I have been dating this guy that I met on tinder about 8 months ago. Things have been going really well. I like him, he likes me, I was surprised to find someone so decent. In the way beginning his profile said he worked in the oil fields, which I thought was super cool…he has kept up with this story for the past 8 months of us dating. Even so much as going away for weeks at a time “for work”. Today, I found out he actually worked at MCDONALDS and now I don’t know how to feel. I feel like I like him less due to his job…or maybe its because I found out he lied to me…idk…how do I even approach him about this? I don’t get why he would lie about it and keep up this whole lie.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. The guy I met on tinder has been lying about his job
Red flag what else did he lie about
Oh no. Sorry to hear that, I say run if he is lying and disappearing he is hiding more then a job
He probably has a girlfriend or bm that he lives with or goes to see when he is on those trips
he lied. THE END. If he worked at mcD’s he should have stated that from the start. He’s a poser
Go into McDonald’s place a order when he’s working . Then talk to him when his shift ends. Then get yourself a new man
He probably lied for the exact reason… you literally said you like him less because he works at McDonald’s
U don’t get why he would lie? Are u not making the connection?
He’s probably married or a gf, you can’t trust a liar
He lied because you are Judging him for working at McDonald’s
Yeah. That’s a deal breaker. Where is he going when he is away for “work”? If he had just said that he worked at McDonald’s, that wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me … keeping up a lie that long RED FLAG
Omg! Dawn Corley-Little
He lied. That’s the only issue I see here.
If he told you he flipped burgers not a biggie, but lying… well thats a whole different story.
Find out which one he works at and when he’s working go get some food…
He’s obviously embarrassed about his job because of your exact reaction. Though, he still definitely lied. Leave him be, and move on.
Run not because he works at McDonald’s but because he can actually lie, that long too.
Hes now a proven lier i wouldnt trust a word he says run
Still a stranger to you pretending to have this super great life what’s he doing on those so called trips? Hanging with other gfs?
maybe it’s a side job??
Sounds like he lied because you may be high maintenance and look down on people who work in certain areas and he could tell. He may have been working in the oil fields in the beginning and something may happened and he needed a different job so he got one at McDonald’s. Maybe actually sit down and talk to him about why he lied and once you get to the reason on why then go from there.
It was a good 8 months but byeeee. Regardless if you’d like him no katter which job he had but at this point he’s been lying for 8 months. That’s enough to walk away. That’s a long time to keep up with a lie! Nope. No way.
He lied. Which means you say goodbye it’s the first of many.
Brandi M. Holcombe
You got to be kidding. What did you expect. It’s the Internet.
Run my ex did the same and eventually found he was a pathological liar
So where has he been going for weeks at a time?? I seriously think this might be a crazy ex of mine… He probably has another complete life somewhere else…
Ask him why he lied?
So instead of working in the "oil field "…he’s the “fry guy”…smh.
Aw grow the fuxk up. If that’s all you have to worry you! If you’re concerned or worried ask him, jeez!
Oh honey. Tinder is for one nighters.
Um no he straight up lied about his job. What if y’all would have gotten married? Or started a family? Like with you thinking you’d be supported with that oil field money…but You’d be supporting everyone. Where did he go for weeks at a time? Another girl? What else is he Lyin about. Heck no. Get out now lol
He shouldn’t have lied but would you have continued to date him if you knew he worked at McDonald’s? His job shouldn’t matter and just because he lied about his job doesn’t mean he lied about anything else.
I think it’s the lie, a job is a job. He is definitely hiding something more than a job tbh but this is just my gut feeling.
I had one tell me about working on oil riggs…ended up …he was from Nigeria
Lying is an issue. Also wondering why he would go away for weeks at a time if it wasn’t actually for work. Kinda makes me think he is up to something.
I’d pop in McDonalds !
I hate a liar !
My guess is he lied cause of your very reaction. Very shallow to not like someone based on what they do for a living. He could be the nicest bloke on the planet and you don’t like him cause of his job🤔 I actually feel for him not you .
