My Bonus daughter is moving out in 2months to start her life as an adult. Very proud of her b/c she’s definitely going places. My husband & I are disagreeing in what to do with her room. We still have 2 kids under 15. The teen still at home is currently in a very very small room-When we moved in it was a little bigger then the average walk in closet but she was glad to have her own space. Bonus daughter’s normal size room is not going to be occupied by anyone but she wants us to leave her room alone & she will come & get her things when she can but we don’t know how long that will be b/c she’s moving in with family out of state for school & has no place to put in. She’s not even open to moving her things to the smaller room our other teen is in. My husband doesn’t want to the argument with our girl moving but I don’t think this plan makes any sense & I feel it’s very rude to tell our home teen she has to stay in a tiny room when another larger room is right across the hall. Is this something you guys would stand your ground on or do I tell our home teen she can’t have the bigger room?
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I would give the one in the home the larger room and move the other one’s to the smaller room.
I would tell her to pack up all her things,moved them to another area and use the other room however you see fit. She doesn’t pay the bills and will be storing her things for free so she doesn’t get the say so when it comes to the area she is vacating.
I’d stand my ground. The kid, who is still living there, and is still a minor gets the bigger room. The adult who is out on her own is welcome to keep her stuff there but it needs to be packed away and stored in the smaller room
I’d give the room to my teen living at home.
The one moving out needs to pack her things and store it in the smaller room. The one living in the home should have the bigger room. A child, let alone a child no longer living in the home has ZERO say in how things are done.
I would let the 15 year old move into the bigger room. Bonus daughters stuff can be in the smaller room. Very selfish of the older girl.
It’s not your stuff to touch
Wait just a little time he’s probably a little sad to think of his baby girl leaving maybe a month or two after the big move bring it up and move the rooms
Move the stuff. She will be okay. Might be a little mad but just arrange everything nicely in the smaller room. That’s how it’s supposed to be as kids grow up and move out.
Definitely give her the bigger room. You’re other daughter has to understand that your younger daughter deserves the bigger space now that she isn’t occupying it. It’s unfair to force her to stay in the little room.
Move her stuff into the smaller room … give the other teen the bigger room that is what we are doing when are oldest daughter moves out in about 6 months
Sounds kind of unfair why can’t the older daughter store her stuff in the smaller room and let her sister have the bigger one? Seems a bit selfish and I feel bad for the younger sister. Stand your ground mama I would. 
Definitely switch rooms the smaller Room can be storage.
If your teen isn’t complaining about the small space, I would leave it be, but let your bonus daughter know that after xx period of time if the teen would like to move into that room, that you will be switching the stuff around. I wouldn’t cause an argument if everyone is fine with current arrangement, but let them know it will change if teen decides she wants a larger room.
I have many children 5 all girls and some live out of state with their mom. We moved our full time at home girls to the bigger rooms because they are there all the time and the bonus kids in to the smaller rooms because they don’t have as much stuff at our house. It took a good talking to and discussion and the understanding that I’m sorry your feelings are hurt but we need to try and be accommodating for the girls who need homework desks and such in their rooms. Just have an understanding made. And as always good luck because it’s never easy hurting feeling
Id say if she moved out, then she needs to get her shit out. And dont forget its the parents house, parents rules, if this girl moved out, she has no say in her room anymore. And her stuff should be packed up and moved somewhere else to have another child take that room.
I would most definitely give the larger room to the teen that’s actually living there. This is part of growing up and moving on. She can either pack her things up or tell her you guys will then and she might not like how that is done. If she declines then pack it all up and change the rooms around.
I would switch the rooms immediately and move the things into the garage and make use out of that small room as well
Omg swap rooms. You’re being nice to even keep a room for her to being with…
Currently our 18 year old preparing to leave in August for dorm life at college. It was her idea to move rooms with her younger 14 year old brother. As her room is twice the size of his and she’ll only be home on weekends. My opinion is rooms should be switched.
Move her things to the smaller room and go from there. Be fair to the next in line
My dd bought a house and was slowly moving in. She had a room here and of course her house and her brother was staying in his smaller room. Finally I said okay, time to move, you don’t get a big bedroom in both places. Moved her stuff out (most of it anyway) and moved son into bigger room.
I would pack all her things nicely in labeled bins (easier to find when she’s grabbing things) and make sure to take extra care but if she’s not going to be there then why save the room when your other kiddo is in a large walk in closet? Doesn’t make sense to me…
She doesn’t pay towards their household I assume? So she has no say in this as far as I’m concerned, especially as she won’t even be there it’s ridiculous.
Move her things to smaller room.
I’d switch rooms & let the live in teen get the bigger room.
I’d give her the bigger room and use her old room as storage.
I’d put the kids stuff who is moving out in the smaller room .
