He calls me a physco when I vent and it all gets to much which confuses how I feel and think, like I’m being dramatic and I don’t deserve a break.
I'm currently a stay at home mum with an almost three year old little girl, my partner and I moved to a town hours from family for his career, but now having bub with no family support, Im finding it extremely isolating and overwhelming. The issue is my partner works ALOT any chance he gets he'll take work, he works hard and I get that but when his home which is rare his always doing his own thing and never helps, I'm meaning rarely! (Very hot and cold) I do all of the shopping, washing, cleaning, cooking, Parenting, bathing, clothing, nappy changes,reading, activities and all outdoor adventures as well as the 2 hour drive for shopping/swimming every fortnight. You name it I do it all, it doesn't bother me as such you do get used to things and I adore my daughter and am grateful for every day with her but there's no appreciation, taking the time to make me feel like his partner and loved or spending one on one time with our daughter as I've suggested multiple times as simple as reading her a bed time book or the park but it doesn't happen. If I ask for help it's always met with attitude or I shouldn't have asked in the first place, when I express or vent that I need a break or any sort of help it's always turned around that it's not that hard being a stay at home mum, he would swap places or its dismissed he either walks off or says that I'm done now. For a long time now I've always put more effort into the relationship and always chased him to fix any fights to make it easier so it doesn't escalate into blind rage or him braking things outside ( never directored at me ). We've almost been married for five years but I'm not sure if this is what I can keep doing, he has said to me the best he can do is parent financially and I have to get use to it. What do you think?
First of all, you definitely deserve a break. Everyone thinks being a stay at home mom is so easy, but it’s very draining after a while. It can make you question your sanity. If it’s so easy like he says it is then why won’t he help you a little bit? I would sit down and tell him you want some time alone and with him. Maybe get a babysitter and go out to dinner so you can feel normal & like your someone’s wife. Also hire a babysitter so you can run errands by yourself or so you can go do something for yourself, by yourself. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t think it’s necessary or doesn’t understand… you’re telling him what you need and he needs to listen