“My son just turned 10 not too long ago and chile. The attitude needs to go. What have y’all mamas done to curtail your kids attitude once they hit double digits?”
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Loses ALL electronics. That seems to work now-a-days
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Take all phone chargers away and watch the agony
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We all trying to figure that out good luck
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Ha, mine just turned 10, lmk when you find out!
Unless it’s just unbelievably disrespectful and directed at me I honestly don’t care. Slams a door…
. Rolls the eyes… Goes “UGGGHH”…
Pick and choose the battles.
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It just continues to get worse-mine just turned 13 and puberty is a nightmare 
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Take the iPad and social media away, that’s where he’s learning it.
Well that’s easy,
If you put in the hard work 
back when they are younger it wouldn’t be an issue now.
Is the Dad around? He should have taught the young buck on respecting his mother.
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Take away electronics and pour yourself a stiff drank momma
Talk to them. See what is aggravating/stressing them. Is it school, peers or life in general. Remember hormones suck big time and right now they are messing with your baby. Explain that although life some times sucks and you do understand their frustrations; it isn’t ok to speak to their parents with disrespect. Come up with a code word if needed when they can say it and it means they are just having a moment and need to be alone to decompress.
My son is 11 and he’s actually the sweetest he rarely gets a tude but my 9 and 13 year old daughters are a different story…when you let find out let me know please
Heck I don’t even know, I am looking at boarding schools because I am loosing my 
way to much 
she is my 5th kid and 13 y.o.
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Wait 18 years. The hormones will settle. Till then buckle up. It’s a crazy ride
lol when you find out can you let all parents of teenagers know please
Oh yes my son turned 11 and all we get is attitude. Kids try it so see how far they can push boundaries I remember being that age and trying the attitude my mother sure slapped it out of me but times have changed can’t do that now. I take his computer away within 15 minutes he’s hugging me saying sorry and can he have his computer back lol I acknowledge his apology and say if you do the crime you gotta do your time😂 tomorrow’s a fresh day let’s start from scratch.
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Time out in their bedroom, enjoy some peace!
Teach him and discipline now! Because when he gets older he will be bigger then you and think he can control you! Stop his attitude now!!! Take his 1 favorite thing away when he gives attitude. Video games, legos, ect…
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It only gets worse mine is turning 13 this year and thinks he knows everything and thinks he is a parent
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Mine thought he was gonna get an attitude and tell me he WASN’T going to do chores and he doesn’t want to do school work and only wants to play videogames. I fixed that problem. I took EVERYTHING away and he isn’t allowed to touch the game or even watch people play a game on YouTube. Also to earn it back ALL school work is to be fully completed and shown to me and he has double chores for the week. Chores will be done and done correctly or he is not earning anything back. I’m not going to tolerate or play about the issue or it will only get worse. He is on day 3 and has done well to do what is required.
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Send them to boot camp!! You have already lost!
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All you can do these days is take away that which they’re fondest of. Electronics. Games. Whatever gets to them. When my son was young, the whining when that happened was about enough to send me around the bend. Like I was getting punished along with him. But I soon learned to send him to his room and tell him the more he whined, the longer he would lose his game for. That usually stopped it. After that age, he was pretty good. In fact, we were real close. When he was a teenager, he would invite me to go to the pool hall with him and his friends. It was great. My daughter was different. She was sneaky. I didn’t catch attitude. She would do stuff behind my back. She would sneak out at night and go prowl around town. We lived in a tiny little town at the time. Didn’t even have a stoplight. It did, however, have a constable. He brought her home at 3:00 one morning after I got off evening shift and woke me up with the news my daughter was out roaming the streets. I kept her up all the next day doing chores. She never did go to bed that night although she stayed home after being grounded. And she did chores all the next day. We cleaned house, cleaned up the yard, organized the front porch, and washed windows. We did laundry too. She did most of it. And after supper, she inherited the dishes. She slept that night. No sweat! But she did more sneaking as she got older. Some stuff I didn’t find out about until she was grown and told me. Good luck, momma!
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Um, well. Good question. We remind out 10 year old daughter that we are the ones that love her and always have her back and we don’t deserve to be treated/talked to like that. It usually straightens her out for a bit. But we only have that chat like once a month. Otherwise, we just pick our battles. It comes with the territory. At this age, they’re trying to start figuring out their identity. Their likes and dislikes. My daughter is also trying to master sarcasm. Most of the time it goes okay, but sometimes I just 
and move on. Just let it be unless it’s way above and beyond. Good luck, momma. It can be tough.
