Can you please share what your custody agreement looks like?I work 6am-3pm Mon-Fri for a remote position. My son’s dad does not work.Our son is 4, we’ve agreed on 50/50.
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50/50
Monday, wed and every other Friday. Tuesday Thursday and every other Friday
This allowed four day w\es
My son’s father and I have had a parenting plan since he was 5 months old and it has never changed in 11 years it’s probably outdated but whatever. he takes him every other weekend and we talk holidays out We really only go to our parenting plan if we get it into an argument which rarely never happens so if he wants an extra weekend I usually let him have it if I have nothing going on and if we want to switch weekends we do but if shit were to go down between us we just fall back onto the parenting plan and in our parenting plan it states that odd years he gets him for so-and-so holiday and even years I get him for so-and-so holidays but we never went by that and if he works on any holiday I get my son that whole holiday no matter how early he gets off work but like I said we never go by that we always talk to each other and work something out and usually he has always worked late every holiday so he’s never really gotten him on any holiday so if he wanted him on any for whichever one I would absolutely let him have him. Christmas would be hard for me to let him have him cuz I have four kids and he does have kids but he only gets his other daughter on the weekends that my son goes so I think his parenting plan with his daughters mother is pretty much same as mine. Tho his family has always done their Xmas things Christmas Eve so he just brings him home that night. Though if you truly wanted him for Christmas and gave me a great heads up about it I honestly would let him have him on Christmas because he’s never had him Christmas day and he also deserves that. also in the summer he can takes him more days and during hunting season I usually let him have him every weekend so they can try to fill their tags and Christmas break he usually gets more time also but We weren’t always like this We had to get a parenting plan because shit went down when he was 5 months old and he didn’t give him back to me when he was supposed to so that’s why we got the parenting plan but we learn to communicate and put our son’s needs first before our pettiness and we really have a great thing going on and parenting plan is just fall back and I think I can also speak for him when I say it fabulous what we got going on. Also one of the big reasons I got the main custody was I was a stay-at-home mom he worked in at the time we lived an hour and a half away from each other and when we went to court he did want to switch off every week but they thought that would be too unstable for our son. So after court we went to mediation and we worked out the plan that we had and it more worked in my favor because what I put in the parenting plan I want was more realistic than what he put in his when we first petitioned for it and just make sure when you do this think of what is right for the kid think of school and think of how stable his life could be.
my nephew goes with his dad every weekend and it’s not that good of a schedule it’s not that stable for him because his dad completely spoils him and just doesn’t set boundaries and so every week when my sister gets my nephew back he constantly throws fits hits my children his brother yells at my sister and completely lies right to our faces We will see what’s going on and he will say that his brother is hitting him and we can clearly see that it didn’t happen and he will still try to lie and it’s cuz his dad and his girlfriend are huge liars and we have told his father how bad it affects him but he just keeps doing the same things when he has him and I know my sister teaches her kids great values and so we know that all of his behavior problems are from his father and when my nephew starts finally getting back in the groove of living with his Mom and not throwing tantrums and starts behaving he’s shipped back with Dads And then come Sunday we have to deal with it again. It’s bullshit and this all happened cuz he lied to his lawyer about shit and when we sent his lawyer some evidence of how big of a liar he was she dropped him and I think she regretted helping him get what he wanted.
Before deciding on a custody agreement, I would think about where you both live relation to one another. If your child is 4, school will be starting soon and you’re going to want to consider where he’s going to school.
I work mon-fri 7:30-3:30.My son with me wed morning tell sun afternoon then dads sun after tell wed morning. When its a parents or one of his siblings bdays, he stays at that house. Mothers day with me, fathers day with him. Xmas we alternate, 1 year xmas eve with someone then xmas day with other, then switch the next year. All his sports fees are suppose to be split 50/50.