I left as soon as I found out. For better or worse my ass. No forgiveness. If you have kids, even worse if you stick around. Leading by terrible example of what love is about. Set up a parenting plan and waaaaaaaalk away
Keep the knowledge to yourself and leave when you have had a chance to think about things and make plans.
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Call a lawyer and collect all the solid evidence don’t make any split second decisions. Find out your rights and legal advice write down your options and when you’re a bit less emotionally driven make a rational decision. I am so sorry to hear this. Head up you got this girl 
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Take screen shots/pictures of the messages and pin. Need to document all the evidence you can. Then get a good lawyer.
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Throw out the whole man, do it silently. Get your stuff and thoughts together, get a lawyer and serve his bitch ass with papers.
Don’t let on like you know it’s happening.
Let it be a nice expensive surprise for him paying all the legal fees and whatnot.
. Send copies of the text to your phone.
. If you have shared accounts- call the bank and ask for it to be locked down or move all the money out and into a new account
. Pack his bags and change the locks
. Go see a lawyer, to see what your rights are, file for divorce
. Take him for everything he has
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Get rid of the moron & your friend
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Gather up your bail money
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If you’re married this needs to come out in court and you need proof. If show up to where he is and video it. But that’s just me. Also save all the messages and email them to yourself. I’m very sorry you’re going thru this. You deserve better. Do not let his treatment of you effect your mindset on your own value. It is truly just a reflection of him. Someone will love you correctly. I’m so sorry hugs
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Definitely make sure you have your money in a separate account and any money that is y’alls pull it out too
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Pack leave send divorce papers
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Don’t leave, it’s abandonment of property. Consult an attorney.
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Never trust again. Once you break that chain there is no turning back.
Record correspondence and seek a solicitor.
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Go see an attorney and divorce that selfish idiot. U deserve better than that.
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Catch him and document everything to show proof while he doesn’t know you know.
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Call the lock smith to come change the locks immediately, take the money, call a lawyer. Don’t talk him ever again except about the kids when needed
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I don’t understand why everyone says take ALL the money.
Cheating is horrible, heartbreaking & nasty.
But… you really believe that your entitled to every cent ?
What if you cheated and he took all his money and YOUR money that you worked for and locked you out of the house with nothing and took the kids.
Do you really think you would be okay with that… I doubt it.
If you’re married, you’ll get half and probably a more in the divorce anyway. But if you go and take literally everything I’m not sure how that will work out for you in the long run. Actually I do know - they’ll calculate what was in the shared account and everything will be half. Spent it ? Still have to give him half.
I would tell him to stay out a few days for sure. But change the locks ? No. He can call the police to get back in if he wants - believe me I know.
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I’m so sorry! You deserve better, let them 2 losers have each other!
Don’t go there or say anything! Girl pack your stuff and leave without a word. And get those divorce papers rolling and live your life for you!
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Go over there, ask for your husband back. Or don’t- bring his bags over & say you can have him
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Go knock on the door
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Save yourself all the drama, BS lies that will come, the heartbreak is already there. You dont have to say a word, walk away.
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Call a lawyer and change the locks! Can’t be fixed and it won’t ever end!!
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Remain rational and explain to him that you know he’s cheating and file for divorce.
That’s the logical answer.
Now what I would do? Girlllllllllllllllll……… my car would be doing 90 in a 30 and I’d be parked in that front lawn so fast.
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Everyone telling you to be quite…. Yeah it makes sense to get what you can done before dragging all this craziness out and fighting… but if you are anything like me… just being near the guy would be way to hard! I’d be yelling the minute I saw him! Definitely keep the phone! Screenshot everything and send it to yourself and or email it to yourself for back up! That alone can help in court plenty as some states actually don’t take cheating in a marriage lightly from what I’ve heard. Message me if you need to vent our or anything! Been there done that! Hang in there 
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Don’t say anything to him right now, try to get level headed and think if your plan. Than once you have a plan, than confront him and leave. If you have children maybe see if they can go to a friend’s or something while you guys fight so they are not present. I can’t imagine how hurt you feel but try to remain level headed and remember you have children who hear and see everything. Good luck, I hope you find happiness with someone else later on when the time is right.
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Honestly I would pack his things and set them outside and just be done with him you don’t even need to give him a reason obviously he’s not committed to you and arguing with him is only going to upset you more
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So very sorry. Kinda like a death with grief. Wishing you the putting the pieces of your life back and very soon
Dump some clothes outside for him and change the locks. Ring an attorney first thing in the morning.
