What should I do about what I found on my husbands phone?

Talk to him about it.

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If it was me I would send the information to myself and all the proof and then file for divorce. That’s sad and I’m sorry you’re going through this. To me, if he is hiding something like this now, he always will and I wouldn’t be able to trust him anymore.

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Create one and scam him

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Take a pic of all the info you can. If this has been going on for a long time, even for a short time, I would try to contain my anger and ask him WTF is going on. Stay cool and the less said on your end, the better.

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Send it to yourself then get him hype all day that you got a suprise for him after work and make it seem exciting then leave a big printed copy of it on the door and leave… take everything of yours and be done with his nasty ass self… like the fact he even out " widow" like how f^cked…

What Carrie underwood said :sunglasses::sunglasses:

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Leave him! Widowed? Lol… these men are so confused :roll_eyes:

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I’d pack my shit & file for a divorce.

I’d be most angry over the “widow” part! He offed you!

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When my husband started cheating sites and chat apps I figured out his log in info and logged in on my phone and I was able to see everything he sent her and what she sent him ( no I did not look at pictures I was mainly wanting to know what was being said) so when he goes in the other room or even at work I knew what he was doing and then I bring it to his attention but as the years went on he got smarter about it but I eventually figure it out but I told him a month ago that it better not happen again because I’m so tired of dealing with crap and I’m not crying anymore I will put his crap out side and burn it and so far he stopped but for how long🤷🏻‍♀️

I’d confront him and don’t let him lie his way out of it.

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Keep tabs on it. Screenshot it, send it to yourself for proof when he denies. Also, make sure to leave him because he’s obviously a “widow” show em how dead you can be.:skull::skull::rofl:

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I’d take some pictures with my phone and then just tell him he can change his status to divorced on “website” and leave or make him leave. Especially if it’s a ton of chick’s and has been going on for awhile

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Confront him and kick him out

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Text him when did you become a widow?

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Leave the idiot and find a good man.

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I’d leave the email open so it’s the first thing he sees when he wakes up. Keep his ass sweating all day. Then only refer to him and big…name.

Make yourself a widow and unalive him. JK no real advice but wishing you luck with whatever steps you decide to take…

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I’d confront him and get the hell outta dodge make sure and take what’s yours in the bank and all legal documentation I’d also take screen shots of all of that and file for divorce if married. There’s no way that will ever change and you will never trust him and will resent him continuously so go ahead and save yourself I dealt with it for a decade definitely a waste of time on a POS.

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Sounds like a escort site run girl my ex used to get caught up doing this constantly til I got fed up it’s disrespectful and disgusting towards you

Leave asap! It will be heat breaking .he won’t change…

Tell him that’s not acceptable as a SO… would he be happy if you were doing it? I’m sorry but for all you people are there like oh keep tabs on and stuff, f*** that s***, he’s obviously not your “one” :frowning: stop lying to yourself. I dealt with mine for 6 years, left him once and tried to give him a second chance and he fathered her daughter for my friend. So you all need to leave yours now before it’s too late because you’re a stepping mat

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I would confront him with divorce papers

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Wake up and divorce his ass. I wouldn’t be waiting for anything else to happen

If he’s on dating sites you need to get out of that marriage. I just went through this with my soon to be ex husband. If there is one site there are more…

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Leave his alarm alone so you don’t have to snoop on his phone nosey

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I’m also giving the advice to divorce, but save the evidence. Take screenshots. It is very unlikely to change. I caught my ex husband doing similar things on his phone as well as messaging women he new before me. He agreed to stop and let me check his phone. Well that didn’t change his desire for other women. Instead of looking elsewhere online, he went straight to physically cheating. It was heartbreaking and disgusting to smell perfume that I didn’t wear when we went to bed. Bottom line, e has a cheating mentality. He doesn’t respect you enough not to stray.

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I went through a divorce because of a very similar situation along with a list of other things. But it starts like this and it gets much worse!

Wow! He is a widow? That should make you worried. You better get out before he makes that come true.

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I would confront his ass with it.

