what we would do doesn’t matter… its what you’re wanting or going to do that should be in question, are you ok? do you have kids?
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Shake her hand and tell her thank you for taking the trash out itself 
this happened to me two years ago and it’s not worth the fight.
I’d cut ties with the both of them and move on, but that’s just me. I’d also screenshot everything before he tries to delete it.
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Leave and Never look back
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Sounds like you’ve really thought this out Mel!!
i was in this position and i wish i went and caught them. The text, the proof, it wasnt “proof” enough and i avoided trying to catch them, through maybe scared, im not sure. but i wish I went and was able to see them like ‘i told you so’ and that way there was an end to the bs
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Yeah get everything situated first. Have a plan. Then, invite her to your house to catch up on some girl time and start swingin!!!
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Stay at a hotel just for tonight. Have ZERO contact with him or her. Take time to think. You did NOT give us enough details to give great options? Like do you have kids? House or apartment? Who’s house or bought together? 
Get the hell away from him!!! Anyway you can! Run and don’t look back!
I’d text her and tell her you just found out you got herpes……
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Divorce and find new friends.
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Pay your so call friend a visit. Act like u didn’t know.then catch them.
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I’m going to start some shit… he’s a cheater ,ok…look in the mirror what kind of a wife are you ?? Two sides to every story.
Change the locks and dump his stuff on her lawn. They deserve each other, and you deserve better than either of them.
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Text the friend and see if she wants to hang out. Call the husband and act like you have an important question annoy the crap outta him.
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Change all the locks and have his stuff outside waiting for him.
Save all those text messages and get you a good divorce attorney.
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Always be law abiding (nothing stupid) maintain your integrity and walk tall - now pack his bags, change the locks on all your doors, drive those bags to his girlfriend’s house and leave it at the door - call a lawyer - get a divorce - he’s not changing - take it or break it…that simple…the nerve of him!!!
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Also send a pizza (or twelve) for them to pay for with a special message to them from you. Make it a chicken seafood - just to acknowledge the cowardice and sliminess of their behaviour. Sadly, they don’t make lying pieces of crap pizzas.
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I hope you don’t own a gun
Get your evidence in order, get your money in order, get ur living situation in order, and then blindside him with your facts and leave that day. Then don’t look back. And never speak to that “friend” again.
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Well first screen shot all conversations between them. Then pack his shit up and drop it off while he is at her house we on the porch and knock and when she answers tell him to stay there. Tomorrow file for divorce.
Put their numbers out there. Watch the texts fly in on him lol
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Tell him u know where he is, that you have read all of their messages then block him. Tell her she’s a trash friend block her and throw them both in the bin. Be the better person always be the better person 
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Either join in or leave the relationship
No going back if it’s been years.
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Go over there and knock on the door!
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Pack his stuff and throw it out.
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PLAN! Go consult with all your local good attorneys without his knowledge THEN make things known that you know and ask for a divorce. Once you have had a consultation with one they should not be able to represent him. We had a friend do this - I would have never been that smart.
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I would throw him a birthday party invite the lowlife POS friend and all of your families and lower the boom of course in the meantime clean out the bank make sure he has no credit cards or debit cards and make sure he knows nothing until the the event
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Talk to a divorce lawyer then change locks on your house,put his clothes in trash bags and leave them outside.
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Drop by. With his pyjamas and toothbrush.
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You obviously have the upper hand by knowing all of this and able to see on his broken phone all of the things being said/sent. Id wait til they meet up again and then shortly after he’s gone go to the place where his phone shows him located at and catch the bastard in his lies and record it so he can’t make you look like a crazy person telling lies later
Change the locks and tell him to move in with her.
Dint do anything to his stuff u get introuble
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Go confront them and hit record on ur phone
Than post allover social media 
And post all them texts
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I’m so sorry… my heart hurts for you
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Consult an attorney and get his ass document everything. Pretend everything is normal.
Pack his suitcase with just his cloths, drive to her house, and leave it on the door step without saying anything. Leave a note inside that says, I’ll have the rest delivered to your new home in a few days.
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I would take his old phone and screen shot all of the messages with your phone and then send them to him threw your phone. But I can be petty like that and then when he asks where you got those you can say your old phone that’s still connected to the phone you use now.
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2 words: LEAVE. NOW.
Or literally as soon as you are practically able to do so.