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She is definitely not your friend. Divorce him and take it all.
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I’d have a locksmith come out to change those locks, transfer my money to a different account, and all his crap would be on the front lawn by the time he came back home. 
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Keep everything. The screen shots. That phone. Time and date stamps. Go get your bank accounts separated.
Find a GOOD lawyer. Then go file for a divorce.
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pack his shit and bring it over there
I’d definitely pack his stuff up and be on my way to drop it off at her house!
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If you want to keep the house, pack his bags and drop them off to him in her front yard. If not pack your stuff and just leave.
And. She IS NOT your friend.
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If you have somewhere to go pack and leave and leave the phone you found on the counter for him. Then go back for the rest of your stuff when he’s not home
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I’m so sorry.Put his clothes outside and kick him out!
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Put his stuff outside with a “for sale” sign🤷♀️
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Document everything that could be proof and file for divorce? Whatever you do don’t go over there
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He will lie, gaslight and try to turn it onto you for snooping. IGNORE THAT SHIT.
Oh and message the “friend” with “thanks for being such a good friend by taking the lying piece of shit off my hands. And his GP just emailed that his Viagra prescription is ready to pick up”
Go withdrawal all of your money out of your shared account, do it tonight if possible. If you have children take them to the grandparents or other family before you confront him.I’ve been here and it’s terrible!!! I was married for 30 years and divorced due to similar circumstances. NEVER let him know how hurt you really are. Men tend to feed off of the drama. Find a good support person. If you choose to go back then please give yourself some time and make him come begging. Never beg him to stay with you. I’m sorry you are dealing with this but life does get better.
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I wouldn’t be going to Facebook ….I’d be pulling up….SURPRISE YOU BOTH SHOULD BE SCARED 
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Kick him out all his possessions on the front lawn
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Dump all his 
on her lawn and change your locks.
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It’s been 4 hours!! What did you do!!??
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Get your proof while you can. Keep quiet for as long as u can while u save and prepare, if your planning to leave. Remain calm. I know its stressful and it hurts and makes you angry, been there. Just remember to think rationally. It’ll make a difference in the end. He’s going to lie and try to cover his butt. There will be excuses and he may even try blaming you, Once u confront him. Save all the messages to your phone. Maybe even print them off. Judge can look at them if it goes that far.
You know your personal story better than anyone on Facebook. Think this out carefully. A rush could be your down fall.Number 1.Know she is not a friend in any stretch of the imagination. Forget about her.Then,decide if this relationship is worth trying to save.If not,prepare daily to go.At this point your main concern is you.Are children involved??You must carefully and rationally make a decision.Simmer down and look at your overall situation.You will come up with the right answer.Ask God for his guidance in all this.You cannot try to get even with them.They are playing in the devils workshop.They are not for one moment concerning their self about YOU.So you must take care of you.Good Luck.I know this is painful.
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Make a financial plan and then leave him
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Empty that joint bank acct,pack his shit and put in her yard with a BIG sign saying cheating husband (with his and her name on it) now lives with his Whore here in this house and put free stuff sign by his clothes you dumped on her lawn then file for emergency restraining order and divorce!
Leave him. Simple as that.
Well that’s one reason I don’t have best friends
She isn’t your friend. Kick him to the curb.
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Throw his stuff away, burn them, pull up 
I dunno. Or just wait til he gets back and confront him about it.
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Get the best attorney you can and then confront them both. If she’s married let her husband know
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Oh dude I dont know if I could be in control for not eeffing them up 
I’m so sorry hope you can get through this:black_heart:
First DON’T SHOW CARDS… meaning that you can see messages!!! The less he thinks you know the more you will know. And save everything .
I am sorry for you hon. Bad enough he is cheating. With a friend… heart breaking.
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Pack his and drop it off at her house. If she wants to screw him, then let her take care of his cooking, cleaning, laundry etc.
Take pictures of all the messages between them number 1… and 2… get out but do it wisely… make sure you seek an attorney
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Change the locks, kick him to the curb, no one deserves to be cheated on.
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She’s not your friend. Kick them both to the curb, you deserve better😘
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Take all his stuff and throw it in her yard while he’s there and never look back!
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Get your stuff in order- don’t confront until you have yourself taken care of- a few more days or weeks doesn’t change anything expect possibly to make things worse for you. . Be smart.
