Seems like he’s lost all interest… BOTH parties have to put forth effort or it won’t work. And it’s very obvious he isn’t willing to… cut your losses and know your worth!
Why would he have bought them at all if you dont use them? Did he answer that question? If not, you have your answer.
Seems like he’s cheating on you
This what happened with my ex husband an he was cheating and it doesn’t matter how much cleaning how much stress and how much begging you do he’s still going to have an affair my ex husband had two affairs both times it was because I didn’t clean or I didn’t do this they for granted my ex husband also a narcissist
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Tell him to clean it if he don’t like the way you do it !!
I think you have your answer and might be hoping that someone will give you a different one… This missing condom is enough for me to leave , life is to short to waste time on being treated like you are nothing … It’s time to bounce …
You need to go through his phone when he’s sleeping girl. He’s gaslighting you, making it seems as if it’s your fault when he knows it’s not by not “doing enough around the house” like, no he’s doing something.
You must have blinders on,
at the real picture he is seeing someone else…
All I know is your gut is usually right on point! That’s how I feel. And sometimes your gut may be off a little but your suspicion wasn’t unfounded.
He’s cheating listen to your gut if it was anything else he would have been honest and not get pissy!
Men do stupid shit, definitely would make me question it as well look further into it does he freak if you touch his phone is he always on it? Is he gone alot or coming home late? Don’t let him tell you, you don’t do enough I have 4 kids
5 almost 6, 3,2 and 1 and let me just say our jobs are not easy I do basic cleaning everyday but have laundry on my couch dishes in my sink that I wash when o have time!
But my closets could desperate be cleaned! I do my best daily! And that’s all that matters as long as your kids are taken care of maybe you need to leave all the kids with him for the day leave come back and question why your house isn’t cleaned 
You know the answer to all your questions, kick him to the curb and don’t let him think he can get away with it.
You know you didn’t buy them…so they didn’t just magically appear…I think you have your answer already.
Because he’s selfish, and instead of talking it out and fixing it he’d rather run off and play. 
You deserve someone that will fix your relationship with you when there’s a problem. This is 16 year old shit.
He’s cheating bye bye boy pop lil holes in the condoms and soak them in jalapeno juice 
He’s cheating. You know he is and he really isn’t even trying to hide it.
The fact that he even bought the condoms in the first place…And the way he’s been acting. He’s definitely cheating
He’s cheating and it sounds like he doesn’t wanna be with you anymore 
This happened to me on 2 separate occasions with the same guy. His excuse was he bought them and threw one away just to test me and see if I was going through his things lol. We went to therapy and he still had me believing this even though I knew in my gut it was bs. I thought it was all my fault for failing his test. Don’t let him make you feel this way. Leave. It will only get worse.
He’s being rude to you because he’s seeing someone else that he doesn’t have a “relationship” with requires him to be good to them. So every time he’s rude to you… he’s comparing about what his life could be like with her. He took the condom. He cheated. And how he’s making you feel like somethings wrong with you so you’ll take the blame when he comes clean.
You know the answer. Leave
It’s hard to believe that just because “you don’t do enough around the house” would make him not want to be with you sexually… if you know it doesn’t make sense then why are you trying to make up excuses for him?
You know what is going on…red flags everywhere 
You know he’s cheated !
absolutely for a fact between the guilt trip and the condom yep
Net if you ask to see his phone right now he freaks and says no unless he figured out that your going to look now
Sometimes it takes our heart more time to catch up with what our brain already knows. You already know…
Cheating 
condoms in the night stand one missing his things would be packed right away
He totally is cheating and lying get rid of his lying POS ass
The fact that you said you guys don’t use condoms and that he’s gone out and bought a box is answer enough.
Time to a. Have someone follow him b. Get a good theripst c. You might need a good lawyer, depending on results of a
You know the answer already! Leave! He’s a liar AND a cheater!
When they lose interest in you, it’s because they found interest in someone else. Leave, y’all ladies have got to stop letting these men make u feel insecure because they can’t keep their winky in their pants.
Sounds like cheating…If it were me who found them I would have put a pin hole in the condoms it will teach not to cheat.
You know the answer already mama. He’s being unfaithful. Why would he even have condoms since you guys don’t use them? And one was tore off perfectly? The kids didn’t do it and you know it. He’s cheating on you and blaming his cheating and being distant on you and the house cleaning. That’s what they do…they blame the victim! Girl…kick him to the curb before he ends up giving you something
Deep down you already know the truth. The only thing you have to decide is are you going to accept it and stay or leave.
He’s cheating and using every single “reason” he’s unhappy with you so he can feel justified in doing so.