So sorry you’re going through this. If you do not have kids, definitely leave now before kids are involved. If you do have kids, I’m so sorry and it won’t be easy, but it WILL be better in the long run for your own mental health and over-all well being.
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I would change the locks while he is at work tomorrow, throw all his shit on the curb, clean out your joint account, and serve him with divorce papers.
Be smart… plan ahead, separate your finances, find a new place to go, even pretend to not know and find some
time looking for a nice apartment for yourself. Consult with all your local best attorneys like someone said once you consult they can’t help him… save all the evidence screen shots/ print it out in case he gets your phone and deletes it… always save the evidence in multiple places to be safe… and the say fuck him and go live your best life 
Save all the messages as documentation! You’ll need it!
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You a better woman than me cause I wouldn’t be able to make a fb post. Pull up with a loaded 45
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Depending on your state, you can also sue her for mental anguish
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call his sorry ass out, tell him not 2 fucking come home…(My X cheated too, next day I got an awesome Lawyer) if the grass is greener over there then stay.
Act like you know nothing. If he can do you wrong. You need to plan ahead and take him for everything he has. If your legally married, more than 7 or 10 years, get an attorney, read up on the law for your state, and file for divorce with alimony. If you have children, get childsupport. Stay quiet, save cent you have in a different account he has no access to. Drain your joint you have with him slowly put it into your personal savings that he doesn’t know about. You need to hold back any anger and please act dumb for now. He will be the joke in the end.
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Why do u need to ask really. Pack his clothes and drop them at his girlfriend s house. Change your locks on your house and send him devoce papers asap .
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I would show up over there. Not gonna lie.
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Act like you know nothing. The dumbest thing you can do is act on emotions. If he can do you wrong, You need to plan ahead and take him for everything he has. If your legally married, more than 7 or 10 years, get an attorney, read up on the law for your state, and file for divorce with alimony. If you have children, get childsupport. Stay quiet, save every cent you have in a different account he has no access to. Drain your joint you have with him slowly put it into your personal savings that he doesn’t know about. You need to hold back any anger and please act dumb for now. He will be the joke in the end. Let him pay for doing you wrong snd wasting your time.
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Have a free consultation with all the lawyers in the area (someone above said he couldnt use them if you had a consulatayion with them. Very good idea) and get everything figured out then tell him you want a divorce. Screenshot all of the messages so you have the proof you need. Kick him out and divorce him. Throw away half his socks and put holes in the rest. Don’t do anything for him. Make it known that you are mad without telling him what’s going on. Be as petty as you can be. Cook food he hates. Buy candles he hates the smell of etc. Take out money from the accounts. Run up his credit cards as long as your name isn’t on them.
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I’m in your boat, they say the best revenge is no revenge. However if you can take everything from him, do it!
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Let him go let her have him your friends are the one who will do you dirty quick and end your relationship with her.
Send “them” a pizza!!!
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Pretty much this: You are obviously not happy. I wish you would have told me. We could have both saved a ton of wasted time. Bye.
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Get outta mommy mode and act relaxed and sexy Michael Yancey
Leave his clothes on the doorstep.
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Forward or screen shot every text to your phone don’t let him know until you hire an attorney been thru I made some mistakes getting the divorce but I am out of it and don’t go back to him because that you forgive him according to the law.
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Time to file for adultery
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Act like you don’t know for now.
Document all proof and have it saved to a flash drive or Google or something along those lines.
Hire an attorney, file for divorce.
Reserve a table at a restaurant, tell him to meet you there because you’ve got something special set up for him.
Have a cake made that says, “I’M A CHEATER” and put the divorce papers in a gift bag.
Toward the end of your meal, blindfold him and hand him the cake to “pose” with, along with his present.
Let him remove the blindfold to see his little surprise.
Go live your life, happily.
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You’re being shown “truth” … it’s not easy, it’s confusing and soul breaking… but you followed your instincts and dug deeper …
It’s a time for change. Spread your wings and fly… our wildest dreams are found right outside our comfort zone.
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I personally think divorce is the best option, since it’s been going on for that long. It would take a lot to forgive him and not have trust issues ripping you apart! My heart hurts for you and your in my prayers.
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Go there and confront them
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What a POS!!! Both of them!
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Keep all the proof and take everything in the divorce.
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Happening for yrs? Leave him.
If you both want to make your marriage work. Get help. BOTH of you not just you.