They lie about one thing, that’s not going to be all they lie about.
Kick him to the curb it’s not about the job it’s about him lying to you for 8 months and having no problems doing it
Why are we not all agreeing that in a long term sense it’s better he work in McDonald’s then make money destroying the earth.
Leave… a lie is a lie and where exactly was he going for those weeks away
Naw kick him to the curb he lied about something petty . Now it would be if he said I worked a MCDONALD and really worked in the oil gas field and said oh I said it to see if you was gold digger but that whole lying crap naw he got to go.
I would not be upset about his job, but I would be upset that he has been lying to me.
Lying is the problem, if u like him less bc of him even ING hsbign sjob. U don’t need a man but work on yourself.
You should watch the Netflix documentary called the tinder swindler…
Thing is …you don’t know if he lied because he’s embarrassed about his job …or lied so he has an excuse to take off and cheat saying the same bull story to the other woman …regardless …to be able to keep up a facade like that is frightening …I sincerely doubt it’s the first time and not just about the job either
U like him less cause he works at McDonald’s you sound a bit like a gold digger. Why does it matter where he works?
But I totally understand the liking him less cause he lied to you for so long
I’d ask why he lied and then bring up the fact if he hid that then what else is he hiding as well, but if he isn’t hiding anything else then it shouldn’t matter about his job
He’s lied to you the entire relationship, where he worked wouldn’t make me end things, the fact that he lied for almost a year most definitely would.
Or maybe, just maybe he was embarrassed where he worked and he didn’t want judgement. A lie is a lie of course. But some people don’t have self confidence. I’d just talk to him about it. At least he’s making money… And not an illegal way:woman_facepalming:t2: not every lie is pointed at being evil and malicious. It could just be a self esteem thing.
He started right from the bat with a huge lie. That’s a big no no.
Are you one of those people who thinks if someone works as McDonald’s they are beneath you? That’s probably why he lied because of people who act like that. A job is a job
Run! If you can’t trust him and he’ll lie about something as inconsequential as work that really doesn’t matter in the larger scheme of things, you have no future foundation for trust and will always wonder what he’s lying about.
Um maybe hes not proud of where he works….that’s acceptable….what you should really be turned off about… is him going away for weeks at a time. He has all kindsa other lives and lies if he’s AWOL for weeks at a time.
Talk to him. Ask him. Im guessing he will freak out blame you and leave you. But thats just me
Maybe he is embarrassed to work at mcds but who cares At least he has a job
Leave. You don’t need a liar. A job is a job. A lie is a lie. So what of its cleaning toilets. Don’t lie about it. You can still be a boss no matter your position if you provide.
Ask yourself, would you have given him a chance if he was honest with you? The answer, I’m sure is no. He potentially was worried about this and got caught up in a lie. At least he works. Don’t be shallow.
Be like Forest and RUN ok
I would talk to him have him come clean he’s just embarrassed of his job it’s a guy thing give him a chance
I would like to think it’s due to his lying and not the fact of his place of work, because that just makes you sound like a gold digger and just worried about the money. But either way, I would confront him about it - and if it were me, I’d walk right through those McDonald’s doors and make sure we connected eyes; no drama, no words, just that look to get across that “Jig is up. You got caught. We’ll chat about this later”.
And why his lying? Tinder. Booty. Dogs will lie to get what they want. And he got he wanted, so continued the lie.
Idk I had a guy interested in me and found out he was lying about his age. Stopped talking to him. Been through too much to deal with liars
Move on …dont waste any more time
What else is he lying about?!?! This is a big deal.
If he lied then he obviously has intentions of doing more lying in the future in order to use you
If he’s lying to you Abt his job.,what else is he lying to you about? He made himself out to be someone he’s not!
