be treated by others. Co-parenting and having step parents can be healthier for everyone all around.
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Children hear, see and understand way more than you think they do. Staying in a toxic relationship and them seeing that will affect their relationships for the rest of their lives.
Children learn healthy relationships from those around them.
If they have no healthy Relationship to emulate they will emulate bad ones.
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It would be better to break up and try to parent together while no longer being together. Also take some time before you start to date again, what Is the rush? I also think it’s best to date or get to know someone a while before introducing them to your children.
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Absolutely not. Toxic environments cause trauma to developing brains.
I learned that about 10 years too late. I have so many regrets. My kids deserved better.
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So unhealthy for a child or children to live in this environment. Do not stay! Your happiness is so important. Love yourself enough to leaveđź’•
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Leave that relationship. Kids don’t mean you should stay anywhere. And if you do date don’t bring just anyone around your kids cause that can also be traumatic!
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No …it will do more harm than good for your child.
I think it’s better for the child to see both parents in functional relationships. If they’re in a relationship at all. It teaches children that toxic relationships are never ok.
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Absolutely not! You are doing more harm to the child by bringing them up in that environment. Children learn what type of relationships are healthy and acceptable based on what they see from us. I’ve seen way too many children damaged by this.
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No. It can be worse on the children.
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No. Do not stay you’ll do more damage to the child
I stayed and wished I hadn’t.
Never stay for the sake of the children
No. More harm than good .
No, its so unhealthy. In order to take care of our children we have to take care of ourselves.
It would be best for the child if the parents would get along, and in the case they can not someone needs to leave for the sake of the child…kids do not need chaos and fighting they need stability
No. Break up. Staying ruins your life and makes the child miserable.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Should you stay in a relationship for the child?
Absolutely no! It’s better for mummy and daddy to be apart rather than feel and listen to the animosity.
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As a child whose parents stayed together, I say please don’t.
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This cannot be a serious question surely 
Pretty sure y’all can work it out…
Trust… Respect and communication… 
As a child who parents were arguing then separated… don’t stay together it effects the children
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A child would prefer to come from an unhealthy home than to live in one
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Be a single mother then no stress noone controlling u
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Absolutely not okay. Children need to see healthy LOVING relationships. Not forced toxicity. Children are way smarter than others give them credit for. Dont put them through this
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Why would you think it would be “ok” for a child to grow in a toxic enviroment? I think you need seek therapy for yourself and your child and get out of that relationship.
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Far healthier for the parents, children and anyone in between if the parents split before it gets worse. Staying together with someone because of the children can become a toxic environment. It’s heart breaking in the moment but I think most children will easily adapt to that with time and are better off for it in the long run
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What’s the child gonna benefit from it?
Trust… Respect and communication…
Put these in place n y’all will be fine.
No way in hell if it aint perfect leave no time to waste on that crap
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No not ok, but why does the option have to be in another relationship.
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Time to leave 
I left my daughter’s dad when I was 20, it was scary but I had a full time job so felt secure and honestly it was the best decision ever. Good luck x
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No !!! its not good for tha children’s!!! I did for year’s,we were all unhappy. 
talk to GOD and listen .Love does not hurt
You dont want your kid growing up thinking that’s a normal acceptable relationship. It shouldn’t be 24/7 arguing. It took me 2years to realize that. I didn’t want my son seeing that all of the time…it wasn’t fair to him at all. 
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If you’re unhappy and you stay together, it’ll eventually make the children unhappy.
You are still in the same household and thinking about dating someone else that most be the problem fighting in front of children isn’t good neither is leaving a relationship and running into another give yourself time with your child don’t rush anything if it happens it happens just remember you left a toxic relationship don’t get yourself into a new toxic relationship do better be better
You want your kids to witness you in a good relationship, even kissing and flirting. They WILL mimic what they see, and choose partners based on watching you.
I did this for 19 years I stayed for the sack of my kids. My happiness means something to I was tired if being unhappy. I didnt want to go hone after work. I dreaded days off. When he started working out of town he was only home on the weekends. I realized that I missed being single. It wasn’t about being with any one new it never was. I needed to focus on finding me again. The happy me. Here we are 1 month later and honey I know I made the right decision.
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No. Your child needs to see you both happy…
No. That’s not healthy for your child.
It’s not good at all. Don’t ever do that. Kids need to know what a positive relationship is and that you need to be happy too.