Feeling very strange and insecure about my body have recently found out my boyfriend has a habit of liking girls pictures on Facebook that are much much younger than myself I being 27 then being 19 or younger and it really really bothers me because I’m not sure how to approach it to him but I am very small breasted and very small framed and to me I wonder if he is taking my small image and perverting it for his own needs though I don’t really match the age that he’s interested in has someone ever heard of something like that happening
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What is going on here?
That sounds like a predator 1,000%.
I’d be checking his phone hard core to see what he’s doing.
Is he around your age? Because at ya’lls ages looking at 19 AND YOUNGER is a whole lot of red flags. Mix that with the body type you’re describing yourself as having, and ya I’m feeling the offness too. Get the fuck up out of there!! You don’t want to get in too deep with this one. There’s too many men out there that you’d never have to worry about this shit with. Go find one of them! The problem is definitely not you, he’s a straight up sicko.
19 and YOUNGER? hunny that’s a sign of a predator… If you feel like that’s possibly what’s going on, I’d follow your gut…
Sounds like a pedophile. That would gross me out
He’s liking pictures of other girls? Is that all he’s liking… are these girls friends of his? Exes? Context helps a lot. Not every man is a predator. Sometimes when we go looking for problems, we find them
Firstly, you’re beautiful as you’re. You don’t need validation from someone else to confirm this.
Now, if he’s liking photos, it depends whether you consider this as disrespectful. Liking photos can be harmless but having vile intentions about them isn’t.
Boost your self-confidence, girl! I bet you’ve got unique assets. So, flaunt them and own you’re. Inspire yourself from Shakira - Whenever, Wherever: “Lucky that my breasts are small and humble, so you don’t confuse them with mountains…”
Finally, if you feel the guy isn’t man enough, ditch him 'cause c’mon, you aren’t his mama.
Call him out, share your feelings and start your escape plan. TRUST me, it more than likely won’t end well.
The words: I am feeling strange and insecure about my body? Is that a repercussion from your partners behaviour? If you feel that way when in someone’s company that is a HUGE red flag.
If you felt insecure about your body before you met your boyfriend you will have to work on why you see yourself that way?
Talk to him.
Guys will still be attracted to other females but it depends on who the man is on weather he acts on those attractions when apparently committed.
Oh chic be straight up with him about it cause u know what next step will be. I know because my partner was doing it to but not just liking but talking and sending pictures and trying to meet up. Man he knew he had stuffed up and to this day I will check his phone to make sure he isn’t doing it no more. If his not happy he should tell u and let u move on to someone who will love u for the way u are. By way my partner no longer has Facebook as he knows he wouldn’t be able to control himself. Just one more time and our 6 years relationship will be over with no turning back.
Call him on it. If he doesn’t give you a good answer, time to move on. Never let anyone make you feel insecure about your body. Embrace what you got.
Be very careful. My ex mostly dated younger girls, I thought it was just because he was immature for his age.
When we got together I was 32, but looked 22. He was 40. After we broke up I heard rumours he liked young girls.
Fast forward a few years and he ended up doing prison time for sleeping with his 14 yo niece, when he was mid 40’s.
I dodged a bullet big time, as I had a 14yo daughter at the time we dated.
if you’re asking is it a thing for predators to be with a slight framed woman because they are perverting your image in their head to be the age they want to prey on then yes, this is a thing. and if you have an inkling in your mind that this is what he’s doing you need to be doing a deep dive into his computer activity. Never mind that it’s not okay for him to be doing that mess even with older women if you aren’t comfortable with that as it could def be a pre-cursor to cheating but it seems like you are concerned with an even more serious problem and you should def listen to your gut on this!
Cheating rarely starts with sex, it starts with online interactions and secret conversations much more often, you however this shakes out should feel fine about yourself and he should remember that when the fence is down the bulls arent the only ones that might escape
Younger than 19!!! Girl…
I know this is how we live but it is so sad that social media has come into play how we doubt ourselves or our significant others.
19 or younger?
I think your focusing on the wrong problem.
He has issues you are not responsible for.
Teen girls and women are flaunting their bodies on Social Media to get attention with the aim of boosting their followers. 90% of men are looking. It’s in their faces. Not sure how anyone can fix this dilemma.
Have you checked the sex offender list for your area to see if he’s on it? Or Google his name to see if anything comes up that might send more red flags.
Well he is wya boy friend just slow it bacc down he is obviously still wanting to Be Free u should do the same but communicate with him
19 and younger? He’s a pedophile…
Yes ma’am it’s a thing
If you’ve got that gut instinct get out of there!
Normally I wouldn’t say liking pictures is an issue in a relationship but if it’s consistently very young looking girls I would also be concerned. If you can without putting yourself in danger see what’s on his computer.