Get rid of that asap
McDonald’s pays 10 an hour
Okay where is he going when he leaves for work for weeks??? I get that you can be ashamed, but parts of his story don’t add up
The reason he lied is pretty obvious but I’d only be upset he lied. Lying at any point is a huge turn off, let along at the gate.
I’d end it. There’s nothing wrong with working at McDonald’s but lying to you especially for that long is a huge issue. And where was he going or what was he doing when he was going away for weeks? You can’t have a good relationship without trust and you can’t trust someone who has no issue lying to you
You gotta ask yourself did you fall in love with him for who he is OR for his job title:woman_shrugging:t3: I mean he’s still the same guy, except maybe he was embarrassed to say he worked for McDonalds
Ughhh he lied BIG TIME. You can’t trust someone like that
Just ask him why he lied to you and see what he says but I don’t know if I can be with someone who lies from the start that’s a red flag to me
if he’s going to lie about that, what else is he lying about. I once dated a guy who told me he worked for the State and traveled a lot. He too would be gone for weeks at a time. Turns out he was married.
He is not who he says he is. Probably hiding way more
Going away weeks at the time… means he has a second life.
I would be upset too that he lied but he was probably embarrassed. Going away for weeks at a time is kinda fishy since we know that’s bs too; but I also kind of think that you could be shallow for liking him less because he doesnt have a good job like you thought. A job is a job, no matter where you work.
Firstly he is obviously insecure about his job because many woman are gold diggers.
But…. Because he lied what else would he lie about - red flag!
If it’s the job that attracted you to him that says more about you than him and you need to reflect on that and improve your attitude towards mens financial statuses and why a job of another person would rate so much higher than the man himself.
Have a discussion with him about why he felt the need to lie about his occupation and go from there.
Oh dear. He meant chip oil.
Probably so he can go have live his other life for “weeks” at a time lol
Leaving for weeks at a time for McDonald’s??? You aren’t his only gf most likely. Call him out, block him on everything and drop him.
And THAT is the reason why he lied in the first place now u feel and think less of him only due to hew JOB:roll_eyes:I’d leave for the fact of lieing
If he lies about this, he could be lying about other things
A jobs a job as long as they are working and want to build a future together and he was obviously embaressed about where he works however he’s lied and for a long time so that would definitely make me wonder what else is real
Lol OMG!!! If he’s putting out that much effort to lie about something so petty, imagine when it’s something serious!
He’s not decent, he’s a liar. If he’s lying about this and going away for weeks, what else is he lying about? What is he doing when he goes away for weeks?
I wouldn’t approach him about it, I’d just dump him. Period. Let him go play games with someone else.
He’s been lying he made you think he was someone he’s not and the big question is where was he all those " weeks at a time " he would leave
It’s time to go
Go watch the Tinder Swindle and come back with your comment
I wanna know where he went for weeks
Like if he committed and financially put himself out, to cover this lie.
Then I’m guessing he was probably embarrassed about where he works.
He has a job, that’s already a massive positive regardless where.
He’s probably embarrassed of his job because of shallow ass w0men like you
I’d be more worried about the 17 days out of the month you couldn’t see him. Where was he then… must be lying about more than just his job😳
Lied…not a good character trait…on so man levels…you know it too…run
If he lied about this, what else is he hiding?
Ok , should be ashamed of where he works and what he does for a living , but why lie and where is he on his away time . He could have a different woman for each week he is away and telling them the same story .
It’s hard to get over a lie. A real genuine person could work anywhere ( respectable ) & that’s great. The days of being embarrassed by where you work are/should be long over with what’s going on in this world. But again, that lie is gonna be a tough thing to get over. Talk to him… make sure that’s the only thing being fabricated… if he didn’t lie to you about working at McDonald’s, would you even consider dating him? I hope, but from the looks of the word McDonald’s all in CAPS, I wonder? Maybe you need to ask yourself that and perhaps it’s not a good fit…for both of you.
This is what makes me mad about men… let us decide whether we want to deal with things. Don’t lie! That’s why women have trust issues now.