Tell her when she pays the mortgage she can determine what happens with the room you pay for not her. In my house thats my room you just stay in it. I pay so I make the rules bottom line.
i would give the teen the bigger room
She no longer lives there, therefore her big room is not hers anymore 
Move her stuff to the other room.
My daughter just moved out, my son was like hey mom can I switch rooms, I was like sure…he neatly and carefully packed up her room and switched. I never even thought to discuss it with anyone…my daughter did rant to me and had an attitude for all of 20 minutes but I just let her get off her chest and didn’t speak on the matter anymore.
Pack it up nicely after she leaves and let the 15 year old have the room
I’d move stuff 2 smaller room
The larger room goes to the child still living at home. The smaller room then becomes an office or other useful space. I would move the stored items to a garage or shed if possible. If one of those aren’t available, storage units are everywhere. One that fits the contents of a bedroom wouldn’t cost that much per month.
When she leaves put her things in the smaller room and give your home teen the bigger room.
The one at home would get the room if this was my situation
Did the other teen ask for the room? If she wants it I think this would be a very fine time to show her how to be kind but firm🤷♀️
Put her stuff in the teens room and put the teen in her room
Your the parent and the owners of that house grow some balls and put her stuff in storage
Move the younger sister to the bigger room! Tell the older sister to stop asking entitled, and Dad needs to allow his younger daughter to have more space too!
Pack her things neatly and turn the smaller room into a guest bedroom for when she needs a place
Stand your fucking ground. That kid DESERVES that room
She is moving out and you’re doing her a favor by storing her items for when she is ready for them. Let your other daughter move into the bigger room and move the other items to the other room or explain she can pay for a storage unit instead. It’s ok to put your foot down.
It’s your home first and foremost and I would t say anything to her now but after she moves box her things up and swap rooms. It’s not a big deal and if you need that other space for something else than move her stuff into a storage unit or in the garage or attic. Maybe she’s hesitant to move her things bc she’s not sure how it will all pan out for her and wants somewhere to come back to that’s hers. Jmo
Move rooms, shes going off to school to become an adult. Not fair to the one who IS still at home.
If she really wants to be/act like an adult she will understand that the other teen deserves the bigger room since they are STILL living at home.
You can make a nice space in the other room when she comes to visit. Id pack all her stuff up nicely in boxes with good labels for when she needs things!
Absolutely, let the 15 year old have the larger room, use the smaller room for storage.
It’s a no brained for that room to be used as best it can for the family members LIVING there!!!
The teen at home should get the bigger room. The older child has had the big room up until now, now it is the other child’s turn. Just make sure there is space for the older one to come home to visit/summer etc. I would have them move before they leave, so they can take care of their stuff.
let her have it pack the others stuff (LET HER KNOW U NEED THE SPACE) and store her stuff she should understand it
Your child still living home should get the bigger room. That’s not very fair and kind of selfish to expect them to stay in a cramped space. If she isn’t there she doesn’t get a say lol
Move her things to small room and tell her to be grateful that she not paying a storage fee
Who pays the mortgage? Is college kid paying storage rent? Her things should be moved to the smaller room
I agree with you, her stuff needs to be moved. She could be paying for a storage unit
Change,rooms. Daughter will understand the reasoning… after sulking for a short while
Let the child at home move into the bigger room
Set up smaller room for older child’s visits home
I agree with everyone why let the one teen who is moving out keep her space if she will no longer need it but for short periods of time when she comes and visits it’s not fair to there siblings
Move older child’s stuff into the smaller room and give the older teen who still lives with you the bigger room. It’s not really fair to let someone who doesn’t live there occupy the biggest room 
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Older teen will get over it
Definitely give the 15 year old the bigger room. If your daughter complains, let her. I wouldn’t even listen to it.
Move the other kid in her old room & set the open room up for guests or when she visits. We did this when my older girl moved to New York & the next one went to college. They have a room available gmfor when they visit or when school is out. They didn’t mind if their younger siblings switched rooms with them.
Who pays the bills? You and your husband or the bonus daughter? There’s your answer.
Nope, daughter who is leaving gets her stuff moved to small room and living in home teen gets to move to big room. That is beyond unfair. Stand your ground and let your teen have the actual space they deserve now.
Does the teen still at home want to leave her room? As in has she requested it or was it your idea? If she has then I’d simply back the other girls stuff in boxes and switch the rooms around. Her father should understand and there should be no issue since those girls still live at home.
Sorry but why is this even a question, the one who lives at home gets the bigger room. You need to give the bonus daughter the option to come pack her things to be moved to the smaller room( in case there are personal things she don’t want you to see) or tell her that you will pack her things and move them to the other room. Yes stand your ground and switch the rooms!
15 year lives there and she doesn’t, so she doesn’t get a say.
Have her pack all her stuff and switch rooms before she goes. That way she knows where everything is when she returns for it. If she comes back and everything is moved, she will be devastated. Make it clear now that her room is being switched out.