Consider a few things. How long have you been married yet. Is it long enough to file alimony in your state. If it has, file for divorce, serve him with eviction papers to move out from his own house (this is how you legally do it). Put his shit in the front yard, change all the locks. Let him know your serious and see if he will change. Most likely it won’t, it only gets worse. He’ll end up hiring an escort and paying hotel with both your money for this escort service as well. So to save yourself from all this pain, divorce him and kick him out.

Get all financial done, make plans to leave, then pack your bags. Walk out that door.

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Take screenshots (so he can’t deactivate/delete) and confront him with divorce papers in hand.

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I’m petty. I’d take a screen shot of the nude girl and save it as his background on his phone, not set his alarms and put my phone on airplane mode all day so he couldn’t contact me😎 lol
But for real momma, so sorry you’re going through this. I’d do as others said and save to your phone for evidence and talk to him about it. That’s disrespectful AF. Especially saying he’s widowed

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I would share screenshots with a couple of trusted friends or relatives. I’m concerned that he’s calling himself a “widow” when in fact, he’s not.

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Don’t let the door knob hit you in the rear on your way out.

Take some time to process this all and then talk to him when you have a better handle on you. It’s possible that this may end your marriage. Cover yourself first.

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Take a picture of all of it with your phone and go to the divorce lawyer!

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I went through something very similar with my ex husband. It isn’t what caused our divorce, but I’ll tell you that I was never attracted to him sexually afterwards. Even if you can get past it and forgive, something to keep in mind. Personally I wished I filed for divorce when I found out he liked escorts.

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I wouldn’t say anything and get everything leave then divorce!

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Take pictures he can always delete. I would definitely be having a conversation with him. Better yet I would join whatever it is and send him a naked picture. I bet then he has something to say

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evryone is saying divorce but if he still loves her and she feels love and is happy so maybe tlk first get couples counseling my husband did thisand i found out we talked and he said he loves me and it means nothing i told him it hurt me amd we went to couples counseling after 20 years we still happily married

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I would strategize to find a way to save money and leave. I would hv taken a picture of it, hopefully you did. He obviously does not respect you or love you, he has been degrading and disrespecting you for a long time and even said your "dead’. WTF wow, you need to figure out what ur going to do and do it. You need to leave. First, I would get access to all his accounts, if your not already, take his money and leave his ass. He won’t be able to do anything especially if your name is on bank accounts. Then file for divorce and leave.

Show Big —— the door!

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Have a rational conversation with him. Let him know what happened and tell him you have questions. Don’t be accusatory or hostile. Be calm and concerned. You are more likely to get answers and honesty this way. Consider that he might have a porn addiction that would require therapy. I suggest couples therapy if you decide to stay with him. Tell him how it makes you feel and what it makes you think.

He’s cheating. Now you have to decide if you can forgive cheating. I would’ve left already. And made sure I took money out of the accounts to cover my needs before saying anything. A cornered animal can be vicious. He’s not thinking about you at all in this. So now think about yourself. Good luck!

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YOU NEED TO TAKE SCREENSHOTS OF WHAT YOU SAW TO BE PREPARED
Before you confront him you should download a spyware on his phone like p c tattletale
it only takes a few minutes and he wont know its even there …but it will show you coversations, deleted ones, videos, date sites
you need to know how far he has gone with this or if he has met any of them before you say anything to him
Then you can plan your future and your exit if need be
Good luck

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Firstly I would suggest you take some time for yourself to process it all & decide for yourself what you are going to do, the internet and listening to advice from others is all & well but you are the person that may stay committed to your husband. All I’m going to say is Once a cheat always a cheat if someone loves you that wouldn’t behave like that.

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Make copies of all, and then walk!

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Screenshot the email. Get a lawyer and file for a divorce. If y’all didn’t sign a prenup, take everything he has. He doesn’t deserve anything.

And also for him to claim that he’s a “widow” makes it more disturbing. Sounds like he’s got a plan for you and it’s not a good one. Please leave, before something bad happens to you.

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Bring it up to him. Ask him why? Then see if there’s a solution. If not or if he’s not interested in fixing it. Unfortunately it’s probably time to go.