Hide the condems see what happens
I would ask to see his phone, on the spot! If he cops an attitude or an argument over it,he’s guilty. Period.
He’s not happy and this doesn’t give him a right to cheat or mess around or treat you badly. You can work on communication, you can try therapy; but from the sounds of it, neither of you are happy and it’s up to the both of you to work together to repair it or simply be done. If you aren’t happy you aren’t going to cherish a relationship while you don’t understand why he’d jeopardize a relationship maybe he’s standing on the other side thinking something completely different. Good luck, I hope you can work your problems out together
Unfortunately people jeopardize their relationships all the time…for many, many reasons
He definitely did it… trust ur gut instincts.
Don’t let him get away with it … just say to him I know what u did… but u won’t admit it. I won’t be forgetting u did this… and walk away… dont let him punish u by being rude and aggressive towards u… when he was the one in the wrong.
U chuck them away. U don’t need them …
This hurts my heart for you. I’ve been in your shoes. I think you know the answer already. You just need to accept it and let the realization hit you. It freaking hurts but living in denial and letting him get in your head the way he is, is BS. Stop being played the fool! Stand up for yourself! Put your foot down! Find a way out with your babies now. If he is a good dad then he should get equal parenting rights but he should get no more of your time and attention. His attention is elsewhere honey. He will deny it till is last dieing breathe like most cheaters do. He will play the victim, flip the script on you like ‘it is all your fault because X Y Z’. All he is doing is pointing the finger at you to take attention off himself. The condoms being found would have set me off like no other. Don’t be submissive with this. Stand. Up. For. Your. SELF.
Trust your gut. For whatever reason he is unhappy and straying.
Let him go, work on yourself and your children. There are billions of people on this planet and you, absolutely, CAN find one that will never have you doubting them.
Hun, your man is cheating. If y’all don’t use condoms, why would he have a box with one missing. If the shoe was on the other foot, do you think he would give you the benefit of the doubt OR do you think he would be upset about you having a box of condoms with one missing?
The hand writing is on the wall.
I’m sorry def sounds like he’s cheating 
What EVERYONE said above^^^^^
Girl… you know what’s going on… you just need to admit it to yourself.
I wouldnt try prying for anymore answers i would just take the kids and leave his ass, if he is putting 0 effort into doing ANYTHING with you and or the kids and its making you insecure then leave because you and your kids do not need that, and if he is so determined to keep his condom drawr unlocked and isnt willing to throw the condoms out even tho the kids “ are the ones getting into them” he is definitely cheating and just wont admit it because he rather make you feel insecure and self conscious
I’d get a camera where the condom box is and boom when he tries to get 1 he’s caught and needs to fess up
They have small ones he won’t see for reasonable I would I’d be pissed
Same thing happened to me…he’s definitely cheating or did and feels guilty! Why would he even have them if you two don’t use them?
You gotta let him go girl.
Listen to your gut!!!
Nah girl hes cheating…
Definitely sounds like a cheater. He wouldn’t have gotten mad about you throwing them away if he wasn’t. I’d throw them away and see how he reacts. Or move them somewhere else and see he get tried looking for them.
It all sucks but at least one positive way to look at it is if he’s cheating (which absolutely is not okay) at least he’s being safe about it 
The guy I am seeing now use to get them, but we would never use them as I am allergic to latex. Well one day I came back from a trip and low and behold a used condom in the trash. Me being insecure and untrusting I went at him with 3rd degree. Turns out he uses condoms when masturbating. He says its easier clean up. It’s been 5yrs now and Ive caught him a handful of times lol pun inteneded…but he’s never given me any reason to not believe him. If he’s being distant in the bedroom try something new.
I’m so sorry. I know this hurts, one of the worst things a person can do is betray your trust and throw your relationship away for a fling. However, women just know. We somehow have the ability to sense these things. It is very unlikely your kids got the condom, but you already know this. They would have taken the whole thing, not take one condom, perfectly. He did it, he may have not used it yet but was thinking about it and that’s why he’s so touchy about it. Or he did use it and that would result in being angry about it. Either way he did it, and you deserve better than that. You don’t deserve to be treated horrible because he’s unhappy with himself because he makes poor choices. Let’s be honest though if the roles were reversed and you said it was the kids he wouldn’t except that. Worry about yourself and kids and let the cheater go. I hope it all works out for you.
Hide the cameras and voice record or video record him so when he goes to get them u see his reaction lol
Well I have had 5 children I worked 2 jobs when they was little. Idk why you can’t clean the entire house hold a job and cook . He’s so wrong tho If he’s been a dick leave
Sorry to say but your mind already knows. It’s the hard part of knowing when to plan the strategy of how to move on. Been there done that but didn’t have kids when my ex husband cheated. Wish you the best but please do what’s best for you and your kids. Don’t stay for the kids, too many try and it doesn’t end well. My friends have tried and had to eventually leave. Wish you well.
