I adore my mother in laws (I have two, my husbands mom and step mom). But I have to have privacy! My mother respects this as well. I’d make that clear as well that you are still a mother and wife, first and they’re your priority & your time with them is important.
Im sure there would be times when she would move to her other chidren , so dont panic, kawawa nman kung ng iisa na .
It wasn’t pleasant and it wasn’t awful either, but only stayed with us for a couple of months.
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Depends. If she is a monster or not
My mother lived in the same small town with her MIL for two years and said she was made to cry by day 3.
Not impossible to get her an apartment???..good luck to you either way, im afraid i couldnt cope
Sounds like u have a good relationship with her already so it might be ok
There is no home big enough for a mother in law and daughter in law. You find out A LOT MORE than you would EVER want to know about them. Do NOT allow yourself to be disrespected and set boundaries if it must happen. My/hubby experience was not a good one AT ALL. DON’T LET THEM GUILT YOU OR FOOT THEIR BILLS…its NOT appreciated…
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Set boundaries with your mother in law.
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I hate my soon to be ex mil she’s a narcissistic, meddling, control freak and a total bitch. She isn’t happy unless everyone is as miserable as she is.
My mil was a good person. I loved living with her. She was never upset or moody. She was a great conversstionalist.
Treat her just like you would treat your mother .
She sounds amazing send her this way I’ll adopt her
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Find her a boyfriend 
Get your own place and visit lol
Horrible do not do it!!!
This should be discussed with your husband. It’s his mother. Give it a try, your kids can benefit from just having her there. They can teach her English. Play games. Will give you a little freedom to see your friends. Don,t caste her away in an apartment alone. Give and you will receive,!
Treat her like your own mother
She’s 70+ more than likely and unfortunately she probably doesn’t have much time left. The best thing you could do is give her the best remaining years and make as many memories as possible take as many photos as you can with your family and her. Yeah there will be bumps and disagreements over stupid things but in the end she’s family and by the sounds of it you guys have a pretty good relationship if you’ve already lived together for 3-4m at a time every year. No relationship is perfect including with in laws. Just remember it’s your home and you have every right to let her know when she’s out of line and that you don’t like something she’s done. As for time with your husband if she’s still capable of taking care of herself and helping out with the kids maybe do dinner dates close to home with your husband that way you still get alone time.
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I hope all these people who are so negative about this have to spend their remaining years all alone when they get old. I’m sure she isn’t really excited about having to do this either. I like your answer Mandi M. You’ve got a kind, loving heart.
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Hell!!!
Avoid it if at all possible!!!
Not sure what houses are like there but the ideal solution would be to have her in her own space on the same section, so like someone suggested an RV maybe or if you can find a house with what we in new zealand call a ‘granny flat’ on the same section or yard that would be perfect 
she would have her own space and maintain her independence but still be nearby, 3 months is entirely different from indefinite. I couldn’t do it as I like my own space too much. But it all depends on your relationship with her
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Depends on each person. Everyone is different.
It just depends on the person. I honestly wouldn’t be bothered by it. Just don’t try to find the negatives and look for the positives and enjoy her while she’s here! It can be a beautiful thing or a annoyance and if you cant control that shes going to be living with you then your best bet is to try to make beauty out of this situation. You can still have alone time with your family, there’s plenty of ways. Hope it all goes well
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My MIL and I had an awesome relationship before my husband and I got married. We’ve lived with them for a while now to get on our feet and it has gone sour.
Every MIL is different. Set boundaries right off the jump when it comes to rules and discipline with the kids. Allowing alone time for you and the hubby. It’s all manageable.
My husband and I bought a house and my mom lives with us. It has been great. She always helps with the kids. We are able to make more time for dates and have live in babysitter when needed.
I lived with my mother-in-law for over a year and a half. We got along fine. I remembered that she had lived longer than me and might just know a bit more and I should be respectful. She re,embedded that I was the mother of my children and the boss of them. She’s a wonderful woman and I’m happy that I had that time with her.
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I had my father in law for 1 1/2 yrs, he was an angel to work with, loved him like my own father, I’d do it again. My husband had time with him when i went to store.
In this throw away world where we are sneered at if we don’t put the elderly in a home and shove the kids out the door as soon as possible, look at this as the last gift she will give your family. Not as a housekeeper but a storyteller, family record keeper, medical information. This will also show the children how important it is to stick together, how to treat with love and dignity. Wishing you all the best from a three generation household since 2006.
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It’s the same as when she was there before. If you get along then you will now. Don’t make her feel bad. Her life is short just enjoy her being with you. Sign her up for social security. She can get it or SSI. You will still find time alone with them. It’s really good she’s coming to live with you it’s great to still have time with her for the kids and all of you make great memories while she’s still here.
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Mother in law for 16 years , patience is a virtue!
Set boundaries now. Husband and you must stay on same accord.
Be patient. It is in God’s hands. It will all work out. Life is short. Enjoy your time together.
Give this lady some Advice my sweet Joseph
Is not easy believe me
Look at the positives she can help give you free time and enrich your lives. My MIL is moving in and we are excited at what she will add to our family.