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Sex/porn addict? This is is serious crap.

Tell him that if he isn’t happy to save you both the trouble and be honest now so that you can move on

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I might deal with the nudes but when it said widower I would pack his clothes. Put the screen shots on his bag I set outside the door. Over & done… I would never be his wife again.

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When you say a girl, do you mean a woman?

Get a lawyer asap. Kick him out

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I for one could not be ok with that it would always make me feel less.

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Uhm call him out! That’s unacceptable. Aside from being inappropriate, for most that is considered infidelity. Call him out, tell him you know. Confront the situation head on. Then after that, you need to decide if you can move past it, whether he will stop or not, and if not what your next move is.

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There would have been no peace in the house that day because I was addressing it one time. He unalive you in his profile. Things would have been flying, voices would have be raised and someone wounded.

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Leave him, this will never end and he won’t change. Especially the widow part WOW. He’s cheating the, it’s over

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Most states are No-Fault states so taking screenshots or showing proof of infidelity is a waste of time unless the infidelity is taking money (large amounts) away from the marital residence.

Go online, find the paperwork and file for divorce. Once it says widow as a relationship status, there’s no sense in fighting for a marriage when the other spouse has already claimed you as dead.

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Well I think you have to end the relationship which is hard because obviously you weren’t aware he already did. It’s the same scenario as cheating (for me personally). He is investing in and searching for gratification from someone else. It may take you some time to digest this because you were just living your life unaware. But you will find your way. Be gentle with yourself. I hope you have a support system or a really good friend to chat with. I’m so so sorry this has happened to you.

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The writing is on the wall, or his phone, more accurately. Dont believe any lies or gaslighting and decide what you want to do. Just know that he’s not faithful.

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Just come right out and ask him

Be careful I have heard of men telling other women that they were a widow, and it wasn’t long before they made themselves one…

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Be careful I have heard of men telling other women that they were a widow, and it wasn’t long before they made themselves one…

Pack his things and kick him to the curb. You deserve better.

If he wants to act single then, he can be single. Don’t give any chances. His an adult and can live with he consequences of his actions.

Also send her proof to your phone as you can use it in court to prove that you have a good ‘reason’ for divorce.

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Get those screen shots for your lawyer and bounce.

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Are you serious
The marriage is dead

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Set up your own account with username the widow. Then message him on it.

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time to lay it all out and have a talk and go from there

I would say to him, “ since I’m DEAD, do your own fucken laundry, cook for yourself, wake yourself up for work. “,

Marriage and trust long gone with him saying your dead. Kick him out.

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Well if it were me I’d make it really easy for him to pretend to be a widower. Super easy to pretend when you’re single! Then he can play pretend with whomever he likes and it’s no longer your problem.

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Message him on the website… string him along. After he sends you a picture, send him one of you !!!

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From experience, it’s not something that can be forgotten easily. You need to weigh the options. Is it worth living with this, or is it worth starting over? Save your evidence for when you confront him and prepare for a lot of lies, gaslighting, and blame on you. Remember NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT IN ANY WAY!!! It’s not something most relationships can come back from.

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You have the evidence. You need to decide how to proceed. Do you want to leave? Do you want to see if he’ll admit his wrongdoing and try therapy?

At the very least, make an appointment with a family lawyer. The initial consultation is usually free. Then you’ll have a better idea of what leaving entails.

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I would say he is looking for something he isn’t getting from you. I would talk to him about it. He probably thought he’d get more girls to message him if he said he’s widowed. I can even see a possibility of him saying that because if he never plans on meeting anyone, he doesn’t have to worry about you two ever meeting and I bet more women would send them if they think there’s no chance of you “finding out”. Give him a chance to explain.

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Confront him. Find out what’s going on. Then think about y’all’s future. Or at least your future.

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Move on he will only bring you pain and anxiety once trust is gone yeah you confront him he’s just going to lie he will tell you anything you want to hear and he will keep doing what he’s doing take it from someone who knows

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Throw the whole man away. Gonna have to at least separate and go to counseling if he’s worth it… he’s gotta learn and realize he’s wrong.

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