I have been dating this guy that I met on tinder about 8 months ago. Things have been going really well. I like him, he likes me, I was surprised to find someone so decent. In the way beginning his profile said he worked in the oil fields, which I thought was super coolā¦he has kept up with this story for the past 8 months of us dating. Even so much as going away for weeks at a time āfor workā. Today, I found out he actually worked at MCDONALDS and now I donāt know how to feel. I feel like I like him less due to his jobā¦or maybe its because I found out he lied to meā¦idkā¦how do I even approach him about this? I donāt get why he would lie about it and keep up this whole lie.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The guy I met on tinder has been lying about his job - Mamas Uncut
Red flag 
what else did he lie about
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Oh no. Sorry to hear that, I say run if he is lying and disappearing he is hiding more then a job
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He probably has a girlfriend or bm that he lives with or goes to see when he is on those trips
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he lied. THE END. If he worked at mcDās he should have stated that from the start. Heās a poser
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Go into McDonaldās place a order when heās working . Then talk to him when his shift ends. Then get yourself a new man
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He probably lied for the exact reasonā¦ you literally said you like him less because he works at McDonaldās 
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U donāt get why he would lie? Are u not making the connection?
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Heās probably married or a gf, you canāt trust a liar
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He lied because you are Judging him for working at McDonaldās
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Yeah. Thatās a deal breaker. Where is he going when he is away for āworkā? If he had just said that he worked at McDonaldās, that wouldnāt be a deal breaker for me ā¦ keeping up a lie that long RED FLAG
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Omg! Dawn Corley-Little 
He lied. Thatās the only issue I see here.
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If he told you he flipped burgers not a biggie, but lyingā¦ well thats a whole different story.
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Find out which one he works at and when heās working go get some foodā¦
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Heās obviously embarrassed about his job because of your exact reaction. Though, he still definitely lied. Leave him be, and move on.
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Run not because he works at McDonaldās but because he can actually lie, that long too.
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Hes now a proven lier i wouldnt trust a word he says run
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Still a stranger to you pretending to have this super great life whatās he doing on those so called trips? Hanging with other gfs?
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maybe itās a side job??
Sounds like he lied because you may be high maintenance and look down on people who work in certain areas and he could tell. He may have been working in the oil fields in the beginning and something may happened and he needed a different job so he got one at McDonaldās. Maybe actually sit down and talk to him about why he lied and once you get to the reason on why then go from there.
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It was a good 8 months but byeeee. Regardless if youād like him no katter which job he had but at this point heās been lying for 8 months. Thatās enough to walk away. Thatās a long time to keep up with a lie! Nope. No way.
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He lied. Which means you say goodbye itās the first of many.
Brandi M. Holcombe 
You got to be kidding. What did you expect. Itās the Internet.
Run my ex did the same and eventually found he was a pathological liar
So where has he been going for weeks at a time?? I seriously think this might be a crazy ex of mineā¦ He probably has another complete life somewhere elseā¦
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Ask him why he lied?
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So instead of working in the "oil field "ā¦heās the āfry guyāā¦smh.
Run.
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Aw grow the fuxk up. If thatās all you have to worry you! If youāre concerned or worried ask him, jeez!
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Oh honey. Tinder is for one nighters.
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Um no he straight up lied about his job. What if yāall would have gotten married? Or started a family? Like with you thinking youād be supported with that oil field moneyā¦but Youād be supporting everyone. Where did he go for weeks at a time? Another girl? What else is he Lyin about. Heck no. Get out now lol
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He shouldnāt have lied but would you have continued to date him if you knew he worked at McDonaldās? His job shouldnāt matter and just because he lied about his job doesnāt mean he lied about anything else.
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I think itās the lie, a job is a job. He is definitely hiding something more than a job tbh but this is just my gut feeling.
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I had one tell me about working on oil riggsā¦ended up ā¦he was from Nigeria
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Lying is an issue. Also wondering why he would go away for weeks at a time if it wasnāt actually for work. Kinda makes me think he is up to something.
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Iād pop in McDonalds !
I hate a liar !
