What should I do with my name?

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I’m getting married soon and can’t figure out what to do with my middle nameI was going to just have first and last but I’m from the south and we like our initials monogrammed on everything :rofl:I’d rather not have any ties to my first husband or his family BUT my children do have their last name until soon to be husband adopts them

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Keep parent given first and middle. Change your last name, that’s what I would do.

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i changed my middle name after i got divorced but it was the same initial .

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Just use your given first and middle name your parents gifted you with. Change only your last name to your new husbands. Worked for me!

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Unsure of why you’d change your middle name? Just keep your first and middle then change your last name, like you’d do if it was the first time you’re getting married.

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Your birth names u keep and only change last name…I hadn’t never heard of changing middle…
Do you mean keep ex last name and just add new man’s last name too??

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Drop the ex last name, if there are plans for new husband to adopt. If he adopts they can take name of new husband, but their bio dad has to drop rights for that to happen and a judge has to be willing to let that happen. Been in that same situation, but a judge actually signed for ours.

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What if it doesn’t work out with the new person? Give it time before trying to change names if you all aren’t even married yet.

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Drop first husband last name, I did

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I don’t understand. What does your middle name have to do with your married last name?

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I’m so confused. Are you asking if you should make your current last name a middle name? I’ve never heard of changing your middle name when getting married.

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I dropped my middle name, chose to keep my ex’s last name because it is my daughter’s last name and added my new husband’s last name. I don’t feel like when I take her to doctor’s appointment etc… To say if I am married, divorce etc…my business! My daughter is loved! By the way…the divorce happened when she was 10. She is now 22. No regrets! Follow your heart and do what is best for you and your family.

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I’m lost here… Why does your middle name have anything to do with your first husband…? It’s the name your parents gave you.