I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how they as a parent (who never did any type of drugs or even smoked cigarettes) has learned to deal with finding out their 16 year old smokes pot. I didn’t freak out. We had a nice calm talk about it. I want her to know she can come to me if she needs anything. That I’m worried about it and I just want her to be smart and safe. But I find myself really struggling with how to handle my own personal feelings and emotions.