Yeah I’d be concerned. It’s most definitely a thing and has been normalised unfortunately.
My BD told me I was old at age 23 and he had gotten a 15 year old pregnant. These are indeed pedos.
Biggest issue here is; you definitely need to get help for your own insecurities that alone will always be a huge problem for you if you do not address it right away. You must realize outward looks are just that looks & differences, it’ll always be that way. If this guy is making U feel more insecurities about yourself don’t bother with starting to catch him, find someone who’ll make you always feel like #1, as you should for him. You’ll never be able to stop anyone male or female from looking nor, should you want to. Relationships that last have to be based on trust…
19 and younger NONCE
These men like 16/17 year olds now in days and it’s disgusting and pervertísh. Leave his ass…
Wow people here are actually calling him a paedophile for liking photos on Social Media
Does he know the age of these females? Or is he just seeing a photo on his news feed and hitting like?
No one should make feel bad like that. Leave
Listen to your intuition. Not trying to be mean but he’s not going to be around very long. You’ll know when you find the right man and your boyfriend right now is not the right one.
Get rid of him! I dated a man for 2 yrs too long after I found out he was taking pics of younger women ( their asses) mostly but be it a friend or stranger. But when they take pictures of your daughter…That is wrong ! Especially when used for his self pleasure. I apparently wasn’t good enough so I kicked him out asap! You deserve much more than this.
He’s liking pictures younger than 19 years old? I would feel less insecure and more disgusted with him. He’s gotta go.
This is going to be long but honest n some of my personal issues I had on this issue n I hope it helps some of you.i went through this with my boyfriend a few years ago. We were in our 40s it started with watching porn social media serect pictures of half, or whole naked girls. I would tell him how I felt about him looking liking n watching. He would always say it’s no big deal. There just bitches ,porn stars,models,bitches looking for attention, money n all fake plastic pic filters. He would delete all pictures, we argue I cried it made me feel ugly, uncomfortable but he would do it again. Some night I would wake up and he be laying in bed doing this. So of course I started arguments over this.ONCE AGAIN I JUST KNEW I WOULD FIND SHIT ON HIS PHONE. BUT THIS TIME I PACKED MY CLOTHES CALL A FRIEND LEFT HIS PHONE OPEN SO HE KNEW I SEEN IT.HE WAS SLEEPING I SET HIS ALARM 2 HOURS EARLIER SO HE HAD TIME TO FIND A RIDE TO WORK. MIND YOU I LEFT CHICAGO TO MOVE TO MICHIGAN TO BE WITH HIM .I KNEW MY WORTH I KNEW I WAS RIGHT. SO NEXT MORNING HE CALLING N TEXTING ME WTF TONI .STOP BEING REDICKULESS, GROW UP ,CALL ME EVERY NAME IN THE BOOK.LOL I WENT BACK TO SLEEP. OF CONTINUE TO CALL BC HE COULDN’T GET A RIDE…I TOLD HIM TO CALL THE BITCHES IN HIS PHONE FOR A RIDE. DO YOU THINK I CARE NOPE .I WAS DONE.I STAYED BY MY FRIEND HOUSE BC HE DIDN’T KNOW WHERE SHE LIVED. WE ARGUE ALL WEEK. HE BEG ME TO COME HOME. SO I DID…REPEAT ARGUE, TALKED ,BUT THIS TIME WE BOTH CRIED. HE DELETED EVERYTHING, INCLUDING ALL HIS SOICIAL MEDIA, INCLUDING FACEBOOK. I STOOD BY MY WORD.I SAID GIVE ME YOUR PHONE I CHANGE ALL HIS PASSWORDS LINK OUR PHONES TOGETHER AND A YEAR LATER I MARRIED HIM .10 YEARS LATER STILL MARRIED HAPPY .AS WOMEN YES MEN MAKE US FEEL LESS THAN PERFECT BEAUTIFUL. IN OUR HEADS WE ALL KNOW MOST MEN DON’T STAND A CHANGE WITH THOSE WOMEN. BUT IN OUR HEART IT HURT SO BAD…LESSON TO LEARN. IF YOU EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS N HE CONTINUE TO DO HURTING YOU FEELINGS. OBVIOUSLY HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU, OR RESPECT UR FEELINGS N YOUR RELATIONSHIP. YOU HAVE 2 CHOICES 1 LEAVE N STAND UR GROUND. 2 LEARN TO ACCEPT IT PERIOD. GOOD LUCK
He sounds like a perv. Do yourself a favor now and get gone.
I’ve been here you can approach it or 20 years down the road a parent is telling ur kid it’s dad better stop doing that.
19 or younger ? Only thing you should be doing is running tf away from that perv!!