I left after 30 yrs. He had been messing around for a couple yrs. I didnt see it or I chose not to see it??? But I left him we are divorced and I couldn’t be happier.
Once a cheater always a cheater
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Screenshot the messages !! Evidence is key
Send him a message and let him know his clothes are in the front lawn and to come and collect them.
Get advice from a lawyer.
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Clean out any and all bank accounts before you say anything to him
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When I get mad I go straight to burning shit and 
. Good luck and god speed.
Save all the messages. Pack his things. Put them on the porch and when he comes home say you can go back to her house now, and stay there. Hope she was worth it, and file for divorce
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Screenshot everything. Follow Tori Hughes advice to a T. That evidence will be invaluable. Stealth mode. As hard as it may be, control your emotions. Pretend anything you write to him will be viewed by a judge in court, because it probably will.
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I left. 7 years later, he hasn’t changed and I don’t regret leaving. I have 2 kids with him and it was very hard. Lowest point in my life. But all I could do is go up from there. That kind of stuff won’t change, and that level of disrespect from both your friend and your husband is inexcusable
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Do Not Trust any one . It has happen serveal people that their husband or wife have an affair with their best friend
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Be the better person, see a lawyer before you do anything! Whatever you do will come back, be smart and walk away with your head up high! He’s not worth jail time.
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Pack up all his sh*t and take it over to where hes at with your supposed friend…theres nothing to talk about besides divorce
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Leave him. And in some states if the other person (the one he/she is cheating with) knows the other person is married you can sue them for emotional distress
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If you want to pull the pin on this, go see a lawyer.
She never was your friend
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Go and confront them then throw him out
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Say nothing gather all your evidence, get a lawyer file for divorce and then lay it all on him 
…I am so sorry you’re going through this, but in the end he is doing you a favor you don’t need someone who doesn’t care about his vows or make you a priority
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Screenshot everything. Call an attorney. Pack his stuff. When he comes home, tell him he doesn’t live there anymore.
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Huny u deserve SO SO MUCH BETTER!!! When this happened to me, instead of kicking him out I sold everything I could & ONLY left him the house & a few things I cudnt sell!! {Ok…so there MIGHT have been a teeny backyard fire that almost all of HIS stuff I cudnt sell just MIGHT have fallen n2 the fire!! He found out how that felt after doin it to me several x’s!! LOL}. Newaz, he was extremely abusive, u know…I’m too ugly & fat & stupid to ever find anyone that wud have me, especially with 2 kids…but yet I was also sleeping with every guy in the world!! (Noppers!! Never made sense to me either, lol). So I packed up my small precious babies & moved to another state!! New job…new home…new life…no more beatings or cheatings!!! BEST MOVE EVER EVER EVER!!! Jus PLEZ always remember this…YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!!! GOD BLESS. 
Pack his shit and dump on your EX FRIENDS front yard and leave. When he sees his shit he’ll know you know and that’ll be that. Don’t let him in your house. Don’tet him say he’s sorry because he’s not. He’s sorry he got caught. This has been going on for years!! He’s literally lied to you and lived another life for years. And your ex friend…forget that ho*
Get some new locks for your doors, file for divorce, take him for everything.
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Don’t say anything and take all his money then leave 
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Pack all his s**t and bring it over there. Put it on the doorstep so he trips over it. Put a note on the bag ‘enjoy’
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Whatever you do; do not I repeat do not have sex with him after confronting them. If you do it’s implied that you have forgiven him and then you can’t take him to the cleaner’s. Contact a lawyer before you make any moves. He will most likely hire an investigator.
Weeeeeell… first off, you ~thought~ she was your friend.
You have all the evidence you need. Confront him and decide what you’re going to do. But in my opinion, divorce him. Clearly it wasn’t a one time mistake (just as bad) but something he decided to keep doing for YEARS. If you hadn’t have found out, he was going to continue for more years. Get out while the disrespect is fresh. 
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This is a personal decision only you can make. It’s easy to say kick him to the curb when it’s not happening to you. Confront him and find out why. What’s he seeking from her? Then you need to decide if he’ll stop or if you can save your marriage or if you even want to.
Need to be smart and not let on you know but having documented proof and get legal advice. Sounds like lady wasn’t a real friend. While you doing this work through what you want but his heart sadly isn’t in the marriage as it’s been going on for years so only you can decide but stay true to you. Be rational in your grief.