I wouldn’t give the child moving out an option, she is an adult and moving out. By rights the teen at home should get the upgrade.
When the adult moves you pack her stuff up, nicely so nothing gets broken, and move it all into the kettle room. She wants to be an adult and that’s part of adulting is getting kicked out of your room and moved to a smaller one. JS
That’s ridiculously rude and completely selfish of your bonus daughter. She shouldn’t have a say, if she doesn’t want to move her stuff to the tiny room then she can always rent a storage locker and pay for that on her own. I find it completely unacceptable and unreasonable that she expects to keep her current room while not even living there when the space is needed for another child. Mind blown 
Oh wow I agree with you. Move her stuff to the smaller room. Let her know that IN the event she should move home she can have her room back, but for now it goes to the other kid who’s in the closet
Teen should get bigger room.
The one left at home should get the room and if it’s alright with you guys to move her belongings to the tiny room
Switch the rooms, it’s being treated as a storage unit.
teen definitely to the bigger room…
There’s no way. That’s like saying her belongings are more important than the younger daughter. That’s how I’d feel if I were here. I’d make a day of picking out paint and stuff for that room and do it. She’ll get over it.
Change rooms, your house your rules, also could be kind and offer to pay a storage where she is moving for a few months to make it easier on her and thus opening both rooms up for proper use
When I moved out of my moms house my sister moved into my room because it was bigger she’s not living there anymore. She should have her things moved to the smaller room to be stored until she needs them
When she pays the bills she can decide what happens in the house move the teens into her room and put her stuff in the small room
Smaller room, and if something happens and she comes back, she gets the smaller room. At least its a roof over her head
Who’s the parent here 
. One of them is obviously going to be upset so make your decision
Switch rooms Put all of your daughters things in the smaller room.
My oldest daughter knows when she leaves her room gets passed down. They all know they can come home anytime. Butttt they don’t have a choice in their space they get what’s available🤷🏻♀️
The child leaving gets things stored in the smaller room. It’s not fair to the 15 yr old!
Yep home teen goes to bigger room, it’s like a right of passage. This is how it works, moving daughter acting spoiled. Life keeps moving with or without us.
May your man sleep in that room 
The teen at home would get the bigger room! I would not stand for the daughter leaving to call the shots your moving out your stuff can be stored in the smaller room !!! End of story!! That to me is being selfish and being allowed to do it!!
Move the teen at home into the larger room!
Older one needs to pack her things and move it across the hall. Next eldest gets the bigger room. No reason to claim a room you no longer live in and you guys pay the bills and make the decisions
Let her move then move her stuff into the smaller room and give the bigger room to the at home teen. No reason to start an argument before she leaves. And then tell her once it’s all done. Let her “steam it out” away from your house. Things will blow over eventually.
Move teen in larger room! Put all belongings of bonus daughter in smaller room! As long as none of her stuff comes up missing or broken then whatever you say goes! She has no say! Unless she pays rent, then do whats best for ur teen!
There’s no option at gome child to bigger room pack up child’s things and store un small room.
Your husband cannot be serious?!?! Your 14 year old will be in the home for a minimum of 4 more years and has patiently waited with her tiny little closet sized bedroom. The spoiled rotten older kiddo is moving out. Either she can pack her shit and move it into the closet room, or you can pack her shit and move it. Those are the only 2 options here. No in between. Your older kiddo and your husband are both straight up delusional. It is your job to do what is best for your kiddos and to show them that they are EQUALLY loved. If I were you, I would start packing her shit TODAY and move it into the closet room immediately regardless of what they have to say.
My youngest had our smallest room. The day our oldest left for college, he immediately started moving into the big room. When my oldest comes home for summer break, he gets the tiny room. He says it sucks, but he understands
I say it’s your home do as you please. If she doesn’t want her stuff stored in the smaller room offer to rent a storage unit for the. First 3 months and tell her after that it’s up to her to either pay the storage or move her stuff out of the storage. Why should your daughter that’s still at home not get the bigger room why does she feel entitled to leave it empty. Also I’d make it clear that once she moves out and your daughter moves in the bigger room that if she decides to come back home her only option will be the smaller room
I would have your bonus daughter box all her stuff before she moves and move it to the other room if she doesn’t want anyone touching her stuff. I wouldn’t be leaving her room with everything in it especially when your other child is in a small room
Okay let me stop you right there ma’am. Who pays the bills and who are the parents in this whole thing? Carry on smh
Pack her stuff, put it in the garage and next oldest gets the bigger room. She’s moving. Not her house. Not her rules.
Absolutely not if my daughter moves out to be an adult she is taking all of her stuff with her. That room needs to go to the teen and either tell her to come get her stuff or you put it in the other room as a storage room
Hell no. Material possessions are not more important than your home teen. One of the most exciting things for kids, is to get the room that their sibling has moved out of. No question, you are right. Husband needs to get on board.