OK he likes to look at 'girls ’ pictures 19 & ‘younger’…RUN, RUN very fast. And if you can’t figure this out. Reread your post over & over & over again until you get it
But how do you know for a fact that they are 19 and younger? What is under 19? Like 18? Or are you talking like 16? Did you have these insecurities before him? Are you projecting them for that reason? Are you more upset that he is just looking at other women that have bodies that are different than yours. Just talk to him. I suggest you go to couples therapy and individual therapy.
If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck……I’m a big advocate for listening to that gut instinct that women are taught from a very young age to ignore for the benefit of being gaslight. And to me it sounds like a gut instinct is triggered for you and you’re trying to justify it by talking about feeling insecure.
No one else knows what factors are giving the icks in this situation whether it be a series of small actions that made you raise a brow or if it really is just this one thing. But something I’ve noticed is when shit hits the fan - most people can recall all the little warning signs they ignored along the way.
19 & younger?! Anything under 18 is a minor and he can go to jail if he has sexual images on his computer or cellphone. If anything younger than 18 he is indeed a pedophile & if anything w. Sexual content should be reported. Run!
You must learn to be comfortable in YOUR skin and love YOURSELF. Ladies this is NO ONE else’s responsibility but our own. Ladies STOP comparing yourselves to the next and LOVE what your blessed with. It’s not a man’s responsibility to make you love yourself.
Go please I just moved out of my house of 6 years because I was I the same boat as you but worse run run fast and don’t look back and you will never get the answer you are looking for because I never did and I am built like you
Let me get this straight…, if someone posts a picture on social media and it shows up in my feed. I am required to then go to that person’s profile and find out how old they are before hitting the like button? Otherwise, I’m creepy or accused of being a pedophile?
There’s no possible way I’m just being a nice guy and being supportive of someone else’s kid by making them feel better with what is a worthless click for me?
I don’t have children as friends on social media. But that didn’t stop my friends kids from showing up on my feed from time to time.
It really is a sad world when our first instinct is to publicly accuse someone of wrongdoing without asking their intentions.
Yep. It’s pretty creepy that he’s always liking barely legal pics.
You should’ve added his age too, for all anyone knows he could be 20… Hence the insecurity at him liking images of women his age.
Okay but like… This is SUPER one sided. How old is he? Is he specifically searching them out or just scrolling and liking? I think you’re taking this way out of proportion.
Move on to some one that appreciates u.
I would not date someone who likes pics of underage girls
If you even have to wonder…
I would say leave there’s someone out there that’s better for you.
Even if you had big boobs and a larger frame, he’d still be doing the same shit
You just tried to turn a man into a pedophile because you are so insecure with yourself. How absolutely ridiculous! Your insecurities are just that YOURS it’s up to no one but yourself to fix it, to project them on your partner is fucked. Get help for yourself and leave that man so he can move on and be happy and not turned into a monster by someone who’s supposed to love him.
He’s on some pedo shit.
I’d do some digging, DEFINITELY. Snoop. Anything younger than 18 is literally illegal
And go to the police and leave his sorry nasty child liking ass.
Yes I have and yes that does happen.
Sounds like he is borderline pedophile to me… Any man that age who is turned on by 16, 17, 18 year old girls grosses me out.
Ewww, that’s creepy. 19 and younger?
Oh no honey.
You need to bounce. Fast.
Find a man for YOU. There’s 7 billion people here. Take the time to love your body and find your confidence… Then find a new man.
If he’s liking super young girls I’d be careful he’s practically a predator. Red flag in my book. I’m in my mid 30s and no guy I’m with better be looking at super young girls especially since I have daughters. F to the no!
27 is not old or even ‘older’. If your dude is into young girls…just break it off now. Choose a partner who makes you feel good about your self, not the opposite.
You should definitely check his phone
Walk away your better than that
He sounds like a pervert - get out - - - -
Are you kidding me your complaining that your small After antidepressants and stir roofs and childbirth I’m 200 lbs I wish I could be you. You lucky dog
I don’t think it’s your body that causing the insecurities but , the knowledge that he’s interested in teenagers. Nineteen is still considered teenager. If you find any pics on his phone of children I should hope you turn him in to the police and don’t go back. If your uncomfortable in the relationship ,there’s a reason for it. You know I your heart something is wrong. Tell him bye. Fir your own safety and peace of mind. God is telling you to leave. Do it.
How long have you been with him?? Do you know his history?? When you mention his name to people…are they shocked you’re with him?? Red flag to me by what I’ve read but he could be innocent of any wrongdoing. You need to find out asap
Umm are these girls under 18? What are the pictures, have you seen them? I’m wondering if he looks at other photos in his phone. Instead of questioning whether you should stay with him, you should be asking whether you should report him.