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My guess is he lied cause of your very reaction. Very shallow to not like someone based on what they do for a living. He could be the nicest bloke on the planet and you donāt like him cause of his jobš¤ I actually feel for him not you .
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They lie about one thing, thatās not going to be all they lie about.
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Kick him to the curb itās not about the job itās about him lying to you for 8 months and having no problems doing it
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Why are we not all agreeing that in a long term sense itās better he work in McDonaldās then make money destroying the earth.
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Leaveā¦ a lie is a lie and where exactly was he going for those weeks away
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Naw kick him to the curb he lied about something petty . Now it would be if he said I worked a MCDONALD and really worked in the oil gas field and said oh I said it to see if you was gold digger but that whole lying crap naw he got to go.
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I would not be upset about his job, but I would be upset that he has been lying to me.
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Lying is the problem, if u like him less bc of him even ING hsbign sjob. U donāt need a man but work on yourself.
You should watch the Netflix documentary called the tinder swindlerā¦
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Thing is ā¦you donāt know if he lied because heās embarrassed about his job ā¦or lied so he has an excuse to take off and cheat saying the same bull story to the other woman ā¦regardless ā¦to be able to keep up a facade like that is frightening ā¦I sincerely doubt itās the first time and not just about the job either
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U like him less cause he works at McDonaldās you sound a bit like a gold digger. Why does it matter where he works?
But I totally understand the liking him less cause he lied to you for so long
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Iād ask why he lied and then bring up the fact if he hid that then what else is he hiding as well, but if he isnāt hiding anything else then it shouldnāt matter about his job
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Heās lied to you the entire relationship, where he worked wouldnāt make me end things, the fact that he lied for almost a year most definitely would.
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Or maybe, just maybe he was embarrassed where he worked and he didnāt want judgement. A lie is a lie of course. But some people donāt have self confidence. Iād just talk to him about it. At least heās making moneyā¦ And not an illegal wayā:woman_facepalming:t2: not every lie is pointed at being evil and malicious. It could just be a self esteem thing.
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He started right from the bat with a huge lie. Thatās a big no no.
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Are you one of those people who thinks if someone works as McDonaldās they are beneath you? Thatās probably why he lied because of people who act like that. A job is a job
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Run! If you canāt trust him and heāll lie about something as inconsequential as work that really doesnāt matter in the larger scheme of things, you have no future foundation for trust and will always wonder what heās lying about.
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Um maybe hes not proud of where he worksā¦.thatās acceptableā¦.what you should really be turned off aboutā¦ is him going away for weeks at a time. He has all kindsa other lives and lies if heās AWOL for weeks at a time.
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Talk to him. Ask him. Im guessing he will freak out blame you and leave you. But thats just me
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Maybe he is embarrassed to work at mcds but who cares At least he has a job
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Leave. You donāt need a liar. A job is a job. A lie is a lie. So what of its cleaning toilets. Donāt lie about it. You can still be a boss no matter your position if you provide.
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Ask yourself, would you have given him a chance if he was honest with you? The answer, Iām sure is no. He potentially was worried about this and got caught up in a lie. At least he works. Donāt be shallow.
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Be like Forest and RUN 
ok 
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I would talk to him have him come clean heās just embarrassed of his job itās a guy thing give him a chance
I would like to think itās due to his lying and not the fact of his place of work, because that just makes you sound like a gold digger and just worried about the money. But either way, I would confront him about it - and if it were me, Iād walk right through those McDonaldās doors and make sure we connected eyes; no drama, no words, just that look to get across that āJig is up. You got caught. Weāll chat about this laterā.
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And why his lying? Tinder. Booty. Dogs will lie to get what they want. And he got he wanted, so continued the lie.
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Idk I had a guy interested in me and found out he was lying about his age. Stopped talking to him. Been through too much to deal with liars 
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Move on ā¦dont waste any more time
What else is he lying about?!?! This is a big deal.
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If he lied then he obviously has intentions of doing more lying in the future in order to use you
If heās lying to you Abt his job.,what else is he lying to you about? He made himself out to be someone heās not!