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Take a deep breath drive to Walmart get new locks . Keep them in your car . When he’s goes to work change them and drop all his shit off at her place .
Empty the accounts, get a lawyer & f**k one of his friends
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Calm down.
Do a life audit .
Detach in a composed way ,seeing that you do get whatever is rightfully due to you.
Lastly breathe .
Not everyone you lose is a loss.
All the best.
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Sending virtual hugs.Calm down.wipe those tears and Get a divorce. Live happy and free without him know you’re worth.
Depends, are you wanting to stay an figure it out? If not, I’d suggest not saying anything, keep the evidence for a lawyer an prepare for the next part, divorce an moving forward. Prepare yourself financially so you don’t have to struggle & make your emotions worse when you’re on your own. No friend would do that to another, she wasn’t a friend to begin with, she was an aquaintance purely to fck you over - not every loss is intended to hurt you, more like a cleanse from the BS that you once allowed in your bubble, your space, your life. Overall, it’s personal, so no-one but you can make such drastic decisions, this is your life, your livelihood, be calm as much as you can, do some life reflecting in a constructive way, detach & breathe girl. I hope you have a real friend to confide in & help you. Sorry you’re going through this sht, can only imagine the fear, emotion etc. Really hope you have someone by your side throughout the choices you make moving forward. Lots of hugs x
Dump his sorry a**… & find some real/true friends! That POS isn’t your friend if she with your husband! 
Ok sweetie first thing is my heart goes out to you and this is so devastating for you… the thing you have to realize in long time affairs is this is his mistress and he will never leave her because he loves her because its intimate and he has been seeing her for 2 years now…he might care for you but he doesnt love you and he hasnt left you for her because he has something to lose…like security of the house, child support payments maybe she is married too, …you are living with a man who has a second life…he has shit on you over and over…there had to have problems in the marriage before hand and they are still there and he is unhappy …but he works hard to please both of you because you obviously had no clue… and he will not choose you over her if you confront him…he might say to you he will end it but he wont…you are being disrespected and by staying it will continue until you have had enough…dog shit stuck to the bottom of your shoe has a higher standing than him …he is self absorbed and selfish
So do not confront him take screenshots and keep his old phone
Tomorrow go see a lawyer and file for divorce, file for support payments, and file for custody…if you own your home then it will probably be sold…but even if you are renting then i would find another place pack everything in the house including his stuff and get a moving van and take EVERYTHING and burn his clothes outside so when he comes home it will be totally empty …total revenge then you need to serve him…say surprise…the moment the divorce papers are ready to be served then you send them with flowers to her place when he is there because he obviously has a schedule he follows to see her…and give a nice little note saying
Roses are red, violets are blue, you are a cheating bast_ _ _d and im divorcing you…
Good luck sweetie
Omg I’m so sorry you are going through this, but know your worth! Go get yourself tested to start with. I’m sorry but that is a deal breaker for me, to have done it for years, that’s terrible! That’s a lot of lies and deceit. Move on, get legal advice so you know what your rights are, take care of yourself
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Well in Zambia we don’t cry about such anymore we just cheat back
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What’s your exit strategy…? If you do not have one get started and make it sound…Skip the drama…really…what would be the point…
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Best advice i can give is to leave. No your worth love. Its gonna hurt so bad but i promise you youll make it thru. Im currently going thru it while being pregnant with our 3rd child. Always remember at the end of every storm there is rainbow.
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My ex and so called friend did this to me. I was totally blindsided. Now every evil act he done makes sense.
He had a DVO served on me, he tried whatever evil thing he could to get full custody of our son. He told her that we were over and that he was only in house to look after me (I have disease similar to MS/Parkinson’s). He would invite her to stay night (with her kids) then wait for me to go to bed and then sit up all night telling her lies. When he invited her into house, he would sleep in sons room to make us look seperated but would give me all these other stupid reasons why he couldn’t sleep with me. I stupidly believed him at the time. He dragged me through every court he could. He served me with divorce papers 3 weeks after he left. He got engaged to her at 3 months in attempt to appear more stable in court.
They are now married and have kid. But I’ll give it time. He did this to his first wife.
So needless to say I think it’s the best thing ever. He did me a big favour.
Every thing he did backfired and I come out on top.
So even though your upset, believe me. Get out of there, you deserve much better, she is no friend and he obviously has no respect for you. Do yourself a favor.
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