I think he’s cheating based on the info provided. I’m sorry but it is kind of suspect & his behavior is indicative of one w something to hide.
I would move the box of condoms. If he can’t find them I’m. Sure he’d ask where they went. Put them up where only you and he could reach (no excuse about kids in that case)
Poke holes and soak them babies on jalapeños juice hell learn quick
I wouldn’t of asked about throwing them out. Since you two don’t use them, I would of thrown them away and told him that instead of asking if you can.
They have these small cameras. Like $40. Get it. Set it by the spot you have them stored at. And youll know.
The usb port does work for charging… So its hard to detect.
Recordings go straight to your smart phone.
He has no excuse then if he gets caught.
It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating! I’d interrogate the shit out of him though
Just throw them away… Day they were expired anyways lol
He’s guilty as heck! Deep down you know he is cheating.
Trust your gut instinct. It’s there for a reason. He is turning you down because he already has someone on the side.
Buy a jar of jalapenos. Throw out jslapenos. Take out the condoms neatly. Poke a hole in them that is not noticeable. Soak them in the jar of jalapeno juice.
Remove from juice. Wipe outsides off with soapy water and rinse. Dry them with paper towel and return neatly to the box if somehow noticed must have been the kids. If not noticed you will know when its been used.
Throw the box at him and tell him to het packing. Either he’ll come to his senses and try everything to make things right in his marriage with you and PROVE himself or he won’t. If he won’t, then you should move on in life because there is someone out there that will cherish everything about you. The kids will be fine!
Fuck jalapeños let’s throw some reaper pepper in there and make shit interesting. He shouldn’t have condoms he’s obviously cheating
From previous experience… that’s exactly how my ex husband acted when he cheated.
Sorry to tell you but he cheated
He’s obviously cheating 
they get moody cause of wat there doing as soon they start nit picking u kno the answer as soon as the conversation gets shorter with you its getting longer with someone else ul know when it’s over he start trying with u again doesn’t wanna leave u yet as its still unsure were the relationship is going with the other woman Ur his safety net he’s obviously still seeing her as he’s not interested in you, he stay up so he can conversate with the other woman plus he’ll be sneaky with his phone sleep with it ,it will always be on him or in his hand on silent or volume low
For sure throw them away. And he’s so guilty it’s sickening.
U can roughly work out wen he started cheating by when he stop giving affection or being intimate
You’re gonna let him throw kids under the bus…
You forgave him for cheating before so of course he will do it again. YOU allowed this to happen by taking him back the first time. Now kids are involved and that’s the excuse you’ll give for not leaving him this time. What you allow will continue.
He’s cheating. Make him leave.
He is cheating. Time for a heart to heart. If he is not into the relationship, then tell him that neither one of you are a prisoner. But you want to eithervwork it out or call it quits coz you dont want a STD you cant get rid of.
Totally cheating. But at least he used a condom. I wouldn’t stay. My advice. He leaves or you do.
Once a cheater … I don’t know what you’re confused about. Cut your losses and move on!
Quit being a maid. First off…
Let him take care of the kids and you go for me time somewhere
You already know… Wasting time waiting on more evidence!!!
Yep… sorry… time to move on… see if he follows…
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Kids don’t stop when getting into anything…they blow condoms up like bollons and play with them…he has cheated dear…all he has on his mind now was the moment of impact…and wants to have another after noon delight…with this other woman…
It definitely sounds like cheating from what you’ve stated
I’m thinking he’s cheating. I’m in a relationship with my bf for 3 years now and if I ever caught him with some condoms I’d know he was cheating. I think we only used condoms the first couple times
So the kids getting into the condoms… mine and my nephew did that when they were 3,4,&5. They opened them all and was playing with them like slime… that’s like the biggest red flag I’ve ever heard.
There are only two possibilities and these ladies have said what the first one is. The other one is he is watching porn and using the condoms to do his business. I am thinking it is the first one since he has cheated before. Either way, he doesn’t have any respect for you. You deserve better. Anybody who makes you feel bad about yourself doesn’t deserve you.
He sounds bipolar and he is most definitely cheating. I’ve lived through this exact situation
Sounds like he is cheating, he is playing you like a fool. Walk away trust me it might hurt in the beginning but you’ll be alright.
Sounds like he’s definitely cheating. I know you want to believe he wouldn’t and give him the benefit of the doubt but… come on