Get rid of that asap
McDonaldās pays 10 an hour
Okay where is he going when he leaves for work for weeks??? I get that you can be ashamed, but parts of his story donāt add up
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The reason he lied is pretty obvious but Iād only be upset he lied. Lying at any point is a huge turn off, let along at the gate.
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Iād end it. Thereās nothing wrong with working at McDonaldās but lying to you especially for that long is a huge issue. And where was he going or what was he doing when he was going away for weeks? You canāt have a good relationship without trust and you canāt trust someone who has no issue lying to you
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You gotta ask yourself did you fall in love with him for who he is OR for his job titleā:woman_shrugging:t3:
I mean heās still the same guy, except maybe he was embarrassed to say he worked for McDonalds
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Ughhh he lied BIG TIME. You canāt trust someone like that
Just ask him why he lied to you and see what he says but I donāt know if I can be with someone who lies from the start thatās a red flag to me
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if heās going to lie about that, what else is he lying about. I once dated a guy who told me he worked for the State and traveled a lot. He too would be gone for weeks at a time. Turns out he was married.
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He is not who he says he is. Probably hiding way more
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Going away weeks at the timeā¦ means he has a second life.
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I would be upset too that he lied but he was probably embarrassed. Going away for weeks at a time is kinda fishy since we know thatās bs too; but I also kind of think that you could be shallow for liking him less because he doesnt have a good job like you thought. A job is a job, no matter where you work.
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Firstly he is obviously insecure about his job because many woman are gold diggers.
Butā¦. Because he lied what else would he lie about - red flag!
If itās the job that attracted you to him that says more about you than him and you need to reflect on that and improve your attitude towards mens financial statuses and why a job of another person would rate so much higher than the man himself.
Have a discussion with him about why he felt the need to lie about his occupation and go from there.
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Oh dear. He meant chip oil.
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Probably so he can go have live his other life for āweeksā at a time lol
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Leaving for weeks at a time for McDonaldās??? You arenāt his only gf most likely. Call him out, block him on everything and drop him.
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And THAT is the reason why he lied in the first place 
now u feel and think less of him only due to hew JOBā:roll_eyes:
Iād leave for the fact of lieing
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If he lies about this, he could be lying about other things
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A jobs a job as long as they are working and want to build a future together and he was obviously embaressed about where he works however heās lied and for a long time so that would definitely make me wonder what else is real
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Lol OMG!!! If heās putting out that much effort to lie about something so petty, imagine when itās something serious!
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Heās not decent, heās a liar. If heās lying about this and going away for weeks, what else is he lying about? What is he doing when he goes away for weeks?
I wouldnāt approach him about it, Iād just dump him. Period. Let him go play games with someone else.
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Heās been lying he made you think he was someone heās not and the big question is where was he all those " weeks at a time " he would leave
Itās time to go
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Go watch the Tinder Swindle and come back with your comment
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I wanna know where he went for weeks
Like if he committed and financially put himself out, to cover this lie.
Then Iām guessing he was probably embarrassed about where he works.
He has a job, thatās already a massive positive regardless where.
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Heās probably embarrassed of his job because of shallow ass w0men like you 
Iād be more worried about the 17 days out of the month you couldnāt see him. Where was he thenā¦ must be lying about more than just his jobš³
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Liedā¦not a good character traitā¦on so man levelsā¦you know it tooā¦run
If he lied about this, what else is he hiding?
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Ok , should be ashamed of where he works and what he does for a living , but why lie and where is he on his away time . He could have a different woman for each week he is away and telling them the same story .
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Itās hard to get over a lie. A real genuine person could work anywhere ( respectable ) & thatās great. The days of being embarrassed by where you work are/should be long over with whatās going on in this world. But again, that lie is gonna be a tough thing to get over. Talk to himā¦ make sure thatās the only thing being fabricatedā¦ if he didnāt lie to you about working at McDonaldās, would you even consider dating him? I hope, but from the looks of the word McDonaldās all in CAPS, I wonder? Maybe you need to ask yourself that and perhaps itās not a good fitā¦for both of you.
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This is what makes me mad about menā¦ let us decide whether we want to deal with things. Donāt lie! Thatās why women have trust issues now.
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