Can you propose?
Maybe ask him if when covid is gone if he would like to elope and get married somewhere? Maybe on a beach?
A nice family holiday at the same time or even just the two of you.
This is what I would do.
Just remember there is nothing wrong with wanting marriage. You live your life by your own choices, wants and needs.
I love marriage. Me and my husband of 11 years got married pretty much soon after meeting. He wanted to lock it in haha.
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Marriage is more about the relationship, not that certificate. If you have a great relationship, the word āmarriedā isnāt going to make it any better. Talk it out with him. If itās not something he doesnāt want, and you force him into it, there will be resentment. My philosophy is: If it aināt broke, donāt fix it!
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My husband & I have been together 10 years & weāre not married we both want too but canāt really afford too right now & technically itās only a piece of paper & at heart were married I call him husband & he calls me wife.
We bought wedding rings off Amazon (nice ones) too show weāre married for now until we actually get married
Iām 15 years with my oh and Iāve never been married not really bothered we get married when weāre ready just a bit of paper to us, here in ireland if your cohabitation for more than 10 years you have the same rights Iām his next of kin and all the above if its aināt broken why try fix it you sound like you have a happy relationship anyway
I was with my now husband for 10 years before getting married. Kids, house, cars in common. I was the one that didnāt want to get married for no other reason other that I didnāt feel the need to and didnāt need a piece of paper to prove anything. Maybe heāll warm up to the idea, maybe not. If itās something you 100% want in your relationship talk to him and express your feelings and let him know itās a deal breaker for you.
From a legal standpoint, that ālittle piece of paperā is VERY important. Even if he has his affairs in order, his family could challenge things, such as, a will. People get crazy when they are grieving.
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Have you been living together for that whole time? I live in WV and we still have Common Law Marriage (7 years living together)
Weāve been together 3 years. If we donāt get married sometime in the next couple years, Iām gonna a have to have an honest talk with myself bc I know dang well Iām not gonna be happy with never getting married and Iām not waiting ten years to do it or realize it just isnāt going to happen. If he doesnāt know he wants to spend his life with me by now and have enough faith in us to marry meā¦
thatāll be an ugly battle with myself. I deserve to carry his last name if he wants to be with me. Period.
Marriage is just paper
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If you have a good relationship I wouldnāt worry about it. At the end of the day itās just a piece of paper and if it isnāt meant to be then you donāt have to pay $1800 for somebody to rip up that little piece of paper for ya. If heās good to you and yr kids and you love and trust him, run with it.
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Just get rings. Itās easier to get married harder to get a divorce
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Someone told me once that if he hasnāt asked u to marry him by now he wont. It was true. The guy I wasted so much time with didnt want to marry me. Kept me around for whatever reasonā¦idk what the reason wasā¦but a waste of lots of time. I wish u the best.
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Communication 
. Tell him what you want and need and ask him what he wants and needs. The fact that you have to say to him that it doesnāt need to be today off next year makes me believe heās not where you are. Which is fine, but if youāre hesitant to speak youāre truth then thatās a red flag. Communication if key.
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Marriage isnāt a piece of paper
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Oh girl I couldāve written this. 
weāve been together for almost 5 years. Been engaged for 2, have 2 kids together and built a house together. But we keep slacking on the marriage part.
Me personally, I want a legit real wedding since we had an unplanned baby. But then we had the opportunity to build our dream home or have a dream wedding. Obviously I picked the home.
I just donāt feel the need to get married. And I donāt want to do it quick either.
Weāre in a day and age where marriage is overrated. Granted weāve come into issues where HIPPA, or our mortgage or having children has homework because we arenāt married.
But itās up to you. If you want to be married, be up front with him. See how he feels and go from there.
My fiance waited 3 years before proposing. Weāll be celebrating 5.5 years on our wedding day. When hes ready heāll do it or you can propose yourself. Some say itās just a piece of paper. To me it doesnāt feel like just a piece of paper and I think you might be the same way. If you thought it was just a piece of paper you wouldnt be upset that he hasnt proposed yet
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In the eyes of God.living together without marriage is sin. Itās more than a piece of paper. Itās a commitment to be there for each other till death do u part.love only each other. I believe in marriage. Yes I know it donāt always work.just living together will never be the right thing
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Marriage is expensive divorce is higher. You donāt need a piece of paper to call him your husband. Only thing marriage changes is medical that is it.
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Me and my husband have been together 6 years weāre not even really married weāre not technically married itās the mindset for us we donāt care about the rings or having a legal document he still calls me his wife I still call him husband honestly you guys have been together so long itās expensive to get married sometimes and the reason I donāt have a ring is I canāt wear most medals and my husband is very picky on what he gets me something special expensive honestly we agreed on a wood carved ring that looks like Vines because I love nature he wants to get something custom that we canāt afford so saving up for that but honestly I could care less about a ring or a piece of paper saying that weāre legally married heās still my husband at heart
The marriage certificate is very important. Tell him you want one OR you both go to a lawyer and form a WILL that takes care of you ā¦ both.
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I think a piece of paper doesnāt mean youāre married. You can call him your husband without a piece of paper. Marriage is overrated. Just live together and call each other whatever you want. Itās alot cheaper
You both should talk and lay out what you both want and if marriage is on the table.
Talk to him. Set a dead line etched in stone. Move if no co.mitment by that date.
Or accept it the was it is
Do you live in a state with common law marriage
Be surƩ your name os jpined with his on house car bank accounts fo the sake of kids to not necessay to marry
Iām in the same boat. Almost 7 years. Iāve kinda accepted the fact hell never commit past boyfriend.
My Mom always told meā¦ If you move in, have kids, buy a house first etcā¦ Then people (usually men) get comfortableā¦ He has everything he wantsā¦ Why would he go any further?? Just let him know this is what ya wantā¦ Itās importantā¦ If he doesnāt ask in a reasonable time frame after talking about itā¦ Then maybe heās not the one!
I mean, here in Texas, living together for 7 years is a common law marriage. You guys could technically be considered married if your state laws are different. But also, he needs to be upfront and honest about his intentions. And if he says one thing but does another, maybe its time to reconsider altogether.
marriage is a different level of commitment. and that paper means more than you think. 6 years with no mention of marriage sounds like he aināt the one. at the end itās a commitment heās not willing to make. no thanks. 