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We need to know what happened
What do you think you should do . It seems plain to me .
His bags would be packed and on the front porch when he comes home.
Load up his shit and drive it to her house and dump it on her front step. Tell her she can keep him. File for a divorce and tell him not to bother coming back
Drop his stuff off at her place
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- Be smart take care of yourself first.
- Copy all messages from his phone and do not let him know you can read them.
- Go get a good attorney.
- If she is married tell her husband.
But most of all please be safe. I am sorry you are going through this
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What you do and can do depends on a lot of things. If the mortgage or lease is in both names, not sure if you can legally make him leave. That being said, his bags would be packed and waiting for him at the front door. He made the decision to walk out on this marriage a while ago, time to tell him to keep walking back to her place. But yes, you need to email all those texts to your phone, now. You may need them later on. A lot of us have been in your shoes. You can do this, be strong. He will make up every excuse for his behavior including it is your fault for his cheating. This has absolutely nothing to do with you at all, it has everything to do with him. Remember that, do not get coerced into believing otherwise.
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It will be tough, but act like you don’t know anything. Quietly, get an attorney, element of surprise is in your pocket. File for divorce, then surprise him with papers from your attorney. Do not act on this right now. Get yourself set up then slam his ass, legally.
I’m starting to think these stories are made up to troll for comments
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Screenshot EVERYTHING
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Email the pictures yo yourself so the phone isn’t the only copies
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Walk away and never look back. I raised 6 kids on my own because my husband cheated and got his girlfriend pregnant.
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What a friend 
I would smack her and him right between the snot and the spit
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Put bengay in all his underwear and take his stuff to her house
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Put bengay in all his underwear and take his stuff to her house
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No one deserves to be treated like that. Divorce his ass. Change the locks, put all his stuff in bags and put it outside.
It’s hard to say AS it didn’t happen to me.
Girl bye to that boy 
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Pack his things and drop them off at her house. He won’t never change don’t believe a word. Move on. I know it hurts but he doesn’t love you of this is what he is doing to you.
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If you’re not pregnant, I’d grab his shit, drive to her house, dump it all over the place, set it on fire or whatever is your method and then go back to the house and either get friends over or your parents, and either leave or change the locks
KICK HIM TO THE EFFIN CURB.
What a joke ! If he really loved you , he wouldn’t be doing this to you . If he “LoveD” her … he would have totally left you to be with her . He’s playing you both . You deserve better. Hope you find the strength to move on and heal
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Clear bank account first and hide the money. Do not start new account that can be found.
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Make him choose!!! He can’t have both, but he married you for a reason… she’s just a side a peice! Beat that girls ass she’s no friend 
Had to do this with a 5 and 8 yo. If u don’t hAve kids. Run! If u do, bank what u can and keep records… even low/med income…it’s not costly if smart and prepare…
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Change the locks and put his shit on the porch
Why would jumping on here and airing your dirty laundry be the first thing that comes to your mind?
If it were me, I’d be setting all his shit on fire right about now… 
Screen shot the messages send them to your phone put them in a group chat and send it to them and say NOTHING. let it unravel on its own.
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The best revenge is no revenge! Tell him you know and his stuff is outside!
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I’d leave. Pack my shit and leave. That’s so disrespectful!! I’m so sorry!!
Stay at a hotel if possible for the night and shut your phone down. Clear your head and think about what’s going to work best for you. Emotions are high and this will never be an easy thing to work through
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Take a deep breath and move on. Just be done💜Mine cheated for 16 years. Been divorced for 2 years. So sorry it’s happened to you.
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Don’t say a word. Get your ducks in a row.
Money, kids, a place to live or whatever. Empty bank accounts all that stuff…… then let him know.
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don’t play your hand until you know exactly what you’re going to do don’t give him any advantages
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Change the locks and have his stuff ready for pick up
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Don’t abandon the property, use logic not emotions. If you need to release those emotions, do so in a productive or safe way. Save all the evidence you can, so you can present it in court. Take all money that belongs to you, withdrawal and safe keep it. Pack up his shit, and if you bought it and don’t want it:sell it for the extra money. If you trash it, that’s destruction of property. If you put it outside in front of the street and sprinklers, and it gets stolen or ruined, that’s just bad luck. 
I would make sure that you have a lawyer and paperwork done ASAP. If you lean on him in anyway, make sure that’s done first to CYA. The key is to make sure that when those ashles know you know, it’s too late for anyone to fight it.