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Ahh, prepubescent boys: it’s only going to get more “interesting” from here. We’ve had quite the journey with our son, who’s now in his late teens, but we’ve survived thus far. I can only suggest to remain level-headed, even when you want to tear out your hair, and always keep communication lines open and non-judgmental. It also helps to have someone trustworthy, wise and vetted, like a relative or family friend, that he can vent to because he won’t want to confide in you about everything or anything, depending on his personality. And if it gets really bad, find a good counselor. There’s nothing wrong with seeking outside help when all else fails, as it can often nip major issues in the bud. Good luck.
Figure out why they are having an attitude and work through it with them just as an adult they have feelings so I ask them what’s going on and see why the change in behavior is happening and see if it’s something we can work out sometimes they are going through alot we as parents just blow it off as they are being ridiculous when they just don’t know how to work through what they are going through
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My daughters 10 I feel this!
My daughter just turn 5 & her attitude came in strong. 
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I’m mean when it comes to disrespect. Give and you get. I give a chore for each time they back talk, eye roll, etc. Early rise, late bed, & extra cleaning 
they learn fast mama don’t play.
Mine used to storm into their room slamming doors on the way . I just left them to it. Didnt argue, didn’t yell, didn’t remove privileges…just ignored it.
We’ve all been at that stage and we just need to work through it. They grew into respectful hard working adults at the end of it…and it does end eventually
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Im am adult now, was very troubled teen. Meet them halfway when you can. I chose to raise my sons gently °180 diff than i was raised. Both of my sons are amazing/sweet. Give in sometimes on little things now and i bet teenage yrs are better
Phone restrictions
Change WiFi password
Cut the data to the phone
Earn screen time
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They all do this. In a few years you sweet loving boy will reappear.
Nothing you do nothing, because it’s a losing battle. Those pre-teen years are brutal. I have an almost 9 year old who I’d like to throw hands with almost daily! I love the kid to death, but she has her daddy’s temper and her mommas attitude… so I basically did this to myself. Someone send help… or alcohol! 
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I started a notebook just for me and my son … he enjoys writing to me and I write him back. The attitude has gotten better since he is expressing his feeling on paper.
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I don’t really like handing out chores/extra chores as punishment because they can end up equating daily responsibilities as punishment and not want to do them into adulthood. At least that’s how I felt… still feel. Like I’m being punished for doing the most basic of things So I just start taking things they like away, maybe an early bedtime too, ground them from friends. Always seems to work
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it gets worse… God speed
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I talk to my 11 yo son about his feelings. When you try to counter an attitude with authoritative parenting, you’re gonna get world war 3 at home. But if you open up your child/ parent relationship to talk (communicate) and discuss you’ll have a better outcome. If he has an attitude that feels unwarranted, genuinely ask him what’s up. And when he responds, actually listen to what he’s saying and work together towards a solution. You’ll get better results this way verses taking his things away or punishing him, just for being a human with feelings. Good luck 
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Take away privileges be consistent and PRAY you don’t loose your mind! I’m a Mom of 4 girls (3 are teenagers) send help! Lol
she’s 11 and I’ve asked her why does she insist on leaving my daughter at school, go outside and don’t come back in until you found her … She comes back in level headed , but tomorrow is a new day and it’s on repeat.
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You have to ask yourself - is this normal child behavior, or is this an actual bad attitude that is destructive to the child and your family? Think about how you feel when you’re upset… It’s still pretty hard to control your emotions right? But you’ve learned how to deal with them… This kid is young. They do not know how to deal with these explosive emotions let alone control them. They’re confused, and half the time don’t even know why they feel the way they feel. Talk to them. Explain that their bodies and brains are going through something, so it’s ok to not feel like they’re in control of their own minds and feelings. Then help them understand so that they can grow up knowing that emotions are ok to feel, and never wrong. Help them to see what is or isn’t appropriate ways to try to deal with their feelings, without making them feel that their feelings are wrong. Don’t invalidate their emotions. Ever. And just remember, they’re young. Sometimes kids are jerks for no reason, but they still need to know that you love them no matter what.
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Model the behaviour you want to get. Communicating. Patience
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Grit your teeth and breathe your way through it. Keep loving him. It’ll end eventually 
Remind myself of how I felt at that age and of all the hormonal changes and just life changes they are going through right now. Try to give more support and less criticism (does NOT always happen and that’s ok) remember that even I as an adult have attitude sometimes Do more explaining of better ways to express whatever they are feeling.
Puberty. Are you saying you had no attitude as a preteen?
It was called discipline… and I knew my parents would not put up with it!
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Thankfully, none of my three have ever really had an attitude with me. Sometimes with each other. They’re now 27, 25, and 16.
Take away everything but air and food lol.