Hello! My husband and I are contemplating having a third. However I have a few questions. 1. How is going from 2 to 3? 2. Does it feel like 1 is left out?3. Does anyone have a pretty big gap? By the time we have a 3rd my daughter will be 6 and my son will be 4.5. How is that gap?
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Over 50 years ago. It felt like someone had dropped off an entire neighborhoods laundry. For a few days, I had to keep reminding myself where that third kid was. I needed to make formula and wash diapers and the baby was crying and the other two were hungry. I was crying too.I discovered that I wasnāt capable of handling 3 little kids. I got over that and had a lot of fun with themā¦as they drove me nuts.
That third girl is a treasureā¦
As are the two that preceeded her.
Going from 1 to 2 was the hardest. Still to this day remember it being brutal- there was a significant age gap (3 years). Going from 2 to 3 was a breeze, by then we had established a working routine. There was only 15 months between those too. Going from 3 to 4ā¦#4 just fell into place. Donāt get me wrong itās a lot of work just like any babies but a lot easier going from 2 to 3 than 1 to 2
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We just went from 2 to 3. Our children are 7, 4, 3 months old. The most challenging part has been my husband being gone for 18 months and being nowhere near family.
My 7yo is a huge help with baby, he chooses to help. My 4yo is nonverbal and he is also a big help. My 7yo and 4yo are similar but also so different. I ask if they want to help with anything I am doing. My oldest can stay up little later so we can have 1:1 time.
My 4yo gets 1:1 time as well and connection time during naptime (when he naps).
I love it, and want a 4th closer to baby 3.
I have 3 kids, and donāt understand why a kid has to be let outš¤·š»āāļø every kid has a personality, their needs and levels of affection and care are different, you treat them as person, as individuals. My kids are 21, 15, and 7, their personalities are different and their needs too. My oldest is shy, HGT, a very bright and close to nature kid, my 15 is a independent young strong willed woman, my youngest is in the autism spectrum and he is extrovert, a social butterfly, curious by nature and donāt have a filter. Having a big gap allowed me to learn and know them on a deeper level and to provide what they need from me as a parent. I keep fostering their relationship as they grow up, i remind them often about the siblingās love and unity, you can see them often learning about different things together. The oldest one is a senior in college and a role model for his younger siblings.
wonderful and of course constant mom guilt 
i always feel as i neglect one of the kidās because I help other. time management and organization and pre preparation night before because crucial. definitely chaos lol but i wouldnāt change for anything:)